Men - What is your primary aim in life?

another question

To have a successful career?
To find a wonderful girlfriend?
To own you own home?
To have children?
Other

What to you live for, goals, etc what makes ye as a gender different from women in terms of your life aims/goals?

aaronjumper

To enjoy my life. I have no set goals that I am aiming at other than that.
Maybe when I mature a bit more I might.

Khannie

Tough question. I've done a lot of "the basics" - Happily married, have kids, nice house, decent job, finished college, travelled quite a bit. I suppose my next primary goal is to provide a decent environment for my kids - to nurture them so that they can achieve their potential. That varies by child really. The youngfella (eldest) is sporty, his younger sister is showing clear love for the arts etc.

All the while though I want to have fun with my wife and enjoy our marriage. That has to have a share in the amount of invested effort. I couldn't have one without the other (i.e. maintain loveless marriage once the kids are happy).

As a near term goal I have a fight coming up. I want to win that.

cantdecide

With the times that are in it, being independent must be high on the list for a lot of people.


It's a moving target depending where you are in life.

Piliger

Men of what age ...... ? Every man goes through many phases in his life. Starting from complete indifference to what happens tomorrow, never mind having an 'aim'. And every man reaches these phases at completely different ages.

juan.kerr

all of the above?

sam34

echo67, I've deleted two posts of yours as they were in no way relevant to this thread.

NegativeCreep

To make as much money as possible so I can have a half-way decent retirement, if I get that far. And then die..

Procrastastudy

Successful law career - make a difference. Failing that tons of dosh. Failing that die in a brothel of heart failure at the age of 90.

Sleepy

I'm 32, educated to post-grad level, engaged, 2 kids, working in I.T. and renting.

Current goals are to get all debts paid off and buy our own home within the next 5 years.
Longer term I'd like to own and work in my own business of some sort, a café, bar, shop of some sort and do all the travelling I missed out on in my youth while semi-retired (can't imagine ever being able to retire fully).

saintsaltynuts

Wife,kids,house.Failing that I'l just go the pi*s forever.

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Sleepy wrote: »

I'm 32, educated to post-grad level, engaged, 2 kids, working in I.T. and renting.

Current goals are to get all debts paid off and buy our own home within the next 5 years.
Longer term I'd like to own and work in my own business of some sort, a café, bar, shop of some sort and do all the travelling I missed out on in my youth while semi-retired (can't imagine ever being able to retire fully).

I want all this and I am much younger than you. My problem, I am impatient and think I will never have anything unless I have it now or in the foreseeable future. You mention been able to buy your own home within the next 5 years...obviously you are very positive and driven but does 5 years sound a little or a lot of time for you...or are you have that this is a mid-range reachable goal...

You certainly aren't old by any standards but thats how I feel when I feel things are out of my reach. Are you were organised, have plans for each step, very positive attitude etc...

krudler

Crush your enemies, see them driven before you, hear the lamentations of their women.

failing that, be content in doing someting I love, marriage and kids isnt on the radar at the mo.

cyrusdvirus

well i have a decent job and a nice house.

So my current goals are to find someone to settle down down with.

And train my puppy a bit better... right now she would quite happily run into a neighbours house and make herself comfortable!!:D

Galwayguy35

Get married and have a family would be what I would be aiming for eventually.

howamidifferent

gatecrash wrote: »

well i have a decent job and a nice house.

So my current goals are to find someone to settle down down with.

And train my puppy a bit better... right now she would quite happily run into a neighbours house and make herself comfortable!!:D

Your goal should be to put all of that beyond the grasp of anyone else....

oldyouth

My goals have changed as I reach different stages of my life. It has gone from good job and craic, to getting house and kids and then to helping kids achieve their own goals as young adults. Now, it's all about myself and my wife enjoying quality time together and not having to do stuff that we previously had to do because of the financial demands of rearing a family. It's not about money (I don't have much left) but I'll be damned if I kick my clogs doing something that makes me miserable

cyrusdvirus

howamidifferent wrote: »

Your goal should be to put all of that beyond the grasp of anyone else....

What? The bad mannered puppy?? She's a bloody charmer, just wants to be EVERY one's friend.

My primary aim in life - the goal I work for - is to be in some way better by the end of each day than I was when I arose on that day. Be that in my education, my personal fitness level, my compassion, my skills, my relationships with others, my hobbies or anything else - my simple aim each day is to have somehow improved myself on the day before in any one or more of those things.

That basically sums me up in a nutshell.

Sleepy

another question wrote: »

I want all this and I am much younger than you. My problem, I am impatient and think I will never have anything unless I have it now or in the foreseeable future. You mention been able to buy your own home within the next 5 years...obviously you are very positive and driven but does 5 years sound a little or a lot of time for you...or are you have that this is a mid-range reachable goal...

You certainly aren't old by any standards but thats how I feel when I feel things are out of my reach. Are you were organised, have plans for each step, very positive attitude etc...

