What Do You Think Is Other People's Perception Of You?

SocSocPol

Arrogant,rude , stand offish.
truth I'm actually none of them at all

Novella

I've had a few people say to me, after I'd gotten to know them, that they were too shy/scared to start talking to me so I guess I must intimidating in some way. That makes me sad 'cause I love meeting new people and I'd pretty much talk to anybody.

Other than that, I don't really know.

dr.bollocko

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Funglegunk

As very hot/cold. This can become confusing for people, it's not intentional though.

John Doe1

most think i'm an 42yo Russian Oligarch

Feeona

I haven't a bull's notion what other people think of me. I used to care....A LOT....but I don't care anymore.



Yours sincerely

Old Lady Who Used to Dance With The Birds On O'Connell Street, Dublin

boomtown123

Depends who I'm with - usually quiet and distant to people I don't really know - especially in groups and around b*itchy girls.

Kind, fun and a little bit mad in the head - once people get to know me.

mongdesade

People view me as charismatic, intelligent, charming...& incredibly modest :rolleyes:

PS...I'm a completely self-centred, arrogant wánker, truth be known

paddyandy

I wonder about that and it's not the me in the mirror .People are mostly very bad listeners that's been a bit of a shock on returning to Ireland some years ago .
People don't ask or answer questions directly here either most of the time .

Conor_Sammon

Roberto Martínez' bald-headed workhorse.

guitarzero

People who've known me all my life still cant really pigeon hole me. Although in later years they probably percieve me as becoming a lot more serious and sombre.

Much the same with friends and new acquiantences, I've never given much of a crap about what people talk about so I'd probably be percieved as pretty aloof, avoidant, disinterested, serious but all the while tolerant.

rugrats

I tend not to talk a lot ever with people I don't know that well. There's only a few people that I feel able to talk to properly. With other people I tend to just waffle on or run out of things to say. I'm not very conversational, I'm not witty, and I think that makes people think that I don't want to bother with them when really I just have no idea to do when I'm in a one-to-one situation. Then, when I'm in a group, I think I'm more open and talk more because listening to other people gives you more scope to make your own conversation. I like to laugh, inappropriately, I've been told.

When I know somebody well, I really do care about them, and I would do anything for them, but I'm afraid that people who don't know me well enough just think I'm a superficial prick.

GarIT

My mom says I'm cool and that's all that matters.

kfallon

Conor_Sammon wrote: »

Roberto Martínez' bald-headed workhorse who wouldn't score in the proverbial whorehouse.

FYP

The King of Moo

In real life:
I usually come across as tall with a slightly receding hairline.
I seem quiet at first, but people usually seem to see me as a subtly obtuse joker after a while.
I probably come across as slightly patronising but well-meaning and occasionally helpful when helping new employees at work.
In general I come across as laid back and fairly stress-resistant, with a broad knowledge of trivia and grammar, and an impressive vocabulary.

Online:
Justifiably patronising.

Lippy C

In real life I am honest,sarcastic call a spade a spade!! I did meet a priest in someones house for the first time and as he was going out the door said to me nice to meet you..you are a street angel house devil...from a priest I had just met...WTF

EdanHewittt

What Do You Think Is Other People's Perception Of You?

Perception / Conception?

Because if people perceive you, they witness first hand who you actually are.

If people conceive who you are, then they imagine who you ought to be.

I was thought this universal rule of social dynamics when I was five years of age.

Sadly, the per/con rule only gets learned by some people in their twenty somethings. Horrible to see them learning this so late in life.

callaway92

ThomasFlynn wrote: »

Oh boy where do I start?

Well I believe the world dislikes me or doesn't want to know me so its part of the reason why I don't have any real friends or any sort of a proper social life. I am a bit of a recluse yes and have chosen to be like this because I believe wants me to be this way. I fear if I tried to go out and make friends the world will attempt to disown me so feel as if its better not to socialise in the first place as thats what the world wants me to be I think as I say.

