Bridezilla Stories

Thoie

MsBubbles wrote: »

Thoie oh no ! I've asked my sister to get the unity candle and I will buy the other candles myself. No bridesmaids or groomsmen for us. My best friend is my witness and hubby to be's best friend is his witness.

We want a very low key relaxed wedding so that's what we're having

Just as long as your witness knows there will be candles involved, and isn't taken by surprise! :pac:

Things like that can also dictate the size of handbag the bridesmaids carry. Many bridesmaids/witnesses have 2 bags - a tiny clutch (or nothing) for the ceremony, and a larger one hidden away somewhere that contains everything from emergency first aid kits, to pens, camera(s), phones, spare engine parts, 5 course meal, and a very small spaceship.

I know I was once going to be witness, had asked the bride in advance if my teeny tiny clutch bag would suffice, and was told yes. Then, on the day, was expected to fit the bride's phone, cigarettes and lighter and an inhaler into the teeny tiny clutch.

ABajaninCork

MsBubbles wrote: »

Thoie oh no ! I've asked my sister to get the unity candle and I will buy the other candles myself. No bridesmaids or groomsmen for us. My best friend is my witness and hubby to be's best friend is his witness.

We want a very low key relaxed wedding so that's what we're having

Can you not get the candles together and give them to the venue to set up in advance? We gave our candles to the florist, she decorated them and set them up on the church altar.

MsBubbles

Thoie, The candles will be lit by myself and the groom.
We've all discussed the emergency kit knowing my clever and crafty friend her leatherman will be in the emergency kit just in case which will all be in a bigger bag
discreetly hidden

Neyite

ABajaninCork wrote: »

I totally get the one wedding a day. It's not a case of being upstaged (for me anyway), but you're paying enough for a wedding. You want decent service and the venue to run the day for you. No-one should be looking around for the duty manager who might have gone off to look after the other bride. That was the only stipulation I had when looking for a venue for my own wedding. No way did I want to be 'fighting' to get staff's attention where they might be engaged somewhere else. And there's no way I'd have a venue that caters for more than one wedding a day. Service isn't assured.

I can understand that aspect, which is how the bride I know explained it to me, she genuinely wouldnt give two hoots if another bride was there, it was about the service. And I've worked weddings so I know that hotels are stretched during the service of a reception. Totally understandable to not want two big function rooms going because service will suffer.

What I'm talking about is when you have a regular booking in the restaurant, separate from the function room, where they are eating off the normal menu with no requirements that would set them apart from any other paying guest of the hotel, but one of the group happens to be wearing a wedding dress. Then thats more about two brides in the venue, rather than diluting the service in the function room.

stargazer 68

Neyite wrote: »

What I'm talking about is when you have a regular booking in the restaurant, separate from the function room, where they are eating off the normal menu with no requirements that would set them apart from any other paying guest of the hotel, but one of the group happens to be wearing a wedding dress. Then thats more about two brides in the venue, rather than diluting the service in the function room.

Yeah but if your hotel 'guarantees' and sells their wedding service as only one wedding per day (which a lot of places do) and then you find another one there it's a different story IMO.

Tarzana

wuffly wrote: »

Anyone had mother-of-the-bridezilla?

Shouldn't that be motherzilla-of-the-bride?

Tarzana

tishandy wrote: »

Some that stand out from this year are ...
# Bride wanted her hair down and bridesmaids hair up.

My very non-bridezilla friend had this stipulation when I was a bridesmaid for her. It was her only demand. Don't see the problem, really?

EDIT: Wait read your post wrong!

MsBubbles

ABajaninCork that's the plan to set everything up in advance. I asked my sister to buy the candle but will get it from her before the day.

ABajaninCork

Mumzillas is what I call them!

I had an Asian wedding once. The bride was lovely. The groom was a genuine 24 carat *****. As for Mum? She tried to treat me like a servant. At one point, I was on my hands and knees trying to repair her beautiful silk beaded sari which had got caught on her sandals. So I painstakingly unravelled the thread from the sandal, cut the loose thread and did a running repair on the hem. Fine - she was happy with that.

Then she snapped at me to get a glass of water for her. OK. I snapped when she asked me to fetch her bag, which was right opposite her, whilst I was holding pins for the hairdresser to put up the bride's hair. I calmly told her to fetch it herself, I was busy. She went nuts!! I guess the fact I told her slavery was abolished 200 years ago had something to do with it...

The groom tried to bully me into letting them have fireworks, saying it was all sorted with the Venue Manager. I knew nothing was in the booking and told him that. He tells me he's going to have me fired. OK. But you're still not getting fireworks, and you have to be out of here by 12.30. Nasty little man. Typical 'short man' syndrome...

