Indecent Proposal?

southsiderosie

Apparently February 29th is the one time every four years when it is acceptable for a woman to ask a man to marry her.*

Fellas, would you be put off if your girlfriend proposed to you? Or would you be delighted (assuming you wanted to get married, lol ).

Ladies, would you ask your man to marry you, or would you prefer for him to ask you?

As for me, well, the OH and I were joking on the couch one day about why one should marry the other, and then we both popped the question at the same time. But I couldn't really imagine myself getting down on one knee or anything like that.



*This, of course, if you live in Daily Mail land

dr.bollocko

If there's BJs steak and beer involved I'll pretty much say yes to anything.

Dr. Manhattan

southsiderosie wrote: »

But I couldn't really imagine myself getting down on one knee or anything like that.

So it's not an indecent proposal then?

Shanotheslayer

southsiderosie wrote: »

and then we both popped the question at the same time.

Congrats!

Sindri

I'd like a woman to ask me to marry her. I'm house trained, tidy and I can ride my bike real fast. Any takers?

I'd prefer him to ask, but I keep telling him to watch out at the end of the month, just to freak him out. It keeps me entertained. Can't wait to see how he manages to dodge me for the entire day on the 29th.

4zn76tysfajdxp

dr.bollocko wrote: »

If there's BJs steak and beer involved I'll pretty much say yes to anything.

Blow me and I'll give you a steak and a beer.

dr.bollocko

Miller Immense Pet wrote: »

Blow me and I'll give you a steak and a beer.

Where's my ring?
This milk ain't free.

Temptamperu

What sort of dowry are you offering?

birdlake

Would I propose? No way hose!! I'm holding out for a down-on-one-knee, as cliched as possible, sparkly ring, emotional, tears in my eyes kind of proposal. Why would a girl rob herself of that?! (Yes, I'm a hopeless romantic) On a related note, what's the story with the ring if a girl does decide to pop the question? Do you buy your own? Worse still does the guy get it?

southsiderosie

dr.bollocko wrote: »

Where's my ring?
This milk ain't free.

You tell em, sist-, er, um, yeah.

Doc Ruby

Run Dougal, run quite fast. Quite fast!

Pacifist Pigeon

This threads discriminates against gays.

Sindri

I'd be open to her proposing, whoever her is, *sighs forlornly*. But I'd probably end up panicking if someone seriously asked me to marry them. Just wouldn't have a clue what to do and I'd probably seize up. Someone basically asking me to spend the rest of their life (wishful thinking) with me.
I wouldn't be able to process it.

southsiderosie

Pacifist Pigeon wrote: »

This threads discriminates against gays.

I thought about that. Following the logic of the Daily Mail, does that mean that lesbians can only get engaged in a leap year?

starbelgrade

Pacifist Pigeon wrote: »

This threads discriminates against gays.

Only in the same way that the Lesbian & Gay forum discriminates against straight people, ie. not at all.

4zn76tysfajdxp

dr.bollocko wrote: »

Where's my ring?
This milk ain't free.

*sigh*

This better be some BJ.

*bends over*

Phoenix Park

Sindri wrote: »

I'd be open to her proposing, whoever her is, *sighs forlornly*. But I'd probably end up panicking if someone seriously asked me to marry them. Just wouldn't have a clue what to do and I'd probably seize up. Someone basically asking me to spend the rest of their life (wishful thinking) with me.
I wouldn't be able to process it.

If things get really bad there's always that sheep in the field outside your house you were on about a few days ago

Phoenix Park

southsiderosie wrote: »

I thought about that. Following the logic of the Daily Mail, does that mean that lesbians can only get engaged in a leap year?

They can get engaged in anything they want to....as long as they put it on the internet

later12

Sindri wrote: »

Any takers?

I bid

Five Trillion Dollars!

southsiderosie wrote: »

Apparently February 29th is the one time every four years when it is acceptable for a woman to ask a man to marry her.*

Fellas, would you be put off if your girlfriend proposed to you? Or would you be delighted (assuming you wanted to get married, lol ).

Ladies, would you ask your man to marry you, or would you prefer for him to ask you?

As for me, well, the OH and I were joking on the couch one day about why one should marry the other, and then we both popped the question at the same time. But I couldn't really imagine myself getting down on one knee or anything like that.



