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Men vs Women

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  • 31-12-2014 5:53pm
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    Heat_Wave
    Registered Users Posts: 1,224 ✭✭✭


    I can't speak for all women but if a guy doesn't text me back it drives me crazy. It will result in me staring at my phone all day.

    The question is, is it the same for majority of guys? If a girl doesn't respond to your text would it bother you? I'm not talking a few hours, but perhaps a few days.

    It's hard to know when the game is being played or if he's genuinely not interested.
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    December2012
    Registered Users Posts: 4,695 ✭✭✭December2012


    Staring at your phone all day waiting for a text sounds pretty crazy to me.

    Phone call?


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    #3
    My name is URL
    Registered Users Posts: 25,067 ✭✭✭✭My name is URL


    Boys vs Girls surely.

    What grown man or woman would obsess over and stare at their phones all day just because someone didn't text them back?!


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    Talib Fiasco
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,428 ✭✭✭Talib Fiasco


    No because I'm not insecure and people have sh*t to do usually.


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    Macavity.
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    I wouldn't dwell on it. Staring at a phone for 24 hours is psychotic. :pac:


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    major bill
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    No games being played more than likely he just not interested the longer the response the less arsed the person is or maybe they are actually busy.

    Women and their games!!!!!!

    :)


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    seventeen sheep
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    I'm a woman and I'm terrible at texting anyone back.

    Ring him?


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    professore
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    Heat_Wave wrote: »

    It's hard to know when the game is being played or if he's genuinely not interested.

    He's either playing a game in which case he's an assh0le, or he's not interested. Either way move on.


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    professore
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    Heat_Wave wrote: »

    It's hard to know when the game is being played or if he's genuinely not interested.

    He's either playing a game in which case he's an assh0le, or he's not interested. Either way move on.


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    PizzamanIRL
    Registered Users Posts: 5,148 ✭✭✭PizzamanIRL


    Yes if your text to them requires an answer. You don't want to send a second text in a row either because you look needy.


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    Tugboats
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    Heat_Wave wrote: »
    I can't speak for all women but if a guy doesn't text me back it drives me crazy. It will result in me staring at my phone all day.

    The question is, is it the same for majority of guys? If a girl doesn't respond to your text would it bother you? I'm not talking a few hours, but perhaps a few days.

    It's hard to know when the game is being played or if he's genuinely not interested.

    I usually scare women away with the amount of texts I send them when I get a phone number. Pm me your number it's sounds like we're compatible


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    conorh91
    Registered Users Posts: 3,328 ✭✭✭conorh91


    I had this conversation with a girl recently. There's an ad on TV for a perfume that is supposed to represent a psychological fantasy experienced by women (or at least, the type of women who buy Chloe products) of having the sexual potency of being able to ignore an attractive man's advances and not bother to take his repeated phone calls.

    Is it sexist? Of course.

    Is there any truth in the idea that the opposite is often true? I think so. Women are often the ones who will fret over lack of communication. Men often don't care.

    That's why this is portrayed as a fantasy.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OCZ0t7xC2H0


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    Tearin It Up
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 449 ✭✭Tearin It Up


    If I get one text of a man I go bat sh!t crazy. Its too much texting.


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    Pwindedd
    Registered Users Posts: 2,230 ✭✭✭Pwindedd


    Heat_Wave wrote: »
    I can't speak for all women but if a guy doesn't text me back it drives me crazy. It will result in me staring at my phone all day.

    The question is, is it the same for majority of guys? If a girl doesn't respond to your text would it bother you? I'm not talking a few hours, but perhaps a few days.

    It's hard to know when the game is being played or if he's genuinely not interested.

    Imagine what it was like before mobiles. You had to sit in and wait or pray that someone would take a coherent message. If I had to make a call I used to walk 500 yards to the phone box rather than risk my parents listening in.

    Go out or occupy yourself. The faint aroma of desperation can be quite off putting. But you know that already.


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    Tugboats
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    Tearin It Up wrote: »
    If I get one text of a man I go bat sh!t crazy. Its too much texting.

    Martina is that you?


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    Tearin It Up
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 449 ✭✭Tearin It Up


    Tugboats wrote: »
    Martina is that you?

    Yes


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    mfceiling
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    Heat_Wave wrote: »
    I can't speak for all women but if a guy doesn't text me back it drives me crazy. It will result in me staring at my phone all day.

    The question is, is it the same for majority of guys? If a girl doesn't respond to your text would it bother you? I'm not talking a few hours, but perhaps a few days.

    It's hard to know when the game is being played or if he's genuinely not interested.

    I'd say you are in no way a bit of a bunny boiler...


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    Annasopra
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    Heat_Wave wrote: »
    I can't speak for all women

    Great.

    Well then dont make silly assumptions about all men and all women.

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



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    Heat_Wave
    Registered Users Posts: 1,224 ✭✭✭Heat_Wave


    Maybe I am not explaining myself well here.

