Married and using Tinder.

dinorebel

Is this as widespread as the media says? and if you're using it is it as an ego boost or do you actually meet up with people?

danslevent

I met up with someone before, I had a really great time chatting with them but I had no attraction.

I think it doesn't give you a strong enough basis for meeting up because it is just pictures you're matched by,not interests.

Also,I knew within two minutes of the date that I wasn't feeling it but still had to sit out the whole date out of politeness. I had a nice time but I think online dating can be reaching around in the dark and hoping for the best. It isn't really for me, you can waste a lot of time chatting to people that two minutes in reality would suffice to distinguish if there is chemistry or not.

the evasion_kid

In fairness that tinder and hot or not app is used by a lot of people just looking for validation

anncoates

danslevent wrote: »

I knew within two minutes of the date that I wasn't feeling it.

Not much use so.

jamesbere

I've met 2 women off tinder, one was a pain because she kept chatting about her ex for the evening and the other one was nice but we didn,t really click.
Its hard to to judge what a person is like chatting on dating sites/apps. A ten minute conversion face to face makes a big difference.

Although I am chatting to one atm who seems to have a similar sense of humour to me and good looking

DrGreenthumb

If a relationship has that spark your gonna need tinder

Dr. Lollington

If you found out your partner was using tinder would you consider it cheating?

On an aside, if your partner watched porn and you were fine with that, would you consider live sites a step too far or pretty much the same, i.e. no big deal?

Iranoutofideas

Spotted an engaged girl I know on it.

Interceptor

Tinder=cheating

AnonoBoy

As the old saying about marriage goes.... if you've tindered then you've sindered.

castletownman

I saw a woman on it once with a few pics of her kids, her husband, and one of her lying seductively on a bed, with the tag line "when the hubby's away, the <her name> will play"

Biatch never returned my like though!

Saipanne

Yeah, that's sufficient proof of cheating, for me. No trusting their explanation after that.

Cupcake_Crisis

I don't know if id consider it cheating, but id be extremely annoyed and would think they had intentions of cheating.

sunshine and showers

If I found out my boyfriend was on Tinder, I'd be píssed. If I found out my husband was on Tinder, I'd be looking at divorce lawyers.

Collie D

sunshine and showers wrote: »

If I found out my boyfriend was on Tinder, I'd be píssed. If I found out my husband was on Tinder, I'd be looking at divorce lawyers.

Intentional joke?

Oink

Interceptor wrote: »

Tinder=cheating

Or ar least interest in cheating.

Either way, a severe problem in the relationship.

If they're only doing it for the validation, they'd want to talk to someone about that.

WILL NEVER LOG OFF

i have a gay friend on grindr, and his boyf is on grindr. we were at dinner once and they both pull out their phones and start, uh... grinding other guys.

I would hate to see my fiance on tinder, i would go mental actually , but different strokes i spose

Dravokivich

My da trolls on tinder.

Pherekydes

I occasionally use tinder, but I prefer firelighters.

smash

Married and using tinder is probably the dumbest thing someone can do given that it connects to fb and its location based. Sure you're bound to see friends and friends of friends. Anyone who does it and gets caught deserves it.

Son Of A Vidic

dinorebel wrote: »

Is this as widespread as the media says?

Never heard of it until I saw the thread title.

The_Captain

smash wrote: »

Married and using tinder is probably the dumbest thing someone can do given that it connects to fb and its location based. Sure you're bound to see friends and friends of friends. Anyone who does it and gets caught deserves it.

Make a second fb profile, don't ad your OH, their friends or anyone that would shop you, add nightclubs/DJs/promo models until you have more than 50 friends, allowing you to pass the automatic tinder check for fake profiles, add only your best pics to your fb profile, obviously nothing featuring your OH. Do some tindering, then unlink tinder to your fb profile once you've got a few numbers.


Or so I've been told....

That's true, but I was only in there to get directions on how to get away from there.

twin_beacon

danslevent wrote: »

I met up with someone before, I had a really great time chatting with them but I had no attraction.

I think it doesn't give you a strong enough basis for meeting up because it is just pictures you're matched by,not interests.

Also,I knew within two minutes of the date that I wasn't feeling it but still had to sit out the whole date out of politeness. I had a nice time but I think online dating can be reaching around in the dark and hoping for the best. It isn't really for me, you can waste a lot of time chatting to people that two minutes in reality would suffice to distinguish if there is chemistry or not.

giggidy

Gandalph

I know a couple that were on Tinder trying to beat each other in matches, rule of the game was there was no chatting allowed. Using it behind someones back though is a definite no go!

dinorebel

The Sexy Murderer wrote: »

That's why you set up a fake Facebook account, fake name and fake pic. Send them a real pic when they already like and explain that you "like your anonymity" or that the spark is gone in your marriage and you agreed with your spouse that both can seek sex elsewhere.

Is that why you set up a fake account to post that.

AnonoBoy

"I met my girlfriend on Tinder 6 months ago. We'd been dating for two years." - Colin Chadwick.

Vandango

I thought Tinder was some new chocolate bar.

dinorebel

Vandango wrote: »

I thought Tinder was some new chocolate bar.

It's a different treat you'd be getting.

biko

I personally would not use Tinder while having a gf or a wife but you know what, there are all kinds of people and all kinds of relationships so anything goes I suppose.

smash

The_Captain wrote: »

Make a second fb profile, don't ad your OH, their friends or anyone that would shop you, add nightclubs/DJs/promo models until you have more than 50 friends, allowing you to pass the automatic tinder check for fake profiles, add only your best pics to your fb profile, obviously nothing featuring your OH. Do some tindering, then unlink tinder to your fb profile once you've got a few numbers.


Or so I've been told....

That's true, but I was only in there to get directions on how to get away from there.

Still location based. So if you OH's friends or your friends have it and they're within a certain range then you could pop up on their screen.

Simonigs1.0

I don't use it because I actually have a girlfriend and we have sex already.