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The Online Dating Thread 3..**READ 1ST POST Oct 2012**

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    #1592
    Esoteric_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,255 ✭✭✭✭Esoteric_


    Well, my POF and OKC profiles are now completely gone.

    This makes me happy.

    Only took about two months and I got a boyfriend. Thank god I actually had the courage to go for it and message people back. Usually I'm too shy! :pac:

    I'll still pop in here because I love this thread, but yay for me. Hope you all have equal success! :)


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    #1593
    SpaceRocket
    Registered Users Posts: 233 ✭✭SpaceRocket


    A little experiment I'll share with you guys..

    I like okc over pof, have found the profiles to be of better quality overall and less of the sleezy messages etc.
    From the start I should mention that on pof i have, for a long time, had my photos on private and a massively filled out profile.

    So, last night (22 hours ago to be precise!), for the sake of experiment, I decided to change my photos on pof from hidden to public..

    58 unsolicited messages recieved later... I am down to just six messages recieved which consist of more than 'hi how r u' or 'damn ur an *expletive*'

    That's approx 10% of all messages recieved :eek:

    And I have strict restrictions on who can mail me, no one who has sought intimate encounters, no one who is married, etc.

    Out of that, there are just two I would reply to based upon what they have wrote.
    Compare that to okc, where I would gauge at less than 10% of messages being of the 'how r u' variety.
    Granted, there are waaaay more users on pof, but still... Interesting.


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    #1594
    Herrick
    Closed Accounts Posts: 903 ✭✭✭Herrick


    smileyj1987 wrote: »
    I was seeing someone from POF but she didn't tell me she had a kid but before people say i dumped her because she had a child . I dumped her because she wasn't telling me the truth . If she could hide the fact she had a child she could anything and that would worry me .

    Even if you did there's nothing wrong with dumping/not wanting to see someone if they have a child. Now before someone says why see them in the first place if the kids are an issue, there are obviously some people who try to make a go of it but end up realizing it's not for them. Most people I know wouldn't be interested in seeing someone that already had kids, well in my age bracket (23) anyway. The older you get things change I suppose for some, especially if you have kids of your own.

    Your case was even worse given the fact she actually lied about it. I'd agree you are right to worry what else she may lie about. But I'd say she probably kept stum initially in case it would scare you off and maybe hoped to win you over. Let's face it, the majority of previous fellas prob disappeared once she said she had kids.

    To be honest I think most people can understand if someone doesn't want to date a person who has kids. Although I have met a few delusional people who think it shouldn't be problem at all and your some sort of a bastard/bitch for not willing to take them on.

    I even remember once reading a post here on Boards about some woman saying a guy she was seeing for a while called time on things cause he felt he wouldn't be able to hack raising another mans child in the long run. She said it was a shame cause he was a good guy.

    Some idiot chipped in with "He's no loss. He's obviously not a nice guy if he isn't willing to take your kids on board hun :) xxx"


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    #1595
    Samich
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,949 ✭✭✭Samich


    supermommy wrote: »
    In relation to the girls putting socialising as their interests...
    The amount of guys that put 'working out' 'staying fit' 'love the gym' etc...
    FFS. We get it    . It's like the people on Facebook always posting that they are hitting the gym. Its actually becoming a pet peeve of mine at this point!
    Ok, rant over :)

    What's wrong with saying you like to keep fit?


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    #1596
    Samich
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,949 ✭✭✭Samich


    Also the one and only girl who seemed cool and was chatty with me hasn't gotten back to me, she didn't reply one day before and said she was busy the next day with GAA, but it's been 5 days or so since I've heard from her and she's logged in and I sent one more message. Now no one else I want to message on pof :(


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    #1597
    SpaceRocket
    Registered Users Posts: 233 ✭✭SpaceRocket


    Samich wrote: »
    What's wrong with saying you like to keep fit?

    It's a bit overused, it's mentioned in nearly every second profile.. Similar to the 'like drinking, like socialising' gripe

    Re the childrens photos on profiles, i don't agree with it i think you should have enough respect for the privacy of your children to not have their faces posted on a dating site.

    And in relation to the having a child issue, I have a child and due to same I tend to go for guys who are a good bit older than me and whose lifestyles and mentality are usually more suited to mine. I have refined my 'mommy radar' to be able to guage the ones who aren't up for the challange pretty quickly.

    But saying that, I would have absolutely noooo contention with someone who isn't up for dating a mother or a father. Sure, half my friends would be that way inclined, doesn't make me love then any less!!


