Midnight encounter

Rome

So, I was strolling home at approximately 4am last night, and as I was nearing my apartment and I decided to roll a cigarette and take in the beautiful surroundings of Galway city. I finished rolling it up and whilst exhaling the first puff my eyes were greeted by a stranger in the night. She was sitting alone, also smoking, and I was mystified as to her motives for sitting alone outside in the cold this late at night. After a few more moments of awkward glancing I finally plucked up the courage to walk over and make some light, friendly chat in the least creepy manner possible. We began chatting and to my delight I discovered we have a lot in common(bar both being smokers). She was waiting for a friend who she gladly introduced me to, and after her friend had gone she hinted at her desire to do something to prolong the nights activities.
I was quite open and frank with her as I tend to be after a few drinks and invited her back for further drinks at my place. She didnt hesitate to join me and before I knew it we were both back at my place drinking and playing video games (i couldnt believe how good she was a fifa). We furthered our rapport with each other and I found myself hoping/praying the feelings of attraction were mutual. I didnt know how to make the first move and even with the aid of a few drinks for 'dutch courage' found myself floundering around her like a heavy handed, clod hopping teenage boy attempting to make the move to kiss her. I was concerned that she would feel compromised in a strangers house and that coming on to her would be inappropriate given the circumstances..
This is where my core dilemma dwells. I find myself repeating the scenario over in my head, how I could have done it better? Did i miss an open opportunity? did she think I didnt like her? Regardless, she eventually left the house and I walked her to the street where she got a taxi. I didnt even try to kiss her when she was leaving and I failed to even get her mobile number. I would love to get a female perspective on this scenario. Was I being overly gentlemanly? or was the fact that she was in my house in the first place a sure sign she fancied me? Or (as I am now putting it down to), that it was just one of those random nice platonic meetings where drinks were shared and no awkwardness ruined the evening? Let me know what you think.

keith16

Let me get this straight OP. You didn't make a move because you were afraid of ruining an hour old friendship????

I hope you at least beat her on FIFA?

Logical_Bear

I think you should use paragraphs

Duff

You sir, are a disgrace to men everywhere!

WoollyRedHat

When in Rome

mattjack

Rome wrote: »

So, I was strolling home at approximately 4am last night, and as I was nearing my apartment and I decided to roll a cigarette and take in the beautiful surroundings of Galway city. I finished rolling it up and whilst exhaling the first puff my eyes were greeted by a stranger in the night. She was sitting alone, also smoking, and I was mystified as to her motives for sitting alone outside in the cold this late at night. After a few more moments of awkward glancing I finally plucked up the courage to walk over and make some light, friendly chat in the least creepy manner possible. We began chatting and to my delight I discovered we have a lot in common(bar both being smokers). She was waiting for a friend who she gladly introduced me to, and after her friend had gone she hinted at her desire to do something to prolong the nights activities. I was quite open and frank with her as I tend to be after a few drinks and invited her back for further drinks at my place. She didnt hesitate to join me and before I knew it we were both back at my place drinking and playing video games (i couldnt believe how good she was a fifa). We furthered our rapport with each other and I found myself hoping/praying the feelings of attraction were mutual. I didnt know how to make the first move and even with the aid of a few drinks for 'dutch courage' found myself floundering around her like a heavy handed, clod hopping teenage boy attempting to make the move to kiss her. I was concerned that she would feel compromised in a strangers house and that coming on to her would be inappropriate given the circumstances.. This is where my core dilemma dwells. I find myself repeating the scenario over in my head, how I could have done it better? Did i miss an open opportunity? did she think I didnt like her? Regardless, she eventually left the house and I walked her to the street where she got a taxi. I didnt even try to kiss her when she was leaving and I failed to even get her mobile number. I would love to get a female perspective on this scenario. Was I being overly gentlemanly? or was the fact that she was in my house in the first place a sure sign she fancied me? Or (as I am now putting it down to), that it was just one of those random nice platonic meetings where drinks were shared and no awkwardness ruined the evening? Let me know what you think.

