The most obnoxious conversation you've overheard?

Grayson

A bloke I work with was complaining about the french people in our office. He was saying the smell from the fridge was caused by them bring in their strange food and leaving it there. Because the french are by nature a dirty nationality. They don't have hygiene like the rest of us. He was Italian.

wolfpawnat

krudler wrote: »

I'd be really hard pressed to not call her a cunt to her face for talking like that. Dunno why women of a certain age think they can get away with treating others like dirt, see it all the time in work.

I have, on many an occasion (she doesn't like me as you can imagine for that) sure what am I only an unqualified dosser after her house apparently. I gave up college to raise my child because creche was 1100 a month and to do it I would have had to split from her son and go after him for maintenance and get OPFP off the SW. But no, that means nothing.

I notice that with her and her friends, they feel they have the right to say anything they want, you call them on it, and your disrespectful, regardless of the shíte they just spewed!

wolfpawnat

St.Spodo wrote: »

Some man on the bus the other day got into a confrontation with a black bloke, mouthing off about how he should 'get out of our country'. It was especially bad considering that there was quite a few ethnic minorities on the bus within earshot.

My uncle says that any time he comes to Dublin, "Why are they all here, they should go home" forget some of them come from war torn nations where human rights are completely ignored. What makes it particularly funny though is the teenagers going around with thick Irish accents giving out about the upcoming Irish oral exams. He can't figure them out at all. He can't seem to fathom that these people were born here and are as Irish as everyone else!

Grayson

wolfpawnat wrote: »

My uncle says that any time he comes to Dublin, "Why are they all here, they should go home" forget some of them come from war torn nations where human rights are completely ignored. What makes it particularly funny though is the teenagers going around with thick Irish accents giving out about the upcoming Irish oral exams. He can't figure them out at all. He can't seem to fathom that these people were born here and are as Irish as everyone else!

I feel that way about culchies.

wolfpawnat

Grayson wrote: »

I feel that way about culchies.

He lives on the outskirts of Cork City, I have no idea how he does not see the different ethnic groups and cultures within Cork (though in all fairness, why would they settle there, I got the first train out when I could :pac:)

krudler

wolfpawnat wrote: »

I have, on many an occasion (she doesn't like me as you can imagine for that) sure what am I only an unqualified dosser after her house apparently. I gave up college to raise my child because creche was 1100 a month and to do it I would have had to split from her son and go after him for maintenance and get OPFP off the SW. But no, that means nothing.

I notice that with her and her friends, they feel they have the right to say anything they want, you call them on it, and your disrespectful, regardless of the shíte they just spewed!

ha one of my exes had parents like that, small minded small town buffoons who expected never to be challenged on their archaic views on everything due to "respecting your elders" yeah no sorry respect has to be earned its not granted as soon as you become a withered old fart with no common decency.

wolfpawnat

wolfpawnat wrote: »

I have, on many an occasion (she doesn't like me as you can imagine for that) sure what am I only an unqualified dosser after her house apparently. I gave up college to raise my child because creche was 1100 a month and to do it I would have had to split from her son and go after him for maintenance and get OPFP off the SW. But no, that means nothing.

I notice that with her and her friends, they feel they have the right to say anything they want, you call them on it, and your disrespectful, regardless of the shíte they just spewed!

Why do you keep spending time with her so

wolfpawnat

bluewolf wrote: »

Why do you keep spending time with her so

I never elect to. Usually when we have to go to Clare for a reason and have to go to her house to stay while we are there. But neither she nor I spend any time in each others company if we can. Although she is always good for a few ridiculous statements as you pass her in the hallway while she is on the phone, but overall we have a mutual disrespect for one another.

She doesn't know that I know she called my son such horrific things before he was born and the weird thing is now she is insane about him, he can do no wrong, so as much as I dislike her, I don't mind her having a relationship with him as long as she keeps her madness away from him, which she mostly has so far (bar one or two "don't go boxing it's for knackers" comments which he knows to ignore). But I have warned her, if she starts anything mad, she won't be allowed see him.

the purple tin

newmug wrote: »

I wrote this before in another thread, and just copied and pasted it. But it still stands out as the most obnoxious episode I ever witnessed first hand:


Yesterday, I went into a cafe in town. Its a fairly basic place, there is another cafe right beside it, and the courthouse is only a stonesthrow away.

Anyway, three solicitors came in, obviously just out of the courthouse, all dressed in suits, 2 lads and a woman. Over the next half hour, I witnessed the rudest, snobbiest, most ignorant behaviour I had seen in a long time. By the time I was leaving, I felt ashmed for those people.

