The Online Dating Thread 3..**READ 1ST POST Oct 2012**

mood

sharper wrote: »

Agreed, it's just a slightly jarring detail I've noticed. Translating people's self summaries into real life is tricky business.

Do you think someone who is shy even if it is only shy at first should include or exclude this?

Hardonraging

mood wrote: »

Do you think someone who is shy even if it is only shy at first should include or exclude this?

Maybe " i'm a little reserved at first" as opposed to shy ? I say this for a few reasons .. ahem ..

supermommy

blacklilly wrote: »

I just got this message! I give up.

"Im X and 47 from Y. You are a really good looking woman very attractive you have a fantastic body I really enjoy a woman's company. I really would love to get to know you better. Maybe I'm not your type and is being honest and sincere. I don't beat about the bush. I was married for 22 years I am now single for four years and not had a date in over two years as I was working too hard travelling all over Europe and Middle East, I have changed jobs now I just travel all over the UK and Ireland I'm looking meet a woman who enjoys everything to do with life I enjoy going out good wine good company holidays going to the cinema going to the theatre socialising. I really enjoying sex is my ex-wife did not enjoy sex at all. I'm just making sure why I'm asking the question maybe I'm being too forward if I am I'm sorry. I'm looking for a woman with like-minded I'm a given in bed I really enjoyed woman's body and gentle spontaneous love giving oral can do it for hours love touching, kissing caressing I just enjoy making love. I hope your reply to my message as I do think you are a very attractive good-looking woman and I really would love to get to know you better"

I got the same one!
And he seemed so sincere!
gross.

G-Money

supermommy wrote: »

I got the same one!
And he seemed so sincere!
gross.

In fairness, he did take the time and effort to copy and paste. Surely that's worth something??

sharper

mood wrote: »

Do you think someone who is shy even if it is only shy at first should include or exclude this?

A lot depends on who you want to attract and what type of first impression you want to make. My profile isn't active at the moment but I think I went with "geek" and "quiet" rather than shy because I thought that described me better. Things I'm interested in I have no problem chatting about, the issue for me is usually finding mutual interests because I'm not much into the normal range of stuff.

sharper

sharper wrote: »

A lot depends on who you want to attract and what type of first impression you want to make. My profile isn't active at the moment but I think I went with "geek" and "quiet" rather than shy because I thought that described me better. Things I'm interested in I have no problem chatting about, the issue for me is usually finding mutual interests because I'm not much into the normal range of stuff.

Same as. Was talking to a "geek girl" a couple of times recently - it's great, hehe.

mood

Hardonraging wrote: »

Maybe " i'm a little reserved at first" as opposed to shy ? I say this for a few reasons .. ahem ..

What reasons? I think reserved is more negative than shy. It implies that you are boring and old fashioned IMO.

sharper

Karsini wrote: »

Same as. Was talking to a "geek girl" a couple of times recently - it's great, hehe.

Ha, kudos! It's a hard quality to find even amongst the geeky professions.

GrumPy

Doesn't look like the third lady I met from online dating will be getting back to me anytime soon. Pretty disappointed she didn't at least respond and let me know she's not up for meeting again, rather than just say nothing Guess ya just can't win sometimes!

Third time lucky fail. :pac:
I guess it's not so bad. She was cool, but I randomly got talking to a stranger last weekend and had more craic with her tbh. There is alot to be said about good old fashioned pub randomness!

Have a house warming to attend tomorrow evening followed by heading into town, looking forward to it.

Varied

GrumPy wrote: »

Doesn't look like the third lady I met from online dating will be getting back to me anytime soon. Pretty disappointed she didn't at least respond and let me know she's not up for meeting again, rather than just say nothing Guess ya just can't win sometimes!

Third time lucky fail. :pac:
I guess it's not so bad. She was cool, but I randomly got talking to a stranger last weekend and had more craic with her tbh. There is alot to be said about good old fashioned pub randomness!

Have a house warming to attend tomorrow evening followed by heading into town, looking forward to it.

It doesn't cost much to at least be honest, some people are just attention seeking dicks. Just plain ignoring someone after talking to them is unbelievably dickish.

Samich

Girl is back messaging me again :P But she just seems to go offline mid conversation and replies to me again the next day, I send the first one the next day btw :P

supermommy

G-Money wrote: »

In fairness, he did take the time and effort to copy and paste. Surely that's worth something??

It made me want to take a rape shower in all honesty
I actually got it twice, he must really like me!

Hardonraging

Full moon tonight or something or maybe it's the fact i added a partial picture .. a lot of frisky ladies on pof..

altho i'm sure i spotted one of the girls here having a look, but i cannot msg you , as it transpires you have the ould " dont talk to me if you've looked at another woman who might be sluttier than me" setting switches on ..

sam34

off topic chat posts deleted. please read the rules in the first post.

sam34

folks, if ye are posting messages ye have received from someone, please do not include details like name and location.

and if someone does post those details, please report the post and don't quote it with those details included!

sam_hain

Hey guys,

I was just wondering which site you believe to be better for online dating? I am currently on POF and OKC and they both seem to be the same in terms of people getting back to you (not much in my experience). Is there others out there that are better? Like E-harmony. How is that?

finipops

sam_hain wrote: »

Hey guys,

I was just wondering which site you believe to be better for online dating? I am currently on POF and OKC and they both seem to be the same in terms of people getting back to you (not much in my experience). Is there others out there that are better? Like E-harmony. How is that?

