At what age did your first child sleep in their own room?

josip

How old was your first child when you put them sleeping in their own room? If there were some circumstances that affected the decision please post the reason, eg. another baby on the way.

nikkibikki

10 months but that was out of necessity. We didn't move into our own house til then and hadn't the room to move him into his own room at my parents house. Would have been 6 months otherwise if we had room!

lazygal

Four and a half months. She was waking up when we were going to bed and slept through the night great on her own, so we made it a permanent arrangement.

Jem123

5 and a half months and he loved it! Settled into the cot right away.

How Strange

6 months. It got to the stage where we were keeping each other awake so we moved him into his own room a d he started sleeping much better straight away.

Initially I was totally against it but my husband insisted, in a rare moment of putting his foot down about these things, and after the first night and a decent sleep for everyone I was glad we'd done it.

Mimikyu

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Dacelonid

I think our first child went into her own room around 9 months.

Our second unfortunately won't even sleep in his own cot at 9 months, so we are facing a battle to get him into his own room

hallo dare

6 months.

Moonbeam

12 months for the 1st but that was because we lacked space and 12 months for the second because I slept better with her in the room and small boy is now 4 months and I reckon he will be in his own room by 6 months.

Mink

Just before 3 months. He had been sleeping the night (10-7ish) mostly but my husband was on shift work so his alarm was going off at weird and different times and generally we were all disturbing each others sleep I think.

Xdancer

8 months. I would have preferred 4 months but circumstances conspired against us so it was delayed.

Suucee

About 10 weeks. She was sleeping through 11-7 from 4 weeks and as others have said we were all disturbing each other. Both her and OH snore and they would both wake me. At least I could give OH a dig in the ribs and get him to roll over. I got a movement monitor for peace of mind too.

highly1111

First son was 6 weeks. 2nd at 5 weeks. However the reasons for so early was that they grew out of the moses basket. Both were nearly 9lbs when born and the cot didn't fit in our room so when they got too big for the moses basket they had to move.

However I was also more than happy. Ironically i was more comfortable once they moved. I was anxious that we would wake them - so we actually all slept better.

number 3 will probably be the same. The first 2 slept through at 8 and 9 weeks and I am a firm believer that being in their own room helped.

monflat

Yep my first was 6 months exactly should have moved her sooner in hind sight as we usrd to disturb her

but second baby went in around 3months to different room
Depends on tge baby though

pwurple

6 weeks. She snores!

Lola92

She's almost 2.5 and we are mostly still co-sleeping. Occasionally she will sleep in the other room but we all sleep better when she is in with us.

January

1st: 3 months - himself was waking her up when he snored, she slept much better on her own.
2nd: 6 weeks - same as above
3rd: Nearly 6 months! The other two had their own rooms and I didn't want to disturb them and she was a good sleeper anyway so she stayed a bit longer and then shared with number 2 until she started waking her up at night, then she got her own room and the older two share now.

All three are finally sleeping through the night.

liliq

18 months.
We did up his room, got him a bed etc. and he started going into his room himself when we were bringing him up for the night.
He comes into us after his 2nd waking at around 5am most nights.
I would have preferred if he had stayed in with us until he was sleeping through but he had other ideas! He's 20 months now, I'm guessing sometime within the next 4/10 months he'll be in his own bed more full time!

implausible

5 months. We could have moved him sooner as he was sleeping through the night way before that, but I procrastinated about doing up his room. A bit earlier with the second, but again I didn't get my ass in gear to tidy the spare room!

missis aggie

16 months, only because second baby was about to be born. I slept much better when she was with us. No. 2 is co sleeping ( although has no problem sleeping in a cot, I'm just lazy breastfeeder). Planning to move her to a big cot as soon as her sister move to " big girls bed"

2xj3hplqgsbkym

1 year

I doubt you will get a clear indication from this poll.
I think parents are made to feel guilty/ clingy/ overprotective etc.. if they keep baby in their room for 'too long'. Hence most of the replies are very early ages, with lots of justifications as to why it wasn't earlier, and very few replies from those who put them in much much later.

Personally I put my baby in at 1 because of reccomedations re cot death and because up until then he would wake up looking for his soother regularly. By one he was able to find it himself so I didn't need to go in to him every couple of hours.

There is no correct age to move baby into own room.
I think that a baby should move if the parent can't sleep because they wake at baby's every whimper or if baby wakes when you make a noise .
Or like other posters said, if they sleep the whole night by themselves.

With this baby it will depend on when my toddler is ready to share his room with his baby sister (or when I can trust him not to climb into her cot, or take her soother etc... Hmmm could be a while!)

josip

I was wondering the same last night when first year movers accounted for over 80% whether that percentage reflected reality or reflected a reluctance on the part of the late movers to take part in the poll. I had thought that the poll being anonymous would have eliminated that as a factor, but the comments do generally seem to be along the lines of "would have liked to move sooner".

We're still in the same room as our little guy, who will soon be 3. He has his own bed and some nights he sleeps all night in it and other nights we wake up in the morning to find him in between us. Mammy doesn't mind, I don't mind, and he doesn't mind.

ash23

Over a year old but that was only because I was living at home. Once I moved out and there was a spare room, in she went.