The first lad waited until the waiter was coming over with menus, then purposely said out loud, "I've no problem with this place, but the problem is they're SO SLOW! Thats why everybody goes next door". You could visibly see the shock on the waiters face. The owner heard it too, she was not impressed.

Anyway, when yerman came back to take their order, all three of them started barking out what they wanted all at the same time. No waiting your turn with these knobs. The waiter was obviously flustered, and had to ask them to repeat their orders. When he had it all down, one lad said "and be as quick as you can please", as if they were going to get served faster than anyone else. I couldnt believe it. The whole place could hear all this too.

The next thing was their food arrived. From then on, it was "get me some mustard", and "another cappachino", and other such sh1te being barked up at the counter from where they were sitting. I mean, they didnt even stand up and walk to the counter to ask quietly. One lad then tried to convince another lad to have more coffee, the second lad declined. First lad said "go on, sure yerman (loser in court) is paying for it" - que some sniggers and sneers from all three of them. It was unbelievable.

All I can say is fair play to the staff and owner, they took it with grace and dignity, and were far more respectful than these pigs. The staff and owners are not Irish, and I really hope this didnt colour their opinion of my country. I was wearing my working clothes, covered in cement and cowsh1t. But when I stood up to leave, I was glad to be
visibly not associated with these people.

A depressing thought is that they could be future judges too

the purple tin

krudler wrote: »

ha one of my exes had parents like that, small minded small town buffoons who expected never to be challenged on their archaic views on everything due to "respecting your elders" yeah no sorry respect has to be earned its not granted as soon as you become a withered old fart with no common decency.

Always really hated that respect your elders BS. If you treat me with respect I will return the favour, regardless of your age. If not you can fcuk right off.

wolfpawnat

the purple tin wrote: »

Always really hated that respect your elders BS. If you treat me with respect I will return the favour, regardless of your age. If not you can fcuk right off.

I don't even wait to return the favour, I treat everyone with respect from the go, then you can lose it or keep it, and to be honest there have been a few, MIL and her friends especially, that lose my respect and decency in a matter of moments! First time I met the MIL, looked me up and down and said "Poor (his) Ex, she was a nice girl" But I had been forewarned of her and her ridiculousness so I never took it to heart. But those were the first words ever spoken by her in my presence.

krudler

the purple tin wrote: »

Always really hated that respect your elders BS. If you treat me with respect I will return the favour, regardless of your age. If not you can fcuk right off.

Zactly, being old doesn't grant you special privileges with outdated opinions that nobody should call you out on.

wolfpawnat

krudler wrote: »

Zactly, being old doesn't grant you special privileges with outdated opinions that nobody should call you out on.

The comments I heard from people about the Magdaline Laundries being filled with whores, that the boys in Artane deserved what they got and both sets of victims/survivors are only after the compensation money, racist comments and bigoted views and the way people dismiss them as "well it was like that in their time" this isn't their time, it's the 21st Century! If they get to avail of the benefits of this time (health and finances and the like), then they should have to tow the line with modern understanding that these things were unacceptable and against basic human rights.

krudler

wolfpawnat wrote: »

The comments I heard from people about the Magdaline Laundries being filled with whores, that the boys in Artane deserved what they got and both sets of victims/survivors are only after the compensation money, racist comments and bigoted views and the way people dismiss them as "well it was like that in their time" this isn't their time, it's the 21st Century! If they get to avail of the benefits of this time (health and finances and the like), then they should have to tow the line with modern understanding that these things were unacceptable and against basic human rights.

"there was no being gay in our day" was one I heard and burst out laughing at once. There was, just our ass backwards country saw fit to make sure you weren't allowed be yourself.

newmug

ALiasEX wrote: »

Which is worse? Treating the staff like **** or leaving **** on the seat?

Who said anything about leaving ****e on the seat? Are you wolfpawnat's MIL?

Chop Chop

newmug wrote: »

Who said anything about leaving ****e on the seat? Are you wolfpawnat's MIL?

I had shíte on the seat in my post, page 15. I think that's where the mix up is.

Catkins407

Wasn't something I overheard but rather something that was said to me.

My son was diagnosed with Down Syndrome immediately after birth. My sister arrives over to the hospital no pressies or cards for baby . Sat there telling I could get plastic surgery done on him when he got to about 5 to remove his features that were as a result if his Down syndrome.

Sister in law was equally delightful. She told me she was so angry as I never got the chance to abort him over Irish abortion laws.

Bearing in mind that this was FAMILY I wasn't too upset by the time I was stopped by two acquaintances in the supermarket and said oh look he smiles just like a real baby !!! That is exactly what she said. I **** you not.

When your child is first diagnosed with a disability you are distraught and generally could do with some kind words.

