Thinking of becoming a teetotal dry****é that can't hack the session and is no fun

Fukuyama

Thinking of giving up the booze totally - not just for a few months but forever (will probably only last a few months).

Woke up on Sunday morning realising I'd spent the guts of €100 and had nothing to show for it. Spent the first few hours of the day getting rid of a headache then just watched old episodes of The Simpsons on my laptop because I was too tired to do anything. Feel like I wasted a load of money and an entire day. I'm also noticing the makings of a beer belly beginning to appear under my belt and I'm never motivated to go for a run the day after drinking (even only 2-3 pints).

The idea of giving up drink has been on my mind for the past few months. The only problem is that I always have a few events coming up (people's birthdays, get-togethers etc...) that all center around drink. I know you don't HAVE to drink at these events but the idea of being in a nightclub sober isn't one I like the thought of.

Today I just decided "fcuk it, I'm done". I'm sure I'll get the usual comments, questions and slagging but I really don't care anymore. I'm fed up pissing away €5 a go on pints. I'm fed up doing or saying silly things when drunk and cringing the next day (and for all eternity).

I suppose there are other reasons why I'm deciding to give up drink quite young (22). My family (direct and distant) is littered with alcoholism which I won't go into too much but needless to say I gradually witnessed what alcohol can do to people (and those around them) as time passes. I also don't really like who I can sometimes become if I've had one too many drinks. I've never gotten into a fight or anything but I can have a shorter fuse with people which has led to me needing to apolagise the next day a couple of times.

Anyone ever thought of giving up drink before? Or actually done it? Any recommendations, tips or whatever?

I'm a bit apprehensive and kind of expecting my social life (which is small as it is) to go down the pan.

*sups tae*

- Dean

connundrum

Ah go on, you'll have the one..

solomafioso

Drinks on OP!

mikom

Talk to me after Christmas, Dean0088.

Donkey Oaty

Good luck to you OP - don't be afraid to seek help if you think you need it.

Fukuyama

Donkey Oaty wrote: »

Good luck to you OP - don't be afraid to seek help if you think you need it.

Nah! - I'm miles off being an alcoholic. I've gone months without drinking before but it was never a decision - I was just too busy with commitments.

I'm more so just fed up with drinking, not really enjoying it (certainly not for all the money it costs), getting hangovers and not being 100% 'me' when I'm sloshed.

Also thinking ahead health-wise.

So yeah. Mostly just fed up and interested in being sober for the rest of my life.

Slutmonkey57b

I basically gave up at around that age too.

If your friends are morons they'll harangue you about it endlessly. You will find out which of your friends are genuinely boring though because they're the ones who "have" to drink to have a good time. You don't owe them any explanation other than "I don't want one".

Holsten

It's easy as hell to do.

Change your entire life for the better and you won't miss it nor anything that comes with it.

Lucena

When I got into nice beer (I hate the craft label) I found I drank less.

cson

€100 is a scary amount of drink OP.

Even if you take off €30 for Taxis/Nightclubs/Chipper; €70 is still about 12-14 pints.

I'd say that's where your issue is rather than alcohol in itself - if you can limit yourself to €30-40 a night all in then do that, just cash and no bank cards. If you can't; cold turkey is probably your best bet.

Donkey Oaty

Dean0088 wrote: »

Nah! - I'm miles off being an alcoholic. I've gone months without drinking before but it was never a decision - I was just too busy with commitments.

I'm more so just fed up with drinking, not really enjoying it (certainly not for all the money it costs), getting hangovers and not being 100% 'me' when I'm sloshed.

Also thinking ahead health-wise.

So yeah. Mostly just fed up and interested in being sober for the rest of my life.

I wasn't suggesting you were an alcoholic - but in any case, it sounds like you've nothing to "give up" - should be a breeze!

Fukuyama

Slutmonkey57b wrote: »

I basically gave up at around that age too.

