decisions you've made and think thank christ

lufties

I'm no scientist but I do believe that the natural universe influences how we behave and what we decide. I've always been worried if I've made right decisions in the past. even if they are regretful, there is still a positive to be taken from it. As a single person, I nearly fell into the trap of staying with someone whose not compatible a few times..as painful as splitting up was at the time, I look back and think, thank christ I got out of that relationship or trusted instinct and opted out of a situation.

What are that decisions/actions you took that you now feel thankful of?

Donkey Oaty

lufties wrote: »

What are that decisions/actions you took that you now feel thankful of?

I once paid a ten pound fine instead of taking a "Chance" and avoided crippling hotel repairs.

The Rugged Chuck Norris

I used to pray but Jesus owed me some money once so I had to round house kick him to the face.

Its where Protestants came from

Barely There

Marrying my wife.

Best decision I ever made and I frequently congratulate myself on my foresight in snapping her up before someone else got her.

deadybai

Stopped talking to my best friend I had since primary school. Jesus he was some loser.

kneemos

It's all preordained apparently.Just a pile of atoms following their natural cycle.

cletus van damme

Barely There wrote: »

Marrying my wife.

Best decision I ever made and I frequently congratulate myself on my foresight in snapping her up before someone else got her.

divorcing mine.

Defo best decision I made - there was no hanging about going through months (or years :eek:) of trying to make it work. Had a problem (kinda major) discussed it and she wasn't budging and made an instant decision. Boom. End of.

Instant weight off my shoulders and whole new lease of life discovered.

Generic Dreadhead

Taking a year out of my Civil Engineering course (after Higher Cet, before Ordinary Degree) in 2007 to work..... then not going back to the course

QueenieB

Changing to an ECB tracker mortgage in the boom times. It saved our skins when the crash happened and property prices fell. The bank tried to get us to change with all kinds of incentives but we didn't budge.

mathie

The Rugged Chuck Norris wrote: »

I used to pray but Jesus owed me some money once so I had to round house kick him to the face.

Its where Protestants came from

Are you posting from 2006?

TheBeardedLady

Quitting smoking, leaving Scotland, starting university again to escape TEFL and not a decision I made but someone ending things with me in my late 20s.

Larbre34

Not accepting an offer to train to be a Garda 8 years ago.

Sir Arthur Daley

Close the window of the jeep, it rained 10 minutes later.

Alf Veedersane

Summoning the bottle to go talk to my now wife the first time I saw her.

Deciding that putting on the seatbelt in the back seat was a good idea.

Finally deciding that I wanted for Chamnpionship Manager 2 for Christmas and not the Real Madrid jersey I'd had my eye on.

whiskeyman

pulled out...

The Strawman Argument

Probably deciding to f*ck off to America when there was a whole load of hell going on at home. Had been taking too much of it on my shoulders for years and, while it's unfortunate it took so much for me to crack, a clean break was desperately needed. Feel a lot more capable of being happy now.



An absolutely awful ex forcing me to make the decision of dumping her with her awfulness was also a good one. That was hardly a decision I made though.

Dartz

Became an atheist.

KarimT

Recently quit a very good (according to all around me) job position as a project management in a respectable local IT company with more than double the average of the city kind of pay.

Was not really happy there despite all benefits the company provided.

Now I find myself working with a friend in a very small company while writing a book with another friend, traveling around to the most outlandish of places feeling happy as a bunny in a cabbage field

As soon as I kicked the cause of misery in the face, a number of lucrative opportunities to do cool, yet profitable things emerged from the woodwork.

Now, it should be noted I don't give credit to any specific deity but I get the feeling the universe has a way of working things out for us if we make a move in the right direction.

caustic 1

cletus van damme wrote: »

divorcing mine.

Defo best decision I made - there was no hanging about going through months (or years :eek:) of trying to make it work. Had a problem (kinda major) discussed it and she wasn't budging and made an instant decision. Boom. End of.

Instant weight off my shoulders and whole new lease of life discovered.

Tsk, if there is one thing I hate it's half a story. How long married? Were there any kids involved? What was the problem? What was new lease of life? What did you do that you couldn't with her?
Yeah I know I'm nosey. :pac:

porsche959

Leaving the banking industry in 2004.