Can't think these days why I betrayed my son by being upset at all though at his diagnosis. Mostly he is a typical grumpy not wanting to go to school teenager lol.

Mongfinder General

Catkins407 wrote: »

Wasn't something I overheard but rather something that was said to me.

My son was diagnosed with Down Syndrome immediately after birth. My sister arrives over to the hospital no pressies or cards for baby . Sat there telling I could get plastic surgery done on him when he got to about 5 to remove his features that were as a result if his Down syndrome.

Sister in law was equally delightful. She told me she was so angry as I never got the chance to abort him over Irish abortion laws.

Bearing in mind that this was FAMILY I wasn't too upset by the time I was stopped by two acquaintances in the supermarket and said oh look he smiles just like a real baby !!! That is exactly what she said. I **** you not.

When your child is first diagnosed with a disability you are distraught and generally could do with some kind words.

Can't think these days why I betrayed my son by being upset at all though at his diagnosis. Mostly he is a typical grumpy not wanting to go to school teenager lol.

Absolutely shocking. I find Family think that they can say anything without consideration for whom it affects.

the purple tin

wolfpawnat wrote: »

The comments I heard from people about the Magdaline Laundries being filled with whores, that the boys in Artane deserved what they got and both sets of victims/survivors are only after the compensation money, racist comments and bigoted views and the way people dismiss them as "well it was like that in their time" this isn't their time, it's the 21st Century! If they get to avail of the benefits of this time (health and finances and the like), then they should have to tow the line with modern understanding that these things were unacceptable and against basic human rights.

"there was no being gay in our day" was one I heard and burst out laughing at once. There was, just our ass backwards country saw fit to make sure you weren't allowed be yourself.

The sad thing is that some younger people still have views that are comparable to those.
I know a married couple in mid 20's who both come out with some shocking racist drivel. Really OTT stereotypes and 'friend of a friend' type rumours about foreigners. Worst of it is they seem like a nice normal couple until they start on with this BS.
I think there always were and always will be people like that around no matter how modern and cultured we say we are.

Lucyfur

Catkins407 wrote: »

Wasn't something I overheard but rather something that was said to me.

My son was diagnosed with Down Syndrome immediately after birth. My sister arrives over to the hospital no pressies or cards for baby . Sat there telling I could get plastic surgery done on him when he got to about 5 to remove his features that were as a result if his Down syndrome.

Sister in law was equally delightful. She told me she was so angry as I never got the chance to abort him over Irish abortion laws.

Bearing in mind that this was FAMILY I wasn't too upset by the time I was stopped by two acquaintances in the supermarket and said oh look he smiles just like a real baby !!! That is exactly what she said. I **** you not.

When your child is first diagnosed with a disability you are distraught and generally could do with some kind words.

Can't think these days why I betrayed my son by being upset at all though at his diagnosis. Mostly he is a typical grumpy not wanting to go to school teenager lol.

Jesus effing Christ....

wolfpawnat

Catkins407 wrote: »

Can't think these days why I betrayed my son by being upset at all though at his diagnosis. Mostly he is a typical grumpy not wanting to go to school teenager lol.

Because it is normal, you grieved in a way, thinking of both his life and yours as you all faced a difficult journey. It's odd, times like that is when you need the support most from family, yet it is then they are most likely to withdraw it. Same with my partner's cousin with their little guy. No warning, only realised when he was born, they love him to bits, but they still spent a few days in shock and upset.

the purple tin wrote: »

The sad thing is that some younger people still have views that are comparable to those.
I know a married couple in mid 20's who both come out with some shocking racist drivel. Really OTT stereotypes and 'friend of a friend' type rumours about foreigners. Worst of it is they seem like a nice normal couple until they start on with this BS.
I think there always were and always will be people like that around no matter how modern and cultured we say we are.

Oh no, I will raise you one, a guy my partner used be friends with, is working on the oil rigs in Nigeria...... who thinks all the "blacks" need to go back to Africa because they are taking jobs here in Ireland and they're nothing but idiotic raping animals.

jaffacakesyum

Catkins407 wrote: »

Wasn't something I overheard but rather something that was said to me.

My son was diagnosed with Down Syndrome immediately after birth. My sister arrives over to the hospital no pressies or cards for baby . Sat there telling I could get plastic surgery done on him when he got to about 5 to remove his features that were as a result if his Down syndrome.

Sister in law was equally delightful. She told me she was so angry as I never got the chance to abort him over Irish abortion laws.

Bearing in mind that this was FAMILY I wasn't too upset by the time I was stopped by two acquaintances in the supermarket and said oh look he smiles just like a real baby !!! That is exactly what she said. I **** you not.

