I staying in the new going out & are you happy to do it

Rabidlamb

The game has been up for me for years, I've 3 kids under 5.
The day has come where it's financial madness to go out:
Babysitter €20
Taxis €20
3 hours = 6 drinks each = 12 x €5?? = €60
So there's €100 spent for 6 pints where I can get 6 cans of Carlsberg & a bottle of wine for herself for less than €20.
The publicans really have nothing to combat this & the reality is that they loose good customers for a decade or more once kids come along.

After a while you actually begin to prefer your new arrangement.
Downloading, Netflix, Sky+, Youtube all mean that you can have the finest entertainment on hand, it's not like years ago if the Late Late was crap you were stuck with it.
The thoughts of having to get dressed up, organise a lift, push & shove at a bar for over priced drink while having to shout over load music starts to sound like madness.
Instead you can Skype a mate in Norway & have a bottle of red together while catching up.

It's not a rant against the pub trade it's just a realisation that not only am I gone temporarily, there's an increasing chance that outside big occasions I may never be back & that sits fine with me.

reganreggie

Im with you on this one, but every now and then you can get cabin fever and say F**k it no bills getting paid this week and go on the lash. I would rather go out once every couple of months and go mental than go to the local every week.

ahnowbrowncow

Error in thread title, oh the shame

Death and Taxes

Rabidlamb wrote: »

The game has been up for me for years, I've 3 kids under 5.
The day has come where it's financial madness to go out:
Babysitter €20
Taxis €20
3 hours = 6 drinks each = 12 x €5?? = €60
So there's €100 spent for 6 pints where I can get 6 cans of Carlsberg & a bottle of wine for herself for less than €20.
The publicans really have nothing to combat this & the reality is that they loose good customers for a decade or more once kids come along.

After a while you actually begin to prefer your new arrangement.
Downloading, Netflix, Sky+, Youtube all mean that you can have the finest entertainment on hand, it's not like years ago if the Late Late was crap you were stuck with it.
The thoughts of having to get dressed up, organise a lift, push & shove at a bar for over priced drink while having to shout over load music starts to sound like madness.
Instead you can Skype a mate in Norway & have a bottle of red together while catching up.

It's not a rant against the pub trade it's just a realisation that not only am I gone temporarily, there's an increasing chance that outside big occasions I may never be back & that sits fine with me.

You pay your babysitter €20 to mind thre kids under the age of 5!
And they said slave labour and exploitation was dead!
Shame on you OP, shame on you!

omahaid

Getting away from your kids for a few hours has to be worth a few bob

No - you're just getting old.

.jacksparrow.

6 cans?you're doing it all wrong.

I want to break free

Rabidlamb

.jacksparrow. wrote: »

6 cans?you're doing it all wrong.

It's actually more likely to be 2 cans & a bottle of red but I wanted to look big in front of the lads.

.jacksparrow.

Rabidlamb wrote: »

It's actually more likely to be 2 cans & a bottle of red but I wanted to look big in front of the lads.

Yes that comes with old age too,as does 2 day hangovers,but it does beat mixing with all those peasants in the local.

Where To

I'm not happy when other people do it.

johnolocher

I'm with the OP it costs too much to go out regularly when you can get a few drinks, take the warmth of a fire & watch a great movie. Especially in the winter it beats freezing my hole off and spending my weekly wages on booze.

It is nice to go out on the town every now and then but I find now and then is becoming rarer as things have been getting tighter and I've been getting older and enjoy the confort of my own home

1ZRed

Right. Well that was the final nail in the "no kids" coffin for definite!

Jaxxy

I find it's my more "settled" friends (myself included) that have this attitude. The single ones are still all about their weekender benders and spending their wages in pubs/clubs.

Because of financial restrictions (and getting auld factors too :pac: ) I usually limit any mad nights out to birthdays and the like. These days I much prefer to sit in and have beers or a bottle of wine and chat or watch a movie or six consecutive episodes of whatever program I'm into at that time.

Rabidlamb

ballboy101 wrote: »

jaysus...i say your some craic

Life & soul of the house party.

