Begrudged because I'm smart with money

joe stodge

I was talking to one of the girls I work with, she was asking am I planning on going on holiday this year, I told I've booked Florida for myself the wife and our 2kids.
Her reply was "you must have won the lotto or gotten a claim".
I haven't had either, I'm just cautious with money and don't drink often or smoke, I have a mortgage and a car and save anything extra I have for the holiday which I'm paying off in installments over the months leading up to it.
I work in retail and my wife works for the HSE.
Since ivd told her where I'm planning on going one a few people I work with have told me she's telling people I must have come into a windfall of cash as there is no way I could be affording it otherwise. She herself drinks all weekend and smokes at least 20 a day, I'm sure if she gave up both she'd could save for the same.

Has anyone had similar experiences with people begrudging you for being stupid with money.

SV

Happens all the time in Ireland. Usually 'drugs' is cited as the reason.

wretcheddomain

She's just a jealous idiot. Tell her to **** off in future.

MJ23

Bought a car without getting a loan.

"Shur you've a load of money, well for ye"

djk1000

Draw this out for her

20 cigs a day = €70 a week
8 (cheap) drinks at the weekend = €40

=€110 x 52 weeks of the year = €5,720

There's your Florida holiday and some other stuff paid for.

Or, 2 cups of coffee a day @ €2.40 each = €1752 a year.

People that are bad with money don't understand how small spends really add up over a year.

Ray Palmer

Very similar points being made in the thread I started yesterday about playing down income and lifestyle over Christmas.

keith16

MJ23 wrote: »

Bought a car without getting a loan.

"Shur you've a load of money, well for ye"

"I hate people like you" was the response I got from a former colleague when I told her I paid for my car without getting a loan.

feelgoodinc27

People just see and want the reward with no appreciation for the sacrifices and discipline required to get it.

Paddy Fields

They used to say about me, "He has his communion money." I didn't drink or smoke so didn't fit in with the garglers whose favourite topic of conversation was how many pints they had on Sunday... Rivetting! The worst one was nearly 40, lived with his parents and rode a clapped-out Honda 50. I was married with kids, mortgage, car loan but I was the tightwad. My father used to have a quaint old Irish expression... "F**k the begrudgers!"

kneemos

Did someone die belonging to you op?

Karl Stein

I'm not sure that's begrudgery so much as being a ****in' idiot.

joe stodge

I've also started to pick up dollars in the post office when ever I'm paying the bills, €30 is $40 dollars, every week for 6 months, there's no way I can spend it here this way short of going to bureu de change.

Mr.McLovin

SV wrote: »

Happens all the time in Ireland. Usually 'drugs' is cited as the reason.

/pm'd op, mines an ounce of your finest

DrumSteve

See, this is what happens when you care about peoples opinions.

weldoninhio

joe stodge wrote: »

I was talking to one of the girls I work with, she was asking am I planning on going on holiday this year, I told I've booked Florida for myself the wife and our 2kids.
Her reply was "you must have won the lotto or gotten a claim".
I haven't had either, I'm just cautious with money and don't drink often or smoke, I have a mortgage and a car and save anything extra I have for the holiday which I'm paying off in installments over the months leading up to it.
I work in retail and my wife works for the HSE.
Since ivd told her where I'm planning on going one a few people I work with have told me she's telling people I must have come into a windfall of cash as there is no way I could be affording it otherwise. She herself drinks all weekend and smokes at least 20 a day, I'm sure if she gave up both she'd could save for the same.

Has anyone had similar experiences with people begrudging you for being stupid with money.

I'm not sure you know what begrudged means, perhaps invest some money in a dictionary??

Soft Falling Rain

Ah sure no harm op, sure it's not as if you go to Florida every year.

