Poll; Would you do 'don't tell the bride'?

Bride2012

Friends of mine are considering applying for this show as they are broke and have been engaged for years and can't think of another way to pay for a wedding.

For those who don't know the show, the couple cannot see each other for 3 weeks and the groom gets €10,000 to plan the wedding in this time. He picks everything including the wedding dress!

I couldn't hand over that much control, would you do it?

Mint Sauce

Dont forget to ask for the Atari Jaguar opiton?

;-)

Celly Smunt

I'll give you €20000 for one night with the groom.I know it's an indecent proposal,but please consider it.

mikemac1

Bride2012 wrote: »

Could I get a poll going please mods?

Thread tools, there in the top right

You can add one yourself

Not being smart, you can add one yourself

Jesus Wept

Sounds like a great laugh, I just don't want to fill out the forms.

squod

Bride2012 wrote: »

Could I get a poll going please mods?

I'd poll you real good.

stupidusername

Bride2012 wrote: »

Friends of mine are considering applying for this show as they are broke and have been engaged for years and can't think of another way to pay for a wedding.

What a ridiculous way to spend money. why don't they just get married, ya know in the legal sense, without all the flowers, food, drinks, dresses, suits, presents etc.?

Bride2012

mikemac1 wrote: »

Thread tools, there in the top right

You can add one yourself

Not being smart, you can add one yourself

Thanks, didn't realise that, thought you had to ask

foxinsox

Can I have a Pole please?

Male
Single
Tall 6ft ish
Blonde
Fit
Healthy

Thanks :pac:

My name is URL

Is somebody getting married?

Nyan Cat

God no. Not because I wouldn't hand over control but I'd hate to have such a big deal of the day and have it televised too.
The big day is not for everyone. But it'd be interesting to have the other half plan it all whilst I swan off to Spain for 3 weeks

Doc

I'd do it because they are going to pay and I think I would do as good a job as anyone at it.

El Weirdo

So hold on... I get 10 large and don't have to see herself for 3 weeks?

Where the fuck do I sign!?

Bride2012

El Weirdo wrote: »

So hold on... I get 10 large and don't have to see herself for 3 weeks?

Where the fuck do I sign!?

True but you do end up married at the end

mikemac1

Bride2012 wrote: »

He picks everything including the wedding dress!

If the dress is a few sizes too big as you guess it she'll kill you :eek:

"You think I'm fat"

Bride2012

stupidusername wrote: »

What a ridiculous way to spend money. why don't they just get married, ya know in the legal sense, without all the flowers, food, drinks, dresses, suits, presents etc.?

They thought about it but both wanted a big wedding with their friends and family.

stupidusername

Bride2012 wrote: »

They thought about it but both wanted a big wedding with their friends and family.

but they can't afford it.... so why not settle?

Bride2012

Bride2012 wrote: »

Friends of mine are considering applying for this show as they are broke and have been engaged for years and can't think of another way to pay for a wedding.

For those who don't know the show, the couple cannot see each other for 3 weeks and the groom gets €10,000 to plan the wedding in this time. He picks everything including the wedding dress!

I couldn't hand over that much control, would you do it?

Not a hope!! Poison Challis

Bride2012

stupidusername wrote: »

but they can't afford it.... so why not settle?

Well if they get this the option is open again. That's their thinking on it anyway.

kylith

stupidusername wrote: »

What a ridiculous way to spend money. why don't they just get married, ya know in the legal sense, without all the flowers, food, drinks, dresses, suits, presents etc.?

+1 A licence costs about €50

Bride2012 wrote: »

They thought about it but both wanted a big wedding with their friends and family.

If their family and friends can't accept that they can't afford a big wedding then feck 'em, I say.

Sweetpea101

Me and the hubbie discussed this a few times having watched the show - and our opinion was that neither of us would have wanted the pressure and neither of us would have arranged as brilliant a day as we had having arranged it together! So that's a big NO NO NO NO NO

Doc

I've seen an episode of this show and the girl did not like the dress the guy got her and refused point blank to go ahead with the wedding unless she got the dress she wanted. She said F you to the idea of the show and went and got the dress she wanted. I think it happens a lot on that show. Nothing else matters as much as the dress apparently and if she hated it she could go and change it.

Biggins

Not a hope in hell would I do it without consulting her.

Bride2012

kylith wrote: »

+1 A licence costs about €50

If their family and friends can't accept that they can't afford a big wedding then feck 'em, I say.

Ya, a licence is €150 but they are not doing it to keep family and friends happy or because others can't accept it. They genuinely want it for themselves.

Bride2012

Doc wrote: »

I've seen an episode of this show and the girl did not like the dress the guy got her and refused point blank to go ahead with the wedding unless she got the dress she wanted. She said F you to the idea of the show and went and got the dress she wanted. I think it happens a lot on that show. Nothing else matters as much as the dress apparently and if she hated it she could go and change it.