    (Hypothetically) ;) say for instance my friend likes a guy, they met up last week and got along great, he texts her a day later asking how she is, she says shes great and asks how he is, one or two dryish texts back and forth until suddenly he starts leaving a days gap between texts...

    Now if this girl was to do exactly as he is doing (taking a day to reply), would the guy be like 'ooh she's playing dirty' lol or will he most likely be like 'fcuk this'?


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    Annasopra
    Registered Users Posts: 40,928 ✭✭✭✭Annasopra


    Heat_Wave wrote: »
    Maybe I am not explaining myself well here.

    (Hypothetically) ;) say for instance my friend likes a guy, they met up last week and got along great, he texts her a day later asking how she is, she says shes great and asks how he is, one or two dryish texts back and forth until suddenly he starts leaving a days gap between texts...

    Now if this girl was to do exactly as he is doing (taking a day to reply), would the guy be like 'ooh she's playing dirty' lol or will he most likely be like 'fcuk this'?

    And maybe create clearer thread titles in future.

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



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    Tugboats
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    Heat_Wave wrote: »
    Maybe I am not explaining myself well here.

    (Hypothetically) ;) say for instance my friend likes a guy, they met up last week and got along great, he texts her a day later asking how she is, she says shes great and asks how he is, one or two dryish texts back and forth until suddenly he starts leaving a days gap between texts...

    Now if this girl was to do exactly as he is doing (taking a day to reply), would the guy be like 'ooh she's playing dirty' lol or will he most likely be like 'fcuk this'?

    http://www.seventeen.com


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    Karl Stein
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,689 ✭✭✭Karl Stein


    sry bbz I ws on da lash wit d lads, dats how i roll


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    AstraOwner
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    Either member of the sexes will feel a bit of a excitement if somebody they like shows interest. Of course they will. And equally they will feel a bit disappointed if they don't. So there's always a bit of that will (s)he/won't (s)he.

    If there are days of gaps between texts then it's just taking the piss. Ain't no time for that.


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    #24
    Heat_Wave
    Registered Users Posts: 1,224 ✭✭✭Heat_Wave


    I'm 24.

    Would total honesty be better? As in rather than play games, ask if he's interested or not.

    Perhaps I should have posted this in PI.


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    Mister Vain
    Registered Users Posts: 6,041 ✭✭✭Mister Vain


    Maybe he wants to wait a while because he doesn't want to seem too keen.


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    #26
    Pwindedd
    Registered Users Posts: 2,230 ✭✭✭Pwindedd


    Heat_Wave wrote: »
    I'm 24.

    Would total honesty be better? As in rather than play games, ask if he's interested or not.

    Perhaps I should have posted this in PI.

    In fairness yes possibly. You've gotten off lightly in here so far. This won't last. They can smell vulnerability at a dozen paces and they have no qualms about tearing strips off you. Perhaps a kind Mod will take pity on you and move this thread. Or perhaps they're all really busy and will throw you to the Sharks.

    At least it'll take your mind off him not texting you back. You might even laugh.


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    Heat_Wave
    Registered Users Posts: 1,224 ✭✭✭Heat_Wave


    Pwindedd wrote: »
    In fairness yes possibly. You've gotten off lightly in here so far. This won't last. They can smell vulnerability at a dozen paces and they have no qualms about tearing strips off you. Perhaps a kind Mod will take pity on you and move this thread. Or perhaps they're all really busy and will throw you to the Sharks.

    At least it'll take your mind off him not texting you back. You might even laugh.

    What was your advice? Are you saying you don't think he will write back?


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    tomwaterford
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    Heat_Wave wrote: »
    I'm 24.

    Would total honesty be better? As in rather than play games, ask if he's interested or not.

    Perhaps I should have posted this in PI.

    Maybe he not after seeing it like??

    I often be texting ones away grand etc...then not see there msg and wouldn't text back until I sees it...could be hours on end...I'd just wouldn't think to look at the phone if I didn't hear it go off...I wouldn't fret it


    *obviously im not advising you to text again/ring up ranting and raving down the phone


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    Susandublin
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    If I don't text a guy back there there is a reason - I don't want to. I just assume the reverse is true. If he's interested then he'll text back soon - if he txt me back a week later then I'm not interested. Find it disrespectful so I'm better off without. Think the whole 'playing the game' is lame.
    If I done hear back within 48 hours then I'm done. Texts received after this get ignored by me - if a guy wants to 'play games' get yourself an x-box.


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    ewinslet
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    Texting at all is for pussies. Ring them ffs.

    And this is coming from a 28 year old woman.


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    Pwindedd
    Registered Users Posts: 2,230 ✭✭✭Pwindedd


    Heat_Wave wrote: »
    What was your advice? Are you saying you don't think he will write back?

    I'm not sure if he will or won't. Only he knows that. I'm saying don't fret over it. Maybe he's busy, maybe he's playing it cool or maybe "he's just not that into you"

    Don't get sucked into games. Every relationship I've ever had worth anything has been based around mutual feelings and no game-playing was necessary.


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