While my salary could currently service a mortgage (I've paid at least 1k a month in rent for 4 years now) I've some debts that'll take me the next three years to clear (unless I manage to start paying it down early) and I'd need a couple of years to save a deposit so 5 years seems a realistic target on the house-buying front. I'd think twice about buying just yet anyway as I believe the property market has further falls to come. I think 5 years will be leaving it too late to buy at the absolute bottom but with our economy the way it is, I don't see them rocketing off the bottom either...

kneemos

Sex,money,food,drink,a bit of sport on the telly.

RobbingBandit

To die happy knowing I had the world in the palm of my hand.

Tabnabs

I've always enjoyed the maxim; "he who dies with the most toys, wins".

Seems like a good goal in life...

DipStick McSwindler

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Emeraldy Pebbles

Piliger wrote: »

Men of what age ...... ? Every man goes through many phases in his life. Starting from complete indifference to what happens tomorrow, never mind having an 'aim'. And every man reaches these phases at completely different ages.

Well, presumably men of any age! That would be part of the interest of this thread, to see what different life stages do to a man's priorities.

BopNiblets

I seek the Grail!

Happiness, contentment? If a lovely woman is the way to go for this I'm game.

Dravokivich

Don't have any specific goals myself, rarely think further than the week ahead.

I suppose I could say what I'd want from life is a sense of balance, in various aspects:

Health (Physical/Mental)
Emotional
Work
Recreation
Responsibility/Irresponsibility
Personality


Would definitely agree along the lines of what taxAHcruel has said as well. There's always room for one to continue and expand on one's personal development. I don't make it a goal myself on a daily basis, but always keen to take up the chance and rarely try to dismiss it.

enviro

Career focused right now but still open for business on the relationship front...

helimachoptor

Not in any particular order.

Happy marriage - Going well so far
Healthy kids - No kids yet
Good career - in progress cant complain at this point
Work in NYC - Still a pipe dream

the_syco

krudler wrote: »

Crush your enemies, see them driven before you, hear the lamentations of their women.

I generally have no enemies. If someone pisses me off, I remove them from the picture.

=-=

Short-term goal; find out how to learn technical information. Currently I do not know how I learn info (passively learn stuff), but wish to find out so I can actively learn stuff that has no value to my current life, but would enable me to progress more in my career.

1ZRed

I think if you're happy and you stay that way for as much as your life as possible, you're doing damn well.

MC Homicidal Maniac

I wanna finish the Song of Ice and Fire series.

That_Guy

Finish off my back catalogue of games.... I estimate I'll get through them by the age of 50 so I'll go and get married after that.

Stheno

Sleepy wrote: »

I'm 32, educated to post-grad level, engaged, 2 kids, working in I.T. and renting.

Current goals are to get all debts paid off and buy our own home within the next 5 years.
Longer term I'd like to own and work in my own business of some sort, a café, bar, shop of some sort and do all the travelling I missed out on in my youth while semi-retired (can't imagine ever being able to retire fully).

I'm crashing as I'm female, but I'm sleepy albeit with potential step kids and the same goal, to be self employed.

Like to diversify into something other than IT that I can do when I retire, possibly property though I've an idea for a couple of underserved websites

Sleepy wrote: »

While my salary could currently service a mortgage (I've paid at least 1k a month in rent for 4 years now) I've some debts that'll take me the next three years to clear (unless I manage to start paying it down early) and I'd need a couple of years to save a deposit so 5 years seems a realistic target on the house-buying front. I'd think twice about buying just yet anyway as I believe the property market has further falls to come. I think 5 years will be leaving it too late to buy at the absolute bottom but with our economy the way it is, I don't see them rocketing off the bottom either...

I'm the same, I have a property not in negative equity (pure luck) so I can sell that and move in to something different.

1ZRed wrote: »

I think if you're happy and you stay that way for as much as your life as possible, you're doing damn well.

I think this is a very strong statement, I constantly ask myself if I am content with my life, and if not, what can I do.

Answer is, I am, but could do better, so I ask myself what stops me?

Snowie

I want to build my own house I refuse to live in a red brick cliche.
I want the woman of my dreams... Oh yes she will be mine oh yes she will be mine...

To enjoy my life I can't say if I want kids... Simply because I think that's a dessision based on two not one..

To have a very nice office, be wealthy enough that at the drop of a hat we can fvck off to a euro city stay in a nice hotel and enjoy each others company... Other then t hat I'm not to fussed I like life's suprises

More so I want to be happy with some one who wants to be happy and glides above drama with elegance like a sparrow hawk

smash

Make money, f*ck bitches.... Although I'm not a rapper so I might go back to the drawing board.

MC Homicidal Maniac

smash wrote: »

Make money, f*ck bitches.... Although I'm not a rapper so I might go back to the drawing board.

Go for it. If Kanye West and Nicki Minaj can do it, so can you.

pom pom snaz peeler

be fruitful, multiply, fill the earth and conquer it..... thats what that baldy priest told me!

smash

MC Homicidal Maniac wrote: »

smash wrote: »

Make money, f*ck bitches.... Although I'm not a rapper so I might go back to the drawing board.

Go for it. If Kanye West and Nicki Minaj can do it, so can you.

You're right, I should put pen to paper!!!