When your child is first diagnosed with a disability you are distraught and generally could do with some kind words.

Can't think these days why I betrayed my son by being upset at all though at his diagnosis. Mostly he is a typical grumpy not wanting to go to school teenager lol.

Hard to believe people like this exist!! Some of the cutest babies I've seen have Down Syndrome.

Rob32

Edit: wrong forum, removed.

OldNotWIse

sadie06 wrote: »

That has to be the winner!:eek:

Yup, like its funny but also a bit frightening how ignorant some people are... how do they even get through the day?

OldNotWIse

Catkins407 wrote: »

Wasn't something I overheard but rather something that was said to me.

My son was diagnosed with Down Syndrome immediately after birth. My sister arrives over to the hospital no pressies or cards for baby . Sat there telling I could get plastic surgery done on him when he got to about 5 to remove his features that were as a result if his Down syndrome.

Sister in law was equally delightful. She told me she was so angry as I never got the chance to abort him over Irish abortion laws.

Bearing in mind that this was FAMILY I wasn't too upset by the time I was stopped by two acquaintances in the supermarket and said oh look he smiles just like a real baby !!! That is exactly what she said. I **** you not.

When your child is first diagnosed with a disability you are distraught and generally could do with some kind words.

Can't think these days why I betrayed my son by being upset at all though at his diagnosis. Mostly he is a typical grumpy not wanting to go to school teenager lol.

Jeez, I think those ignorant people are cases for abortion What horrible things to say about a baby!

Apanachi

Aidric wrote: »

Phone reception on the metro did he?

I generally have good phone reception in the Berlin metro actually

ceadaoin.

wolfpawnat wrote: »

I never elect to. Usually when we have to go to Clare for a reason and have to go to her house to stay while we are there. But neither she nor I spend any time in each others company if we can. Although she is always good for a few ridiculous statements as you pass her in the hallway while she is on the phone, but overall we have a mutual disrespect for one another.

She doesn't know that I know she called my son such horrific things before he was born and the weird thing is now she is insane about him, he can do no wrong, so as much as I dislike her, I don't mind her having a relationship with him as long as she keeps her madness away from him, which she mostly has so far (bar one or two "don't go boxing it's for knackers" comments which he knows to ignore). But I have warned her, if she starts anything mad, she won't be allowed see him.

This woman sounds like she has mental health issues. Did you post a story before about her reporting you to social services for keeping a mobile phone by your bed at night and she was concerned about you endangering your son with radiation? Not that I'm stalking your posts,that just stuck in my mind due to how ridiculous it was !

kennyboy9563

Catkins407 wrote: »

Wasn't something I overheard but rather something that was said to me.

My son was diagnosed with Down Syndrome immediately after birth. My sister arrives over to the hospital no pressies or cards for baby . Sat there telling I could get plastic surgery done on him when he got to about 5 to remove his features that were as a result if his Down syndrome.

Sister in law was equally delightful. She told me she was so angry as I never got the chance to abort him over Irish abortion laws.

Bearing in mind that this was FAMILY I wasn't too upset by the time I was stopped by two acquaintances in the supermarket and said oh look he smiles just like a real baby !!! That is exactly what she said. I **** you not.

When your child is first diagnosed with a disability you are distraught and generally could do with some kind words.

Can't think these days why I betrayed my son by being upset at all though at his diagnosis. Mostly he is a typical grumpy not wanting to go to school teenager lol.

My daughter was born with Downs,but unfortunately didn't make it past her first day. And so begin the commiserations,"ah,its for the best", "put it behind you and get on with your life", "Gods done you a favour" etc.etc. 17 years later my wife and I still cry at her grave.

Tombo2001

kennyboy9563 wrote: »

My daughter was born with Downs,but unfortunately didn't make it past her first day. And so begin the commiserations,"ah,its for the best", "put it behind you and get on with your life", "Gods done you a favour" etc.etc. 17 years later my wife and I still cry at her grave.

To be fair, people dont mean bad.....most of the time they feel they have to say something and they dont know what to say.

Having said that, it would be nice if in that sort of situation, the speaker might have a quick think beforehand.......

dilallio

This thread reminds me of a story a midwife friend told me many years ago. She had finished her shift in UCHG and was waiting outside for her bf to collect her.

It was raining heavily when a car pulled up.
A heavily pregnant lady got out if the car, holding her tummy because of labour pains. She crossed over to the drivers door where her idiot husband wound down the window and handed her the car keys so that she could take her heavy suitcase out of the boot by herself.
When she handed back the keys, he said "I'm heading up the mothers for dinner - I'll see you next week"
He just drove off and left her there, in labour, carrying his soon to be born son or daughter along with a heavy suitcase.