Rabidlamb

WileyCoyote (Accelleratii Incredibus!) wrote: »

You pay your babysitter €20 to mind thre kids under the age of 5!
And they said slave labour and exploitation was dead!
Shame on you OP, shame on you!

20 quid for 3 hours work, I used get a fiver when I was her age.

Frank Black

Been there and done that, with the whole going out thing.

A evening at home in front of the fire, with a damn fine bottle of wine and some tolereable Hollywood release on the tv is much preferable.

Ihatecuddles-old

Rabidlamb wrote: »

20 quid for 3 hours work, I used get a fiver when I was her age.

Can never understand bsbysitters charging €60 when all they do is watch tv while the children sleep. Insanity.

Wine, good tv, good company and Chinese. much prefer that to going out!

ArtyC

I wish I could go out more. I miss going to the pub for a few most evenings after work. But it's a bit tougher now so I guess I make the effort to enjoy my nights in. Make dinner with a new recipe, try different bottles of red or two every week and naked Mondays with the oh!

krudler

Last night out I had was Stephen's night, havent set foot in a pub since bar once for a few mins giving someone a lift, don't miss it at all but might head out tonight just because. Going out every weekend gets stupid expensive after a while, even cheap nights out cost at least 50 quid when there's taxis and food involved.

YFlyer

WileyCoyote (Accelleratii Incredibus!) wrote: »

You pay your babysitter €20 to mind thre kids under the age of 5!
And they said slave labour and exploitation was dead!
Shame on you OP, shame on you!

€20 to watch Tubs. Where can you better that?

jossnjuice

ArtyC wrote: »

I wish I could go out more. I miss going to the pub for a few most evenings after work. But it's a bit tougher now so I guess I make the effort to enjoy my nights in. Make dinner with a new recipe, try different bottles of red or two every week and naked Mondays with the oh!

pics of GTFO.

KungPao

Happy enough doing it. Some of the best evenings I've had recently have been with a few friends, a few drinks, an Xbox and some food. Great laughs had by all.

Was never a fan of night clubs, hate them actually. Never saw the attraction of listening to sh!t music while 'dancing' and spending a fortune on sh!te Diageo p|ss and then having bouncers shouting at everybody to go home even though you just bought a pint.

One particularly ridiculous occurrence was Bruxelles charging me around €13 for a pint and a glass of wine because of the time. Alcohol mysteriously gets incredibly more expensive after midnight apparently. They haven't got my custom since that debacle!


But once in a while, a night out can be great...as long as you're really in the mood and have a surplus of the green.

snowgal

I used to go out every night of the weekend but thinking about I dont think I ever really cared if I was out or in, it was wherever friends, ex, etc were heading. Now I love staying in, wine, takeawy good tv OH and kitty, perfect! Still go out once a week though so that Im not being a dry sh**e! :rolleyes:

I rarely go out. I do throw a monthly house party though. This costs me in terms of effort because I cook for it and cooking stuff for 30+ can be hefty. But it ends up costing me nothing. I leave a box around for donations and I break pretty much even every month and any profit goes to the following month.

So everyone has a great night, great food, cheap drink, they pay much less than going out in the city and I come out paying nothing. Nice.

Its an age thing I went to a pub in London at the weekend but only because I was away before that it was the work Christmas night out, I was never big in to nights out, unless it is a meal out. I don't really get going out to get drunk and chat in a pub that is jammed. I do like certain pub in town places like Grogans where you can have a chat but I would only have 2 or 3 drinks.

My youngest went to coppers on Wednesday night and it was so packed that them make them wait until a few people left before they let them in.( her purse was stolen while in there with her passport in it:mad: ).

jester77

Didn't leave the pub until 2 last night and then ended up in the casino playing roulette for an hour or 2 afterwards. Staying in sounds like a great idea right now.

the_syco

Night out to me equals going to a live music venue to drink one set of pals, or to a smoking area of a pub for another set of lads. Can sink anywhere between 20 and a 50 on a night out on drink, etc, depending how good I've been at saving in the month up to then.

