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Teens and Dating- help!!!

The Princess Bride · 2012-01-28 21:31:30

My 15 year old has a boyfriend- I haven't met him as he's from a different town.They met at an underage disco and he asked her out by text week later.They've been to the cinema together & nothing since as both have JC mocks over next month.She's asked if they can get together post exams,and that's why I'm posting. Now I…

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#32 21-04-2012 7:31pm
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STAR2011 wrote: »

I hope you don't mind but I am going to hikack the thread and look for a bit of advice! I have a 16year old boy who is in his first "real" relationship and is head over heels in love!

Now she is a lovely girl but she comes with some baggage. First, if you ask her what do you want to do when you finish school - she will say nothing, my husband will keep me!!!!! (I hate this attitude) And her family are very pushy, drop her to the house and stay for 4 hours, inviting him to family events, refering to him as a Son-in- law, serioulsy expensive xmas/birthday presents (from her mother, grandparents and her aunt) and its like they are delighted she is in such a serious relationship where as I am not! I think they are too young.

I am trying to encourage him to keep up contact with his male friends, asking him about them and saying we haven't seen them in a while, bring them over etc etc but this is not proving easy, he is only interested in spending his free time with his girlfriend!

So I suppose what I am asking is - how to discourage it without him knowing thats what I am doing or should I leave it to run its course and hope he sees sense and also how to deal with her pushy family - who seem to think we are all one big happy family now!

Hmmmm it's a tough one. In these situations, I think it often happens that any attempt to discourage the relationship, will only drive them closer together!

On a practical level, I would make sure that he is very aware of how important it is to use sufficient contraception!! Make sure he's not just leaving it up to her (the pill etc) - by the sounds of it, herself and her family would only be delighted with a pregnancy!! So make sure he's using condoms, even if she says it's OK because she's on the pill or whatever.

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