How Strange

I think it's a case of whatever works for each individual family. There's no right or wrong.

Mink

josip wrote: »

We're still in the same room as our little guy, who will soon be 3. He has his own bed and some nights he sleeps all night in it and other nights we wake up in the morning to find him in between us. Mammy doesn't mind, I don't mind, and he doesn't mind.

I say enjoy it while it lasts and especially if all three of you enjoy it.
My sis co-slept with her son up until he started primary school, it really suited them both.

eviltwin

From birth, our room is right next door and we both are light sleepers. Whatever works for each family is fine, they all find their feet at some stage anyway.

IvyTheTerrible

We had him in our room for the first 3 months, then he grew out of the moses basket, and we had no room in our room for his "normal" baby bed, so we moved him into his own room. Initially I was sad at the idea of not having him in the same room as me, but straight the difference in our quality of sleep changed my mind! It seemed we had been waking him up, and vice versa! He often cries out/babbles in his sleep so we get a much better sleep in another room, and at the same time, the rooms are beside each other so if he cries properly, we hear him.

aristotle25

7 months old. He sleeps better now as he doesn't wake as early in the morning.

Hello Lady!

I'm only pregnant on my first and second at the moment, but I envisage them being in their own room from the time they come home. First off there is no way two moses baskets will fit in our bedroom, and secondly our house is so small that the babies room will be probably as close to our bed as other parents have in the same room! I suppose we'll have to see how it actually works in practice, but from a practical point of view I can't see how we would manage to have them both in our room.

One thing I won't be doing is having them share our bed. I know I will need to be disciplined about this as it is such an easy habit to slip into. But on the advice of several of our friends who fell into the trap of the kids sleeping in the parents beds and how difficult it can be to get them into their own bed, this is something I am very determined I will follow through on - especially with two of them! there would literally be no room for daddy and we can't have that!

denis160

1st - 8 weeks,
2nd - 6 weeks & the twins 4 weeks. Purely personal decisions & thats what worked for us.

RubyGirl

We just moved to his room was'nt ready. 12wks on our second until she figured out at 3 how to get out of the cot, she's been in our bed since.

wolfpawnat

My son is 4 and 3months old and due to space restrictions, we are sharing a room, it will be even tighter in July with no.2. I was sleeping on the couch in the sitting room for nearly a year happily (comfy couch) but with my big belly, safety meant having to go in with him again. My partner has a small room to himself. He's the worst sleeper and snores and about 5 other things so it is just until we can afford a bigger place. When baby is starting to sleep better I will move back to the couch and let the kids share the big room. Not ideal, but what can you do?

liliq

Hello Lady! wrote: »

One thing I won't be doing is having them share our bed. I know I will need to be disciplined about this as it is such an easy habit to slip into. But on the advice of several of our friends who fell into the trap of the kids sleeping in the parents beds and how difficult it can be to get them into their own bed, this is something I am very determined I will follow through on - especially with two of them! there would literally be no room for daddy and we can't have that!

The two of them in a cot together in your room might work if its purely from a space pov that its a problem
I thought my little guy would be in with us for so much longer because my husband and myself were quite comfortable with him in the bed, little mr independent proved a lot of people wrong by moving himself out! Haha!
It's definitely a whatever fits best for the family though!

wmpdd3

both babies left my bed at 6months and have never been back.

Hello Lady!

liliq wrote: »

The two of them in a cot together in your room might work if its purely from a space pov that its a problem
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We would probably only just fit one moses basket, let alone one cot. We could probably get rid of the wardrobe to make space, but that just means that it will have to go into the spare room, so it's the same thing really.

Our room is right next to where the babies will be, literally two or three steps further than the end of the room anyway, so it's no big deal for them to be in the other room.

I'm still very early in my pregnancy, so I am just hoping that both little bubs will hang on and stay strong. I really hope that working out where to put them will be a problem, because that means that both of them made it!

MistyCheese

Our babba just went into her own room last week. This day last week. She's 3 months, or to be precise, she was 14 weeks and 2 days on her first solo night.

I was a bit worried that it was too early but she's fine. She's more likely to sleep through now than in her swing cot in Mami and Daddys room.

Fri.Day

I moved my fella into his own room at 8 weeks cos he was a noisy sleeper, waking me up throughout the night.
He was sleeping through the night from a few days old so no need for him to be in our room.
Due our little girl in sept and she`ll be in her own room when she starts sleeping through or whenever she outgrows the crib (5ish months) cos there`s no room for a cotbed in our room. Which ever is sooner.

Mouzone

Our 2 girls moved to their own room at 7 months.

Digs

My LO is 9 weeks tomo and we are debating whether to move her into her own room. She has been sleeping 9.30pm-5 for a while now but she is such a noisy sleeper I find myself awake for ages listening to every noise wondering if she's going to wake (husband has no such problems )! Was wide eyed until 3am this morning.... With a baby who sleeps well its a sin. Her room is right beside ours so should be ok.