You were walking towards your apartment and she left your house ?

mr biazzi

missed out big time...

shopaholic01

She went back to your place shortly after meeting you. You played video games and had a few drinks. You didn't make a move or ask for her number.

There are several possible opinions she has about you:

• You're a bit slow.
• You realised after spending more time with her that you didn't like her enough to make a move.
• You're a weirdo who asks random strangers home for no apparent reason.
• You lack confidence.
• You're an arsehole.

mattjack

OP , you join Boards in June 2010 and your first post is now ... are you afraid of rejection ?

Scanlas The 2nd

Rome wrote: »

So, I was strolling home at approximately 4am last night, and as I was nearing my apartment and I decided to roll a cigarette and take in the beautiful surroundings of Galway city. I finished rolling it up and whilst exhaling the first puff my eyes were greeted by a stranger in the night. She was sitting alone, also smoking, and I was mystified as to her motives for sitting alone outside in the cold this late at night. After a few more moments of awkward glancing I finally plucked up the courage to walk over and make some light, friendly chat in the least creepy manner possible. We began chatting and to my delight I discovered we have a lot in common(bar both being smokers). She was waiting for a friend who she gladly introduced me to, and after her friend had gone she hinted at her desire to do something to prolong the nights activities. I was quite open and frank with her as I tend to be after a few drinks and invited her back for further drinks at my place. She didnt hesitate to join me and before I knew it we were both back at my place drinking and playing video games (i couldnt believe how good she was a fifa). We furthered our rapport with each other and I found myself hoping/praying the feelings of attraction were mutual. I didnt know how to make the first move and even with the aid of a few drinks for 'dutch courage' found myself floundering around her like a heavy handed, clod hopping teenage boy attempting to make the move to kiss her. I was concerned that she would feel compromised in a strangers house and that coming on to her would be inappropriate given the circumstances.. This is where my core dilemma dwells. I find myself repeating the scenario over in my head, how I could have done it better? Did i miss an open opportunity? did she think I didnt like her? Regardless, she eventually left the house and I walked her to the street where she got a taxi. I didnt even try to kiss her when she was leaving and I failed to even get her mobile number. I would love to get a female perspective on this scenario. Was I being overly gentlemanly? or was the fact that she was in my house in the first place a sure sign she fancied me? Or (as I am now putting it down to), that it was just one of those random nice platonic meetings where drinks were shared and no awkwardness ruined the evening? Let me know what you think.

She wanted a ride, all you had to do was say let's go to the bedroom, I want to show you something while taking her hand and leading her in. Say you are giving her a massage, lie her down......you get the idea. She wanted you at the beginning, your lack of assertiveness dried her right up.

Missymoohaa

Contrary to the posts above, i believe you are just a nice guy who in the moment felt awkward. It's a pity you didn't ask her for her number as then you could have gauged whether or not she liked you. I think she will like your good manners (it is endearing in this day and age) and probably does wonder why you didn't make a move, she's probably intrigued. You must have got some hint about where she lived/worked/studied while you were together. Why not track her down and ask her out? assuming you did fancy her that is.

You will never know until you try and at leasts it's better to get a definitive "NO" than to wonder for ever "What if?" Go for it, you've nothing to lose (as long as you are not in a serious relationship yourself).:)

BorneTobyWilde

He did let her play with his joystick in all fairness

minidazzler

It's grand to not shag her on first meeting, you don't know the girl or what you could have been accused of. But you should have gotten a number, or at least a full name and add her on facebook. then see if lust can blossom.

mattjack

Missymoohaa wrote: »

Contrary to the posts above, i believe you are just a nice guy who in the moment felt awkward. It's a pity you didn't ask her for her number as then you could have gauged whether or not she liked you. I think she will like your good manners (it is endearing in this day and age) and probably does wonder why you didn't make a move, she's probably intrigued. You must have got some hint about where she lived/worked/studied while you were together. Why not track her down and ask her out? assuming you did fancy her that is.

You will never know until you try and at leasts it's better to get a definitive "NO" than to wonder for ever "What if?" Go for it, you've nothing to lose (as long as you are not in a serious relationship yourself).:)

Apparently Ted Bundy was just a nice guy too.