If your friends are morons they'll harangue you about it endlessly. You will find out which of your friends are genuinely boring though because they're the ones who "have" to drink to have a good time. You don't owe them any explanation other than "I don't want one".

My main social circle is friends I went to college with so I'll be expecting a few comments. I've also never really mentioned it before nor had any real problem with drink so it might surprise them that I'm kicking it.

I've seen people get annoyed and offended when someone doesn't drink on a night out or at a party. So I guess I'll be the party pooper. :P

looksee

With a bit of effort looking at what is available, you could easily find yourself with a much better social life off the drink (or even mostly off the drink).

eviltwin

Dean0088 wrote: »

My main social circle is friends I went to college with so I'll be expecting a few comments. I've also never really mentioned it before nor had any real problem with drink so it might surprise them that I'm kicking it.

I've seen people get annoyed and offended when someone doesn't drink on a night out or at a party. So I guess I'll be the party pooper. :P

Tell them to fcuk off. I gave up 5 yrs ago. I'll have a few at Christmas, birthdays and so on but I no longer drink unless its a special occasion. People can't handle it because it makes them think about their own drinking. I'm as much fun as I always was, more so because I'm not falling asleep on someone at the end of the night. I feel a lot better too.

bnt

Lucena wrote: »

When I got into nice beer (I hate the craft label) I found I drank less.

This. Leave behind Quantity, go for Quality.

tayto lover

I knew a lad who went to the chapel and took the pledge and celebrated in the pub on the way home.

Chunners

It's not as hard as you think OP, I gave it up last year after my birthday (july) and at first it was weird, Halloween sober was surreal because everyone around you is drunk then it came to Christmas but I woke up Christmas day with no hang over and really enjoyed the day just cooking Christmas dinner and looking forward to the Dr Who Christmas special, Stephens day was a laugh because everyone I seen had eyes hanging out of their heads and for most of that week everyone had hangovers most days except me, by New Years they were all swearing off drink forever but I was in bed by 12 and woke up fine the next morning with everyone again complaining about hangovers and swearing never again. We have a kind of trigger in our heads that says that at certain points we should be drinking but to be honest for me I found not drinking a relief.

EDIT: oh yeah and I had saved over €250 to spend on the January sales too which was totally sweet

KungPao

Id miss the taste of beer more than anything. You can't beat a few pints and a kebab, now and then.

Getting gee-eyed all the time is bad for you and a stupid waste of money though.

catallus

Dean0088 wrote: »

I'm also noticing the makings of a beer belly beginning to appear under my belt and I'm never motivated to go for a run the day after drinking.....

How high do you wear your belt?!

Fukuyama

cson wrote: »

€100 is a scary amount of drink OP.

Even if you take off €30 for Taxis/Nightclubs/Chipper; €70 is still about 12-14 pints.

I'd say that's where your issue is rather than alcohol in itself - if you can limit yourself to €30-40 a night all in then do that, just cash and no bank cards. If you can't; cold turkey is probably your best bet.

Well it was really more like €70. Didn't account for the massive fistful of change in my jeans pockets with a lucky €5 note balled up in there. I always have shrapnel after a night drinking.

I'd say I spent €45 on drink, €15 on a meal before hand, €5 on a quarter pounder and the rest on transport etc...

Even when I'm only having 2-3 bottle at home while watching a movie with friends I'm not really interested in the drink. I think I've reached a stage where it's no longer for me but not necessarily because it's a problem.

tayto lover

Could you not just confine yourself to 3 or 4 pints OP?. Take your time over them and enjoy your night. No need to get blotto at all.

robbiezero

Just don't turn into one of those "look how fun I am even without drink" gimps

Fukuyama

catallus wrote: »

How high do you wear your belt?!