Placebo Effect

joe stodge wrote: »

I was talking to one of the girls I work with, she was asking am I planning on going on holiday this year, I told I've booked Florida for myself the wife and our 2kids.
Her reply was "you must have won the lotto or gotten a claim".
I haven't had either, I'm just cautious with money and don't drink often or smoke, I have a mortgage and a car and save anything extra I have for the holiday which I'm paying off in installments over the months leading up to it.
I work in retail and my wife works for the HSE.
Since ivd told her where I'm planning on going one a few people I work with have told me she's telling people I must have come into a windfall of cash as there is no way I could be affording it otherwise. She herself drinks all weekend and smokes at least 20 a day, I'm sure if she gave up both she'd could save for the same.

Has anyone had similar experiences with people begrudging you for being stupid with money.

That's the reason Joe !

hfallada

Irish people hate other people doing well in life or having a better lifestyle than them. My parents did quite well for themselves through their own hard work. We moved to a nicer area and I went to private schools. Gradually none of their old friends wanted to have nothing to do to them. And were bitter with their success.

But Irish people love more when peoples business's fail or when they are broke.

Czarcasm

joe stodge wrote: »

I was talking to one of the girls I work with, she was asking am I planning on going on holiday this year, I told I've booked Florida for myself the wife and our 2kids.
Her reply was "you must have won the lotto or gotten a claim".
I haven't had either, I'm just cautious with money and don't drink often or smoke, I have a mortgage and a car and save anything extra I have for the holiday which I'm paying off in installments over the months leading up to it.
I work in retail and my wife works for the HSE.
Since ivd told her where I'm planning on going one a few people I work with have told me she's telling people I must have come into a windfall of cash as there is no way I could be affording it otherwise. She herself drinks all weekend and smokes at least 20 a day, I'm sure if she gave up both she'd could save for the same.

Has anyone had similar experiences with people begrudging you for being stupid with money.

I've no experience with begrudgery, but plenty of experience with hypocrisy.

Daqster

I told a few people at work I had saved up enough for a holiday and maybe a new kitchen and they tampered with the brakes on my car and the next day I was killed.

diograis

"blanket comment about all irish people hating those better off than themselves"

Dyr

maybe "win the lottery" is a euphemism for "work in the HSE" :pac:

joe stodge

Placebo Effect wrote: »

That's the reason Joe !

Ha, I wish.

maria34

Just wanted to mention the same thing. Your wife works for HSE so now they think you are loaded and they are taxpayers ....

Ah i wish i could save the money like you. I dont drink in the pub or smoke, still broke :-(

nibtrix

Soft Falling Rain wrote: »

Ah sure no harm op, sure it's not as if you go to Florida every year.

And what if he does? I go abroad every year, often two or three times. I have a fairly low-paid job and a mortgage to pay, but I don't smoke, don't have a car and don't go out pubbing and clubbing every week. I don't spend a lot on clothes and I don't waste money on expensive lunches and coffees. Instead I save so that I can travel. Yet if I mention that I'm heading to such and such a place all I hear is "Off again, sure you must be made of money, tell us where you're working on the side, how much did you win in the lotto, wish I had your life, etc. etc.".

Chefrio

nibtrix wrote: »

And what if he does? I go abroad every year, often two or three times. I have a fairly low-paid job and a mortgage to pay, but I don't smoke, don't have a car and don't go out pubbing and clubbing every week. I don't spend a lot on clothes and I don't waste money on expensive lunches and coffees. Instead I save so that I can travel. Yet if I mention that I'm heading to such and such a place all I hear is "Off again, sure you must be made of money, tell us where you're working on the side, how much did you win in the lotto, wish I had your life, etc. etc.".

And do you tell them you don't waste money on coffee, pubs etc?

Czarcasm

nibtrix wrote: »

And what if he does? I go abroad every year, often two or three times. I have a fairly low-paid job and a mortgage to pay, but I don't smoke, don't have a car and don't go out pubbing and clubbing every week. I don't spend a lot on clothes and I don't waste money on expensive lunches and coffees. Instead I save so that I can travel. Yet if I mention that I'm heading to such and such a place all I hear is "Off again, sure you must be made of money, tell us where you're working on the side, how much did you win in the lotto, wish I had your life, etc. etc.".

I don't suppose it ever crossed your mind that they might be joking?

Probably not.