Not leveraging up on investment properties, as some of my friends were doing, in the 2003-2007 period.

cletus van damme

caustic 1 wrote: »

Tsk, if there is one thing I hate it's half a story. How long married? Were there any kids involved? What was the problem? What was new lease of life? What did you do that you couldn't with her?
Yeah I know I'm nosey. :pac:

hmmmm ...what to say.

together about 6 years (married less than 1)
1 child
the problem was her excessive party/hangover cycle and suspected foul play. It started when she'd met a new gang of friends - after we married.
foul play was denied but let's just say she has remarried to that guy.

New lease of life was more mental than actual things I could or couldn't do.
But i had a bagful more disposable income , we had joint finances when together but it was a shock to see how much more above her financial contribution she was actually spending . This only became apparant when she was gone.
Got a new house and decked it out as I wanted - kinda stuff like that.

I did go on holidays on my tod to places I know she wouldn't have liked but I did. I had more craic with my son , we went away a bit together too.
More time to myself too to follow my own interests.
Plus I got to meet, date and fornicate with some fab women. I'd a fantastic 4-5 years on that scene till I met who I'm with now.

the bad atmosphere wasn't in my life anymore I wasn't going about pissed off cos she was going on the rip on a fri and then spending the next two days hungover (with the accompanying bad mood) completely ignoring the fact she'd a husband and child.

Essentially I was just a happier person with that person out of my life.
But I'm forever thankful I called a halt quite soon rather than trying to fix things or hanging on for the sake of the marriage.

I hope all curiosity is satisfied

eviltwin

Not putting my baby up for adoption

gugleguy

Not buying anything Hewlett Packard ever.
Not buying a Sega dreamcast.
Not buying an actual Atari Jaguar

omb0wyn5ehpij9

Going for a few pints with my dad on a Thursday night when I was in crap form and really down cos of some stuff that was going on. I wasn't in the humour to leave the apartment at all.
It turned out to be the last chance I ever got to have a pint with him as he had an accident a few days later and passed away 10 weeks after it

Cupcake_Crisis

Going back to college! It was a very wise decision indeed.

I am pie

Wife stood me up on our first date, listened to a friend talk me into to giving it a second chance.

Her excuse was a mix of laziness and dislike for the suggested venue to meet up.

As a result now happily married and living in the ar3e end of the world!

beks101

BDJW wrote: »

Going for a few pints with my dad on a Thursday night when I was in crap form and really down cos of some stuff that was going on. I wasn't in the humour to leave the apartment at all.
It turned out to be the last chance I ever got to have a pint with him as he had an accident a few days later and passed away 10 weeks after it

This gave me goosebumps. Very sorry for your loss BDJW.

Y'know, I was going to reply with some bullsh1tty "life happens the way it happens" response about how my laughably crap judgement calls and worst decisions ever taken have made me who I am, which is true in ways. I don't tend to dwell.

But on reading this, I actually think it's a conscious decision I made a few years ago when I was living in Canada, my mate's mother passed away very suddenly and he never got over the fact that he had rejected the last incoming call from her a few days previous because he was rushing to a work meeting.

I'd been a bit haphazard with the aul calls/texts/skypes/vibers to my own parents to that point and it was a real wakeup call. Nowadays I call or text my parents every day and have a weekly Skype catch-up with my little sister, regardless of how busy things are. Even if we're sat there staring at each other with absolutely nothing to say, it still connects me to them in a way that makes it that bit easier to sleep at night and I'm glad to have that perspective.

Glad you have that happy memory with your lovely Dad

Macavity.

Going against my psychologist's advice and getting myself off antidepressants.

caustic 1

cletus van damme wrote: »

hmmmm ...what to say.

together about 6 years (married less than 1)
1 child
the problem was her excessive party/hangover cycle and suspected foul play. It started when she'd met a new gang of friends - after we married.
foul play was denied but let's just say she has remarried to that guy.

New lease of life was more mental than actual things I could or couldn't do.
But i had a bagful more disposable income , we had joint finances when together but it was a shock to see how much more above her financial contribution she was actually spending . This only became apparant when she was gone.
Got a new house and decked it out as I wanted - kinda stuff like that.

