One night stands

steddyeddy

I'm not blowing my own horn (I rather girls do that :P) but I'm a fan of one night stands. When it comes to women I'm not a fan of commitment, I think you can get to know a person pretty well from a one night stand. I had a male friend give out to me after a one night stand but I dont see the problem. If it's two consenting adults I dont see what the problem is. I'm a loner in a way and I dont think I'm hurting anyone this way. I have italian and brazillian friends and they say in Ireland it is less culterally acceptable to have one night stands than in brazil and on the continent. Are one night stands taboo in Ireland or is my mate just a prude?

donvito99

Not so thinly veiled blowing of one's horn.

flutterflye

steddyeddy wrote: »

I'm not blowing my own horn (I rather girls do that :P) but I'm a fan of one night stands. When it comes to women I'm not a fan of commitment, I think you can get to know a person pretty well from a one night stand. I had a male friend give out to me after a one night stand but I dont see the problem. If it's two consenting adults I dont see what the problem is. I'm a loner in a way and I dont think I'm hurting anyone this way. I have italian and brazillian friends and they say in Ireland it is less culterally acceptable to have one night stands than in brazil and on the continent. Are one night stands taboo in Ireland or is my mate just a prude?

What a load of nonsensical drivel.
Fairly sure you'd be hard pressed to find many people who would still find this taboo.
I've never had one - and tbh I think that is more taboo these days!

Praetorian Saighdiuir

Two night stands are better, it balances out the bedroom!


Nah, I don't have a problem with o.n.s....like I always say "If someone wants to have sex with you, and you want to do it back, then do it".

mud

Completely depends on the people involved tbh. As long as everyone is on the same page **** the begrudgers!

Don't think it's taboo really, sounds like jealousy.

C.K Dexter Haven

Is a one night stand kinduv like a pop up shop?
If so, I'm in favour- shop rents are sky high these days.

wardy2

sound like your mate is not getting any

flutterflye

wardy2 wrote: »

sound like your mate is not getting any

Or maybe he's not getting any with op? Secret crush possibly.

revz

They're drunken and shít

steddyeddy

flutterflye wrote: »

What a load of nonsensical drivel.
Fairly sure you'd be hard pressed to find many people who would still find this taboo.
I've never had one - and tbh I think that is more taboo these days!

But that's the thing theres a lot of people who didn't have them or never wanted them.

steddyeddy

doovdela wrote: »

What, what does that mean?:eek:

It's an implication that I'm starting a thread to "blow my own horn".

cantdecide

doovdela wrote: »

What does thinly veiled mean???? confused girl here! Angelic one at that!

Thinly veiled isn't a euphemism. It means that he's trying to disguise the real issue ie boasting about his feckering with the women is being thinly veiled by a thread about the morality of casual sex in general

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steddyeddy

I think I phrased my opening post badly. My mate had more issue with my preference of one night stands to relationships rather than the fact I have one night stands.

stmol32

I don't mean to bring the thread off topic, the topic being I'm great ... I shag loads of birds/blokes, but every time on a sitcom you see a proper shagger (Joey from friends, Barney Stinson etc.) they are legends but when you know someone like that in real life they are nearly always severely lacking in any good human traits.

Is it just me or am I being Brazilian about this?

Holsten

They're really not that great.

ted1

I thought one night stands are for people who aren't good in bed, that's the reason why the don't get extended.

Senna

stmol32 wrote: »

I don't mean to bring the thread off topic, the topic being I'm great ... I shag loads of birds/blokes, but every time on a sitcom you see a proper shagger (Joey from friends, Barney Stinson etc.) they are legends but when you know someone like that in real life they are nearly always severely lacking in any good human traits.

Is it just me or am I being Brazilian about this?

You mean TV isn't real life:eek::eek::eek:

Holsten

ted1 wrote: »

I thought one night stands are for people who aren't good in bed, that's the reason why the don't get extended.

Hahaha so true, if you're not getting that call for a repeat performance you weren't any good.

wardy2

flutterflye wrote: »

Or maybe he's not getting any with op? Secret crush possibly.

possibly a 3 way could happen ,not the cool one ::eek:

steddyeddy

ted1 wrote: »

I thought one night stands are for people who aren't good in bed, that's the reason why the don't get extended.

I was told girls from rural areas prefer to sleep with potential boyfriends quickly in order to establishif they're good in bed or not :O

Max Power

revz wrote: »

They're drunken and shít

Wouldn't be into the old scat porn myself.

steddyeddy

doovdela wrote: »

I still don't get it steddy eddy?

yes the above are legends!

huh I never met a brazilian so don't know..as am a thick as kung fu panda when it comes to these things. I need direction..sh*te when it comes to these things.