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    #1598
    Samich
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,949 ✭✭✭Samich


    SpaceRocket wrote: »
    It's a bit overused, it's mentioned in nearly every second profile.. Similar to the 'like drinking, like socialising' gripe

    =!

    Ah but people say they like going out/cinema/reading/playing soccer just as much :)


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    #1599
    SpaceRocket
    Registered Users Posts: 233 ✭✭SpaceRocket


    Samich wrote: »
    Ah but people say they like going out/cinema/reading/playing soccer just as much :)

    My personal gripe with it for what its worth would be that I tend to get along better with 'outdoorsey' type getting-fitters over the gym-buffers.

    Not meaning to make a massive generalisation here, at all, but on the whole I've found my personality tends to be more compatible with guys who are into climbling running cycling or whatever over the ketone busters. Nothing against them though! :)


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    #1600
    Samich
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,949 ✭✭✭Samich


    SpaceRocket wrote: »
    My personal gripe with it for what its worth would be that I tend to get along better with 'outdoorsey' type getting-fitters over the gym-buffers.

    Not meaning to make a massive generalisation here, at all, but on the whole I've found my personality tends to be more compatible with guys who are into climbling running cycling or whatever over the ketone busters. Nothing against them though! :)

    The difference between the 2 is one likes climbing/running/cycling and keeping fit rather than keeping fit :P


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    #1601
    SpaceRocket
    Registered Users Posts: 233 ✭✭SpaceRocket


    Samich wrote: »
    The difference between the 2 is one likes climbing/running/cycling and keeping fit rather than keeping fit :P

    You're right there... :p

    I reckon though that, "gym", "drink", and "women", are and always have been the three most commonly used words on the males profiles.

    What would you reckon it to be on the wimens??


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    #1602
    chocolatrose
    Closed Accounts Posts: 118 ✭✭chocolatrose


    I'm really puzzled by this meet me feature on pof...is it genuine or not??

    I only started noticing it lately myself even though I don't use it but seriously I'm not too sure about it

    If all these people want to meet you why don't they message you?


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    #1603
    Daveysil15
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,301 ✭✭✭Daveysil15


    SpaceRocket wrote: »
    You're right there... :p

    I reckon though that, "gym", "drink", and "women", are and always have been the three most commonly used words on the males profiles.

    What would you reckon it to be on the wimens??

    I reckon they'd have a lot more words.


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    #1604
    smileyj1987
    Registered Users Posts: 5,325 ✭✭✭smileyj1987


    chocolatrose wrote: »
    I'm really puzzled by this meet me feature on pof...is it genuine or not??

    I only started noticing it lately myself even though I don't use it but seriously I'm not too sure about it

    If all these people want to meet you why don't they message you?

    Last person who said they would like to meet me on pof didn't respond when I sent her a mail :rolleyes::rolleyes:


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    #1605
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    supermommy wrote: »
    In relation to the girls putting socialising as their interests...
    The amount of guys that put 'working out' 'staying fit' 'love the gym' etc...
    FFS. We get it. It's like the people on Facebook always posting that they are hitting the gym. Its actually becoming a pet peeve of mine at this point!
    Ok, rant over :)

    I usually send them this:

    What-if-I-told-you-Facebook-gym-status.jpg

    I actually find the gym very boring. My membership is seriously going to waste. Must mention taht on my profile actually...


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    #1606
    G-Money
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,199 ✭✭✭G-Money


    So the girl I like mailed me back earlier, although I did end up sending her another reply yesterday just asking how she was. Her response was ok-ish, a short one or two liner and asked how I was. It definitely didn't strike me as someone who was mad interested. I think I'll put a line through that one and move on.

    My membership of a paid site ends in about 10 minutes. I bet I will get an email from some girl tomorrow or something :)


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    #1607
    Esoteric_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,255 ✭✭✭✭Esoteric_


    Galvasean wrote: »
    I usually send them this:

    What-if-I-told-you-Facebook-gym-status.jpg

    I actually find the gym very boring. My membership is seriously going to waste. Must mention taht on my profile actually...

    I must be a man. I friggin' love the gym!


    So, anyone got any dates lined up this week?? :)


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    #1608
    GrumPy
    Registered Users Posts: 6,557 ✭✭✭GrumPy


    LyndaMcL wrote: »

    So, anyone got any dates lined up this week?? :)

    Was supposed to have one this week. She closed her POF and boards account though, & I never got her number. :pac:

    lasAD.png


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    #1609
    Piliger
    Registered Users Posts: 6,741 ✭✭✭Piliger


    Hey .... on OKC what is the double talk bubble down on the right hand side of the screen ? Cant figure it :rolleyes:


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    #1610
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    Piliger wrote: »
    Hey .... on OKC what is the double talk bubble down on the right hand side of the screen ? Cant figure it :rolleyes:

    It's an IM client, so other users can send you IMs while you're logged in.


