7 years: I want kids, he doesn't, but I don't want to break up.

ash23

OP, as I said I was in a similar boat, being fobbed off time and time again about marriage and children. My ex and I split up 4 years ago.
He is now in his 30s and guess what? Other than the odd holiday here and there, he is in exactly the same job and same place as he was when we were together. He never went travelling, he never went back to college, he never did anything differently.

Had I bought his nonsense I'd be there still, 10 years together, no wedding, no babies......still waiting for him to fulfill his dreams so that I could fulfill mine.

LegacyUser

Firstly, thank you for all the replies.

Secondly, can people please, please stop lecturing me about how my fertility is declining as we speak? I am well aware of what the risks are. I am well aware that my chances of having a healthy pregnancy will be drastically reduced if I wait. I am well aware that my chances of having any pregnancy is drastically reduced if I wait. I am not some moronic teenager that lacks knowledge of basic biology.

It is so easy for people to sit there behind their keyboards and tell me to walk away. This is 7 years of my life with someone that I love, and someone who has now told me that they are going to speak to a professional. It is not as easy as saying "Well, you didn't give me the answer I want so I'm off." Surely I should give him a chance to prove to me that he is being honest in what he said to me? I already said he was away with work the day after we had the talk. Was he meant to organise a counselling session on the flight?

Maybe I am a fool and maybe he is taking me for a total mug by lying to me, but telling me to just walk (and username123, your post was particularly harsh tbh. People come here for advice not to be lectured in such an aggressive manner) is really not helpful.

curlzy and pilliger, I appreciate the measured responses and I think setting a timescale for change is a good idea. I am considering showing him this thread but I am unsure as yet.

Taltos

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