What do you not get Doov?

Chao

Holsten wrote: »

Hahaha so true, if you're not getting that call for a repeat performance you weren't any good.

That's it, you go it now.... your the bestest!!!


In my opinion one night stands FTW, they just suit me better but each to there own.

humbert

There are a lot of people in very average relationships because they're afraid of being alone, one night stands beat the hell out of that.

A really good relationship, however, is second to nothing.

stmol32

Senna wrote: »

You mean TV isn't real life:eek::eek::eek:

I know right! It knocked me for six when I discovered that.
Have you ever seen that soap opera six one news? Sizzling story lines that would make your toes curl

guppy

steddyeddy wrote: »

I'm not blowing my own horn (I rather girls do that :P) but I'm a fan of one night stands. When it comes to women I'm not a fan of commitment, I think you can get to know a person pretty well from a one night stand. I had a male friend give out to me after a one night stand but I dont see the problem. If it's two consenting adults I dont see what the problem is. I'm a loner in a way and I dont think I'm hurting anyone this way. I have italian and brazillian friends and they say in Ireland it is less culterally acceptable to have one night stands than in brazil and on the continent. Are one night stands taboo in Ireland or is my mate just a prude?

I had my fair share in my early twenties, and in fact my husband and I had one months before we got together properly (but we'd friends in common and saw each other a bit).

Honestly though, and being able to look back at it rationally now, there are very few so liberated people that just enjoy it for sex. Mostly, for serial one night standees, it's due to some sort of need for affection/approval/whatever.

I thought at the time I was very liberated and knew what I wanted, but I was fooling myself. Any of my friends who did the same at the time would also admit that there were deeper issues involved back then, we just were too immature to see them.

I'm sure there are people who do enjoy it for what it is and have no issues, but my experience tells me that most people aren't Samantha Jones from Sex and the City and generally there are deeper issues, for males and females.

I don't mind being corrected, just giving my view on what I thought I knew all about 12+ years ago.

Praetorian Saighdiuir

doovdela wrote: »

the only one nighters I have had had involved kissing nothing more maybe a little bit more but not much more...I am sad aint I!

No, if it's not your thing, it's not your thing.

humbert

Is my internet broken or is doovdela deleting every post after it's quoted?

Ihatecuddles-old

once everyone's careful and consenting then there's no issue!

I'm a big fan.

I'm also drunk and picturing myself as a huge office fan

frag420

In the middle of one now. Problem is I've just shagged her and I need to poo. There are several pints and a Chinese at the door waiting to get in the pool. Her bathroom is beside the bedroom so I dunno what to do. I know it's going to sound like a jet engine when I go!! I've also got very had heartburn from the Chinese!!

Suggestions?

Praetorian Saighdiuir

frag420 wrote: »

In the middle of one now. Problem is I've just shagged her and I need to poo. There are several pints and a Chinese at the door waiting to get in the pool. Her bathroom is beside the bedroom so I dunno what to do. I know it's going to sound like a jet engine when I go!! I've also got very had heartburn from the Chinese!!

Suggestions?

House or apt? If house, go downstairs for a glass of water and crap in the bin.

If apt...you are double screwed!

1ZRed

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

once everyone's careful and consenting then there's no issue!

I'm a big fan.

I'm also drunk and picturing myself as a huge office fan

As in everyone gets a blow??

Ihatecuddles-old

frag420 wrote: »

In the middle of one now. Problem is I've just shagged her and I need to poo. There are several pints and a Chinese at the door waiting to get in the pool. Her bathroom is beside the bedroom so I dunno what to do. I know it's going to sound like a jet engine when I go!! I've also got very had heartburn from the Chinese!!

Suggestions?

Go and sh*te...if you have to go, you have to go!

steddyeddy

frag420 wrote: »

In the middle of one now. Problem is I've just shagged her and I need to poo. There are several pints and a Chinese at the door waiting to get in the pool. Her bathroom is beside the bedroom so I dunno what to do. I know it's going to sound like a jet engine when I go!! I've also got very had heartburn from the Chinese!!

Suggestions?

I was with herself last night and got a cramp in my leg half way though . Embarrassing!

Ihatecuddles-old

1ZRed wrote: »

As in everyone gets a blow??

Can't think of funny pun....so Brrrmmm!

