Girl porn?

IM0

*secrect look into the OP boys brain while discussing this...*

bf "so you watch porn ?"

* SHE KNOWS WHAT PORN IS :eek: it wont be long now before she realises I watch it regularly all the time like most guys.....ok hang on play it cool, looked shocked*

:eek: *good thats it...now add some disappointment...*



*goooooooood youre getting good at this!, I think she bought that, ****in sucker ...awesomme now I have some back up for the next time she catches me now sh'll be a hypocrite if she tries to say anything when she finds out about me :pac: *

"so you look stressed *starts rubbling shoulders/back........" * excellent [in burns voice] Im so in the good books now :cool:*

Rayne Wooney

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Why would I tell her she needs to leave him? She hasn't said she uses sex as a bargaining tool. Giving anyone advice to do that is madness. Noone should ever do it.

The only "games" people should play in relationships are the ones that are fun for both - and preferably involve rope

I think he's mad not to watch porn, and I think he's naive to think women don't watch it.

Hold up a minute.


What :eek:

Stereomaniac

I think Daisy revealed a little quirk/preference of her own in that post. I guess we can only hope he/she/it posts again and we can hear some more about this fun with ropes that happens.

fartman

please will you marry me you sound really horny..

harvester of sorrow

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

I only watch porn with girls in it, men dont do anything for me in porn!! and yeah Im a girl.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hoS1MCF8AeI

ScumLord

The only way I can see this being a problem is if your watching porn instead of having sex.

Mariasofia

Gilbert Grape wrote: »

My missus has a better porn collection than me.

At least we now know what's eating Gilbert Grape and why

Czarcasm

Mariasofia wrote: »

At least we now know what's eating Gilbert Grape and why

We also know who Gilbert Grape's been eating

syklops

syklops wrote: »

Sex is a bargaining tool.

Respect me, treat me nice, say i have nice hair, listen to me = you might get sex.

Put me down, don't respect my opinions or ideas = No sex.

Thats not a game, thats common sense. Are you saying you would still sleep with a guy after he disrespected you?

Well no, no it's not.

Am I going to want to have sex with someone who puts me down all the time - unlikely - and unlikely that I'll stay with them at all.

Am I going to use sex to say "if you want sex you better treat me like this". "If I give you oral sex, you have to give me oral sex". "If you don't tell me my hair is nice, I won't have sex with you"?

No. I will never be in a relationship like that. If a relationship I am in turns into that, I will leave.

I like sex way too much for that rubbish.

miss flutter ups

Do U think op, that your bf might have a touch of the oul madonna-whore complex?

Catari Jaguar

Oh Shauna, this thread, some of the replies... I can hear the fappage of AH users from here. :rolleyes:

Also, I know what the xxx after your user name stands for now. Wheh wheh.

hoodwinked

maybe show him this thread?maybe being your first you will have to open his mind? especially if you are his first, maybe his family were very conservative? maybe he just isn't into porn? or anything other than plain old missionary sex?

there could be lots of reasons he feels like he does, but whatever his reasons you have to respect his boundaries like you'd expect him to respect yours,

lots of girls like porn, i am one of them, my husband never felt threatened by it, in fact he was delighted he didn't have to hide it from me,

its now something we do individually or share together in addition to everything else,

Shauna.xxx

Catari Jaguar wrote: »

Oh Shauna, this thread, some of the replies... I can hear the fappage of AH users from here. :rolleyes:

Also, I know what the xxx after your user name stands for now. Wheh wheh.

Only seen that post there....very clever hahha

Shauna.xxx

hoodwinked wrote: »

maybe show him this thread?maybe being your first you will have to open his mind? especially if you are his first, maybe his family were very conservative? maybe he just isn't into porn? or anything other than plain old missionary sex?

there could be lots of reasons he feels like he does, but whatever his reasons you have to respect his boundaries like you'd expect him to respect yours,

lots of girls like porn, i am one of them, my husband never felt threatened by it, in fact he was delighted he didn't have to hide it from me,

its now something we do individually or share together in addition to everything else,

Thanks for the advice. I would like to do that as well but he seems completely
Like a big no to it. I do respect that he doesn't watch it or want to watch it, it's just I don't understand why he has to get into a huff if I do. Should be 50/50 in a relationship really....

Czarcasm

Shauna.xxx wrote: »

Thanks for the advice. I would like to do that as well but he seems completely
Like a big no to it. I do respect that he doesn't watch it or want to watch it, it's just I don't understand why he has to get into a huff if I do. Should be 50/50 in a relationship really....