Dial Hard

NewMrs2b wrote: »

When they were being announced into the reception the hotel naturally called them Mr & Mrs X she didn't change her name and instead of just going with it made the toastmaster correct herself I was RAGING I didn't have my camera to hand!!

I wouldn't have made the person correct him/herself but I wouldn't have been impressed either if that had happened to me. It's not a natural assumption that the woman is going to change her name. My hotel just said "Ladies and gentleman, please be upstanding for your bride and groom", which is all that's required, imo.

happywithlife

Re the one-wedding-a-day thing
I was at a swanky Dublin hotel once and witnessed two weddings arrive within an hr of each other - both were put into different rooms but because it was such a rare nice sunny day, guests preferred to mingle on the terrace and lawn - nobody had a clue which party was which and guests were mega confused - as were staff etc I assume. Nightmare for the hotel to co-ordinate as well

Neyite

Dovies wrote: »

Yeah but if your hotel 'guarantees' and sells their wedding service as only one wedding per day (which a lot of places do) and then you find another one there it's a different story IMO.

Yes, if its another function booked for a wedding. Like I said.

But if its 10 people sitting in the restaurant, totally separate from the function room, eating a regular dinner and one just happens to be wearing a white dress, are you really going to be that person to kick up a fuss with the hotel in the hope of getting a reduction on your bill resulting in them kicking the other dinner party out on to the street and ruining a happy day for another family?

Or what would you do on your wedding day if you saw that happen in your 'one wedding' venue?

Dial Hard

Dial Hard wrote: »

I wouldn't have made the person correct him/herself but I wouldn't have been impressed either if that had happened to me. It's not a natural assumption that the woman is going to change her name. My hotel just said "Ladies and gentleman, please be upstanding for your bride and groom", which is all that's required, imo.

Yeah I know at a ceremony I was there for the rehearsal etc and they did ask in advance how they should announce them after it was over

NewMrs2b

Dial Hard wrote: »

I wouldn't have made the person correct him/herself but I wouldn't have been impressed either if that had happened to me. It's not a natural assumption that the woman is going to change her name. My hotel just said "Ladies and gentleman, please be upstanding for your bride and groom", which is all that's required, imo.

I agree should be just a 'Bride & Groom' announcement,

My point was(which I could have been clearer on!), she never put in a request - and some of the signs she had got made had this title (to tie in with other aspects of the day she had decided on) so the hotel assumed she was going down this road,

I know I have often said 'ah here is the new Mr & Mrs x' and found out later the lady wasn't changing her name and cringed at!

Actually reminded me of a gal a couple of seats away from me in work complained that her name wasn't changed on her email when she came back from honeymoon, the poor IT guy didn't even know she had got married he was mortified when she bailed into the office shouting at him!

Personally I couldn't give a fiddlers hoot what I am announced as just get me to the table without tripping over!

seamus

NewMrs2b wrote: »

I know I have often said 'ah here is the new Mr & Mrs x' and found out later the lady wasn't changing her name and cringed at!

I thought there was never any kind of formality around that, especially when it comes to weddings. I've often greeted new grooms as "Mr. <Bridesname>" for the craic, I thought everyone was far more chilled about that kind of stuff these days.

Actually reminded me of a gal a couple of seats away from me in work complained that her name wasn't changed on her email when she came back from honeymoon, the poor IT guy didn't even know she had got married he was mortified when she bailed into the office shouting at him!

A place I worked in had something of a run of new brides who made a big fanfare of getting their name changed on email, in the directory, on all sorts of systems, as soon as they arrived back from their honeymoon; emailing all their contacts about their new address, etc. Nearly half of them quietly had it changed back 6-12 months later when their marriages failed...

After that it became fashionable in that workplace to continue to use your maiden name in work and married name outside it

NewMrs2b

seamus wrote: »

I thought there was never any kind of formality around that, especially when it comes to weddings. I've often greeted new grooms as "Mr. <Bridesname>" for the craic, I thought everyone was far more chilled about that kind of stuff these days.

I don't want to derail the thread with name talk because everyone is entitled to there own opinion on it, if they want to both change there names to the 'Bananahammocks' more power to them,

I don't think there is a formality it was just how I greeted them for no other reason than it was there wedding day. Like I say I cringed after when I heard either she wasn't changing her name or like you say maybe he is taking her name

Tarzana

seamus wrote: »

I thought there was never any kind of formality around that, especially when it comes to weddings. I've often greeted new grooms as "Mr. <Bridesname>" for the craic, I thought everyone was far more chilled about that kind of stuff these days.

I think you're coming from a male perspective there. For many women, being called Mrs. <Groomsname> or worse Mrs. <Groomsfirstname> <Groomssurname> still carries heavy connotations of ownership over her.

ABajaninCork

Personally, I don't care. Either way, I'll still have a man's name. Either my maiden name (father's name) or married name (husband's name). I answer to both...

daveohdave

Tarzana wrote: »

I think you're coming from a male perspective there. For many women, being called Mrs. <Groomsname> or worse Mrs. <Groomsfirstname> <Groomssurname> still carries heavy connotations of ownership over her.

That's the entire point of seamus' joke.

Tarzana

daveohdave wrote: »

That's the entire point of seamus' joke.

Not really. "I thought everyone was more chilled about it" - for a man to be called that is no big deal but for women, it's not long since that was commonplace so many women won't be OK with it, even if it's a joke, and that is very understandable.

pickarooney

Tarzana wrote: »

Shouldn't that be motherzilla-of-the-bride?

Mothra of the bride

NewMrs2b

Oh another one I thought of, a girl went to a wedding in a short beige dress and would have been good friends with the Bride. She called over after the wedding to see the photo's and the bride had her dress changed green! I would be mortified asking a photog to do that!

You prob wouldn't have noticed her half as much in the beige but with the green ya couldn't miss it!

Tarzana

pickarooney wrote: »

Mothra of the bride

I'm thanking this because I totally get jokes.

I don't get this one.

Cheshire Cat

Tarzana wrote: »

I'm thanking this because I totally get jokes.

I don't get this one.

http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Godzilla_vs._Mothra

seamus

I think he means "Madra of the Bride"

Edit: nope!

liz lemoncello

tishandy wrote: »

...
# Bride wanted her hair down and bridesmaids hair up. Que one bridesmaid with beautiful long hair that she was obviously very proud of , arguing half an hour with bride and hairdresser that she wanted her hair down too. Bride pleading with her that she could let it down after the dinner but no the bridesmaid locked herself in loo and cried and wailed like a baby until the bride relented.
...

But, isn't that bad behaviour on the part of the BM? (Would that be "Bridezilla-maid" or "Bridemaidzilla"?) Locking yourself in the loo and wailing sounds even more spoiled than the bride's insistence on the hairstyle.

ABajaninCork wrote: »

Mumzillas is what I call them!

I had an Asian wedding once..........

OK. I snapped when she asked me to fetch her bag, which was right opposite her, whilst I was holding pins for the hairdresser to put up the bride's hair.

...
The groom tried to bully me into letting them have fireworks, saying it was all sorted with the Venue Manager. I knew nothing was in the booking and told him that. He tells me he's going to have me fired. OK. But you're still not getting fireworks, and you have to be out of here by 12.30. Nasty little man. Typical 'short man' syndrome...

For a minute I thought you were a BM at this wedding. I know where I'd have stuck the pins.


*Yes, it's true. I only discovered this board because of the deleted bridesmaidgate thread. I decided to stay.

Tarzana

liz lemoncello wrote: »

But, isn't that bad behaviour on the part of the BM? (Would that be "Bridezilla-maid" or "Bridemaidzilla"?) Locking yourself in the loo and wailing sounds even more spoiled than the bride's insistence on the hairstyle.

That's what she's saying. I made the same mistake as you. The post was actually her pointing that people other than the bride can be divas!

liz lemoncello

Tarzana wrote: »

That's what she's saying. I made the same mistake as you. The post was actually her pointing that people other than the bride can be divas!

Oops.
Thanks.

AoifeCork

Re: Mum-zillas... Dear Lord they are the worst breed.

I once had a mother of groom approach me as I was playing some entrance music for guests right before a ceremony. Had a list of the typical tunes-we all know them. Air on a G String, Gymnopedie, etc etc. Anyway, up rocks mumzilla to the gallery and I thought she was approaching for a chat as some mums do. Anyway, she proceeded to pick up and look through all my folders of music (including the one from which I was playing!!) whilst shaking her head and tutting/sighing and then, this immaculately dressed vision of grace shouted in my face: "You've no trad and you call yourself a musician... we don't want your classical sh**e here" then threw both folders on a pew and walked down the stairs back to her seat.

I then played Tabhair Dom do Lamh at a very slow pace just to bug her.

That's as bad as it gets for me personally. But I could have swung for her.. >:(

amdublin

Friend of mine was told she was going to be asked to be bm except "x has a car"

Poor x was the brides chauffeur every Saturday for a year, going on dress appointments, venue appointments, every kind of appointment you can imagine.