I did go on holidays on my tod to places I know she wouldn't have liked but I did. I had more craic with my son , we went away a bit together too.
More time to myself too to follow my own interests.
Plus I got to meet, date and fornicate with some fab women. I'd a fantastic 4-5 years on that scene till I met who I'm with now.

the bad atmosphere wasn't in my life anymore I wasn't going about pissed off cos she was going on the rip on a fri and then spending the next two days hungover (with the accompanying bad mood) completely ignoring the fact she'd a husband and child.

Essentially I was just a happier person with that person out of my life.
But I'm forever thankful I called a halt quite soon rather than trying to fix things or hanging on for the sake of the marriage.

I hope all curiosity is satisfied

Satisfied thank you for sharing and congratulations not many that brave.

stimpson

+1 for divorce, but chasing my second wife for 6 months was definitely the best decision I ever took. I don't think I ever thought twice about any other woman after a knock back. Took my mind off the long drawn out separation/divorce/empty threats of court action if nothing else.

Together 10 years now, married for 4 and have two fantastic children. Arguments are once in a blue moon and never last very long. I've never been this happy for this long.

The One Doctor

Barely There wrote: »

Marrying my wife.

Best decision I ever made and I frequently congratulate myself on my foresight in snapping her up before someone else got her.

Me too.

jacksie66

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AnonoBoy

cletus van damme wrote: »

the problem was her excessive party/hangover cycle and suspected foul play.

You think she murdered someone? :eek:

FullblownRose

AnonoBoy wrote: »

You think she murdered someone? :eek:

Someone's wife, then she married him.

razorblunt

I had a chance to buy it for a song. Fortunately, that song was White Christmas, and by hanging onto it, I made milions.

NeonCookies

Made a decision to email about an internship that I found online which was in the exact area I wanted to work in, even though I'd missed the deadline for that year by about 2 months. They loved my CV, I started a few months later, moved from volunteer to paid full-time within another few months, and have just started my second year :-)

Thank Christ I sent that email!

Barely There

The One Doctor wrote: »

Me too.

You married my wife too?

yosser hughes

cletus van damme wrote: »

hmmmm ...what to say.

together about 6 years (married less than 1)
1 child
the problem was her excessive party/hangover cycle and suspected foul play. It started when she'd met a new gang of friends - after we married.
foul play was denied but let's just say she has remarried to that guy.

New lease of life was more mental than actual things I could or couldn't do.
But i had a bagful more disposable income , we had joint finances when together but it was a shock to see how much more above her financial contribution she was actually spending . This only became apparant when she was gone.
Got a new house and decked it out as I wanted - kinda stuff like that.

I did go on holidays on my tod to places I know she wouldn't have liked but I did. I had more craic with my son , we went away a bit together too.
More time to myself too to follow my own interests.
Plus I got to meet, date and fornicate with some fab women. I'd a fantastic 4-5 years on that scene till I met who I'm with now.

the bad atmosphere wasn't in my life anymore I wasn't going about pissed off cos she was going on the rip on a fri and then spending the next two days hungover (with the accompanying bad mood) completely ignoring the fact she'd a husband and child.

Essentially I was just a happier person with that person out of my life.
But I'm forever thankful I called a halt quite soon rather than trying to fix things or hanging on for the sake of the marriage.

I hope all curiosity is satisfied

Who got custody of your son?

cletus van damme

yosser hughes wrote: »

Who got custody of your son?

it's split roughly 50/50

fatherted1969

On my way to my fathers anniversary mass a few years ago, was a rotton night outside and i'd arranged to collect my wife outside her job after the mass . For some unknown reason i gave the mass a miss and collected my wife early from her job and headed home.

Got home and babysitter said my daughter was acting up only in last hour and was unwell. Rang kdoc and brought her in and when doc undressed her in surgery he discovered meningitis rash all over her body. Scariest moment of my life

A week in intensive care and she made a full recovery. The speed of it from being just unwell to being hooked up to everything in intensive care was frightening.

Just happened to be in that surgery last week and met the doc 16 years later. For all the years that passed he still remembered that night as well.

