How to give someone money anonymously

Chucken

I often wonder if these kind of threads are a test of Boards users integrity.

J82

If I received money anonymously, I would continuously be trying to figure out who gave it to me. Everyone would be a suspect and if this person is as proud as you think, then that would potentially be making life uncomfortable for them.

I would offer a "loan". Tell them you often give so-and-so person money to put away for you until Christmas/a holiday (a kinda out of sight, out of mind saving scheme), but that maybe this time you'll give it to them and they can give it back to you when Christmas/holiday / whatever rolls around.

I would definitely be open about it-
Better to be uncomfortable in one person's company than everyone's!

J82

If I received money anonymously, I would continuously be trying to figure out who gave it to me. Everyone would be a suspect and if this person is as proud as you think, then that would potentially be making life uncomfortable for them.

I would offer a "loan". Tell them you often give so-and-so person money to put away for you until Christmas/a holiday (a kinda out of sight, out of mind saving scheme), but that maybe this time you'll give it to them and they can give it back to you when Christmas/holiday / whatever rolls around.

I would definitely be open about it-
Better to be uncomfortable in one person's company than everyone's!

Merkin

Paddy_R wrote: »

Just telling them is probably best. If you have to lie maybe tell them that you've won a bit of money and would love to share the good fortune.

I think this is a great idea

Oink

Put it like that: Are they not a friend/ family member? Would they not help you if the situation was reversed? Whats the use of friends if you don't help each other or you're too proud to accept help?

Then tell them they're selfish batards and punch them.

Tail Docker

Oink wrote: »

Put it like that: Are they not a friend/ family member? Would they not help you if the situation was reversed? Whats the use of friends if you don't help each other or you're too proud to accept help?

Then tell them they're selfish batards and punch them.

I'd go with this, or else start pelting their front door with dozens of €2 coins. They'll be miffed at the damage, but depending on how stuck they are, it'll be a
sort of "Hmmm <. __ .>" miffed.

Akrasia

hairyprincess wrote: »

Get a load of coal/oil delivered.

It's almost June. The only person still using their heating is my mother and she's an extremophile who can only survive in conditions found near the craters of active volcanoes

daheff

If you know where they shop get them a gift voucher for there...tell them you got it as a 'bonus' in work.....but you dont shop there/shop isnt near you. Tell them its only 50 eur (incase they offer to give you money..'ah sure its only 50 you're grand'), and then top it up to a bigger amount

AlwaysAnyTime

AlwaysAnyTime wrote: »

I don't know their bank details, and something like putting it through the letterbox might get me caught or be too obvious. I am completely out of ideas, good people of After Hours I summon you!

You could contrive to find some service they can perform for which you can actually pay them - thus allowing you to give them the money you wish - and allowing them not to see it as a hand out.

BetterThanThou

Invite them around for a game of poker, but instead of hiding good cards up your sleeve like you usually would, hide bad cards up your sleeve, and lose the money to him.

Fiolina

Paddy_R wrote: »

Just telling them is probably best. If you have to lie maybe tell them that you've won a bit of money and would love to share the good fortune.

An ex-workmate of mine did this for me a few years ago. It was just before Christmas, I was out of work and fairly fcuked for money.
He sent me a card with a couple of hundred euro in it and said he'd been lucky on the horses. I remember when I opened the envelope I was mortified at first but then the realisation that I could pay off bills and get the kids sorted made me get over it. I will never, ever forget his kindness.

PizzamanIRL

Just sit him down and tell him to forget his pride. If he really needs the money he'll take it. If he doesn't take it, his loss. You can't force it upon him.

The One Doctor

Just offer them the money or at least offer to buy them something - a week's shopping as suggested earlier. If they refuse it's their loss, literally. Anonymous gifts won't work - that only happens in fiction.

Celly Smunt

Give a man a fish he'll eat for the day.
Teach a man to fish and he'll eat everyday.

Moral of the story, buy the person a fishing rod.

jimgoose

Celly Smunt wrote: »

Give a man a fish he'll eat for the day.
Teach a man to fish and he'll eat everyday sit in a boat and drink beer all day...

FYP!

ScumLord

Buy a balaclava and when they're walking home on some cold dark night run up and do a reverse mugging forcing them to take the money at the end of a syringe point.

sbsquarepants

J82 wrote: »

If I received money anonymously, I would continuously be trying to figure out who gave it to me. Everyone would be a suspect and if this person is as proud as you think, then that would potentially be making life uncomfortable for them.

Just putting it out there, I don't feel this way (just on the slim chance that I'm who the OP is on about) Just hand me the wad of cash, no need to beat around the bush.

jimgoose

ScumLord wrote: »

Buy a balaclava and when they're walking home on some cold dark night run up and do a reverse mugging forcing them to take the money at the end of a syringe point.

Mmm. Hell's Jehova's sort of job - they knock at the door and tell you to fúck off! :pac::pac::pac:

K.Flyer

Hi O.P., first of all thanks for restoring our faith in humanity, your a good soul.

Call around for a coffee and chat as usual and try to find out who his service providers are, Electric, Gas, C.C., etc. don't ask into too much detail about them unless he is open to discuss. Try get the account numbers if you can and phone them and pay something off his bills.
Otherwise an anonymous Supermarket food delivery would work very well if you can build up a little profile on his grocery requirements. (Personally I think food and electric sould be the top of the priority list) wishing you all the best.

Maphisto

Fiolina wrote: »

An ex-workmate of mine did this for me a few years ago. It was just before Christmas, I was out of work and fairly fcuked for money.
He sent me a card with a couple of hundred euro in it and said he'd been lucky on the horses. I remember when I opened the envelope I was mortified at first but then the realisation that I could pay off bills and get the kids sorted made me get over it. I will never, ever forget his kindness.

That's the best bit of advice.

And now I have something in my eye.

/end thread

ryan101

Tell him you're loaning it to him until he gets back on his feet someday, even if it's a few years away, and he doesn't have to pay it back until he can easily afford it, and that you yourself never know when you'll also need help someday. When the day comes that he wants to pay it back, you don't have to take the money.
Don't try to be too big and charitable about it, you might need help someday as well.

K.Flyer

Hi O.P., first of all thanks for restoring our faith in humanity, your a good soul.

Call around for a coffee and chat as usual and try to find out who his service providers are, Electric, Gas, C.C., etc. don't ask into too much detail about them unless he is open to discuss. Try get the account numbers if you can and phone them and pay something off his bills.
Otherwise an anonymous Supermarket food delivery would work very well if you can build up a little profile on his grocery requirements. (Personally I think food and electric sould be the top of the priority list) wishing you all the best.

verywell

If you don't want to talk face to face (and lets be honest not all of us would have the courage to do this), I think the raffle is a great idea.

There is always raffles going on for something or other and the person would not have a clue or make them uncomfortable in any way. It would also make them feel lucky and that is a great feeling to have too.