Missymoohaa

mattjack wrote: »

Apparently Ted Bundy was just a nice guy too.

hmm yes, are you comparing every guy out on a Sat night with Ted Bundy?? Really?? Cop on.

GalwayGuy2

She went back to your place shortly after meeting you. You played video games and had a few drinks. You didn't make a move or ask for her number.

There are several possible opinions she has about you:

• You're a bit slow.
• You realised after spending more time with her that you didn't like her enough to make a move.
• You're a weirdo who asks random strangers home for no apparent reason.
• You lack confidence.
• You're an arsehole

Lol, a guy didn't try and ride everything in sight and he's an arsehole?:P

Bruthal

mattjack wrote: »

Apparently Ted Bundy was just a nice guy too.

I think he was just pretending

Micky Dolenz

Did you at least have a fap in her memory after she left?

Red Pepper

All the signs were there, she even wanted you to score so much that she played FIFA.

Actually, the story is made up. Or a dream.

kowloon

Not sure luring someone into the bedroom just after meeting them is a good idea unless there's an understanding. Meeting someone out having a smoke wouldn't constitute an agreement in my opinion. But failing to get her number? Your man card is suspended until further notice. Investigation pending.

mattjack

Missymoohaa wrote: »

hmm yes, are you comparing every guy out on a Sat night with Ted Bundy?? Really?? Cop on.

Sorry , I meant to say Al Bundy.
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mattjack

robbie7730 wrote: »

I think he was just pretending

Who ? me or Ted ?

shopaholic01

GalwayGuy2 wrote: »

Lol, a guy didn't try and ride everything in sight and he's an arsehole?:P

No, not because he didn't try to ride her.

He meets a stranger at 4am, invites her back to his place and they play videogames.

He starts to act like an awkward teenager. When she leaves he doesn't ask for her number etc, just says goodbye. It does seem a bit weird.

mattjack

It was yore his Ma ....



see what I done ...

thefasteriwalk

She must have liked you - otherwise she would have taken off with her friend.

Bit of a loss not asking for the phone munber, though. I hope you manage to find her again.

Hardonraging

Your lack of paragraph use tells me that you are the kind of guy who couldn't find a wet spot if it was covered in flour OP ..


Hand in your man Card, and please inform any ladies within a 5 yard radius that you are a nice guy !!

emer_b

My biggest problem with your dilemma is that you met her at 4am and call it a "midnight" encounter!

enfant terrible

mattjack wrote: »

Apparently Ted Bundy was just a nice guy too.

I usually play Sussudio get out my camera and let things go from there.

padd b1975

Bin the computer games.

pm1977x

Why was she briefly meeting a friend in the outdoors at 4am in the morning? Or was he her pimp?

The Browser

Rome wrote: »

I didnt know how to make the first move and even with the aid of a few drinks for 'dutch courage' found myself floundering around her like a heavy handed, clod hopping teenage boy attempting to make the move to kiss her. I was concerned that she would feel compromised in a strangers house and that coming on to her would be inappropriate given the circumstances..

Dude. Comment on her hair and touch it. If she doesn't balk or look awkward when you touch it, you can just kiss her. Simple!

Bipolar Joe

You had the perfect romance, OP. It was amazing, and ended before things went to shit. I had the song from the Up montage playing in my head as I read your post.

jaffacakesyum

shopaholic01 wrote: »

No, not because he didn't try to ride her.

He meets a stranger at 4am, invites her back to his place and they play videogames.

He starts to act like an awkward teenager. When she leaves he doesn't ask for her number etc, just says goodbye. It does seem a bit weird.

How does that make him an arsehole?

The girl could have easily asked for his number. Why does it have to be the guy?

Yeah he's clearly regretting it now but chalk it down to low confidence OP. Next time, ask for her number or to add her on facebook, maybe go for a kiss if you feel there's a connection there.