Probably spend 30-50 at a gaff party, but would drink until 6 or 8 in the morning, and still have a bottle or three left.

dollypet

in? out?....... SHAKE IT ALL ABOUT!
Seriously though I love a night in.. but also love a night out too. The expense makes out fewer than in. But still SHAKE IT ALL ABOUT!

BraziliaNZ

It depends really doesn't it. If you're settled with kids or a partner or both etc you're more likely to stay in. Every living day for me is an existential nightmare so as hard as I try and stay out of the boozer I end up there more often than not propping up the bar and talking bollocks to the regs. Perhaps if I had a family or a bird or something I might be more likely to stay at home.

Stheno

Can't stand the noise in a lot of pubs at the weekends anymore.

naughtysmurf

Growing up in the 70's, the folks always made it out, usually for a nights dancing every week without fail, they also got away during the summer for two weeks without the kids (3 of us left with cousins) but doubt if they were dropping the equivelent punts / euro for a night out that we would now

Got to the stage now that I couldn't be arsed going out, can't justify the overall cost either, happy to get the kids into bed and be my own barman

At a guess, get out about 6 times a year but would tend to go for a meal followed by a few beers

listermint

Rabidlamb wrote: »

The game has been up for me for years, I've 3 kids under 5.
The day has come where it's financial madness to go out:
Babysitter €20
Taxis €20
3 hours = 6 drinks each = 12 x €5?? = €60
So there's €100 spent for 6 pints where I can get 6 cans of Carlsberg & a bottle of wine for herself for less than €20.
The publicans really have nothing to combat this & the reality is that they loose good customers for a decade or more once kids come along.

After a while you actually begin to prefer your new arrangement.
Downloading, Netflix, Sky+, Youtube all mean that you can have the finest entertainment on hand, it's not like years ago if the Late Late was crap you were stuck with it.
The thoughts of having to get dressed up, organise a lift, push & shove at a bar for over priced drink while having to shout over load music starts to sound like madness.
Instead you can Skype a mate in Norway & have a bottle of red together while catching up.

It's not a rant against the pub trade it's just a realisation that not only am I gone temporarily, there's an increasing chance that outside big occasions I may never be back & that sits fine with me.

Sorry OP but publicans have nothing to do with your rant.

Your old now, you should not be out in pubs anyway, thats a young mans game.

April O Neill

Stheno wrote: »

Can't stand the noise in a lot of pubs at the weekends anymore.

A DEFINITE sign of age! :pac:

BraziliaNZ

April O Neill wrote: »

A DEFINITE sign of age! :pac:

Not really, tonnes of old men drink in pubs

naughtysmurf

ArtyC wrote: »

and naked Mondays with the oh!

The full day?

Rabidlamb

The loud music thing came from studies which showed us drinking more when we are in an environment where we can't converse.
Like putting extra salt on the cocktail sausages, we sup more.

This is why I see more couples going for a meal out instead of the pub these days.

gobnaitolunacy

Rabidlamb wrote: »

The game has been up for me for years, I've 3 kids under 5.

Game over oul lad, enjoy playing Hungry Hungry Hippos or whatever the 2000's equivalent is.

lukesmom

Happy to stay in. I don't miss the endless ques for taxis, entrance fees, over priced drink and same old faces.

Steodonn

I go out the odd time. Never pay more than €3:50 a pint you just got to a keep an eye out for places doing deals

listermint

Rabidlamb wrote: »

The loud music thing came from studies which showed us drinking more when we are in an environment where we can't converse.
Like putting extra salt on the cocktail sausages, we sup more.

This is why I see more couples going for a meal out instead of the pub these days.

In you're age group.


OP in 'Peoples tastes and attitudes change as the get older' shocker

SuperGrover

Kids, financials, shrinking social circle, all have me staying in more and more. At the weekend we'll leave dinner 'til after the kids are asleep, cook something nice, have a few drinks, watch a film or something.

Monday or Tuesday night is a few pints around the local with a couple of mates, sitting at the bar, talking shyte.

Works for me.

Don't really miss going out on the lash but that's probably an age thing. Used to love it. Can't be arsed any more.

