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Begrudged because I'm smart with money

joe stodge

I was talking to one of the girls I work with, she was asking am I planning on going on holiday this year, I told I've booked Florida for myself the wife and our 2kids.
Her reply was "you must have won the lotto or gotten a claim".
I haven't had either, I'm just cautious with money and don't drink often or smoke, I have a mortgage and a car and save anything extra I have for the holiday which I'm paying off in installments over the months leading up to it.
I work in retail and my wife works for the HSE.
Since ivd told her where I'm planning on going one a few people I work with have told me she's telling people I must have come into a windfall of cash as there is no way I could be affording it otherwise. She herself drinks all weekend and smokes at least 20 a day, I'm sure if she gave up both she'd could save for the same.

Has anyone had similar experiences with people begrudging you for being stupid with money.

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Kaizersoze81

joe stodge wrote: »

I've also started to pick up dollars in the post office when ever I'm paying the bills, €30 is $40 dollars, every week for 6 months, there's no way I can spend it here this way short of going to bureu de change.

hopefully they dont charge commission or a fee, cos if they do youll end up spending a fortune that way.

Menas

I hate begrudgers.
In fact I am jealous of them.

scoobydoobie

You should let on that you did have a win, that would wind her up not knowing how much.

McDook

Spanish trawler catching crabs in the Irish Sea.
The top fell off one of the boxes and the new guy says to the captain. "Look the crabs are going to get out crawling up the side".
Captain says "Dont worry. They're all Irish crabs in that box. The rest will pull them back in."

Czarcasm

nibtrix wrote: »

Ah yeah, it's usually the typical "sure I'm only having a laugh" type of thing. It's just the slight undertone of jealousy and bitchiness that's annoying.

I don't normally get my knickers in a twist over it, just agreeing with the OP that it's frustrating to have to restrain your spending and save so you can go somewhere nice and then have people assume that you must have won money or been given a gift or something!

I know what you mean. The neighbours have done nothing but complain ever since I started parking my Lear jet on the front lawn!

I tend to ignore real begrudgers though

joe stodge

Kaizersoze81 wrote: »

hopefully they dont charge commission or a fee, cos if they do youll end up spending a fortune that way.

No it's free, great for small ammounts. The rate is usuall $0.01 to $0.005 of what the banks give ya

Kaizersoze81

joe stodge wrote: »

No it's free, great for small ammounts. The rate is usuall $0.01 to $0.005 of what the banks give ya

in that case buy as much as you can now. rate is brilliant at the minute 1.33 usd to 1 euro. When i was buying last year it was 1.24 to 1 euro.

joe stodge

Kaizersoze81 wrote: »

in that case buy as much as you can now. rate is brilliant at the minute 1.33 usd to 1 euro. When i was buying last year it was 1.24 to 1 euro.

The first time I went in 2007 it was $1.55 to €1.00. Good times

LynnGrace

Czarcasm wrote: »

I know what you mean. The neighbours have done nothing but complain ever since I started parking my Lear jet on the front lawn!

I tend to ignore real begrudgers though

Hope it's on their front lawn

Chazz Michael Michaels

Convert a few hundy into dollar bills, go right up to her face and fling the money in the air, shouting "it ain't no thang!!".

That should placate them.

Sam Kade

keith16 wrote: »

"I hate people like you" was the response I got from a former colleague when I told her I paid for my car without getting a loan.

Why would you be going around telling people how you paid for your car?

Sam Kade

djk1000 wrote: »

Draw this out for her

20 cigs a day = €70 a week
8 (cheap) drinks at the weekend = €40

=€110 x 52 weeks of the year = €5,720

There's your Florida holiday and some other stuff paid for.

Or, 2 cups of coffee a day @ €2.40 each = €1752 a year.

People that are bad with money don't understand how small spends really add up over a year.

So how would the op know exactly how much she smokes and drinks?

anncoates

What's your address so I can send you a medal?

Mr.David

Sam Kade wrote: »

Why would you be going around telling people how you paid for your car?

Maybe he was asked???

Sam Kade wrote: »

So how would the op know exactly how much she smokes and drinks?

Maybe he asked her???

Radiosonde

Paddy Fields wrote: »

The worst one was nearly 40, lived with his parents and rode a clapped-out Honda 50.

I hope for his sake that's some kind of motor vehicle...

Frank Black

Mr.David wrote: »

Maybe he was asked???

Maybe he asked her???

2 Maybe's = 1 Definitlely.

[Deleted User]

leggo wrote: »

I'll mess with people in work saying dumb stuff like, "Jaysus you're always off on holidays, well for ya!" Now I'm wondering if they think I'm secretly jealous of them. It's literally a case of saying any words that pop into my head for the sake of making conversation. If you think the entire world is jealous of your amazing life, you're probably thinking about them more than they're thinking about you.