Its become a bit of problem for me however because I am 25 now, 26 next month and I have no girlfriend, never had a girlfriend and no friends and its pretty caused me to go into a mass spiral of depression being like this. I actually attempted suicide on the 25th of april earlier this year because I thought my life wasn't worth living any longer and I didn't want to grow old being this way. I feared being a failure, particularly socially. Die a virgin and a loner etc.

I have to admit I avoid all my cousins, aunts, uncles etc because I don't want them to see me as this recluse and think I'm weird, see me with no girlfriend etc. My lifestyle becomes embarresing so I avoid them and pretend I just simply don't exist in the long run sadly.

I walk around Belfast for example and see couples holding hands, young people messing about and me, and this sad sad sad loser at near 26, with no friends or anything, looking a loner for so long, and it really gets me down.

So its interesting you talk about public perception as its is everything for me. Part of my depression and dealing with it or defeating it even is to change this perception, of how I think the world thinks of me. Because otherwise, its becoming dangerous and even lethal, leading me to have the current lifestyle I have.

Since my suicide attempt, I have had counselling (for the first time), anti-depressants (being diagnosed with severe depression) and have to visit a mental health unit once a week. I have to go through a programme called Cognetive Therapy Behaviour, to attempt to systematically change the way I think and how the I think percieves me.

So I don't want to be a downer to this thread, you're all probably sick of hearing my story over and over :P but I just though this was relevant as public perception is everything to me right now sadly.

Its ok when some people don't like you, thats natural, but when nobody likes you and nobody gets on with you thats when it becomes a problem at least for me, and psycologically, it destroys me long term and it has become hard to live with, and its that I have to change.

Fúcking found this very tough to read

Good luck to you and I hope your future is a very successful one.

Pottler

People percieve me as a feckin ATM. Really, they do. I'm a born workhorse, always was. My function in life appears to be to provide a living for a lot of families and I'd imagine people who know me percieve me to be just a ruthless b4stard/source of funds. I highly doubt if any but a close few regard me as anything but a moneybags to be tapped when required. I'd say I'm also percieved as very jaded and cynical-which I probably am. My kids and wife like me, but I'd say that's the extent of a fairly short list.

RUCKING FETARD

EdanHewittt wrote: »

Perception / Conception?

Because if people perceive you, they witness first hand who you actually are.

If people conceive who you are, then they imagine who you ought to be.

I was thought this universal rule of social dynamics when I was five years of age.

Sadly, the per/con rule only gets learned by some people in their twenty somethings. Horrible to see them learning this so late in life.

You've taken "Grammar Nazi" to a whole new level there.

For some reason I was reminded of this ad reading your post.

Hate that ad.

EdanHewittt

"Oooh look, he wears a Mc Donalds uniform. This guy == Epic Meal, etc)
"Oooh look, he's not wearing black clothing down Grafton Street, he must not have a vacuous Session through the Recession mentality)

(Maybe he works in Govindas. So much Orange Paisley patterns going on there, etc)

Not a grammar issue!

This is a social problem that needs to be addressed.

Who wants their True Self to be shown everywhere they go! (perception) Yuck!
( Walking naked thru Dublin City Center is embarrassing )

I am the boards.ie Social Worker in disguise.

People's conception of you For Teh Win.

Washington Irving

That I'm class and they're not wrong

leggo

I realised years back that pretty much everyone who met me had the exact same thought process, though each stage at a different time. Think it still holds true:

1) Wanker
2) No wait, he said a funny joke.
3) Wait, he's a bit weird/controversial/mean or something along those lines.
4) Of those who got to know me better, then they think "ah he's actually alright, there's some method to his madness. I don't get it or care but I'm happy to leave him to it."
5) Some people who get to know me better then think, "****e, I find myself agreeing with a lot of what he says now. What if I'm the weird one?"
6) Then it becomes, "ah he's a prick, but he's funny about it and seems a nice guy deep down."

These days, knowing all of that...I probably could change it. But I'm getting too old to care, so I just let it all play out and let them make their mind up for themselves.

LH Pathe

GarIT wrote: »

My mom says I'm cool and that's all that matters.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T69CCsfaZlA