Are people who go volunteering abroad doing so for selfish reasons?

steddyeddy · 15-08-2013 6:20pm #1

I know this is a bit of a rant but I have to get it of my chest. I have just met the most self absorbed selfish girl I have ever met in my life! I was travelling abroad last month in Africa and for one week I worked in an aids clinic. There where 7 other volunteers there in total and 2 of them were Irish. One of the Irish girls (they came over separately) was civil enough on occasion but sometimes was often cold and sometimes rude and abrasive.

This girl wouldn't make any effort to comfort the kids with HIV or hold their hand or even play with them. I have since found out that she has deleted all other members of the volunteer group on facebook after we all went out of our way to lend her money and help her aclimatise. She has even ranted on facebook about how much she helped the kids and how this will help her career as a teacher!

This girl shouldn't have been volunteering it goes without saying. She wanted something that looked good on a CV and that was it. Anyway apologies rant over!!

Do most people volunteer abroad for selfish reasons?

Title changed to "Are people who go volunteering abroad doing so for selfish reasons"?

TeddyTedson · 15-08-2013 6:21pm

Me.

(sorry, couldn't help myself)

smash · 15-08-2013 6:22pm

That c*nt in the mirror. I always have to do what he wants!

Sierra 117 · 15-08-2013 6:24pm

smash wrote: »

That c*nt in the mirror. I always have to do what he wants!

He's in your mirror too? Oh I hate that guy!

steddyeddy · 15-08-2013 6:25pm

Sierra, smash and Teddy I think the person in the mirror might be the same guy!

dodderangler · 15-08-2013 6:27pm

steddyeddy wrote: »

Sierra, smash and Teddy I think the person in the mirror might be the same guy!

Probably. Seen him one night Ridin me Missus.

CrazyRabbit · 15-08-2013 6:28pm

TeddyTedson

steddyeddy · 15-08-2013 6:28pm

dodderangler wrote: »

Probably. Seen him one night Ridin me Missus.

Sorry about that Dodderangler she wore that outfit I like!

4zn76tysfajdxp · 15-08-2013 6:29pm

steddyeddy wrote: »

I know this is a bit of a rant but I have to get it of my chest. I have just met the most self absorbed selfish girl I have ever met in my life! I-

God, it's all "me, me, me" from you, isn't it?

RustyNut · 15-08-2013 6:29pm

steddyeddy wrote: »

I know this is a bit of a rant but I have to get it of my chest. I have just met the most self absorbed selfish girl I have ever met in my life! I was travelling abroad last month in Africa and for one week I worked in an aids clinic.

Self absorbed ?

Edit: So it wasnt only me that noticed it.

longshanks · 15-08-2013 6:29pm

'She has since deleted us from facebook'

Horrifying stuff.

steddyeddy · 15-08-2013 6:30pm

Cohen Spicy Sweeper wrote: »

God, it's all "me, me, me" from you, isn't it?

Well no It's clearly "I, I ,I" as you highlighted!

steddyeddy · 15-08-2013 6:31pm

longshanks wrote: »

'She has since deleted us from facebook'

Horrifying stuff.

It's more the fact that she thought of pretending to help aids victims as a way to progress her career.

shleedance · 15-08-2013 6:34pm

I can be quite selfish.

NuckingFacker · 15-08-2013 6:34pm

Mick. He's very, very self-absorbed. Unbelievable really. I met him once, yeah. What's that? Ah sure, ye'll have to take my word for it.

longshanks · 15-08-2013 6:35pm

steddyeddy wrote: »

It's more the fact that she thought of pretending to help aids victims as a way to progress her career.

Aids shmaids, people always put that volunteering crap on their c.v.

You'll probably do it too, won't you?

She was just upfront about it.

steddyeddy · 15-08-2013 6:36pm

longshanks wrote: »

Aids shmaids, people always put that volunteering crap on their c.v.

You'll probably do it too, won't you?

She was just upfront about it.

She refused to hug or play with any of the kids or even to hold their hand. It's a horrible way to progress your CV. I'm actually going to complain about her to the charity involved.

princess-lala · 15-08-2013 6:37pm

longshanks wrote: »

She was just upfront about it.

I was thinking this!

I admire her honesty

steddyeddy · 15-08-2013 6:38pm

princess-lala wrote: »

I was thinking this!

