How / where'd you meet your OH/Partner

Young_gunner

Hey
I know its been done in the past but maybe a new one is in order??

I'm single quite a while now and just wondered how or where people meet their bf/gf/OH/Partner etc etc

Was in town last night and it just struck me that its quite difficult to chat to people in pubs / clubs let alone get their number and a date

Schism

I think night clubs are an awful place to meet new people. For the exact reason you've said, it's just so hard to chat to someone in them. Pubs aren't as bad up to a point but they're very often trying to compete with clubs so the music gets turned up to 11 after a while.

Personally I've met most gfs through friends or being set up with them. It's interesting really how we rely on a social setting and alcohol to meet people. It's unheard of for Irish people to see someone they like and just ask them out, maybe it's just what we're used to.

I think for you my good man, the answer is to just try and meet new people wherever you can, don't limit yourself to a night out. If you like one, take a chance!

Also, I know you've said you've been single for a while and you're probably getting a bit fed up if you're looking for a gf but don't let it get to you and don't go out looking for someone. Go out and just enjoy yourself, you'd be surprised the situations you'll find yourself in just having a laugh with your friends

Young_gunner

Schism wrote: »

I think night clubs are an awful place to meet new people. For the exact reason you've said, it's just so hard to chat to someone in them. Pubs aren't as bad up to a point but they're very often trying to compete with clubs so the music gets turned up to 11 after a while.

Personally I've met most gfs through friends or being set up with them. It's interesting really how we rely on a social setting and alcohol to meet people. It's unheard of for Irish people to see someone they like and just ask them out, maybe it's just what we're used to.

I think for you my good man, the answer is to just try and meet new people wherever you can, don't limit yourself to a night out. If you like one, take a chance!

Also, I know you've said you've been single for a while and you're probably getting a bit fed up if you're looking for a gf but don't let it get to you and don't go out looking for someone. Go out and just enjoy yourself, you'd be surprised the situations you'll find yourself in just having a laugh with your friends

Yeah, great post! agree with you, sure who knows when and how you'll bump into someone?!

dodderangler

First seen my oh when I was in 4th year in school and she was in 2nd
She was new in the school
I always said to me mates she's gonna be more gorgeous when she gets older
When I left school I was out one night in tallaght and she was in nightclub I was in and me with drink on had courage t dance with her and then locked lips and been together since and have gorgeous little girl together aswell

Pherekydes

I met my OH at a Gingerbread meet up 22 years ago. Still together...

irlirishkev

Neither of us remember actually meeting. We know it was in Isoldes Tower in Temple Bar, and we know we woke up together in her place the next morning but the rest is a mystery. Six years later, it must have been a good night!

Rossin

absolutely hammered at a house party

ted1

Pegs, pound a drink on 3 nights after new years. Only my group and her group there.
Ended up that I used to play with her brother when we were 7 and 8. But they moved away. Also figured out she was in my cousins class.

That valentines she sent me a card with her number. She got my address from my cousin.

That was about 16 years ago, when we were in transition year. Married now with 2 little girls.

another question

In a sauna. They key is stop looking - it always happens when you least expect it

deceit

I first met my girlfriend 8 years ago while I was in town, she was lost and I offered her directions and went from there .
She is German and was on a holiday to Ireland. I met her at Christ Church close to the archway over the road.

helimachoptor

another question wrote: »

In a sauna. They key is stop looking - it always happens when you least expect it

Couldnt agree more.

Met my now wife at work..

oldyouth

My best friend threw a house party and he was too busy to pay much attention to his girlfriend. I did the gentlemanly thing and saw to it that she thoroughly enjoyed the evening That was 33 years ago and still together. I wonder what my former friend is doing with himself these days?????

True story

Please Kill Me

She was "the other woman"!! I was in an unhappy relationship and the job I was in at the time hired a new receptionist. She was hot! I couldn't stop drooling over her. After a couple of days flirting, we did it on the board-room table one evening after everyone had gone home. After a few weeks they let her go but we stayed in touch by text and I had to sneak out from time to time to meet up.