MC Homicidal Maniac

smash wrote: »

You're right, I should put pen to paper!!!

There's a reason they call me smash
I'll **** up your whole crew and take all their cash

Chiram

I wanted a career and all that when I was in my twenties. The money, access to drugs and sexual deviancy that money brings were also fun learning experiences. But I grew out of them.

Now I'm older and I find myself wanting a more self sufficient life. I've been getting into aquaponics to produce my own fish and food. The next step will be to move down the country before my first kid comes along in a few months and to try set up shop there, settle down and build a blissfully mundane life.

The connected modern world is great and there's lots I can take from it but in the end its the old clichès of family, friends and personal sovereignty or freedom that become increasingly important. I'll use what I learned in my twenties to build my vision of a comfortable life now.

Maybe that's just me though. I'm not particularly usual.

Tchaikovsky

To achieve something of note, such as writing a novel that somebody thought was great, or having an exhibition of my art or my photographs. It'd be ideal if I could be doing something creative as a living, with some stability.

I don't think I'll ever get married, but to spend the rest of my days besotted with the most beautiful, smart and funny girl I've ever met would be great... fat chance

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Chiram wrote: »

I wanted a career and all that when I was in my twenties. The money, access to drugs and sexual deviancy that money brings were also fun learning experiences. But I grew out of them.

Now I'm older and I find myself wanting a more self sufficient life. I've been getting into aquaponics to produce my own fish and food. The next step will be to move down the country before my first kid comes along in a few months and to try set up shop there, settle down and build a blissfully mundane life.

The connected modern world is great and there's lots I can take from it but in the end its the old clichès of family, friends and personal sovereignty or freedom that become increasingly important. I'll use what I learned in my twenties to build my vision of a comfortable life now.

Maybe that's just me though. I'm not particularly usual.

Love this!

smash

Chiram wrote: »

The next step will be to move down the country before my first kid comes along in a few months and to try set up shop there, settle down and build a blissfully mundane life.

Seeing as you've lived your life as far as you're concerned, that's all well and good. But it's not really much of a life for a child.

Chiram

smash wrote: »

Chiuram wrote: »

The next step will be to move down the country before my first kid comes along in a few months and to try set up shop there, settle down and build a blissfully mundane life.

Seeing as you've lived your life as far as you're concerned, that's all well and good. But it's not really much of a life for a child.

I didn't ask for your opinion I was offering my own. Its of no concern to me how you choose to drag up your children so please don't assume that you know the best way for the whole world.

80s Child

Chiram wrote: »

I didn't ask for your opinion I was offering my own. Its of no concern to me how you choose to drag up your children so please don't assume that you know the best way for the whole world.

Ha...bitch slapped....;)


To be healthy and happy. Just after buying our dream home at a price we couldnt have dreamnt about.

To have enough money to do what we want, not too much that we forget the value of it.

To have fun and enjoy life!!

massdebater

I'm currently 26, single, living overseas and have done the usual stuff so far in life. By luck, I managed to narrowly avoid the Irish property 'ladder' - in 2009 I had a mortgage approved and house picked, only for a sudden bout of cold feet made me cancel the whole thing. This was one of the defining points in my life and one which I'm forever grateful happened!

My current goal is to keep my head down and save as much money as I can until I'm 29. Hopefully save 80-100k. My plan then is to leave my job and spend 4 or 5 years seeing the world. I'll re-evaluate my situation when I return but I plan to have a fun and laid back life after that. I have no desire to spend time chasing a hugely successful career - just something easy that can afford me to be happy in life.

I have no desire to own my own house and highly doubt I ever will. I have no plans to get married but I'll not write it off completely, after all, I have no idea what will happen. I definitely don't want children though so that will probably scare off a lot of potential fair maidens.

Anyway, sorry for rambling. Feels good to write all that down though. Congratulations on reading this far if you did! Disclaimer: I'm still relatively young and, while I don't think I am, I very well may be a little naive about life and where I see myself in a few years. Hopefully I don't grow up too fast and lose sight of the things I'd really like to do.

C.D.

When I was younger I was convinced that earning big bucks, having a nice car, good job and all the other trappings of success and social status would bring me happiness.

It took moving halfway across the world for me to learn some hard truths about myself.. I've got all of the above; a salary and standard of living that is leagues ahead of anyone from my classes in school or college.. and I'm as unhappy as I was back home.

At the end of the day all I want is to meet a nice girl and settle down. God knows I've been through enough disastrous relationships! Unfortunately this is the most challenging aspect of life and one I've found limited success in. I've actually met a girl I'm crazy about but the more we date the more I'm convinced it's not reciprocated.

smash

Chiram wrote: »

I didn't ask for your opinion I was offering my own. Its of no concern to me how you choose to drag up your children so please don't assume that you know the best way for the whole world.

My point was that you said you've done this, done that etc. Would you not want your child to experience some of it too?

Handsome Bob

To not define myself by what others think of me. I think if I can manage that then all the other stuff like contentness in life an a good career will fall into place.

getzls

Another ten years to pay my mortgage off, then move out.

She can have the house, i just want out.