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Masturbating is a problem?

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    #32
    keelanj69
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    From what Ive read he has life too good. Sounds like a douchebag imo. A less tolerant person would leave him..


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    Neyite
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    itsher wrote: »
    Also, I have to say how bad this porn habit is. My Dad has recently had a nice chat with me about the last time we stayed the weekend at his home for the summer. He says when waking up early around 3am (as he does for his job) he's caught my boyfriend on HIS computer watching porn and.. doing his "activities" in the middle of the living room each day we stayed at his house. I have a younger sibling, around 10, and my Dad is also worried about them walking in on him and also just the entirety of disrespect he believes my boyfriend has for his household. Plus he's also confessed to me he's heard us arguing about this and also believes that if he cared about my feelings he would of stopped a long time ago.

    I'm severely embarrassed knowing my own father has now walked in on my boyfriend masturbating and extremely upset that he couldn't even control himself for one weekend. We had another argument and he's staying at his friends house for the moment. I'm at my breaking point.

    :eek: This would be my deal-breaker to be honest. Its one thing constantly masturbating in the privacy of your own home, but quite another to do it in another persons home, using their computer, in a communal room in the house where relatives and children could walk in. Its disgraceful, disrespectful.


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    ibarelycare
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    It sounds very much like your boyfriend has a porn addiction. When people are addicted to things it starts having a detrimental effect on their everyday life and it looks like that is happening here. He needs to talk to a counsellor. If he's not willing to address this issue then how long more can you stay with him?


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    #35
    LegacyUser
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    Neyite wrote: »
    :eek: This would be my deal-breaker to be honest. Its one thing constantly masturbating in the privacy of your own home, but quite another to do it in another persons home, using their computer, in a communal room in the house where relatives and children could walk in. Its disgraceful, disrespectful.

    +1 I totally agree with this post but wanted to add my bit.

    Porn addiction or not your bf has no self control and respect to your family and their home. I know if my father came up to me and told me something like that, I would throw my bf to the curb, OP. I would be p!ssed if anyone was using my computer to look at porn. I work from the home and my computer is my company's property! Any porn on it would have me terminated! Also what if it was your younger sibling instead of your father that caught him:eek::mad:. From reading your other posts, your boyfriend doesn't sound like a nice guy. He has entirely neglected you and the relationship. There are countless people out there who watch porn and masturbate frequently and not many of them suffer the ill effects on their sex lives, their relationships and lack the common sense to act in such a manner especially in somebody else's home. The fact he was not able to control himself over a weekend raises red flags. Unfortunately, there is nothing more you can do really. You told him how you feel about it. Now it is up to him to confront his problem and sort himself out.

    I don't like to tell people what to do on Boards but reading what you wrote thus far, I strongly suggest to leave him! What he did in your father's home would be my last straw if I were you. I would like to say that you are a saint to stay and put up with this to tolerate such behaviour, disregard, lack of respect and neglect. I can imagine the humiliation your father went through witnessing that. I feel just as bad for him as I do for you. I have to commend your father's composure because if your bf was caught doing something like that by my father in his house, your bf would be interrupted during his solo act and asked to leave pronto!

    I certainly do not envy you and am truly sorry you have to go through something like this. I am afraid there isn't anything else you can do except take care of yourself.


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