Anyway, my ex and I broke up and I hooked up with this one and we've been together since. (5 years) We're engaged now and are pregnant with our second child.

source

Worked together in 2004, she asked me to go traveling with her in 2005 but got job offer that I'd wanted for ages and lost contact for years. Met again in a club in 2008 and got married last March.

I met the girls through live music. I started organising pre-gig meetups for the bands and singers I liked and posting meetup times and places on the forums of those bands before a show I was going to. I would wear or display something prominent in said bar so we were easily found. It was through this I met the girls and slowly descended into a full time relationship with them over a period of time.

A few of my mates met their partners that way too through the meet ups that I arranged. It seems to be a good way to meet people.

Dravokivich

Well, there was a few things that led me to the current girlfriend;

Boards
Beers
Online Dating Site
Facebook stalking

Lombardo86

oldyouth wrote: »

My best friend threw a house party and he was too busy to pay much attention to his girlfriend. I did the gentlemanly thing and saw to it that she thoroughly enjoyed the evening That was 33 years ago and still together. I wonder what my former friend is doing with himself these days?????

True story

Probably still thinks you're a creep for coming onto his girlfriend after getting an invite to his party

grames_bond

At a gentlemans club beers in Cassidys back in February!!

F*ck yeah!! :cool:

Now you all see why I love boards beers.....and Cassidys?!

Halo Kitty

Ireland England chatrooms on MYSPACE 5 and a half yrs ago..But we tell some people we met in an airport.. semi true...

Sleepy

Smoking Section of a pub. Getting married in February.

Thanks Michael Martin!

Young_gunner

Jaysis, just in from a night out, you'd be fair depressed with that shoite !! its literally impossible to meet anyone properly when you're out boozing......

God its slightly depressing !

Princess Peach

Dravokivich wrote: »

Well, there was a few things that led me to the current girlfriend;

Boards
Beers
Online Dating Site
Facebook stalking

So romantic, make sure to mention it in the wedding speech

What led me to my boyfriend was Boards and Fromspring stalking :pac:

Stheno

Boards

Emeraldy Pebbles

Sleepy wrote: »

Smoking Section of a pub. Getting married in February.

Thanks Michael Martin!

Me too, high five! The smoking area part, we're not engaged yet.

The Big Red Button

Dravokivich wrote: »

Well, there was a few things that led me to the current girlfriend;

Boards
Beers
Online Dating Site
Facebook stalking

Princess Peach wrote: »

So romantic, make sure to mention it in the wedding speech

It wasn't him who was doing the stalking ... :pac:

SmilingLurker

Met my wife at a house party where I only knew a few people - well out of my comfort zone. I had decided to challenge myself - If you keep doing what you have always done you keep getting what you have always got.

My record for meeting girlfriends before then made me come to the conclusion I would never meet anyone I would end up with in a pub or nightclub. If I was looking I would recommend activities (sports/social groups/online dating). I had never tried online dating but a good friend of mine met his lovely wife in a speed dating event (they met each other in the club afterwards, not in the speed dating part).

iDave

In work

The Corinthian

We met at an orgy*.



* Not really, but when people ask that generally shuts them up.

Princess Peach

chatterpillar wrote: »

It wasn't him who was doing the stalking ... :pac:

It wasn't in my instance either :pac::pac:

Dravokivich

Princess Peach wrote: »

So romantic, make sure to mention it in the wedding speech

What led me to my boyfriend was Boards and Fromspring stalking :pac:

*chough*

Wedding speech?

what wedding speech?

:eek:

Star Lord

The Corinthian wrote: »

We met at an orgy*.



[SIZE="1"]* Not really, but when people ask that generally shuts them up.[/SIZE]

"Our eyes met across a crowded nympho..."
:pac:

ultra_other

Met my wife in a night club

only problem is it since closed down

Esoteric_

Single now, but met a long term ex on the street.