This is the main part that I couldn't give over control for. I wouldn't enjoy a normal night out in the wrong dress (not well fitted, not my style etc.) so forget walking up the aisle in one I don't like!!

eth0

If the groom has any sense he'd arrive with a Skoda Octavia he's after buying filled to the roof with drink and a dress from the charity shop

Jaysus I hate to see all that money being wasted on one flipping day, and nowadays there's a much bigger chance of it ending in divorce a few years down the line.

Bride2012

eth0 wrote: »

If the groom has any sense he'd arrive with a Skoda Octavia he's after buying filled to the roof with drink and a dress from the charity shop

Jaysus I hate to see all that money being wasted on one flipping day, and nowadays there's a much bigger chance of it ending in divorce a few years down the line.

Well the average Irish wedding according to recent surveys is €29,000 so 10k is a bit of a bargain these days.

Kirby

Bride2012 wrote: »

Well the average Irish wedding according to recent surveys is €29,000 so 10k is a bit of a bargain these days.

What a colossal waste of money.

eth0

Bride2012 wrote: »

Well the average Irish wedding according to recent surveys is €29,000 so 10k is a bit of a bargain these days.

You'd a have the vRS for that and with a bit of luck you'd get a good solid 15 years use out of it

The King of Moo

Something I've never understood about this programme: why don't the couple agree on what they want before they go on, then the guy can just get all those things and pretend it's all his own idea, and she can act pleasantly surprised.

Hey presto, €10,000 to spend on their dream wedding!

Can someone more with more knowledge of the programme tell me if there's something to stop them doing this?

Slunk

Thought this thread would be about the bride that was on tonight. In that case, I would do it

dark crystal

Bride2012 wrote: »

This is the main part that I couldn't give over control for. I wouldn't enjoy a normal night out in the wrong dress (not well fitted, not my style etc.) so forget walking up the aisle in one I don't like!!

Before the programme started taping, I'd be showing him the wedding dress I wanted (in the size I needed) and the reception venue I wanted - the rest would be up to him!

I'd say the brides have more input than they let on

Bride2012

dark crystal wrote: »

Before the programme started taping, I'd be showing him the wedding dress I wanted (in the size I needed) and the reception venue I wanted - the rest would be up to him!

I'd say the brides have more input than they let on

Suppose so. Going on the tv would stop me too. I'd do it if they promised to 'lose the tape' but that's just 10k for nothing so not going to happen.:(

b743k

I'd love to do it, it'd be a great laugh.

Nothingbetter2d

Bride2012 wrote: »

True but you do end up married at the end

dont consumate the marriage so you can have it anulled later

b743k

Nothingbetter2d wrote: »

dont consumate the marriage so you can have it anulled later

Try proving that if you're not a virgin.

b743k

In order to obtain an annulment (nullity) of your alleged marriage, you must make an application (called a 'petition') to the Circuit Court or the High Court.
Void marriage

To prove to the court that your marriage is void you must show one of the following grounds:

• At the time of the marriage ceremony there was a lack of capacity. In other words, you or your spouse was incapable of entering into a binding contract. This may happen where one of you was already validly married or in a civil partnership, where you are too closely related to each other or where you are of the same biological sex.
• The formal requirements for a marriage ceremony were not followed. For example, you did not give due notice to the Registrar of Marriages.
• At the time of the marriage, there was a lack of consent. In other words, you or your spouse did not give free and fully informed consent to the marriage. This may be due to duress, (i.e., you were forced into the marriage), mistake, misrepresentation or fraud. It may also be due to the fact that you or your spouse was suffering from a mental illness or was intoxicated at the time of the marriage.

Voidable marriage

To prove to the court that your marriage is voidable, you must show one of the following grounds:

• At the time of the marriage ceremony, either party was impotent. You must show that either you or your spouse was unable to consummate the marriage. You cannot obtain a declaration of nullity because one of you is infertile or because one of you is simply refusing to consummate the marriage. It must be the case that one of you is incapable of sexual intercourse.
• At the time of the marriage ceremony, either party was incapable of entering into and sustaining a proper or normal marriage relationship. This may be due to a psychiatric illness or personality disorder. It may also be due to the sexual orientation of one of the parties. For example, if you discover after you marry that your spouse is homosexual, the court may grant you an annulment.

charlietheminxx

b743k wrote: »

In order to obtain an annulment (nullity) of your alleged marriage, you must make an application (called a 'petition') to the Circuit Court or the High Court.
Void marriage


To prove to the court that your marriage is void you must show one of the following grounds:

• At the time of the marriage ceremony there was a lack of capacity. In other words, you or your spouse was incapable of entering into a binding contract. This may happen where one of you was already validly married or in a civil partnership, where you are too closely related to each other or where you are of the same biological sex.
• The formal requirements for a marriage ceremony were not followed. For example, you did not give due notice to the Registrar of Marriages.
• At the time of the marriage, there was a lack of consent. In other words, you or your spouse did not give free and fully informed consent to the marriage. This may be due to duress, (i.e., you were forced into the marriage), mistake, misrepresentation or fraud. It may also be due to the fact that you or your spouse was suffering from a mental illness or was intoxicated at the time of the marriage.

