Mobile phones.

BengaLover

I had a text message the other night, 'whats for dinner'... she was UPSTAIRS!

BostonB

Sharrow wrote: »

It can't get on the net but they can create their own WAN, that is how you can have a chat room or play a game with someone else with a DS on a bus. Or in the case of my two brats continue a row over it while they were sent to their rooms.

I was wondering. The DSi is another thing thats gets confiscated in our house. If I find the charger lying around I hide it for a few days. If they can't be tidy....

jay93

grindelwald wrote: »

My daughter being 12 doesnt get too much privacy, i read her facebook and her texts. When she is 15 that will change. Im looking out for her at 12 because she doesnt know its a big bad world out there.

Reading her Facebook and texts helps with preparing her for the ''big bad world''

Kids won't learn by keeping them from whats out in the world they will learn from their mistakes in the world ,

Fair enough you want your kid to be safe but thinking that facebook and texting is dangerous for kids?
The world is changing and technology is a big part of it now people really have to stop restricting their kids from the world it turns out worse for the kids when they grow up they want to grow and learn not be smothered.

cynder

jay93 wrote: »

grindelwald wrote: »

My daughter being 12 doesnt get too much privacy, i read her facebook and her texts. When she is 15 that will change. Im looking out for her at 12 because she doesnt know its a big bad world out there.

Reading her Facebook and texts helps with preparing her for the ''big bad world''

Kids won't learn by keeping them from whats out in the world they will learn from their mistakes in the world ,

Fair enough you want your kid to be safe but thinking that facebook and texting is dangerous for kids?
The world is changing and technology is a big part of it now people really have to stop restricting their kids from the world it turns out worse for the kids when they grow up they want to grow and learn not be smothered.

Suppose you didn't see the but where I had my daughter's pic as my facebook profile picture and I got a private message if a guy in his 20s wanting to meet up with me because I was hot, only it wasn't me it was my 12 year old.

You think I want my 12 year old getting messages like that? let her make the mistake of meeting up with him? So what she can learn it's a bad idea to meet up with grown men?

Also that she was bullied by 3 girls, called slut, lesbian, fat ugly bitch. No kid needs to deal with that on their own especially at 12.

Being only 12 I'm not throwing her to the wolves. I'm preparing her to deal with them on her own, when she is old enough and mature enough, until then I'll read her facebook and texts, and if anything comes up we talk about it.

She got a text at 4 am the other morning from 2 boys in her class, they think she is cute. I didn't read the text she told me about it, she was chuffed that the boys thought she was cute. She is very open and we talk a lot, and she likes talking about boys.

cbyrd

jay93 wrote: »

Reading her Facebook and texts helps with preparing her for the ''big bad world''

Kids won't learn by keeping them from whats out in the world they will learn from their mistakes in the world ,

Fair enough you want your kid to be safe but thinking that facebook and texting is dangerous for kids?
The world is changing and technology is a big part of it now people really have to stop restricting their kids from the world it turns out worse for the kids when they grow up they want to grow and learn not be smothered.

Have you had to deal with the fall out of internet/mobile phone bullying?? Only when you see how kids are capable of hurting one another, the internet and moblie phone anonymity makes it easier.

There's no way i would allow my 12 year old into a largely adult world and not supervise her, it would be hugely negligent on my part as a mother not to equip her with the tools of safely navigating her way around. Just as i held her hand when she was smaller and we went walking down the street, now i no longer have to as i know i can trust her not to run out in front of a car. I locked doors to keep her out of certain harms way, now i keep check on what she both sends and receives.

If my child was bullying another i'd want to know so i could put a stop to it.,after all, it's not something she'd tell me about. She's aware that i check her phone and facebook, she doesn't have a problem with it. Always better to be safe than sorry

Daisy M

jay93 wrote: »

Reading her Facebook and texts helps with preparing her for the ''big bad world''

Kids won't learn by keeping them from whats out in the world they will learn from their mistakes in the world ,

Fair enough you want your kid to be safe but thinking that facebook and texting is dangerous for kids?
The world is changing and technology is a big part of it now people really have to stop restricting their kids from the world it turns out worse for the kids when they grow up they want to grow and learn not be smothered.

Have you never heard of cyber bullying or internet grooming? Teenagers like to think they know it all but sadly they dont, most will realise when they are adults that their parents were right about most things.

tinyk68

I think the key is to be open with your kids and not have secrets. My 13 year old niece wasn't allowed on facebook so she got a friend to set it up for her on her phone and her parents found explicit messages on it between her and an 18 year old boy! He described in detail what he'd like to do with her and it sent them into a complete panic. They confiscated her phone and now she just doesn't tell them anything.
My daughter, who's 16 has no interest in facebook and only texts when she needs to make arrangements to meet up with friends because she has to buy her own credit. Makes her think twice about how much she uses;) My 13 year old son is on facebook but was only given permission if he accepted me as a friend which he has done. He only really uses it for games and to be honest, he's far more interested in xbox live than facebook. I think if they feel they can tell you things without being judged they'll let you know most of what's happening in their lives. It's working for us so far anyway:rolleyes:

eviltwin

I use the DS for the internet when the laptop is busy. It works off the wifi. Operates much the same way as mobile internet.

BostonB

eviltwin wrote: »

I use the DS for the internet when the laptop is busy. It works off the wifi. Operates much the same way as mobile internet.

I assume you mean it works the same as a mobile browser on a phone. Mobile internet is a different thing entirely.

eviltwin

BostonB wrote: »

I assume you mean it works the same as a mobile browser on a phone. Mobile internet is a different thing entirely.

Yeah I guess so, I'm not tech savvy. Just know that the links look as they do on a mobile phone.