The beer belly hasn't reached that critical mass of flopping over the belt just yet. More so an extra few pounds around the waste which has appeared since I started drinking more regularly again.

imitation

Step 1 is find some non drinking activitys, make friends with people who like activities like hillwalking or surfing. Its a lot easier to not drink if you've beeb doing something all day and you know you'll be doing something the next day. If your social life is all about nights out and thats all your friends do, your going struggle.

Fukuyama

robbiezero wrote: »

Just don't turn into one of those "look how fun I am even without drink" gimps

I can already feel myself ascending onto the high horse though....

Last_Minute

It's impossible.

Paco Rodriguez

Fair play to you OP. Your friends may slap you but they will be jealous with the extra holiday you will be able to afford with the extra money you will have.

I could have written your post but I never really tried to give up. I just cut out my habits like going to the pub to watch any game of football. Now I only go out occasionally with my friends and get a couple of cans watching ice hockey at home on weekends.

Fukuyama

Chunners wrote: »

It's not as hard as you think OP, I gave it up last year after my birthday (july) and at first it was weird, Halloween sober was surreal because everyone around you is drunk then it came to Christmas but I woke up Christmas day with no hang over and really enjoyed the day just cooking Christmas dinner and looking forward to the Dr Who Christmas special, Stephens day was a laugh because everyone I seen had eyes hanging out of their heads and for most of that week everyone had hangovers most days except me, by New Years they were all swearing off drink forever but I was in bed by 12 and woke up fine the next morning with everyone again complaining about hangovers and swearing never again. We have a kind of trigger in our heads that says that at certain points we should be drinking but to be honest for me I found not drinking a relief.

EDIT: oh yeah and I had saved over €250 to spend on the January sales too which was totally sweet

I'm both looking forward to this and dreading it at the same time.

I HATE hangovers because


a) They suck
b) I miss an entire day to "recovering" and lazing around

However, the thought of facing a night like New Years where it seems everyone is drunk is daunting. I can't stand drunk people when I'm sober. I've had jobs dealing with drunken idiots before and I hated them on a molecular level.

Guess I'll have to start giving New Years a miss. Was never a big fan anyways.

Slutmonkey57b

eviltwin wrote: »

Tell them to fcuk off. I gave up 5 yrs ago. I'll have a few at Christmas, birthdays and so on but I no longer drink unless its a special occasion. People can't handle it because it makes them think about their own drinking. I'm as much fun as I always was, more so because I'm not falling asleep on someone at the end of the night. I feel a lot better too.

Exactly that. The naysayers don't like the suggestion that social people don't require an incapacitating lubricant.

Fukuyama

Lucena wrote: »

When I got into nice beer (I hate the craft label) I found I drank less.

Was craft beer I was drinking on Saturday! :P I love porter and dark beers but they're hell the next morning. :eek:

catallus

Dean0088 wrote: »

The beer belly hasn't reached that critical mass of flopping over the belt just yet.

Just as I thought, you're one of those fitness freaks that wears their trousers up around their nipples :mad:

cloud493

I've never drank so I can't say what its like changing, but being a dry ****e in the middle of a bunch of non dry ****es is incredibly boring.

Fukuyama

imitation wrote: »

Step 1 is find some non drinking activitys, make friends with people who like activities like hillwalking or surfing. Its a lot easier to not drink if you've beeb doing something all day and you know you'll be doing something the next day. If your social life is all about nights out and thats all your friends do, your going struggle.

I guess I'm lucky that I never really fell in with that crowd. Most social occasions do involve drink but most people there wouldn't be of the 'live for the weekend' mentality.

I've read that it's best to replace a bad habit with a good one so I think I'll look into taking up a new sport or activity.

trapattack

Man up FFS your 22. Wait for another few years and you'll know what a hangover actually is!

Packrat

I was 28 when I packed it in. I'm going to be 41 at Christmas.
Changed my life. Lost a lot of friends. Made some others.
For me it has been overwhelmingly positive. However, it's very difficult to enjoy a night out in the pub as much. The shyte talk starts to grate after a couple of hours.
Some women won't date you. Some other morons won't trust you.
You won't have more money, - you'll just spend it on other stuff.

What I'd say to you is this: If you can modify your drinking, then do that. If that's not an option then go ahead and quit it. You know yourself which is appropriate. Disregard friends opinions, - they have skin in the game (make themselves feel normal).

Life is a long long time, more so when each week will now have 7 rather than 6 days. :pac:

catallus

22 year old shouldn't even be getting hangovers!

Fukuyama

Packrat wrote: »

I was 28 when I packed it in. I'm going to be 41 at Christmas.
Changed my life. Lost a lot of friends. Made some others.
For me it has been overwhelmingly positive. However, it's very difficult to enjoy a night out in the pub as much. The shyte talk starts to grate after a couple of hours.
Some women won't date you. Some other morons won't trust you.
You won't have more money, - you'll just spend it on other stuff.

What I'd say to you is this: If you can modify your drinking, then do that. If that's not an option then go ahead and quit it. You know yourself which is appropriate. Disregard friends opinions, - they have skin in the game (make themselves feel normal).

Life is a long long time, more so when each week will now have 7 rather than 6 days. :pac:

Thanks for this!

The ****e talk from drunk people does make me grit my teeth so I guess I have to get a mouth guard or something.

In a way I'm kind of excited. It's a big step to make (particularly in Ireland) so I'm interested to know what the effects will be on my social life, mentality, fitness etc... in a years time

Highflyer13

Good on ya OP ya dry ****e

yipeeeee

70 euro is considered a lot on drink??

Yikes.

SEPT 23 1989

you are just having a wobble OP it will pass

geegeebeebee

Dean0088 wrote: »

Thinking of giving up the booze totally - not just for a few months but forever (will probably only last a few months).

Woke up on Sunday morning realising I'd spent the guts of €100 and had nothing to show for it. Spent the first few hours of the day getting rid of a headache then just watched old episodes of The Simpsons on my laptop because I was too tired to do anything. Feel like I wasted a load of money and an entire day. I'm also noticing the makings of a beer belly beginning to appear under my belt and I'm never motivated to go for a run the day after drinking (even only 2-3 pints).

The idea of giving up drink has been on my mind for the past few months. The only problem is that I always have a few events coming up (people's birthdays, get-togethers etc...) that all center around drink. I know you don't HAVE to drink at these events but the idea of being in a nightclub sober isn't one I like the thought of.

Today I just decided "fcuk it, I'm done". I'm sure I'll get the usual comments, questions and slagging but I really don't care anymore. I'm fed up pissing away €5 a go on pints. I'm fed up doing or saying silly things when drunk and cringing the next day (and for all eternity).

I suppose there are other reasons why I'm deciding to give up drink quite young (22). My family (direct and distant) is littered with alcoholism which I won't go into too much but needless to say I gradually witnessed what alcohol can do to people (and those around them) as time passes. I also don't really like who I can sometimes become if I've had one too many drinks. I've never gotten into a fight or anything but I can have a shorter fuse with people which has led to me needing to apolagise the next day a couple of times.

Anyone ever thought of giving up drink before? Or actually done it? Any recommendations, tips or whatever?

I'm a bit apprehensive and kind of expecting my social life (which is small as it is) to go down the pan.

*sups tae*

- Dean

i have been off alcohol over four years for medical reasons and to be honest i dont miss it one bit.

the only draw back is that in ireland , everything revolves around drink and being the only sober person can get annoying after a time.

i rarely go to pubs these days and prefer to meet a friend for coffee ect , maybe take up a sport , so that if you have a match on a sunday morning , you wont feel the need to drink.
you could make giving up the drink part of a new healthy way of living (if that is your thing) i was quite sick when i took the decision to give up.

i hope that it works out for you

Chunners

Dean0088 wrote: »

I'm both looking forward to this and dreading it at the same time.