It seems that POF and OKC are the main ones really and i think the E-harmony website was hacked in the last few days with peoples passwords and details taken so you might want to give that one a miss awhile.

herisson

got the weirdest message from this 19 year old asking if i would be turned on by dressing him up as a girl.......no, no i wouldn't

sam_hain

Pixie-Fairy wrote: »

got the weirdest message from this 19 year old asking if i would be turned on by dressing him up as a girl.......no, no i wouldn't

Lol at least you are getting replies.

coco_lola

Pixie-Fairy wrote: »

got the weirdest message from this 19 year old asking if i would be turned on by dressing him up as a girl.......no, no i wouldn't

I got that one too! :eek::eek:

G-Money

Pixie-Fairy wrote: »

got the weirdest message from this 19 year old asking if i would be turned on by dressing him up as a girl.......no, no i wouldn't

Tell him to go watching the Crying Game. It's most guys worse nightmare!

Dolly Daydreams

G-Money wrote: »

Tell him to go watching the Crying Game. It's most guys worse nightmare!

I know all there is to know about the crying...."what the fu*k"

still getting these 'gonna ask you on a date but streel you along for weeks" dudes.. I'm beginning to think I'm giving off a vibe

Novella

So I used POF very briefly before and just now I decided I'd check it out again. I've had my profile online for about half an hour, have received 10 messages and not one of them has mentioned anything related to my interests etc.

I've gotten a message from a "well hung Australian" who wants to know if I'd be interested in some "sexy fun". Hun. Do not call me 'hun'.

I've been told I look like a model. I don't, I really do not.

I've gotten, 'Hey sexy", "Sexy pic", "Nice profile pic". I mean, what kind of response do these people expect? "Thanks"? End of conversation right there. Plus, sexy, really? Sexy? I'm a stranger, any word other than sexy would be more apt imo.

Shit, am I this frustrated already? Bodes well for the future!

cade

Dolly Daydreams wrote: »

still getting these 'gonna ask you on a date but streel you along for weeks" dudes.. I'm beginning to think I'm giving off a vibe

Hate that!

I'm on the opposite side in that the girls I message seem to either cancel dates last minute or seem to be busy whenever I ask to meet up. So I've left them to their own devices and shalln't be making contact again. I've better things to be doing in my life that living on the end of their strings.

On that note I'm back at this again after another break of around four to six weeks and I'm not pleased to see that POF have now designated the 'Viewed me' feature for upgraded users only. First they took away the 'Last online' feature and now this, I'm getting the feeling that any more changes may warrant a permanent exit from that site altogether.

herisson

coco_lola wrote: »

I got that one too! :eek::eek:

i told him not really as it would defeat the purpose as i am looking for a dude
he said that he would do anything if i did....still no

Varied

I decided to try POF after 0 success on okcupid.

I Put a pic up and found I'm getting a few(not many) responses, but it's taking some serious effort to keep the Convo goin.

Seriously tough going but I think Ill get there.

LoTwan

Pixie-Fairy wrote: »

got the weirdest message from this 19 year old asking if i would be turned on by dressing him up as a girl.......no, no i wouldn't

Tell him that's fine by you but he needs to be doing the housework while he's at it Either that or point him towards a kink website where his cross dressing preferences will be seen as a plus :cool:

The Big Red Button

Novella wrote: »

So I used POF very briefly before and just now I decided I'd check it out again. I've had my profile online for about half an hour, have received 10 messages and not one of them has mentioned anything related to my interests etc.

I've gotten a message from a "well hung Australian" who wants to know if I'd be interested in some "sexy fun". Hun. Do not call me 'hun'.

I've been told I look like a model. I don't, I really do not.

I've gotten, 'Hey sexy", "Sexy pic", "Nice profile pic". I mean, what kind of response do these people expect? "Thanks"? End of conversation right there. Plus, sexy, really? Sexy? I'm a stranger, any word other than sexy would be more apt imo.

Shit, am I this frustrated already? Bodes well for the future!

In my experience, those were the only sort of replies I got on POF, I lasted about a day on it!

Would definitely recommend OKC over POF. The majority of messages I got on OKC were genuine.

I can see why people would be put off online dating from using POF!

Novella

chatterpillar wrote: »

In my experience, those were the only sort of replies I got on POF, I lasted about a day on it!

Would definitely recommend OKC over POF. The majority of messages I got on OKC were genuine.

I can see why people would be put off online dating from using POF!

Oh, really? Yeah, last time I deleted my profile 'cause I just got so many messages that were sleazy and stuff, it was a waste of time. I'll give OKC a try

The Big Red Button

Novella wrote: »

Oh, really? Yeah, last time I deleted my profile 'cause I just got so many messages that were sleazy and stuff, it was a waste of time. I'll give OKC a try

It's definitely a case of quality over quantity - you'll get far fewer messages, but at least 70% or so of them will actually be genuine! Unlike on POF (in my experience, anyways.)

It takes a bit longer to set up your profile, but I think that's actually a good thing - weeds out some of the timewasters!