For Forks Sake

Daqster wrote: »

I told a few people at work I had saved up enough for a holiday and maybe a new kitchen and they tampered with the brakes on my car and the next day I was killed.

Killed to death?

nibtrix

Czarcasm wrote: »

I don't suppose it ever crossed your mind that they might be joking?

Probably not.

Ah yeah, it's usually the typical "sure I'm only having a laugh" type of thing. It's just the slight undertone of jealousy and bitchiness that's annoying.

I don't normally get my knickers in a twist over it, just agreeing with the OP that it's frustrating to have to restrain your spending and save so you can go somewhere nice and then have people assume that you must have won money or been given a gift or something!

Electric Sheep

Chefrio wrote: »

And do you tell them you don't waste money on coffee, pubs etc?

If she did, no doubt someone would be listing her in the "Stingiest Thing" thread. A lot of people in Ireland consider not wasting money to be stingey rather than sensible. No doubt that attitude is part of the reason the country is in the state it is.

leggo

nibtrix wrote: »

Ah yeah, it's usually the typical "sure I'm only having a laugh" type of thing. It's just the slight undertone of jealousy and bitchiness that's annoying.

I don't normally get my knickers in a twist over it, just agreeing with the OP that it's frustrating to have to restrain your spending and save so you can go somewhere nice and then have people assume that you must have won money or been given a gift or something!

I'll mess with people in work saying dumb stuff like, "Jaysus you're always off on holidays, well for ya!" Now I'm wondering if they think I'm secretly jealous of them. It's literally a case of saying any words that pop into my head for the sake of making conversation. If you think the entire world is jealous of your amazing life, you're probably thinking about them more than they're thinking about you.

Kaizersoze81

joe stodge wrote: »

I've also started to pick up dollars in the post office when ever I'm paying the bills, €30 is $40 dollars, every week for 6 months, there's no way I can spend it here this way short of going to bureu de change.

hopefully they dont charge commission or a fee, cos if they do youll end up spending a fortune that way.

Menas

I hate begrudgers.
In fact I am jealous of them.

scoobydoobie

You should let on that you did have a win, that would wind her up not knowing how much.

McDook

Spanish trawler catching crabs in the Irish Sea.
The top fell off one of the boxes and the new guy says to the captain. "Look the crabs are going to get out crawling up the side".
Captain says "Dont worry. They're all Irish crabs in that box. The rest will pull them back in."

Czarcasm

nibtrix wrote: »

Ah yeah, it's usually the typical "sure I'm only having a laugh" type of thing. It's just the slight undertone of jealousy and bitchiness that's annoying.

I don't normally get my knickers in a twist over it, just agreeing with the OP that it's frustrating to have to restrain your spending and save so you can go somewhere nice and then have people assume that you must have won money or been given a gift or something!

I know what you mean. The neighbours have done nothing but complain ever since I started parking my Lear jet on the front lawn!

I tend to ignore real begrudgers though

joe stodge

Kaizersoze81 wrote: »

hopefully they dont charge commission or a fee, cos if they do youll end up spending a fortune that way.

No it's free, great for small ammounts. The rate is usuall $0.01 to $0.005 of what the banks give ya

Kaizersoze81

joe stodge wrote: »

No it's free, great for small ammounts. The rate is usuall $0.01 to $0.005 of what the banks give ya

in that case buy as much as you can now. rate is brilliant at the minute 1.33 usd to 1 euro. When i was buying last year it was 1.24 to 1 euro.

joe stodge

Kaizersoze81 wrote: »

in that case buy as much as you can now. rate is brilliant at the minute 1.33 usd to 1 euro. When i was buying last year it was 1.24 to 1 euro.

The first time I went in 2007 it was $1.55 to €1.00. Good times

LynnGrace

Czarcasm wrote: »

I know what you mean. The neighbours have done nothing but complain ever since I started parking my Lear jet on the front lawn!

I tend to ignore real begrudgers though

Hope it's on their front lawn !

Chazz Michael Michaels

Convert a few hundy into dollar bills, go right up to her face and fling the money in the air, shouting "it ain't no thang!!".

