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serving a pregnant woman

  • 27-09-2013 07:46PM
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    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 633 ✭✭✭Henwin


    half heard a story on the radio today bout a lady who was goin for a quick drink after work with friends, she was heavily pregnant at the time. the bartender refused to serve her. she got the hump and later complained i think. so he had to issue an apology,
    what wud you do if you wer a bartender and a pregnant woman came in looking for an alcoholic drink? i wouldnt serve her


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  • Moderators, Category Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 24,512 CMod ✭✭✭✭Ten of Swords


    Henwin wrote: »
    i wouldnt serve her

    Why? Can't she make her own decisions?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 633 ✭✭✭Henwin


    yes she can, but her baby cant.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 2,833 ✭✭✭Vinz Mesrine


    There is no legal reason for her not to be served. Should the same woman be refused cigarettes in a shop?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 14,380 ✭✭✭✭Banjo String


    A drink in moderation should be harmless enough. In fact I think some doctors have recommended one or two in moderation.


    Besides..... Who made you the preggers police op?


  • Moderators, Entertainment Moderators, Politics Moderators Posts: 14,568 Mod ✭✭✭✭johnnyskeleton


    Henwin wrote: »
    half heard a story on the radio today bout a lady who was goin for a quick drink after work with friends, she was heavily pregnant at the time. the bartender refused to serve her. she got the hump and later complained i think. so he had to issue an apology,
    what wud you do if you wer a bartender and a pregnant woman came in looking for an alcoholic drink? i wouldnt serve her

    Maybe she was just fat. He should have asked her if maybe a coors light is more appropriate.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,246 ✭✭✭ardinn


    I'd say he just thought she was fat! - Ye cant be going filling your bar with fat birds like!!!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 6,785 ✭✭✭Ihatecuddles-old


    Would you serve a pregnant woman cigarettes? A bottle of wine in a supermarket??

    I often did, what they do with those products is their own business.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,806 ✭✭✭Rothmans


    Why? Can't she make her own decisions?
    There is no legal reason for her not to be served. Should the same woman be refused cigarettes in a shop?

    These replies are amusing. This woman is the type that AH usually looks on with disdain.
    Wouldn't surprise me if some court found this to be gender discrimination.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,284 ✭✭✭Chattastrophe!


    An occasional drink is not going to do either the woman or her baby any harm by the time she's visibly pregnant - the big danger is drinking excessive alcohol in the first couple of months of pregnancy. If a woman chooses to have a drink when pregnant, it's her own business.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 954 ✭✭✭lahalane


    I'd serve her. It'd be my job. Her being pregnant has nothing got to do with me. I don't really know what harm alcohol does to the baby but it wouldn't really concern me either. I don't care about some stranger or her unborn child. Might sound harsh but I've enough to be worrying about without worrying about strangers.


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  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 2,833 ✭✭✭Vinz Mesrine


    Rothmans wrote: »
    These replies are amusing. This woman is the type that AH usually looks on with disdain.
    Wouldn't surprise me if some court found this to be gender discrimination.

    I have worked in bars and have served pregnant women because there is no legal reason not to. I can obviously look down on them(and have done) but I still wouldn't refuse to serve them a drink.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,511 ✭✭✭Outkast_IRE


    I was of the belief that in the last few years the doctors have started saying that there is nothing wrong with a drink or two in moderation on occasion when pregnant.
    Its when binge drinking occurs during pregnancy that it can cause issues.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 28,404 ✭✭✭✭Turtyturd


    Should the same woman be refused cigarettes in a shop?

    Yes.


  • Posts: 81,310 CMod ✭✭✭✭ Laurel Itchy Stick


    It's her own business, not the morality police


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 23,555 ✭✭✭✭Sir Digby Chicken Caesar


    she might have just been having a bit of dutch courage before heading down to the abortion complex


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,945 ✭✭✭Grandpa Hassan


    Henwin wrote: »
    what wud you do if you wer a bartender and a pregnant woman came in looking for an alcoholic drink? i wouldnt serve her

    why not? One drink does the baby no harm. Plenty of research on that


  • Moderators, Category Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 24,512 CMod ✭✭✭✭Ten of Swords


    Henwin wrote: »
    yes she can, but her baby cant.