Never really believed in fate but certainly think my da had something to do with my daughter being alive today

How Soon Is Now

Reading some of the stories in here it really just goes to show you never know whats around the corner! Its not even just a simple statement its the truth.

Life can just change in a heartbeat.

Lyger

crannglas wrote: »

I was in a shop a few weeks back. I went towards one aisle to pick up something and thought no don't want that. So turned around and walked other way. Out of corner of my eye I spotted this woman I hate coming down the aisle I was about to walk into. And I think thank Christ changed my mind. Another time I got rid of a few people from my life. Turned out one of them was involved in murder another was a drug dealing prostitue. And I think thank Christ I

You... said too much? Above post is all kinds of intriguing though. Do the same as the other lad and elaborate - please!

Some inspiring stuff on this thread by the way - very heartwarming.

Witchie

Divorce too. Selfish git couldn't even send his kids birthday cards last week. Thanks be to jaysus I got rid of that ahole.

9de5q7tsr8u2im

plenty of pagans on this thread

wiseoldelf34

lad a few doors down got busted selling pot few years ago.i decided to cut down my entire grow and dump it just to be cautious .
low and behold got a knock on the door few months later.
thank Christ i listened to that little voice

Sunnyisland

A lot of you would know this about me by now,

Stopped drinking alcohol in January 09, definitely the best decision I ever made in my life .

Can only guess where I be now if i hadent stopped, dead or prison.

Hatchet Harry

Years ago when first started driving my younger brother asked could he join for a spin, for whatever reason i refused and took off on my own, rolled the car down the road on the passengers side destroying the pillar, door and windscreen smashed.
I was grand just in shock but keep thinking back how different it could be.

cassid

At 11.00pm,tucked up in bed, decided to go to the loo just in case. I noticed a tiny tiny little bit of spotting when pregnant, had problems throughout the pregnancy and this is so small u needed to really focus the eyes. Told himself to bring me into the hospital, he said nothing but agreed. Within an hour of arriving the baby came with a major complication, he had about 5 minutes of oxygen before he would have died. If I had been at home or even en route, the baby would have died, only for the hospital we able to knock me out and pull himself out immediately. If I had stayed in bed and went to sleep, I would have lost the little guy who spreads so much love and joy in my life, its scary how close life and death are. He spent 10 weeks in hospital and well recovered now. I still get goosebumps when I think about it.

Lalealea

lufties wrote: »

I'm no scientist but I do believe that the natural universe influences how we behave and what we decide. I've always been worried if I've made right decisions in the past. even if they are regretful, there is still a positive to be taken from it. As a single person, I nearly fell into the trap of staying with someone whose not compatible a few times..as painful as splitting up was at the time, I look back and think, thank christ I got out of that relationship or trusted instinct and opted out of a situation.

What are that decisions/actions you took that you now feel thankful of?

Leaving him. Thought that a few times. But the big one was a couple of years ago.

Going to Uni.

Going to the er when I had cramps turned out it was renal colic from a really really bad kidney infection.

osarusan

Slightly different, because it wasn't a decision I made.

I was plodding along in a kind of decent but dead end job for a few years, with nothing more than vague ideas of changing things, but without ever making any decisions.

Then the business went bankrupt, and I was forced to actually make those serious decisions I'd shied away from.

Best thing that happened to me.

monkeysnapper

QueenieB wrote: »

Changing to an ECB tracker mortgage in the boom times. It saved our skins when the crash happened and property prices fell. The bank tried to get us to change with all kinds of incentives but we didn't budge.

Same here buddy, I was walking down a road on a normal rainy day and something clicked in my head

"I know I'll go into bank and play hard ball and see if I can get some money off my mortgage "

They said switch to a ECB ,

Every month I thank who Evers listening up there, that one ordinary decision saved me thousands .



My other was in same bank , when we were building house I constantly kept eye on exchange rate , I'm from Wales and I had my life savings in sterling and kept on to it till exchange was right , I walk into bank and work out how much I'm going to get and when bank clerk gives me exchange it's 600 under, turns out they put wrong rate on board , !!,!! I complain and the manager tells me I have to have it and I'm 600 quid up!!!!

Happy days .