Did you ask your partner's parents before proposing?

God...

HeyThereDeliah wrote: »

One view on one thing that she probably heard her father speak about as she grew up, girls do it for their dads to involve them that's all.
We could go on all night about lots of things we do out of habit or tradition,
Something old ,something new etc still goes on, what is the meaning of this only tradition.
Why do people go on honeymoon ? You see what I mean, it's life and we try keep everyone happy.

They want a holiday after the stress of paying a shit load of money on a day for people that they haven't much in common with but feel obliged to due to blood ties????

Zulu

God... wrote: »

I think people are evolving a bit and the old backwards way of thinking is dying out.

:rolleyes:
Well there you have it, consideration for your wife & your future family is a symptom of not beig evoloved, and backward!
I've heard it all.

God...

HeyThereDeliah wrote: »

One view on one thing that she probably heard her father speak about as she grew up, girls do it for their dads to involve them that's all.
We could go on all night about lots of things we do out of habit or tradition,
Something old ,something new etc still goes on, what is the meaning of this only tradition.
Why do people go on honeymoon ? You see what I mean, it's life and we try keep everyone happy.

All jokes aside, we really could and they're all equally stupid. Tradition doesn't make things less ridiculous. Just means stupid people are stupid.

He can walk her down the aisle. Otherwise the day is about the bride and groom.

God...

Zulu wrote: »

:rolleyes:
Well there you have it, consideration for your wife & your future family is a symptom of not beig evoloved, and backward!
I've heard it all.

:rolleyes:Explain in detail please??? and could you quote in full, thanks.:rolleyes:

Jogathon

My dad was asked by my now brother-in-law and it was a complete surprise. They'd been living together for years, and dad was really quite chuffed that he'd been asked. He didn't expect it and neither did any of us, but it really made my dad's day!

It's a traditional thing, it's not a big deal, and I suppose it depends on how close the father and daughter are?

Zulu

Gongoozler wrote: »

You're not explaining how it is out of respect to your wife and her father.

Apologies, I thought this was self-evident. I was respecting their wishes by doing what they would have/did want me to do.
My wife wanted me to respect her father and his wishes. My wife wanted me to ask him.
My father-in-law wanted me to respect this tradition because it included him & his wife in the process. It'd made them happy - for whatever reason (I didn't quiz him as to why).

And if you think it's respectful to do it, it would be a logical thing for me to assume that you think it's disrespectful not to do it.

It may be logical, but it's not correct. What is respectful for my wife and her family wouldn't apply to you (unless you intended to marry my wife).

Clearly as another posted stated it would be disrespectful in her family to ask...
Different strokes for different folks; diplomacy.

God... wrote: »

Tradition doesn't make things less ridiculous. Just means stupid people are stupid.

:rolleyes: So we're less evolved, backward, & stupid for respecting our wives wishes? Wow. You're really good at getting indirect insults into your posts.

He can walk her down the aisle.

Why stop at asking him? Why allow him to walk her down the aisle?

ccull123

NiallSparky wrote: »

I think it's disrespectful to the potential wife. It's an outdated, sexist practice.

Understand your point but I just dont see how it is disrespectful to ask the father of your potential wife for his blessing!

Smoggy

Merch wrote: »

I'm suspicious some kind of deal went on behind my back, exchange of brown envelopes, I just dont get it otherwise.

I requested a dowry to take my wifes hand from her father. We started off at two cows, a sheep and his new flat screen TV, However I ended up with a KFC Bargain Bucket.

renofan

We were already engaged when I just asked him if he didn't mind me marrying his daughter. We were going out over six years at this stage and I knew him very well.....t'was more for the craic than anything. His reply.....I thought I'd never got rid of her!

flutterflye

My husband possibly hates my dad more than I do, so no, he did not ask his permission!

My sister in law's husband asked my father in law's permission though.

Each to their own and all that, but I think it's ridiculous!!

fuerte1976

flutterflye wrote: »

My husband possibly hates my dad more than I do, so no, he did not ask his permission!

My sister in law's husband asked my father in law's permission though.

Each to their own and all that, but I think it's ridiculous!!

That's sad ...

oldyouth

My father in law was way too scary (at the time) for me to ask for permission. On the night we told her parents, he was called in from the telly room in order to break the news. His reaction was to declare that 'this better be good, James Bond is on the telly'. He was back in front of it within a minute.

Get along great now though:p

Merch

Smoggy wrote: »

I requested a dowry to take my wifes hand from her father. We started off at two cows, a sheep and his new flat screen TV, However I ended up with a KFC Bargain Bucket.

a bucket over the head, thats an awful waste of food, even if it is kfc