Why is my girlfriend ignoring me/acting distant

Irish_Mafia

Yeah its over,that i have accepted,but wirelessdude you dont really have a right to say that there could/is somebody else. She said it is her that dosent think this will work out,and there is nothing more i can do. I wont contact her again,we will probably talk again in the future,on the street,out on a night out etc. Her mind is made up and thats that.

Tomorrow the sun will rise.

wirelessdude01

Irish_Mafia wrote: »

Yeah its over,that i have accepted,but wirelessdude you dont really have a right to say that there could/is somebody else. She said it is her that dosent think this will work out,and there is nothing more i can do. I wont contact her again,we will probably talk again in the future,on the street,out on a night out etc. Her mind is made up and thats that.

Tomorrow the sun will rise.

Just saying what I think. Been around men and women who have displayed sudden changes in attitude towards someone they are with and nearly 100% of the time there is already someone else either already on the scene or that they have their eye on with some certainty that something will happen. Not what you want to hear. Anyway chin up. Pity you didn't get to steal her thunder though by dumping her first.

alias06

Irish_Mafia wrote: »

Tomorrow the sun will rise.

Exactly man. Put it all down to good experience. You will feel the loss, because it is a personal loss. Its like a bereavement and you will have to go through the emotions of grief. After a while you will start to see that this girl isn't all you have made her out to be in your head. Make sure you have a plan to meet other women and get out and enjoy yourself.

letssee7

Irish_Mafia wrote: »

She said she wants to end it folks. A long text saying how she dosent think relationships are right for her right now and that she is really sorry and upset. And that she would be to upset to do it face to face. I rang her and we had a chat and I said how we could make things work out but only if she wanted to,that i can't force the girl into doing anything and that im very attached to her and she means a lot to me.I finished the call by saying I will leave her be and have a think for herself.

Yeah its over. She sounds so much like the girl I went out with, just incapable of actually talking about things, it only could be done by text.

Only way forward is to completely forget it. She is confused about her place in life and waiting for her to change will only hurt you, focus on yourself for the next 6 months and enjoy life.

Systemic Risk

Sorry to hear this dude. It may be clichéd but give it time and you will move on.

Do yourself a favour though and don't go rushing into another relationship any time soon. Make sure you are happy being on your own first. All the best.

Moomoo1

Irish_Mafia wrote: »

Yeah its over,that i have accepted,but wirelessdude you dont really have a right to say that there could/is somebody else.

I would say there is good chance of that. People don't just go from texting every day to 'not wanting to be in a relationship'.

Not that it matters regarding what you should be doing, which is to is cut contact.

Irish_Mafia

Ok thanks all,i have made my mind up.

ivytwine

I'm sorry to hear that OP. You'll come out the other end of it. I don't know if she has someone else but to be honest it doesn't matter.

You'll be OK and things will work out.

Tasden

Moomoo1 wrote: »

I would say there is good chance of that. People don't just go from texting every day to 'not wanting to be in a relationship'.

Not that it matters regarding what you should be doing, which is to is cut contact.

Well in all fairness that's not the full story. She went from reducing contact due to being busy with college etc (and explaining such to OP), to getting lots of texts from her bf expecting replies after being told she was too busy to contact him as often, then she was messaged by his friend about an issue which I'm pretty sure she thought was already discussed and resolved. I've been in her position with a person not accepting that I'm too busy for constant communication at certain points in life. I ended it with that guy because he was too insecure to give me space that I needed and it wasn't fair to not give him the time/attention he expected from a relationship.

Nobody is necessarily to blame, people want certain things from relationships, personally Id rather a laid back text every few days kinda thing, other people like to text all day, neither is right or wrong but the two don't always work together. I understand that in this case the communication stopped fairly abruptly but the girl was busy with college.

Anyway op, chin up and don't contact her. Make sure you're happy in yourself and know what you want for yourself.

Taltos

While it wasn't the resolution the OP sought the fact is that this issue is now resolved. Therefore closing the thread before it descends further into supposition and discussion.

Taltos