Was in town with my mates, who we'll call Sarah and Mark. This guy and what I assumed was his girlfriend wandered up to us and asked for directions to Temple Bar (not from Dublin, obviously!). Mark, being the eejit that he is, invited them to come to Starbucks with us, and they did.

Mark and the new guy left myself and Sarah alone with this other girl, Nicole. Made some awkward small talk. Myself and Nicole then went out for a smoke when the lads came back in, with her stopping to whisper with the new guy for a minute first.

Nicole tells me outside that her friend, Gaz, fancied me but Mark told him that he himself was dating me! :eek::mad:

As we all left later on, me having said not a single word to Gaz out of shyness, he asked for my number.

Next day, went drinking with him and Nicole and some other people, I ended up waking up in a pool of blood in his bed with no memory of what happened because one of the lads had me downing pints of straight vodka and I passed out. He was gentlemanly, and left me in his room. Next morning, I couldn't speak, move or anything. He cleaned up the blood, loaned me clothes, let me stay again and asked me out. We dated for a few years and are still good mates.

The Big Red Button

Ummm ... jesus ... blood?! :eek: I'm confused ...

Esoteric_

chatterpillar wrote: »

Ummm ... jesus ... blood?! :eek: I'm confused ...

Very little memory of the night, but I apparently vomited so much before passing out that I spent the night waking up sporadically to cough up blood. Presume I tore my throat a bit or something. :pac: Obviously, I've calmed down on the drinking since then, that was when I was a stupid kid.

Pembily

Spoiler tags are there for things like that Lynda.

Lombardo86

ultra_other wrote: »

Met my wife in a night club

only problem is it since closed down

I have no idea why that is in spoiler tags?

ultra_other

Lombardo86 wrote: »

I have no idea why that is in spoiler tags?

Feeling old

soundmangar

Came out of a bad relationship on a Friday. Swore myself off women for a while, bit of time out, go travelling etc. Went for a pint on the Sunday, got talking to a bird, 5 yrs later engaged with a 3yr old son. It's always when you least expect it

fenris

I met my wife in Geoffs (Waterford) when a friend asked me to keep her friend who was home from UL company. We chatted and took the piss out of all comers. Within a few days we were going out, got married 10 years later to the day, has 2 fantastic kids, celebrated our tenth wedding aniversary in September.

Then in October she did the school run with the kids run and went to work where she died suddenly.

20 years was not enough time.

Rocky Marciano

fenris wrote: »

I met my wife in Geoffs (Waterford) when a friend asked me to keep her friend who was home from UL company. We chatted and took the piss out of all comers. Within a few days we were going out, got married 10 years later to the day, has 2 fantastic kids, celebrated our tenth wedding aniversary in September.

Then in October she did the school run with the kids run and went to work where she died suddenly.

20 years was not enough time.

Ah that's very sad. I'm sorry to hear that. I hope you have good people around you to help you through this difficult time.

Reesy

Met the love of my life in the pub. Went with a friend to meet her BF & his friends... in she walked... immediately interested - quickly turned to lust, then to love & the rest is history. Best thing I ever did, go out that night.

There are stats somewhere that a massive amount of us meet out partners thru friends. Therefore suggest you work your network.

Stheno

fenris wrote: »

I met my wife in Geoffs (Waterford) when a friend asked me to keep her friend who was home from UL company. We chatted and took the piss out of all comers. Within a few days we were going out, got married 10 years later to the day, has 2 fantastic kids, celebrated our tenth wedding aniversary in September.

Then in October she did the school run with the kids run and went to work where she died suddenly.

20 years was not enough time.

Jesus, I hope you are doing ok.

Best wishes to you and your children, I hope you have all of the support you need.

Piliger

Online - Badoo

shalalala

One of the seemingly rare POF couples!