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    #1611
    Piliger
    Registered Users Posts: 6,741 ✭✭✭Piliger


    chocolatrose wrote: »
    I'm really puzzled by this meet me feature on pof...is it genuine or not??

    I only started noticing it lately myself even though I don't use it but seriously I'm not too sure about it

    If all these people want to meet you why don't they message you?

    Well, I guess it is intended to be like sending a wave. If you agree then message back.

    But then, as someone else says here ... why don't people who claim they want to meet you, answer a message ? :rolleyes:

    We'll never solve the mysteries of the universe until we figure that one out :D


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    #1612
    Piliger
    Registered Users Posts: 6,741 ✭✭✭Piliger


    Karsini wrote: »
    It's an IM client, so other users can send you IMs while you're logged in.

    Thanks...are IMs not just the Messages in your IN box ? :confused:


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    #1613
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    Piliger wrote: »
    Thanks...are IMs not just the Messages in your IN box ? :confused:

    Nope, there's an "IM History" which is separate to the inbox.


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    #1614
    Piliger
    Registered Users Posts: 6,741 ✭✭✭Piliger


    Karsini wrote: »
    Nope, there's an "IM History" which is separate to the inbox.

    Hmmmm... maybe that's only for paid up members ... 'cos I don't see any of this anywhere. Well sorry ... I see the IM history ... but not buttons to send IMs...


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    #1615
    Samich
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,949 ✭✭✭Samich


    SpaceRocket wrote: »
    You're right there... :p

    I reckon though that, "gym", "drink", and "women", are and always have been the three most commonly used words on the males profiles.

    What would you reckon it to be on the wimens??

    Hmm that's a toughie. I honestly don't know.

    I also don't like the drink interest :P


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    #1616
    Hardonraging
    Registered Users Posts: 2,641 ✭✭✭Hardonraging


    ladylost wrote: »
    Are you going to reply? Oh and what's knifey spoony or do I ask?

    knifey spoony from an episode of the simpsons ... pop culture ref if you wish

    LyndaMcL wrote: »
    I must be a man. I friggin' love the gym!


    So, anyone got any dates lined up this week?? :)

    I love the gym also !!! but for lot's of reasons and i dont harp on about it ..

    I will in future tho :D

    Also, think i might have something going on friday night ..

    GrumPy wrote: »
    Was supposed to have one this week. She closed her POF and boards account though, & I never got her number. :pac:

    lasAD.png

    Doesn't that strike you as .... odd ? both account's closed ehh ..


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    #1617
    SarahLxx
    Registered Users Posts: 3 ✭SarahLxx


    personally i think online datings crazy, cuz ya never no who the true person behing the computer screen is, its so easy to fake who you are!


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    #1618
    Hardonraging
    Registered Users Posts: 2,641 ✭✭✭Hardonraging


    SarahLxx wrote: »
    personally i think online datings crazy, cuz ya never no who the true person behing the computer screen is, its so easy to fake who you are!

    1. Picture
    2. Facebook
    3. Fone number ..

    The above are the step's i take to be sure somebody's real, and not some 40 year old weirdo ...


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    #1619
    MarkyTheLips
    Closed Accounts Posts: 209 ✭✭MarkyTheLips


    chocolatrose wrote: »
    Ah well, I have make-up artistry down as an interest so that may indeed give the impression of high maintenance...hmmm I wonder would that be an issue:confused:...I don't really know what some guys consider to be high maintenance though

    To be honest think it's the shock factor he's using alright to provoke a response from me..he's being tactical trying to draw me into a convo I would guess

    Someone sent me a first message before saying "snob" too and honestly my profile comes across as anything but. I would say I come across very easygoing in my profile.

    I have very loose definitions of high maintenance on my profile :D


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    #1620
    CastorTroy
    Registered Users Posts: 28,918 ✭✭✭✭CastorTroy


    Hardonraging wrote: »
    1. Picture
    2. Facebook
    3. Fone number ..

    The above are the step's i take to be sure somebody's real, and not some 40 year old weirdo ...
    Not forgetting meet for first time in a public place. Not like you just turn up at their house.

    Finally updated the profile with pics, so this the part where just sit back and wait for all the messages? :)
    Think will actually become active with it tomorrow. Too late now.


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    #1621
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    Got one of those flirt mails on POF just now. I check out the gal's profile and it consists of one sentence. People need to grow up and be less poxy well lazy on these things :rolleyes:


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