Long distance relationships do they work?

derekmccabe4

Hi

Jus need to get of insight on whether long distance relationships actually work??

ThinkAboutIt

90 Minutes? FFS man meet in the middle, 45 minutes, BAM, ride her like ya stole her.

chin_grin

Um. That's not "long distance".

minidazzler

90 minutes isn't long distance. I have traveled 6000 miles to see a girl. (No, I'm not joking.)

Standard Toaster

derekmccabe4 wrote: »

Hi

Jus need to get of insight on whether long distance relationships actually work??

I met this girl out in Dublin before Xmas and since we have been getting on very well and meeting up alot

only thing tho is we live 90 mins away from each other,i work monday to friday and she is a guard so sher work various shifts

i can really see it going somewhere but afraid it mitent work

Your thoughts please?

Did you meet in Coppers per-chance?

fedor.2.

Derek i think this is all in your head, i dont think you met anyone over xmas

fedor.2.

minidazzler wrote: »

90 minutes isn't long distance. I have traveled 6000 miles to see a girl. (No, I'm not joking.)

Desperado

derekmccabe4

Standard Toaster wrote: »

Did you meet in Coppers per-chance?

yes possibly why???

Galtee

once you're married 90mins won't be long enough

crazyderk

90 minutes depending on where you are can be considered long distance lads and ladies!
with the M4 90 minutes will get you from Galway to Kildare!
but then again depending on traffic sometimes 90 minutes will get you from Bray to Blanchardstown!

OP if you were both Mon to Fri and could see each other every weekend then it wouldn't be too bad, it'll be harder with her having the hours that Garda have, I think you ultimately have to ask yourself is it worth the time and effort it takes to commit to this? and it is a lot of effort! trust me I know my OH is from Canada, that was a long distance relationship I tell you.

With the likes of skype and video phones and instant messaging, it does make things easier to manage but ultimately the end goal will involve one or both of you moving to be closer together so I go back to my Q, is it worth the time and effort it takes to commit to this? and thats a question only you can answer

kfallon

crazyderk wrote: »

90 minutes depending on where you are can be considered long distance lads and ladies!
with the M4 90 minutes will get you from Galway to Kildare!
but then again depending on traffic sometimes 90 minutes will get you from Bray to Blanchardstown!

OP if you were both Mon to Fri and could see each other every weekend then it wouldn't be too bad, it'll be harder with her having the hours that Garda have, I think you ultimately have to ask yourself is it worth the time and effort it takes to commit to this? and it is a lot of effort! trust me I know my OH is from Canada, that was a long distance relationship I tell you.

With the likes of skype and video phones and instant messaging, it does make things easier to manage but ultimately the end goal will involve one or both of you moving to be closer together so I go back to my Q, is it worth the time and effort it takes to commit to this? and thats a question only you can answer

Durtbag! :pac:

Temptamperu

90 minutes? for gods sake man you could spit that, my girlfriend lives in georgia. thats long distance.

kfallon

At least she has the uniform so the roleplay will be good!

"Sir I'm going to have to take down your particulars"
"Oh no officer, please don't root around in my drawers"
"Sir are you hiding some swollen goods down there?"

etc etc :P

mongdesade

Been doing long distance with my OH for 2 years now (Dublin-Nenagh), not a bother !
SKYPE makes daily conversations a little more personal, always better face to face & alternate weekends keeps it fresh.
We both agree we wouldn't have it any other way...perfick

The Scientician

minidazzler wrote: »

90 minutes isn't long distance. I have traveled 6000 miles to see a girl. (No, I'm not joking.)

You went to the South Pole eh?

Relationships do they work ?

seamus

90 minutes FFS. Maybe when you're 12 that's long distance.

Cat Melodeon

I don't consider 90 mins long distance either. Long-distance means crossing borders or getting on trains with sleeper cars or airplanes. Kerry to Donegal might possibly qualify. Dublin to Portlaoise does not.

Btw, nothing beats the sex in a long-distance relationship. Not having access to the person 24/7 leads to anticipation, extra effort and red hot sex when you do finally get your hands on each other. And you tend not to bother with mundane relationship stuff like fighting over the remote control or getting pissed off when the toilet seat is left up/down.

Brianderunner

The Scientician wrote: »

You went to the South Pole eh?

6,000 miles is pretty much the west coast of America. My brother has been doing the long distance thing for 9 years now (crazy i know) with his gf in LA. The fact that she's a lecturer with 4 months holidays a year is the thing that makes it work.

No offence to the posters above but Nenagh Dublin and 90 mins is not long distance. You can't honestly believe that.

John Doe1

90 mins Fcuck off, im from donegal but going out with a girl from cork, at the moment im studying in dublin so its only 4 hours journey to see her, when summer comes 8 hours.

minidazzler

Brianderunner wrote: »

6,000 miles is pretty much the west coast of America. My brother has been doing the long distance thing for 9 years now (crazy i know) with his gf in LA. The fact that she's a lecturer with 4 months holidays a year is the thing that makes it work.

No offence to the posters above but Nenagh Dublin and 90 mins is not long distance. You can't honestly believe that.

Exactly, mine was near Seattle.

derekmccabe4

thanks

Temptamperu

unless the poster is 14 andhas no car... that makes things seem bigger than they are.

cloud493

I've been long distance with my girlfriend for 2 years, we're fine. I'm in Dublin, she's in Birmingham. We Facebook all the time. We call each other every day other. It's fine

mandate

did long distance relationship over 3,500 miles for a year, then she moved to Ireland for a year, then we both moved back to her country for a year. That was 10 years ago, happily married to her now

Coriolanus

Ffs op, mine is in the states. Move to France or something and post again when you're going to take this long distance malarky seriously.

Cee-Jay-Cee

minidazzler wrote: »

90 minutes isn't long distance. I have traveled 6000 miles to see a girl. (No, I'm not joking.)

Going to Thailand doesnt count.

LaurzH27

I'm in cork my oh is in Galway. He's a Monday -fri I work every weekend. It's really hard!!!! Don't agree on the sex comment earlier either!!! Lol.

LaurzH27

I'm in cork my oh is in Galway. He's a Monday -fri I work every weekend. It's really hard!!!! Don't agree on the sex comment earlier either!!! Lol.

Mickey H

kfallon wrote: »

At least she has the uniform so the roleplay will be good!

"Sir I'm going to have to take down your particulars"
"Oh no officer, please don't root around in my drawers"
"Sir are you hiding some swollen goods down there?"

etc etc :P

Her: "Sir, you have the right to remain silent. Anything you say will be taken down."
You: "Knickers."

charlietheminxx

My long-distance relationship fell apart recently.... I could handle it but my ex was really struggling with the whole uncertain future etc (ie. me not being ready to commit to moving over to him).

Long distance is hard, but I think it can work if you plan it out right and you are honest from the start about your expectations and plan well to keep things going. It takes sacrifices.

wrmwit

They work if both of you want it to work. With Skype and the like long distance doesn't seem as long!

My fiance and I started off long distance. Galway to Dublin and I moved to Galway after a year and moved in with her.

I had a couple of long distance relationships before that and the good thing about the break up was that there was little chance of you bumping into your ex in the local!

rainbow kirby

wrmwit wrote: »

My fiance and I started off long distance. Galway to Dublin and I moved to Galway after a year and moved in with her.

That seems to be the key in a lot of cases, friends of mine who have started in LDRs and have made them work have always moved in together within a year.

seamus

rainbow kirby wrote: »

That seems to be the key in a lot of cases, friends of mine who have started in LDRs and have made them work have always moved in together within a year.

That's funny actually, my now wife moved to London for two years to study. I never really considered it a LDR as the longest we went without seeing eachother was six weeks, but 2-3 weeks was more typical and she was home during Xmas and easter and summers.

But as soon as she came home permanently we were on the hunt for somewhere to live even though we were both in stable (and cheap!) living arrangments 20 minutes away from eachother.

I Heart Internet

I was gonna tell you - No - long-distance relationships don't usually work in the long-run. Then I see that you're long-distance is 90 minutes!!!!!

FFS - that means I'm having a long-distance relationship with my job and wife as I drive about 90 minutes twice a day too and from work.

Your relationship won't work until you man the fupp up. If a 90 minute drive puts you off seeing a woman you really, really like then I'm not sure where that leaves you. Maybe check your next door neighbour's house.....anyone available in there?

BBDBB

90 minutes?

yeah I used to have a car that slow

mongdesade

Brianderunner wrote: »

No offence to the posters above but Nenagh Dublin and 90 mins is not long distance. You can't honestly believe that.

None taken...although 90 mins on a motorbike to Nenagh in all weather conditions after working a 10 hour shift is 'a serious commitment'

Explosions in the Sky

If you truly like the other person you will make the effort so yes, it's just down to them then

the quick fix

derekmccabe4 wrote: »

Hi

Jus need to get of insight on whether long distance relationships actually work??

Thats a tough question and depends on the 2 people involved. I have been in a long distance relationship now with a girl in Canada for 3 years. I won't say its easy but it tests the character and relationship for the trust required. They work if the 2 people have a clear idea of where it is going. Everything has to be out in the open as to whether dating can continue during long distance and most importantly that if you can answer the question of is it worth the effort.

I am in university and her too and the last time i seen her was just a year ago but keeping in contact through facebook or msn is essential to not becoming distant with one another and still having a foothold in each others lives. In short yes they work and can be extremely rewarding. The question is if you have the character to make it work.