Professey Chin

I both like and hate them.
Like since im actually getting sex (usually after another dry spell :pac:)
Hate since theyre usually with something that I have no clue what they like &/or im drunk & I dont really like drunk sex

1ZRed

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

Can't think of funny pun....so Brrrmmm!

Dat sounds like motorboatin' to me boi!!

Ihatecuddles-old

steddyeddy wrote: »

I was with herself last night and got a cramp in my leg half way though . Embarrassing!

I was masturbating in the shower earlier...got a leg cramp. Didn't want to have an awkward moment so I turned the knob as hot as it would go, scalded myself and jumped out.

True story.

stmol32

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

I was masturbating in the shower earlier...

That's my idea of a terrific one night stand.......I'm so very very lonely.

steddyeddy

guppy wrote: »

I had my fair share in my early twenties, and in fact my husband and I had one months before we got together properly (but we'd friends in common and saw each other a bit).

Honestly though, and being able to look back at it rationally now, there are very few so liberated people that just enjoy it for sex. Mostly, for serial one night standees, it's due to some sort of need for affection/approval/whatever.

I thought at the time I was very liberated and knew what I wanted, but I was fooling myself. Any of my friends who did the same at the time would also admit that there were deeper issues involved back then, we just were too immature to see them.

I'm sure there are people who do enjoy it for what it is and have no issues, but my experience tells me that most people aren't Samantha Jones from Sex and the City and generally there are deeper issues, for males and females.

I don't mind being corrected, just giving my view on what I thought I knew all about 12+ years ago.

Well to be honest I dont just enjoy it for the sex. I have had long relationships which have been great but I also like one night stands. The sex is good but to be honest It's more a fact of liking people in small measures. I have met loads of great people that way and even remained friends with a lot of them. I dont believe in calling something I enjoy an issue but I apreciate your view.

steddyeddy

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

I was masturbating in the shower earlier...got a leg cramp. Didn't want to have an awkward moment so I turned the knob as hot as it would go, scalded myself and jumped out.

True story.

So you're saying I should have poured hot water on my leg and jumped off?

Ihatecuddles-old

steddyeddy wrote: »

So you're saying I should have poured hot water on my leg and jumped off?

No, you start shaking violently, throw yourself on the floor and writhe around shouting 'ALIENS!!!!'

get up a few minutes later, stretch out the foot cramp and F*CK HER LIKE A MAN!!!!

Professey Chin

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

No, you start shaking violently, throw yourself on the floor and writhing around shouting 'ALIENS!!!!'

get up a few minutes later, stretch out the foot cramp and F*CK HER LIKE A MAN!!!!

Go to bed
Youre drunk

steddyeddy

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

No, you start shaking violently, throw yourself on the floor and writhing around shouting 'ALIENS!!!!'

get up a few minutes later, stretch out the foot cramp and F*CK HER LIKE A MAN!!!!

I'm going to have to write this down! If shouting aliens randomly doen't get her in the mood nothing will ha ha.

Ihatecuddles-old

Chinpool wrote: »

Go to bed
Youre drunk

Yes chief...

Professey Chin

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

Yes chief...

You know im right :P

steddyeddy

Chinpool wrote: »

Go to bed
Youre drunk

Ordering someone to bed now are we! That's a bit 50 shades of grey aint it?

Ihatecuddles-old

Chinpool wrote: »

You know im right :P

No secret, I'm intoxicated! :P

guppy

steddyeddy wrote: »

Well to be honest I dont just enjoy it for the sex. I have had long relationships which have been great but I also like one night stands. The sex is good but to be honest It's more a fact of liking people in small measures. I have met loads of great people that way and even remained friends with a lot of them. I dont believe in calling something I enjoy an issue but I apreciate your view.

As I said, few people, not nobody! If you are self-aware and are not just bedding intoxicated people (which most ons tend to be), then go for it. It's just that the usual ons in Ireland isn't like that.

Hmm, maybe that's what your friends mean.........

steddyeddy

guppy wrote: »

As I said, few people, not nobody! If you are self-aware and are not just bedding intoxicated people (which most ons tend to be), then go for it. It's just that the usual ons in Ireland isn't like that.

Hmm, maybe that's what your friends mean.........

Well usually it's Italian women and they dont tend to drink a large amount. I wouldn't feel right sleeping with an intoxicated girl and I really dont like the getting plastered culture. I'm not fond of the more "irish" or "british" version of one nighters.

Itwasntme.

One night stands are not my thing. I genuinely cannot get turned on enough to want to jump someone's bones by someone I don't know well. Also, I haven't quite figured out how to separate sex from emotions just yet but I am working on it. One of these days.