Voidable marriage


To prove to the court that your marriage is voidable, you must show one of the following grounds:

• At the time of the marriage ceremony, either party was impotent. You must show that either you or your spouse was unable to consummate the marriage. You cannot obtain a declaration of nullity because one of you is infertile or because one of you is simply refusing to consummate the marriage. It must be the case that one of you is incapable of sexual intercourse.
• At the time of the marriage ceremony, either party was incapable of entering into and sustaining a proper or normal marriage relationship. This may be due to a psychiatric illness or personality disorder. It may also be due to the sexual orientation of one of the parties. For example, if you discover after you marry that your spouse is homosexual, the court may grant you an annulment.

It can be anulled because you are infertile!!!!! That's crazy!

*ahem*

BrianBoru00

you haven t read your own quote there b743k.....

b743k

charlietheminxx wrote: »

*ahem*

Whoops, a bit tired today

Stiffler2

I would only do this if I could pay someone out of the €10,000 to organise the wedding for me


Ye I know - I'm a cheater

Seomra Mushie

Fúck no.

If I do get married, it'll be me, my fella, a marriage license and two strangers as witnesses. Bliss!

jester77

Sweet, I'd take the money, pay for the registry paperwork and profit

ash23

I always figured that they weren't told til the last minute that they'd been selected and therefore hadn't time to iron out all the details.
Either that or it's the old cliché of the woman telling the man in detail what she wants while he smiles and nods saying "yes dear" while secretly watching the footie over her shoulder.

Personally, aside from the cameras and him picking the dress, I'd go for it because I hate pressure and I'd prefer all the expectation was on someone else rather than me.

jay phelan

nah, I couldn't handle the emotional stress that comes with it.

Pupito

The King of Moo wrote: »

Something I've never understood about this programme: why don't the couple agree on what they want before they go on, then the guy can just get all those things and pretend it's all his own idea, and she can act pleasantly surprised.

Hey presto, €10,000 to spend on their dream wedding!

Can someone more with more knowledge of the programme tell me if there's something to stop them doing this?

That seems so sensible the programme makers must have a way around it. Otherwise it fairly urinates on their "Ha! These stupid men aren't psychic! Idiots!" bonfire.

LisaLee

I'd go for it tbh. We've set out a wedding budget (way below the national average!) and are trying to scrape the funds together, no mean feat! I'm usually pretty organised and a tad bossy, but I'd be intrigued to see what himself would come up with. The wedding day is just one day, the marriage is the important part imo.

The King of Moo

Pupito wrote: »

That seems so sensible the programme makers must have a way around it. Otherwise it fairly urinates on their "Ha! These stupid men aren't psychic! Idiots!" bonfire.

That's what I think, because as soon as I saw an ad for the programme I thought "why don't they just arrange it all beforehand?"

I'm there's some really obvious method the makers employ to stop them, but I can't imagine what it might be.

ash23 wrote: »

I always figured that they weren't told til the last minute that they'd been selected and therefore hadn't time to iron out all the details.
Either that or it's the old cliché of the woman telling the man in detail what she wants while he smiles and nods saying "yes dear" while secretly watching the footie over her shoulder.

Personally, aside from the cameras and him picking the dress, I'd go for it because I hate pressure and I'd prefer all the expectation was on someone else rather than me.

That's probably the most likely explanation, but even so, surely they'd have to have applied to go earlier, and they could have arranged everything (including backups in case not everything's not available) before they apply.

Maybe it just doesn't occur to the couples to do that.

b743k

Looking at it now again tonight, not so sure

starlit

Never!

Teyla Emmagan

The King of Moo wrote: »

Something I've never understood about this programme: why don't the couple agree on what they want before they go on, then the guy can just get all those things and pretend it's all his own idea, and she can act pleasantly surprised.

Hey presto, €10,000 to spend on their dream wedding!

Can someone more with more knowledge of the programme tell me if there's something to stop them doing this?

Have never seen the show, but this was the first thing that occured to me when I heard about the 'concept'. Surely any couple worth their salt would be able to sit down and agree on everything they wanted as soon as they realised they'd been accepted on the show? If they can't get that much together, why are they doing even getting married?!