But man, don't just leave it at that if you liked the girl. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

reginald

Sounds like she caught a glimpse of the duct tape and rope under the cushions on your couch

ringadingding

20 quid the fifa disc is missing, along with your passport, credit cards and man card

mattjack

reginald wrote: »

Sounds like she caught a glimpse of the duct tape and rope under the cushions on your couch

Maybe, or maybe she saw the Power Ranger pyjamas and matching duvet set.

Talib Fiasco

Pity you didn't act more like a teenager and just ask her 'any chance of a kiss/shift?'...what's the worst that could happen... cool story though

vixdname

OP, theres a few things going on here, you're obviously a decent bloke who may suffer from low confidence around the opposite sex BUT you had a woman who you obviously felt attracted to, agree to go back to your place at 4am in the morning within minutes of meeting you, have a few drinks and was more then willing to play video games with you.
When she met you, she didnt know you were going to play video games when she went to your place, she more then likely thought ye were going back for a few drinks and a chat and we'll see where it goes from there.
If the woman wasnt interested in you she simply wouldnt have gone back to your place with you...Simple as that.
If you were asked by some ugly girl you just happened to meet at 4am on the road to go to her place and play video games would you go ??? I think not.
If you were asked by some sexy bitch you just happened to meet at 4am on the road to go back to her place and play video games would you go ??? Damn effin right you would, so its the same with the girl you met last night, she obviously fancied you and the only ball you let her play with was to ball on FIFA !!! Not only that, but you never got even her mobile number......Sorry mate, but whatever way you want to look at it, this was an epic fail for any hot blooded male to turn down or even future plan a night of hot depraved sex !!! Opportunities like those dont arise very often so when they do, TAKE THEM....Now.....go have ahand shandy and think of what MIGHT have been !!!!!!!!!!

Yakult

Christ almighty Rome, you didnt even get her number? Thats weak brah.

TheBegotten

I assume you got her name at least? Look her up on facebook. I know its the awkward 13 year old's primary weapon but it's better than turning up out of nowhere clutching a bouquet and a telephone book. Nicely worded OP, but paragraphs are what women REALLY look for in a man.

kowloon

mattjack wrote: »

Maybe, or maybe she saw the Power Ranger pyjamas and matching duvet set.

All the studs have He-man :cool:

flutered

Red Pepper wrote: »

All the signs were there, she even wanted you to score so much that she played FIFA.

Actually, the story is made up. Or a dream.

at the very least you should know if she was wearing panties or a thong.

BASHIR

You suggested to play fifa :-O

splendid101

C'mon man, this story can't be true. How am I only the second person to suggest that this story may be a fabrication?

Micky Dolenz

splendid101 wrote: »

C'mon man, this story can't be true. How am I only the second person to suggest that this story may be a fabrication?

I believe it. Women want to pick up too.They'll even entertain a few games of FIFA too if they think they could score ( forgive the pun)

Missed chance OP.

Carlos_Ray

I get the feeling that in a "Fight Clubesque" kind of way there was no girl at all.

He probably was strolling home drunk. Got in a fight with himself. Saw a "girl" near his apartment but it was actually his own reflection in a shop window. He asked himself back to his own apartment and played a game of Fifa online.

ArtSmart

mattjack wrote: »

OP , you join Boards in June 2010 and your first post is now ... are you afraid of rejection ?

ROFL.


OP post too, special, to reply to.

kowloon

Micky Dolenz wrote: »

I believe it. Women want to pick up too.They'll even entertain a few games of FIFA too if they think they could score ( forgive the pun)

Missed chance OP.

I respect you as a poster Micky, but this is just ridiculous. Everyone knows that women hate sex and only agree to it when coerced or as a necessary step in producing babies. This is why you lure them back to your shagpalace with the promise of Fifa, or if your TV is broken, a quick mug of Maxwell House.

You have much to learn young padawan.

Nulty

mattjack wrote: »

OP , you join Boards in June 2010 and your first post is now ... are you afraid of rejection ?

I reckon he just wanted to collar the username.

saiint

you dont deserve your good looks !!!!

fat__tony

You didn't even get her number???

Jesus, you sound like a complete failure with women.