Evenstevens

Rabidlamb wrote: »

The game has been up for me for years, I've 3 kids under 5.
The day has come where it's financial madness to go out:
Babysitter €20
Taxis €20
3 hours = 6 drinks each = 12 x €5?? = €60
So there's €100 spent for 6 pints where I can get 6 cans of Carlsberg & a bottle of wine for herself for less than €20.
The publicans really have nothing to combat this & the reality is that they loose good customers for a decade or more once kids come along.

After a while you actually begin to prefer your new arrangement.
Downloading, Netflix, Sky+, Youtube all mean that you can have the finest entertainment on hand, it's not like years ago if the Late Late was crap you were stuck with it.
The thoughts of having to get dressed up, organise a lift, push & shove at a bar for over priced drink while having to shout over load music starts to sound like madness.
Instead you can Skype a mate in Norway & have a bottle of red together while catching up.

It's not a rant against the pub trade it's just a realisation that not only am I gone temporarily, there's an increasing chance that outside big occasions I may never be back & that sits fine with me.

I don't think your obliged to have 6 drinks each. Might save some money there.

JohnnyChimpo

I don't think it really comes down to money/the cold/the noise/ the kids, whatever.

It's a pretty simple equation, if you need to get a ride, you'll find the cash to head out somewhere. If you have sex waiting for you at home then it's a whole different story.

hoodwinked

gobnaitolunacy wrote: »

Game over oul lad, enjoy playing Hungry Hungry Hippos or whatever the 2000's equivalent is.

i have a three year old its still Hungry Hungry hippo's,


despite the game makers attempts at Monopoly junior and scrabble junior you get tired of them moving their piece where they want it or putting the word 'CAT' down for the 10th time and usually resort back to Hungry Hippos....:(

naughtysmurf

JohnnyChimpo wrote: »

I don't think it really comes down to money/the cold/the noise/ the kids, whatever.

It's a pretty simple equation, if you need to get a ride, you'll find the cash to head out somewhere. If you have sex waiting for you at home then it's a whole different story.

A common misconception

Rabidlamb

Evenstevens wrote: »

I don't think your obliged to have 6 drinks each. Might save some money there.

Thanks Nora.

So now I'll have spent €80 & won't be even merry.

the_syco

naughtysmurf wrote: »

but doubt if they were dropping the equivelent punts / euro for a night out that we would now

Depends how you look at it. On the one hand, you could get 4 Guinness and a bag of tayto and still get change from a tenner in the nineties, but on the other hand, £180 a week was a good wage back then, when there was no minimum wage and high unemployment.

Stheno wrote: »

Can't stand the noise in a lot of pubs at the weekends anymore.

Find a pub with a covered heated smoking area. Stay there. Smokers tend to be usually calm (as they're smoking) and thus you don't get much trouble. Also, usually no noise, as the pub doesn't want noise complaints from nearby residents.

Rabidlamb

JohnnyChimpo wrote: »

I don't think it really comes down to money/the cold/the noise/ the kids, whatever.

It's a pretty simple equation, if you need to get a ride, you'll find the cash to head out somewhere. If you have sex waiting for you at home then it's a whole different story.

I thought all you young 'uns used POF nowadays for the ride.
Some rough stuff on there mind.

ITS_A_BADGER

Cant afford to go out coz im saving for september But saying that, i have a bottle of black rum ready for a couple of hot ones and the Tv sky+ and if i get fed up of that, good auld boards, where everybody know your name

Gumbo

I find nowadays, the current generation (me included) who may have bought homes during the boom, the mortgage is the main payment and theres no such thing as "going out every Saturday to the local".

It is now a series of going from event to event, so say theres a christening in Febuary, you;ll save up for that and theres a 30th in March and you hop from these type of nights for the year.

I see my mates every week at football and in the gym twice a week too, so then we have a game of cards every now and again, and the going out bit just comes every month or two if theres something on. ie 30th/big Dublin game or something.

I remember growing up and my mam and dad would be in the local every Wednessday, Saturday and Sunday without fail!