*This, of course, if you live in Daily Mail land

Congratulations:)

It wouldn't be for me personally. I'd only be interested in the tax aspect of marriage I'm afraid. I would marry a girl if it was some sort of ultimatum, but frankly the idea of marriage seems frightening and un-neccessary to me.

Sindri

Phoenix Park wrote: »

If things get really bad there's always that sheep in the field outside your house you were on about a few days ago

In the field?


She's in my house now.;)

southsiderosie

Dr. Manhattan wrote: »

So it's not an indecent proposal then?

Oh, crap, I just got this.

No comment.

Sindri

later10 wrote: »

I bid

Five Trillion Dollars!




Congratulations:)

It wouldn't be for me personally. I'd only be interested in the tax aspect of marriage I'm afraid. I would marry a girl if it was some sort of ultimatum, but frankly the idea of marriage seems frightening and un-neccessary to me.

Dr. Manhattan

southsiderosie wrote: »

Oh, crap, I just got this.

No comment.

'cos you have something in your mou....no, no, I can't do it. Congratulations on your engagement.

Phoenix Park

Sindri wrote: »

In the field?


She's in my house now.;)

Two full weeks till the 29th mate...all the best!

Cosy night in by the fire tomorrow for Valentine's, you with your wooly jumper on....she with her, eh, wool. Sounds romantic.

EDIT: just make sure its not lamb chops in the oven, might dent hopes of getting the ride

mattjack

Could I do a reverse engagement on the 29th ? If I was engaged already and wanted to get out of it ? just sayin '

southsiderosie

later10 wrote: »

It wouldn't be for me personally. I'd only be interested in the tax aspect of marriage I'm afraid. I would marry a girl if it was some sort of ultimatum, but frankly the idea of marriage seems frightening and un-neccessary to me.

So if a girl said "You're the love of my life - will you marry me?" you would freak out, but if she said "Hey, if we get married we can save 3K a year on tax bills!" that would be less scary?

southsiderosie

birdlake wrote: »

Would I propose? No way hose!! I'm holding out for a down-on-one-knee, as cliched as possible, sparkly ring, emotional, tears in my eyes kind of proposal. Why would a girl rob herself of that?! (Yes, I'm a hopeless romantic)

I think I would die of embarrassment, tbh. Plus I don't like diamonds, or sparkly things in general.

birdlake wrote: »

On a related note, what's the story with the ring if a girl does decide to pop the question? Do you buy your own? Worse still does the guy get it?

Apparently engagement watches are a thing now? Although I do remember some horrid article on 'man-gagement rings' from a few weeks ago...

later12

southsiderosie wrote: »

So if a girl said "You're the love of my life - will you marry me?" you would freak out, but if she said "Hey, if we get married we can save 3K a year on tax bills!" that would be less scary?

Precisely!

If she wanted to help me with taxes (which actually turns me on a little bit as it happens) that would show that she is using her brain. This is hot.

If she wanted to trap marry me out of love/ affection, this would tell me she was thinking with her heart. This is terrifically frightening.

Wedgie

Well, she knew that I was never going to ask her (we were already living together, so I didn't see any point), so she told me when we were getting married, then went out and bought her own engagement ring.

southsiderosie

Wedgie wrote: »

Well, she knew that I was never going to ask her (we were already living together, so I didn't see any point), so she told me when we were getting married, then went out and bought her own engagement ring.

:eek:

Did you have any say in this at all, or did you just show up at the appointed time?

Pacifist Pigeon

starbelgrade wrote: »

Only in the same way that the Lesbian & Gay forum discriminates against straight people, ie. not at all.

So apparently gay people should be segregated to be LGBTQ forum, right? (by the way, the 'Q' means questioning - they welcome contribution from straight people). Highly shortsighted of the OP, methinks.

southsiderosie

Pacifist Pigeon wrote: »

So apparently gay people should be segregated to be LGBTQ forum, right? (by the way, the 'Q' means questioning - they welcome contribution from straight people). Highly shortsighted of the OP, methinks.

Are you serious? My sarcasm meter is broken today.

Pacifist Pigeon

southsiderosie wrote: »

Are you serious? My sarcasm meter is broken today.

Seriously, yes. Why didn't you include a "I'm a guy, and I'd prefer ....

Damn it!! I've been downgraded a few points on my IQ score.

Wedgie

southsiderosie wrote: »

:eek:

Did you have any say in this at all, or did you just show up at the appointed time?