Yep. When I say it, I'm just making conversation. Reminds me of today...was at the swimming pool before work and chatting to the leisure club receptionist...she asked what time I was finished work, I said "7, what about you?" She said she was finished at 3 so I said "ahh deadly, lucky you! Wish I was!" and she started a big condescending spiel about how I had to 'put in the graft' first so I can set my hours like she does. Without having any idea what I do, how long I've done it or how senior I am. Instead of telling her to bog off, I kind of agreed with her and then felt annoyed later that I'd put myself down. I work really hard. :mad:

I wasn't even jealous, I finish at 3 myself all the time. Most of the time. And if I'm finished at 7, it's because I didn't start until midday. What was I meant to say? "Who cares?"

sciencebod

joe stodge wrote: »

I was talking to one of the girls I work with, she was asking am I planning on going on holiday this year, I told I've booked Florida for myself the wife and our 2kids.
Her reply was "you must have won the lotto or gotten a claim".
I haven't had either, I'm just cautious with money and don't drink often or smoke, I have a mortgage and a car and save anything extra I have for the holiday which I'm paying off in installments over the months leading up to it.
I work in retail and my wife works for the HSE.
Since ivd told her where I'm planning on going one a few people I work with have told me she's telling people I must have come into a windfall of cash as there is no way I could be affording it otherwise. She herself drinks all weekend and smokes at least 20 a day, I'm sure if she gave up both she'd could save for the same.

Has anyone had similar experiences with people begrudging you for being stupid with money.

Why do you even care what she thinks - stuff her and the others. They're only people who you have to work with. They're not the important people in your life. That's your family and it sounds like you save hard to give them a holiday you can all remember.

Muise...

I for one begrudge the begrudgers their begrudgery. Swanning around like they own the sniping just because they have a chip on their shoulders. Mmmm chips, fcuk them and their chips, I'm starving! :mad:

Legs.Eleven

nibtrix wrote: »

Ah yeah, it's usually the typical "sure I'm only having a laugh" type of thing. It's just the slight undertone of jealousy and bitchiness that's annoying.

How do you know there were any undertones?

People say stuff like what she said in a conversation but they don't actually mean anything by it and it's just a reflex in everyday, small talk chit chat. Reported back in text, it's hard to pick up on what she meant by it. I'd just take it up as someone using obvious, everyday humour instead of immediately presuming she begrudges you your holiday or is some kind of bitch on legs!

[Deleted User]

Sam Kade wrote: »

So how would the op know exactly how much she smokes and drinks?

It's his wife

Legs.Eleven

leggo wrote: »

I'll mess with people in work saying dumb stuff like, "Jaysus you're always off on holidays, well for ya!" Now I'm wondering if they think I'm secretly jealous of them. It's literally a case of saying any words that pop into my head for the sake of making conversation. If you think the entire world is jealous of your amazing life, you're probably thinking about them more than they're thinking about you.

Didn't read this post, so repeated what you said! This is exactly how I'd take what she said.

anncoates

I'd also probably make some meaningless comment like lucky you or wish I was going on holiday as well as it's what people want to hear when they think they're the business.

It would just be office small talk, not because I actually give a sh×t or am jealous about somebody blowing their trumpet about their household budgeting.

McDook

I think im going to look up holidays now. Feeling inspired.

Legs.Eleven

hfallada wrote: »

Irish people hate other people doing well in life or having a better lifestyle than them. My parents did quite well for themselves through their own hard work. We moved to a nicer area and I went to private schools. Gradually none of their old friends wanted to have nothing to do to them. And were bitter with their success.

But Irish people love more when peoples business's fail or when they are broke.

What a load of absolute poo.

If you're Irish I presume you're including yourself in that, yeah? Or are you the special flower among us?

I don't know anyone who loves hearing about people failing or being poor. Stupid thing to say tbh.

keith16

Sam Kade wrote: »

Why would you be going around telling people how you paid for your car?

She asked me how much of a loan I took out and what the monthly repayments were.

Boskowski

Tell her to stop smoking and she could afford a holiday too. 20 a day is roughly 3.5 grand a year.
I'm smoking myself. What an idiot am i?

RhubarbCrumble

I have a 'friend' who constantly comments on how I spend my money. Met her over the weekend and the first thing she said to me was "Oh another new dress. Wish I could afford to be buying clothes all the time". I'm not buying clothes 'all the time' either. I bought the dress for Christmas, and it was €20 in H&M. She's spending almost a tenner everyday on fags and then wonders why she can't afford to buy anything else.

McDook

Legs.Eleven wrote: »

What a load of absolute poo.

If you're Irish I presume you're including yourself in that, yeah? Or are you the special flower among us?

I don't know anyone who loves hearing about people failing or being poor. Stupid thing to say tbh.

I do know a lot of them. About 90% of Irish people I meet. A hell of a lot more than of any other nationality i meet.
I especially love how those people have this mock concern, but really gloating voice. "Oh you bought a house in 2005. ah sure how were you to know. Such a pity you lost your shirt".

or "oh you only have 1 car. sure some day you might get a second one."

systemicrisk

hfallada wrote: »

Irish people hate other people doing well in life or having a better lifestyle than them. My parents did quite well for themselves through their own hard work. We moved to a nicer area and I went to private schools. Gradually none of their old friends wanted to have nothing to do to them. And were bitter with their success.

But Irish people love more when peoples business's fail or when they are broke.

Bullcrap I dont know anyone like that and ive lived in ireland all my life.