    So where does your moral responsibility end? Once she leaves the bar?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,462 ✭✭✭✭WoollyRedHat


    I dunno... would you play tennis with a pregnant woman? Do you play tennis even?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,400 ✭✭✭Nonoperational


    I'd serve her, it might just be the one.

    Bad form though, getting pissed when your pregnant. Very bad form.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,945 ✭✭✭Grandpa Hassan


    I'd serve her, it might just be the one.

    Bad form though, getting pissed when your pregnant. Very bad form.

    Oh, I didn't realise she was getting pissed. I thought she was just buying a drink. My mistake


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,648 ✭✭✭Cody Pomeray


    Would you serve a pregnant woman cigarettes? A bottle of wine in a supermarket??

    I often did, what they do with those products is their own business.
    *visualizes what else a pregnant woman might be doing with a wine bottle..*


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,126 ✭✭✭seosamh1980


    Oh, I didn't realise she was getting pissed. I thought she was just buying a drink. My mistake

    No she wasn't, she was just having one glass of wine, which she has once a week.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 633 ✭✭✭Henwin


    ya ok. i suppose its none of my business and i shud just do what im paid to do, but it cant be tat hard can it, to give up drink and smoking for 9 months.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,695 ✭✭✭December2012


    Henwin wrote: »
    ya ok. i suppose its none of my business and i shud just do what im paid to do, but it cant be tat hard can it, to give up drink and smoking for 9 months.

    Have you ever done it?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,284 ✭✭✭Chattastrophe!


    Henwin wrote: »
    ya ok. i suppose its none of my business and i shud just do what im paid to do, but it cant be tat hard can it, to give up drink and smoking for 9 months.

    Would you refuse to serve her a coke or a coffee too, if she asked? Because you know women should avoid caffeine when pregnant, don't you?

    Or would you let her use her own judgement in those cases?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,962 ✭✭✭✭dark crystal


    I'd serve her, it might just be the one.

    Bad form though, getting pissed when your pregnant. Very bad form.

    There's no evidence she was getting pissed though is there? That's a very different kettle of fish. A glass of wine in late pregnancy isn't going to do any harm.

    When I was 9 days overdue on my last baby (and in extreme discomfort), I read an article that recommended gin might help 'move labor along', so I had 1 G&T to test the theory. I hadn't had an alcoholic drink throughout the whole pregnancy other than that. Maybe she was desperate!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 954 ✭✭✭lahalane


    Henwin wrote: »
    it cant be tat hard can it, to give up drink and smoking for 9 months.

    If it was easy then there'd be no addicts. Depends on the person obviously. Social smoker who goes out once a month. Easy. 20 a day, drinking 3 times a week. Probably a bit harder.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,124 ✭✭✭wolfpawnat


    I bought beer during both of my pregnancies, I do the shopping so I bought them for my partner. When I was pregnant with my first I got him a six pack and got really funny looks, it was Valentines Day.

    I went for a meal in a bar once too, I ordered a pint of milk, I got a pint of Millers! The girl misheard me!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 1,086 ✭✭✭Pete M.


    And what if she lost her inhibitions so much with the drink,then went for the ride, would that be like child abuse or paedophilia by surrogacy?

    She should sue the bollix out of the bar and put the award into a trust fund for the child.

    Kid could say that he was so lucky and set for life cos his Ma drank while pregnant, well at least tried to.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,061 ✭✭✭keith16


    One or two is no harm. But drinking / smoking excessively while pregnant is wrong IMO.

    I know its none of my business and all that but look at how outraged people are getting about the baby whose parents fed him methadone.

    Two very different things I grant you but still both maltreatment IMO.

    Kids are utterly defenceless against the whims of their parents and nobody cares it seems. Look at the HSE taking a 1 day old child from the parents. Should they mind their own business.

    Maybe we should try to be a little more like that barman. Granted, he was overreacting. But what about the barman that saw how the parents were treating the methadone baby - should he have done more upon witnessing such clear neglect?

    Or should we save our moralising for internet forums when the horse has bolted and at the same time mind our own business as long as no one has died?


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