Was full sure she'd be in with us until 6months, you just never know, I'd been feeling so guilty about it you'd swear I wanted to move her to the garden shed but reading all the responses to this thread has been interesting and helpful!

emmabrighton

I am so surprised that people are not co-sleeping with their babies longer. My son is 10 months and it hasn't even crossed my mind to move him.
He still wakes 2-3 times a night and I am too lazy to be trekking into another room each time he wakes. It is handier to have him next to me. Are the parents who are moving the babies out doing so because they are following a routine based style (something like Gina Ford)?
I stopped breastfeeding at 7-8 months corrected/10-11 months actual and have regretted stopping so soon and dont want to have the same regrets with co-sleeping.

IvyTheTerrible

emmabrighton wrote: »

I am so surprised that people are not co-sleeping with their babies longer. My son is 10 months and it hasn't even crossed my mind to move him.
He still wakes 2-3 times a night and I am too lazy to be trekking into another room each time he wakes. It is handier to have him next to me. Are the parents who are moving the babies out doing so because they are following a routine based style (something like Gina Ford)?
I stopped breastfeeding at 7-8 months corrected/10-11 months actual and have regretted stopping so soon and dont want to have the same regrets with co-sleeping.

Because what works for one parent or baby does not work for all.

While I had a lovely idea in my head about having the baby in my room, in reality, we are both noisy sleepers, and so we actually all sleep better being in our own rooms. Nothing to do with a routine or what anyone said in a book.

implausible

emmabrighton wrote: »

Are the parents who are moving the babies out doing so because they are following a routine based style (something like Gina Ford)?

Nothing to do with routine with me, just what suited. Both of mine were sleeping through the night and I wanted to be able to put a light on to read and when I went back to work I wanted to be able to sort out clothes etc for the next morning. Made sense to me as I got the room back and we all got better sleep.

emmabrighton

IvyTheTerrible wrote: »

Because what works for one parent or baby does not work for all.

While I had a lovely idea in my head about having the baby in my room, in reality, we are both noisy sleepers, and so we actually all sleep better being in our own rooms. Nothing to do with a routine or what anyone said in a book.

implausible wrote: »

Nothing to do with routine with me, just what suited. Both of mine were sleeping through the night and I wanted to be able to put a light on to read and when I went back to work I wanted to be able to sort out clothes etc for the next morning. Made sense to me as I got the room back and we all got better sleep.

Thanks for that. I spend my life second guessing myself, thinking i must be doing something wrong. I suppose I should count myself lucky that I am and always have been a light sleeper, getting up to go to the loo at least 2 times a night and my little man could sleep with a marching band + parade of elephants stomping through the room and over the bed.

pwurple

emmabrighton wrote: »

I am so surprised that people are not co-sleeping with their babies longer. My son is 10 months and it hasn't even crossed my mind to move him.
He still wakes 2-3 times a night and I am too lazy to be trekking into another room each time he wakes. It is handier to have him next to me. Are the parents who are moving the babies out doing so because they are following a routine based style (something like Gina Ford)?
I stopped breastfeeding at 7-8 months corrected/10-11 months actual and have regretted stopping so soon and dont want to have the same regrets with co-sleeping.

I think if you read the thread you would see a variety of reasons. noisy sleeping people waking up other people. Or maybe the untold one... Sometimes people want to start trying for another baby!

Awkward with another member of the family in the room.

liliq

pwurple wrote: »

Or maybe the untold one... Sometimes people want to start trying for another baby!

Awkward with another member of the family in the room.

I've heard a lot of co sleepers agree that you end up with a more interesting sex life, when you're not going to NOT have sex but the bed isn't the best option!

sari

liliq wrote: »

I've heard a lot of co sleepers agree that you end up with a more interesting sex life, when you're not going to NOT have sex but the bed isn't the best option!

Lol this is so true. My little one co slept and slept in Moses basket beside the bed, we moved him when he was about 10mths

pwurple

liliq wrote: »

I've heard a lot of co sleepers agree that you end up with a more interesting sex life, when you're not going to NOT have sex but the bed isn't the best option!

Haha. The only time in your life when someone mopping the kitchen floor becomes a bit saucy?

IvyTheTerrible

liliq wrote: »

I've heard a lot of co sleepers agree that you end up with a more interesting sex life, when you're not going to NOT have sex but the bed isn't the best option!

I'd be interested to know how this works! Up until my lad was a year old, he didn't do many naps. My OH works all day. Then when he comes home in the evening, L was wide awake. So at least during the week, the only time for a bit of cheekiness is at night, when the baby is asleep.

liliq

IvyTheTerrible wrote: »

I'd be interested to know how this works! Up until my lad was a year old, he didn't do many naps. My OH works all day. Then when he comes home in the evening, L was wide awake. So at least during the week, the only time for a bit of cheekiness is at night, when the baby is asleep.

The couch is a great place!

iguana

liliq wrote: »

I've heard a lot of co sleepers agree that you end up with a more interesting sex life, when you're not going to NOT have sex but the bed isn't the best option!

Well I don't want to think about how "interesting" it got for them but my little brother was born while I still shared a room with my parents, so it definitely happens.:eek:

IvyTheTerrible

liliq wrote: »

The couch is a great place!

Personally, the couch would not be particularly exotic for us!