I admire her honesty

Sorry La la where am I missing something. Is it not wrong to volunteer with kids with HIV and then refuse any physical contact with them or even to play with them?

longshanks · 15-08-2013 6:40pm

Eddy it's too easy to wind you up, have a coke and a smile and chill the fuck out.

princess-lala · 15-08-2013 6:42pm

steddyeddy wrote: »

Sorry La la where am I missing something. Is it not wrong to volunteer with kids with HIV and then refuse any physical contact with them or even to play with them?

You post this in AH and expect real honest answers!

In all seriousness she did her volunteering to "further" her career in her eyes, she didn't go for the same reasons you did!

She's self absorbed and selfish, there's nothing you can do about that now! You don't have to deal with her again!

Legs.Eleven · 15-08-2013 6:43pm

steddyeddy wrote: »

Sorry La la where am I missing something. Is it not wrong to volunteer with kids with HIV and then refuse any physical contact with them or even to play with them?

I'd call her useless as opposed to self-absorbed. Sounds like she chickened out at the last minute when the reality kicked in.

steddyeddy · 15-08-2013 6:45pm

princess-lala wrote: »

You post this in AH and expect real honest answers!

In all seriousness she did her volunteering to "further" her career in her eyes, she didn't go for the same reasons you did!

She's self absorbed and selfish, there's nothing you can do about that now! You don't have to deal with her again!

I do expect real answers but I thought most people where horrified by that? The other volunteers are in shock by it and so am I. Now judging from the posts it seems like she's not an a-typical Irish!

It's not the furthering her career that annoys me. Its the blatant hatred and phobia of people with aids that annoys me! If it was teaching then I can understand that but why traumatise kids for your career?

Legs.Eleven · 15-08-2013 6:46pm

steddyeddy wrote: »

I do expect real answers but I thought most people where horrified by that? The other volunteers are in shock by it and so am I. Now judging from the posts it seems like she's not an a-typical Irish!

It's not the furthering her career that annoys me. Its the blatant hatred and phobia of people with aids that annoys me! If it was teaching then I can understand that but why traumatise kids for your career?

Hatred? You really think she hated them?

steddyeddy · 15-08-2013 6:47pm

Legs.Eleven wrote: »

Hatred? You really think she hated them?

Yes I do. Every kid who went looking for a hug off her was pushed away or dissmissed.

eviltwin · 15-08-2013 6:47pm

My dad died a number of years ago. A few friends came to the funeral, one of my friends had been engaged to a friend of my brother previously, they had split up a few years at this stage and both had new partners but this was the first time they were going to be face to face since the breakup.

The morning of the funeral, while we were all in bits, while I was trying to be strong for my younger siblings and looking after my daughter who was devestated, I got a call from my friend basically asking me to talk her through what kind of clothes she should wear and what makeup she should go with so as to look amazing for her ex but so not amazing she didn't look like she had tried too hard.

I couldn't believe it. She spent the entire day making nasty comments about the ex and his new partner and never once asked how I was doing.

When I had a miscarriage a few years later and was very low emotionally she decided that was the perfect time to send me a photo of her holding her newborn nephew. I ended our friendship shortly after. To this day she still can't understand why I'm no longer interested in being friendly with her.

NegativeCreep · 15-08-2013 6:47pm

Has the name of this thread been changed or am I going insane?

princess-lala · 15-08-2013 6:48pm

NegativeCreep wrote: »

Has the name of this thread been changed or am I going insane?

Thank feck it wasn't only me who noticed this :eek:

shopaholic01 · 15-08-2013 6:48pm

steddyeddy wrote: »

I do expect real answers but I thought most people where horrified by that? The other volunteers are in shock by it and so am I. Now judging from the posts it seems like she's not an a-typical Irish!

It's not the furthering her career that annoys me. Its the blatant hatred and phobia of people with aids that annoys me! If it was teaching then I can understand that but why traumatise kids for your career?

She was probably naive when she volunteered. We weren't there, so it impossible for us to have the same emotional response.

Maybe she thinks you're all do-gooders. People are different.

anncoates · 15-08-2013 6:48pm

Some do but at least the volunteering is being done, no natter what the motive, I suppose.

steddyeddy · 15-08-2013 6:48pm

Title changed to "Are people who go volunteering abroad doing so for selfish reasons"?

Are people who go volunteering abroad doing so for selfish reasons?

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