It's likely because he has ideas about "Girls aren't supposed to watch porn!". It sounds like he isn't going to come round to your way of thinking any time soon tbh, and this could present it's own issues further on down the line in the relationship. That leaves you with a decision to make, and my own personal opinion is that you shouldn't be made to feel bad for watching porn.

Shauna.xxx

Czarcasm wrote: »

It's likely because he has ideas about "Girls aren't supposed to watch porn!". It sounds like he isn't going to come round to your way of thinking any time soon tbh, and this could present it's own issues further on down the line in the relationship. That leaves you with a decision to make, and my own personal opinion is that you shouldn't be made to feel bad for watching porn.

Yeah he is quite traditional in the way women should dress and I do believe it will cause problems because his traditional ways of thinking have before. I just hope it can be sorted out x

Smiles35

I'd say he's secretly mad into it. Just put on some porno next time as a suprise.

Aidric

Did someone mention Mia Malkova? No, ok carry on. :pac:

jill_valentine

There's a bang of Reader's Wives off this...

stoneill

Shauna.xxx wrote: »

Yeah we'll I thought that would be sexy....yeno like getting ideas from it that we could try and act out, but apparently not to him? ....so now, I am feeling a little insecure after he got offended and said it was gross. (not exactly what he said but said it wasn't a nice thing anyway)

I'll watch some with you

Jaxxy

I had one ex that had the same reaction as your boyfriend did when I mentioned that I liked to watch lesbian porn, OP. He lashed out, made me feel pretty insignificant and as though there was something wrong with me because I didn't fit into what his "idyll" of me should be. Someone else mentioned the Madonna/Whore complex, and there was a touch of that there. I was upset and hurt but it was the point when I began to see that he was more than just a tad controlling. He was insecure, got jealous, irrational when it came to my past history, commented if he believed what I was wearing was "inappropriate" etc., you get the idea. I'm not saying your boyfriend is like this at all but his reaction to you enjoying porn is a bit off IMO.

Simple fact is, you're not harming anyone. In my situation mentioned above after I dried my tears I informed him that I liked watching porn from time to time, he could either deal with it or not, his problem. He didn't want to watch it with me, which was perfectly fine, and we still had a good sex life. Needless to say though we didn't last very long.

All the other boyfriends I have had loved the idea, and it created a much more open and honest attitude toward sex for us, sharing fantasies and dreams and whatnot.

In the end there is no shame in it. Just because he doesn't like it doesn't mean you don't have to. Keep it separate from him if you must, but you shouldn't have to give up something you enjoy, something that is harmless, just because it doesn't fit in to what his idea of what a woman should enjoy.

Larianne

That's mad Jaxx! I thought the OP was making this story up. Obviously not if there's others like him. :eek:

Czarcasm

Larianne wrote: »

That's mad Jaxx! I thought the OP was making this story up. Obviously not if there's others like him. :eek:

There's PLENTY of guys like the OP's boyfriend Larianne, and plenty of girls that stay with them too, despite their "You can't watch porn and you're not going out wearing that", etc, and for a hell of a lot longer than the three years the OP has already spent with her boyfriend.

Larianne

Yeah, another way of controlling someone I guess. Scary!

Red Pepper

This thread is doing my head in. I can only read the word "porn" 3 times before I simply have to find some and watch it.

Shauna.xxx

Shauna.xxx wrote: »

Ok girls, guys...do you think it's weird if girls/gf/friend who's a girl/ watches porn?

Nope. My gfs watch it alone, with each other, and with me. It has never been "weird" for me.

I am struggling to think of a valid reason to consider it "weird".

Deleted User

Deleted User wrote: »

Nope. My gfs watch it alone, with each other, and with me. It has never been "weird" for me.

Your girlfriends watch it with each other? :eek:

Lucky bastard!

nucker

Shauna.xxx wrote: »

Ok girls, guys...do you think it's weird if girls/gf/friend who's a girl/ watches porn?.....I told my bf I did and he got really offended by it?...but I don't see what the problem is, off he wanted to watch it it's fine with me?

The thing is, girls do participate in the making of porn

syklops

nucker wrote: »

The thing is, girls do participate in the making of porn

Yeah but hollywood has taught us that they only do it because they were young and needed the money.

Not because they enjoy it, no way. And Amateur stuff does not exist.

Christ the Redeemer

Shauna.xxx wrote: »

.I told my bf I did and he got really offended by it?

What an asshole.