I HATE hangovers because


a) They suck
b) I miss an entire day to "recovering" and lazing around

However, the thought of facing a night like New Years where it seems everyone is drunk is daunting. I can't stand drunk people when I'm sober. I've had jobs dealing with drunken idiots before and I hated them on a molecular level.

Guess I'll have to start giving New Years a miss. Was never a big fan anyways.

But thats the thing, you won't have to face drunk people, trust me when others are drunk and hear you are sober they avoid you like the plague. You don't have to go out for new years all you have to do is say "Naaa sorry I'm not drinking" and they all just say "Oh okay" and move on. Drunk people don't want sober people around them drunk people want other drunk people around them because if they do something stupid the other drunk people are most likely to forget whereas a sober person never forgets. There is nothing more scary for a drunk person than a sober person with a camera and direct access to youtube

Tarzana2

catallus wrote: »

22 year old shouldn't even be getting hangovers!

I've been getting terrible hangovers since I started drinking at 17.

The Wild Bunch

edit

Macavity.

I couldn't live without drink.

Chocolate Lions

I've more or less packed it in. The very odd occasion where I would have a few is still a bit of craic but the next day is as you say completely wasted. And I don't feel 100% the second day either. There's still that edge of mental acuity that's not quite equilibrated.
So ya, I hate the wasted money and the wasted time. And I also don't like that it messes with the exercise and diet. Clean living feels amazing and there's loads of time to do things.
You'll find yourself at times bored but then at others you'll find you're genuinely growing as a person. More time to read, learn, be active, do some DIY etc. And in my experience you do save money and of course exercise more sense. It's great waking up every morning feeling rested. What people put themselves through is pretty astonishing considering how nice it is to look after yourself and be healthy.
Anyway, good look with the initiative. I've gone the same way and I certainly like it.

Uncle Ruckus

I rarely drink but I hate how the following day is pretty much written off-too shattered to do anything and asleep for half the day.

Fukuyama

Chocolate Lions wrote: »

I've more or less packed it in. The very odd occasion where I would have a few is still a bit of craic but the next day is as you say completely wasted. And I don't feel 100% the second day either. There's still that edge of mental acuity that's not quite equilibrated.
So ya, I hate the wasted money and the wasted time. And I also don't like that it messes with the exercise and diet. Clean living feels amazing and there's loads of time to do things.
You'll find yourself at times bored but then at others you'll find you're genuinely growing as a person. More time to read, learn, be active, do some DIY etc. And in my experience you do save money and of course exercise more sense. It's great waking up every morning feeling rested. What people put themselves through is pretty astonishing considering how nice it is to look after yourself and be healthy.
Anyway, good look with the initiative. I've gone the same way and I certainly like it.

Thanks!

I'm hoping to do more of this. I've had highly productive months before in terms of exercise, diet, work, reading etc.. and they all seem to coincide with not drinking.

I'm the same as yourself - even the second day after drinking I'm still not as sharp as usual.

Adamantium

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5yGJGTjV2WE

Pyr0

Why not just tone your drinking down? You don't have to get smashed every time you go out.

As another poster mentioned, find a beer/whiskey that you actually like the taste of an crack open a bottle or get a glass out every now and again instead of going on mad ones.

shalalala

eviltwin wrote: »

Tell them to fcuk off. I gave up 5 yrs ago. I'll have a few at Christmas, birthdays and so on but I no longer drink unless its a special occasion. People can't handle it because it makes them think about their own drinking. I'm as much fun as I always was, more so because I'm not falling asleep on someone at the end of the night. I feel a lot better too.

This would be my thoughts. I was never a big drinker but recently it just made me ill. I haven't drank in about 4 months and the people that are your friends won't give a ****. Just don't be the party pooper and make it obvious you aren't drinking, have the laugh and act like you are on a normal night out! I still dance crazy so no one would know really :pac: