Sexy Mens Underwear :o

blueb

First off.. yes i realize im wide open for ridicule here.
My account looks new but its not.. i scrapped my old one because some ppl know me .

Im wondering if women out there like men in sexy underwear.. the type you find on lingerie websites.. im not talking about womens underwear.. men specific underwear.

I have been with my partner for 6 years and things are getting very stale in the bedroom.. we have a 1 year old baby and sometimes we go months without sex. She is also on anti depressants which doesn't help the libido.

Im looking for ways to surprise her and keep things fun.. i think she would like me to wear some special underwear.. im in decent shape so i dont think id look too ridiculous. and opinions/ suggestions are welcome.

Yes i can see the smart comments coming:P but come on, would you rather read this, or another thread from a guy complaining about his Sh1tty sex life and a depressed spouse ect

Your baby is on anti depressants?

blueb

lol no no.. baby is a happy happy little pixie

danniemcq

Do a Barney Stinson and suit up.

blueb

seems a bit excessive for the bedroom!

frag420

Put on her sexiest lingerie op!! If that don't have her dripping like a Fûcked fridge then I'm afraid your marriage is doomed!!

Dooooooomed I tells ya!!!

blueb

blueb wrote: »

seems a bit excessive for the bedroom!

Not even gonna try. Sure there's your problem!

blueb

ha ha ha ok i take the suit suggestion.... may actually try that :P

Artful_Badger

Have ya tried dogging ?

Dravokivich

Can't go wrong with a bit of this...

You're thinking like a man here. Forget the underwear, unless you look like Ryan Gosling. If you do that's all you should ever wear, besides the odd suit.

Anyway, do the whole rose petals strewn about the bedroom thing. Even have them going up the stairs if you'd like. Then light a few candles and break out the massage oil.

If she doesn't fall asleep after the massage you should be good to go.

blueb

Never Tried it Artful.. she wouldnt be up for that! im 26 years old and 2, 3 or 4 months without sex kills me to be honest :P

kiffer

Do a load of housework.

RoboRat

Banana hammock... thank me later

blueb

Deleted User wrote: »

You're thinking like a man here. Forget the underwear, unless you look like Ryan Gosling. If you do that's all you should ever wear, besides the odd suit.

Anyway, do the whole rose petals strewn about the bedroom thing. Even have them going up the stairs if you'd like. Then light a few candles and break out the massage oil.

If she doesn't fall asleep after the massage you should be good to go.

Thanks for the suggestion.. your right this will probably work.. sometimes it does but not always.. and the thing is.. theres only so many times you can be denied something.. you start to get down about it... i want her to want me, love her to initiate sex one time

carraig2

kiffer wrote: »

Do a load of housework.

Yep, looking after a small child is tiring. Help with baby and housework would be a bigger turn-on than sexy underwear.

Pedro K

Two words. Cadbury Canal.

blueb

the house work is divided equally.. i cook dinner after work and clean and wash kitchen and bathrooms.. she washes clothes and cleans bedrooms..

turnikett1

To be honest it sounds like you need to talk to your OH about it in order to resolve it. Me and my partner had sex life problems for a while but after months of talking about it and also arguing about it, we got it back on track recently. I got the ride twice this morning. I don't normally get the ride in the morning, less so TWICE in a day!

blueb

we do talk about it alot.. not to get too serious.. she was severely depressed for a long time so understandably she was never in the mood for it. I finally convinced here after about a year to go to the GP and some counselling.. shes doing MUCH better now but the anti-depressants she takes have been know to lower the libido.. im convinced this is whats happening.. plus the exhaustion of having a baby

mqq

It is a funny topic,waiting for more interesting comments,ahahahahah

The One Doctor

OP, do you initiate sex? Or are you waiting for her to do it?

Colser

Could you get someone to babysit overnight? Wine and dine her and the rest might follow:) I dont think donning a sexy pair of jocks will have the desired affect at the moment tbh quite the opposite id say...Love the user name by the way Mr Balls..;)

blueb

I always initiate.. but after about 6 - 7 weeks i dont bother anymore because it starts to upset her. i have been very honest and told here everything but shes busy with the baby.. which is 100% understandable and shes really is an amazing mom

blueb

Colser wrote: »

Could you get someone to babysit overnight? Wine and dine her and the rest might follow:) I dont think donning a sexy pair of jocks will have the desired affect at the moment tbh quite the opposite id say...Love the user name by the way Mr Balls..;)

its hard to get someone to take the baby overnight as the baby wakes ALOT!! and my partner isnt comfortable when the baby stays with someone else... but yes i think your onto the right idea there ... even a few hours in the evening

howamidifferent

OP, get some sexy underwear from here and if nothing else it will put a smile on her face. May even make her laugh out loud hysterically in which case she might be up for it.

Sir Arthur Daley

I cannot see any type of racing gear making any difference.

If you have a touch of the Rab C Nesbits then whitey tighties ain't gonna help.

Colser

blueb wrote: »

its hard to get someone to take the baby overnight as the baby wakes ALOT!! and my partner isnt comfortable when the baby stays with someone else... but yes i think your onto the right idea there ... even a few hours in the evening

Theres the problem Id say....she needs sleep not sex lol...you may have to suffer on ..Sorry:)

Uriel.

OP have you tried visiting prostitutes? I have heard a lot of sound advice suggesting that they can save a sexless relationship. Also heard prostitutes can help with the research of new methods to woo your girl.

Failing that, have you tried dressing like a woman for her? She might be gay.

Failing that, have you tried painting your body with illuminous paint? I hear that brightens up the bedroom.

Do you have pets? I hear pets are good to talk with about these kinds of problem.

Do you have a batman suit? I hear these are fun to wear to the local pub.

Have you demanded that your OH get tested for STIs? She may be sleeping around and is too tired to sleep with you. I hear also that going together to the clinic to get tested resparks a dim sex life.

I'm afraid I'm all out of good advice at the moment. I'll let you know if I think of more

Maximus Alexander

The problem with men's sexy underwear is that it only works if you have a six pack. Women of a vast array of shapes and sizes look fantastic in tiny garments. Men just end up looking like slobs.

Davarus Walrus

Arrive in from the pub reeking of porter and scampi fries. It's a scent that most Irish women find utterly irresistible. Slowly peel off your clothes until you're standing there wearing only a vest and a pair of y-fronts. Suck in your stomach and touch your lad in a seductive manner.

Works every time.

howamidifferent

Also swing it round like a helicopter..

howamidifferent

howamidifferent wrote: »

Also swing it round like a helicopter..

One of those little helicopters you get in a kinder surprise

danniemcq

Deleted User wrote: »

One of those little helicopters you get in a kinder surprise

but remember both should be kept away from children

blueb

ha ha ha quality advice here thanks guys an excellent mix of humor and genuine

blueb

to be honest my mind has strayed.. i have thought about looking elsewhere for my needs but.. i have a one year old at home.. what kind of man would do that to his family

Penny Tration

Does she want to fix the situation? You should really find that out first. A trip to the gp to change her meds may help. I was on some that destroyed my libido a few years back, didn't have sex with my ex for six months :eek: change of tablets sorted it out for the most part.

blueb

may i ask what meds you were on green ? and what did u change too ? i have a fear that if we change the meds she will go back to staying in bed for 3-4 days at a time not speaking

Penny Tration

I'll pm you.

blueb

thank you

Alf. A. Male

green_screen wrote: »

I'll pm you.

Ah sure PM us all while you're at it.

blueb

i have decided on the borat thong

https://www.google.ie/search?q=borat+thong&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ei=k6NXU4CCKs_e7AabwoCYCQ&sqi=2&ved=0CAYQ_AUoAQ&biw=1600&bih=799#facrc=_&imgdii=_&imgrc=aMZarNncQXKrxM%253A%3B-FLFEvNWaBynCM%3Bhttp%253A%252F%252Fwww.drummerworld.com%252Fforums%252Fattachment.php%253Fattachmentid%253D57881%2526stc%253D1%2526d%253D1376067994%3Bhttp%253A%252F%252Fwww.drummerworld.com%252Fforums%252Fshowthread.php%253Ft%253D109206%3B280%3B390

Pumpkinseeds

OP I think a bit of romance would work a lot more magic than you getting some new underwear. It sounds like she needs to be made to feel special. Some compliments, flowers, cook some meals, a bit of candlelight and a glass or 2 of wine, you know the sort of thing. With a baby and depression she probably feels like the least attractive person in the world.

Make her feel special, bolster her self-esteem and that should do the trick.

blueb

putty in my hands

blueb

to be honest i tell her every day she looks great.. i have tried all of that. i didnt just jump to underwear to solve the issue. but ya i think some time together alone and a meal ect will do us good.. even if it doesn't end up in the bed. thanks pumpkin

SEPT 23 1989

Have you tried throwing money at the problem?

blueb

SEPT 23 1989 wrote: »

Have you tried throwing money at the problem?

ofcourse.. she didnt appreciate me throwing coins at her vagina

Tiddlypeeps

Low libido is a viscous circle thats difficult to break. The depression/pills/childbirth are likely the root causes but it's a really difficult cycle to break out of because every time you try to initiate sexual activity panic and or guilt set it from previous lack of performance and the fear of not being able to perform presently. Those feelings will crush any desire she may have had. It definitely sounds like this is the case since you say attempting to initiate upsets her after a while.

I have no easy answers for you about how to solve that problem, it could end up being as simple as changing medication, but it may help to know what may be going on in her head. Definitely try to find a way to relieve that pressure/guilt cycle. Do more intimate things with her that don't end up in you trying to initiate sex, hugs, kisses etc. You could even shower together, or massages or whatever, just don't try to initiate anything more unless you are certain she wants it or she initiates. Let her know if that's what you plan to do also, so that she knows she won't need to shy away from intimate acts like kissing for fear of it escalating to something she doesn't want.

Alf. A. Male

blueb wrote: »

putty in my hands

Really? No wonder you're not getting any, it should be harder.

Gyalist

Get a second girlfriend. She'll make the effort when she knows that she has competition.