She promised me a good party afterwards, with lots of drink, so, naturally, I went along with it!

She was good to her word too!

saa

Either person proposing is fine, its just a tradition, there are plenty we don't uphold anyway.

Its better for a person to ask than trying to drop hints, my god if you have to remind your partner that they want to propose to you there is something wrong. It's fine to drop hints for a present but not a marriage proposal.

Its good to get a feeling of your partners view on marriage in general but certainly not during the honeymoon period.

Jesus Wept

Marriage is a lot like an orange.

Raditub

its deffo him who has to get on his knees :P Old fashioned style!

Jesus Wept

Raditub wrote: »

its deffo him who has to get on his knees :P Old fashioned style!

How much is your dowry?

Katgurl

Nothing wrong with a girl proposing, we don't to sit and wait, if the answer is no I'd rather know where I stand.

I'm not crazy about mariage anyway so I might be commenting in an extremely hypothetical way,

I find engagement ring tradition really bizarre though - for the duration of the engagement the girl publicises the fac she is 'promised' but he doesn't?! WTF is that about - him keeping his opions open till sh gets him up the aisle and seals the deal? I think the polish have a tradition where they both wear rings on their right hands then transfer to left, sounds better. Or no rings, just a genuine commitment.

southsiderosie

The-Rigger wrote: »

Marriage is a lot like an orange.

Maawidge.

Maawidge is what bwings us togevva today.

kraggy

southsiderosie wrote: »

Maawidge.

Maawidge is what bwings us togevva today.

My name is Inigo Montoya. You killed my father. Prepare to die.

Jesus Wept

southsiderosie wrote: »

Maawidge.

Maawidge is what bwings us togevva today.

That one went over my head, google helped!

TheZohanS

Wouldn't mind either way.

starbelgrade

Pacifist Pigeon wrote: »

So apparently gay people should be segregated to be LGBTQ forum, right? (by the way, the 'Q' means questioning - they welcome contribution from straight people). Highly shortsighted of the OP, methinks.

Says who?

My point was that it entirely reasonable to ask a question to straight people which excludes gay people without it being an act of discrimination.

It is also entirely reasonable for a question to be posed to just gay or lesbian people without it being misconstrued as being discriminatory towards straight people.

As soon as people like you start shouting about 'discrimination' and 'segregation' for absolutely no reason at all & for completely unfounded and pointless reasons, it really pisses me off. You're trying to create a problem where there simply isn't one at all.

counterlock

starbelgrade wrote: »

As soon as people like you start shouting about 'discrimination' and 'segregation' for absolutely no reason at all & for completely unfounded and pointless reasons, it really pisses me off. You're trying to create a problem where there simply isn't one at all.

Short sighted of pacifist pigeon me thinks, how can you tell the difference between two guys/girls in this situation when the whole survey is the opinion of one sex's actions over another??

starbelgrade

counterlock wrote: »

Short sighted of pacifist pigeon me thinks, how can you tell the difference between two guys/girls in this situation when the whole survey is the opinion of one sex's actions over another??

I don't understand your question.

counterlock

Three out of the five options are applicable to LGBT. The other two are based on going against the usual tradition. I'm just confused as to what he expects the OP to add to the survey to satisfy the faux outrage

I'm a guy and I would prefer to propose
I'm a guy and I'm open to her proposing
I'm a girl, and I would prefer for him to propose
I'm a girl, and I'm open to proposing
Marriage is for chumps!

Pacifist Pigeon

starbelgrade wrote: »

Says who?

My point was that it entirely reasonable to ask a question to straight people which excludes gay people without it being an act of discrimination.

It is also entirely reasonable for a question to be posed to just gay or lesbian people without it being misconstrued as being discriminatory towards straight people.

As soon as people like you start shouting about 'discrimination' and 'segregation' for absolutely no reason at all & for completely unfounded and pointless reasons, it really pisses me off. You're trying to create a problem where there simply isn't one at all.

Have you read the entire thread yet, perhaps go to my latest reply here.

Pacifist Pigeon

counterlock wrote: »

Short sighted of pacifist pigeon me thinks, how can you tell the difference between two guys/girls in this situation when the whole survey is the opinion of one sex's actions over another??

Now you're discriminating against transgender people and those who are gender-queer.

counterlock

I am of course :rolleyes: