My boss has revealed personal information about me.

pedanticpat

Hello.

I've disclosed personal information to my boss in a private, formal meeting that I made clear that I didn't want it to leave the room. Through a couple of sources, I've heard that not only has this information been shared amongst management, but also has been given to people outside of the workplace via a member of the management team. This information has come back to me via a colleague who didn't know the information, as I like to keep my private life separate from my work life.

What should I do? Approach him? Approach the manager who has almost certainly revealed this information to someone outside my work? (who is linked to several people I work with) Or just leave it?

Legal advice is welcome, of course. Surely he's obliged to keep such information to himself if I explicitly say that it's confidential?

Gran Hermano

Time for a beard?

KTRIC

Is it about you being gay ?









Ooops, said too much

pedanticpat

Gran Hermano wrote: »

Time for a beard?

No, I'm not gay. Thanks for asking though

hedgehog2

HR straight away mate,that is unacceptable behavior on his part.
You told him in confidence effectively your team leader and he blabbed personal info,he needs to be taken to task on this but best go the direct route to HR,this is their role and don`t let them sweep it away without a fuss.

professore

Your word against his. You can't even prove he was the source of the info.

Gran Hermano

Pregnant?

bishopmuzorewa

Gran Hermano wrote: »

Time for a beard?

:rolleyes:

professore

hedgehog2 wrote: »

HR straight away mate,that is unacceptable behavior on his part.
You told him in confidence effectively your team leader and he blabbed personal info,he needs to be taken to task on this but best go the direct route to HR,this is their role and don`t let them sweep it away without a fuss.

HR are only there for petty issues between lower staff echelons. They won't step on a boss's toes.

Shankly Gates

Oh :eek: so you're THAT pedanticpat

Iano_128

You're registered here since 2008, surely you know this is not the right place for good advice? Try Work Problems.

MidlandsM

Herpes flaired up again?

ahnowbrowncow

Gran Hermano wrote: »

Time for a beard?

That's your solution for everything?

drkpower

Much depends on the nature of the information and the reason for your manager disclosing it ( if he did). There are some genuine reasons for disclosing.

If you can share the type of info and context it might help.

pedanticpat

Iano_128 wrote: »

You're registered here since 2008, surely you know this is not the right place for good advice? Try Work Problems.

This seems like the most busy place on here. I can wade through the **** to find some good advice.

Nolimits

You should tell us this private information so we can gauge the appropriate reaction.


Don't worry, we won't judge you..........much:)

humanji

Just to note, legal advice IS NOT welcome here and can't be given out on this site at all.

Knex*

You might want this moved to Personal Issues, OP.

Specialun

Hi Pat

Have you considered having a lunch party on a sunday to brainstorm next action?

Mahogany Gaspipe

+1 for beard.

Face transplant if its really saucy.

Iano_128

pedanticpat wrote: »

This seems like the most busy place on here. I can wade through the **** to find some good advice.

Good luck with that :rolleyes:

kneemos

Go berserk on his ass.

General General

Next time tell him something that's patently false about you & sue him for defamation.

mattjack

humanji wrote: »

Just to note, legal advice IS NOT welcome here and can't be given out on this site at all.

Quite correct mr Mod , sir.

OP generally to get around giving out medical advice , I assume the part of a vet , legal advice is a bit more tricky so I assume the role of a doctor baker .

Anyway OP you need to up your game here .... possibly consider identifying your boss , employer and the nature of your employment and let us do the rest.

Menas

Most companies have a grievance policy that starts with the HR department so that must be your first port of call.
If his breach of confidentiality is so severe as to eventually make your life at the company untenable and you pursue a constructive dismissal case then your having followed the companies grievance policy and their reaction to that will be key. Not legal advice, just common sense.

Bottom line is that this is a breach of trust and the best you can hope for is a meeting with HR and your boss where he apologies to you. How the relationship with you and your boss bears up after that could be tricky though.
Or you could just go to him direct and open a can of whup ass on him to let him know how upset you are.

Kilgore__Trout

It's pretty bad form to be honest. Perhaps in some situations, it might be beneficial for colleagues to know if something is bothering you on a personal level, so they can give you a bit of slack etc.

Guess you should try to figure out your manager's intent in revealing this information. Maybe (s)he told one person who you deal with (just so they don't say something dumb, or give you a but of slack), and that one person blabbed it. In any case, you did ask for it to be kept confidential, and that should be respected. Would also consider how it would affect your work environment etc, if you do go to HR.

If you do decide to go to HR, might be good to have dates and what was said written down. Not sure I would reveal you've been keeping the specifics on your first visit to HR, but this information would be useful if the situation comes to a head.

pedanticpat

There's no HR dept. The closest person to HR in the place is the source of the outside leak (the manager who the boss told who then revealed it to someone else). I'm considering approaching him about it, but not sure what I'm hoping to gain from it.

pedanticpat

Mr.McLovin wrote: »

small penis?

No, but thanks for the offer.

Hoop66

Not so soon after lunch, thanks.

Ihatecuddles

This happened to me before, I was not a happy bunny!

If I were you Id speak to him about it, tell him he was the only one you told and now numerous people know.

eigrod

Why did you tell your boss in the first place ?

If you felt it's information that is relevant to your job that he needed to know, then you can't really expect him to keep it to himself because I'm sure he then felt he had to talk to someone else about it in the same way you did.

BillyMitchel

Legal discussion is where you need to be at!

How serious is the info? Is it causing you distress and embarrassment in work? (yes is the answer)

AH answer: your boss is a scumbag, knock him out. Spike his tea with an E.

pedanticpat

eigrod wrote: »

Why did you tell your boss in the first place ?

If you felt it's information that is relevant to your job that he needed to know, then you can't really expect him to keep it to himself because I'm sure he then felt he had to talk to someone else about it in the same way you did.

The information has no bearing on my performance.

The information was revealed in a private, formal meeting, and it was explicitly agreed that it would remain private.

He then revealed the information to a lower level manager.

This person then revealed this information to someone who isn't employed by the same company, but still has links to the company.

That person then revealed the information to a colleague, who told me about it.

josip

You didn't tell your boss about the lunch that ran late and the shoes in the office, did you?
That was always going to get legs.

pedanticpat

BillyMitchel wrote: »

Legal discussion is where you need to be at!

How serious is the info? Is it causing you distress and embarrassment in work? (yes is the answer)

AH answer: your boss is a scumbag, knock him out. Spike his tea with an E.

It's not embarrassing in the slightest. It's just private. I've made a point of keeping my private life completely separate from work up until this point, and the information I revealed was done so in confidence.

Zillah

Ah here, you have to at least tell us the general topic. Dark past? Medical issue? Religious thing? Sexual fetish? You shot JFK?

minotour

If gone to the trouble of creating a hypothetical to help everyone? Not sure if its physically possible buit again its a hypothetical.........

Pat says in a meeting to manager

Scene 1
“I’m pregnant and I’m going to be putting in for maternity leave next year”

Manager X says, “Grand, good on ya”

Pat says “keep it to yourself for now would ya”

Manager X says “grand, no bother”

Scene 2

Manager X and Manager Y are in weekly session. Manager X decides he should probably report Pats news for the sake of 2014 resource plan.

“Pats up the duff so we need to look at a temp for the 6 months or whatever mid nest year, oh and that’s on the QT for now right!”

Scene 3

Bit of a work do going on, lots of booze going around. Manager Y is losing the self control and hinting to people “ye could be under some pressure next year as Pats you know, hint hint” while doing the Roundy belly mime.


Scene 4
Pat hears from trusted co-worker “That gob****e manager Y has pretty much told everyone yer bizness”



What do you think Pat, is that close enough to the context? If so then I’d advise a subtle word to them both indicating that Manager Y is the goon and should make amends in an informal context.

LorMal

pedanticpat wrote: »

It's not embarrassing in the slightest. It's just private. I've made a point of keeping my private life completely separate from work up until this point, and the information I revealed was done so in confidence.

If its effecting your ability to work there, you take it up directly with the boss. If not, put it down to a lesson learned. Key to this is what you will gain/ lose in the mix

deise08

Is there a union rep where you are or are you part of a union? if it were my private info I wouldn't be too happy at all!

pedanticpat

@ minotaur, that's a lovely sequence, but alas, without any female reproductive organs, I'm not in the family way.

Plazaman

This is where a picture of your boss, Photoshop, access to humping grannies dot com and the email addresses of everyone in the company will be of benefit to you.

Wabbit Ears

Its already been established in other threads that pat is unhinged so chances are that whatever it is exists only in his head and everybody else on the planet wouldn't be bothered by whatever it is he's obsessing about.

pedanticpat

Wabbit Ears wrote: »

Its already been established in other threads that pat is unhinged so chances are that whatever it is exists only in his head and everybody else on the planet wouldn't be bothered by whatever it is he's obsessing about.

Adults are talking, please vacate this thread and go read about Zombies, you odd person.

josip

Wabbit Ears wrote: »

Its already been established in other threads that pat is unhinged so chances are that whatever it is exists only in his head and everybody else on the planet wouldn't be bothered by whatever it is he's obsessing about.

You mean the scenario is more likely to be?

1. Pat tells his boss he's got tickets to the Ireland - New Zealand match and won't be able to work on Sunday. They agree to keep reason secret and Pat agrees that his attendance at the event won't extend beyond the reasonable time of 6pm.
2. Pat's overweight and unattractive boss tells lower boss in an unreasonably loud voice that Pat's going to match on Sunday.
3. Lower boss tells ex colleague while over for late Sunday lunch that Pat's at the match.
4. Ex colleague mentions it to current colleague who he bumps into barefoot in the local shoe shop.

Matt_Trakker

Urine must be blasted in his general direction.

diomed

Time to release some information about your boss.

Corvo

Only option left is to burn the place down

diomed

Corvo wrote: »

Only option left is to burn the place down

It worked for Carrie.

giles lynchwood

Take a Dump in the drivers seat of his car

nelly17

Try Here OP

camel jockey

Approach him and ask 'What's the story, boss?'