That should placate them.

Sam Kade

keith16 wrote: »

"I hate people like you" was the response I got from a former colleague when I told her I paid for my car without getting a loan.

Why would you be going around telling people how you paid for your car?

Sam Kade

djk1000 wrote: »

Draw this out for her

20 cigs a day = €70 a week
8 (cheap) drinks at the weekend = €40

=€110 x 52 weeks of the year = €5,720

There's your Florida holiday and some other stuff paid for.

Or, 2 cups of coffee a day @ €2.40 each = €1752 a year.

People that are bad with money don't understand how small spends really add up over a year.

So how would the op know exactly how much she smokes and drinks?

anncoates

What's your address so I can send you a medal?

Mr.David

Sam Kade wrote: »

Why would you be going around telling people how you paid for your car?

Maybe he was asked???

Sam Kade wrote: »

So how would the op know exactly how much she smokes and drinks?

Maybe he asked her???

Radiosonde

Paddy Fields wrote: »

The worst one was nearly 40, lived with his parents and rode a clapped-out Honda 50.

I hope for his sake that's some kind of motor vehicle...

Frank Black

Mr.David wrote: »

Maybe he was asked???



Maybe he asked her???

2 Maybe's = 1 Definitlely.

leggo

leggo wrote: »

I'll mess with people in work saying dumb stuff like, "Jaysus you're always off on holidays, well for ya!" Now I'm wondering if they think I'm secretly jealous of them. It's literally a case of saying any words that pop into my head for the sake of making conversation. If you think the entire world is jealous of your amazing life, you're probably thinking about them more than they're thinking about you.

Yep. When I say it, I'm just making conversation. Reminds me of today...was at the swimming pool before work and chatting to the leisure club receptionist...she asked what time I was finished work, I said "7, what about you?" She said she was finished at 3 so I said "ahh deadly, lucky you! Wish I was!" and she started a big condescending spiel about how I had to 'put in the graft' first so I can set my hours like she does. Without having any idea what I do, how long I've done it or how senior I am. Instead of telling her to bog off, I kind of agreed with her and then felt annoyed later that I'd put myself down. I work really hard. :mad:

I wasn't even jealous, I finish at 3 myself all the time. Most of the time. And if I'm finished at 7, it's because I didn't start until midday. What was I meant to say? "Who cares?"

sciencebod

joe stodge wrote: »

I was talking to one of the girls I work with, she was asking am I planning on going on holiday this year, I told I've booked Florida for myself the wife and our 2kids.
Her reply was "you must have won the lotto or gotten a claim".
I haven't had either, I'm just cautious with money and don't drink often or smoke, I have a mortgage and a car and save anything extra I have for the holiday which I'm paying off in installments over the months leading up to it.
I work in retail and my wife works for the HSE.
Since ivd told her where I'm planning on going one a few people I work with have told me she's telling people I must have come into a windfall of cash as there is no way I could be affording it otherwise. She herself drinks all weekend and smokes at least 20 a day, I'm sure if she gave up both she'd could save for the same.

Has anyone had similar experiences with people begrudging you for being stupid with money.

Why do you even care what she thinks - stuff her and the others. They're only people who you have to work with. They're not the important people in your life. That's your family and it sounds like you save hard to give them a holiday you can all remember.

Muise...

I for one begrudge the begrudgers their begrudgery. Swanning around like they own the sniping just because they have a chip on their shoulders. Mmmm chips, fcuk them and their chips, I'm starving! :mad:

Legs.Eleven

nibtrix wrote: »

Ah yeah, it's usually the typical "sure I'm only having a laugh" type of thing. It's just the slight undertone of jealousy and bitchiness that's annoying.

How do you know there were any undertones?


People say stuff like what she said in a conversation but they don't actually mean anything by it and it's just a reflex in everyday, small talk chit chat. Reported back in text, it's hard to pick up on what she meant by it. I'd just take it up as someone using obvious, everyday humour instead of immediately presuming she begrudges you your holiday or is some kind of bitch on legs!