Love of your life

popsicklegirl

Do you have one? For me personally, there was one guy who just did it for me. I have never forgotten him and probably never will. Am I the only one who has experienced this or are there others who have a special place in their hearts for that one special person ? Even though I'm married I still think about this guy and always wonder - what if .........

Links234

my girlfriend. I think I fell in love from the moment I met her. I've never been in a relationship as intense, and I can't get over just how much I adore her. I couldn't ask to find a more wonder, kind, caring person. she's just the most special person on the planet.

Storminateacup

The (male) love of my life has got to be my daddy. If I could show that man how much I love him or how much I appreciate him or how much I'm afraid of losing him, I'd be here forever. He's the best parent and the best friend I could ask for and no man (and I'm completely utterly totally in love with my fiancée) will ever take my daddys place in my heart.

I know it's not the answer you're looking for, but hey.

RickRoll

I don't believe in the whole "love of you're life" thing.

squeakyduck

Travel....Never gets boring and always fresh and new.

As for a person. He knows who he is. He was a great boyfriend and one of the best friends I could ever ask for.

CathyMoran

My husband is the non-platonic love of my life - he is the only person that I love being with all the time, anyone else I would need space from. He always makes me laugh and we get on great, he is also kind and a great father to our babies.

My two children are the platonic loves of my life.

Dr. Kenneth Noisewater

RickRoll wrote: »

I don't believe in the whole "love of you're life" thing.

You obviously just haven't met her/him yet.

dearg lady

deccurley wrote: »

You obviously just haven't met her/him yet.

I'm not sure if OP means love of your life as in person you love the most, or love of your life as in there's only one in the whole world.

Tayla

dearg lady wrote: »

I'm not sure if OP means love of your life as in person you love the most, or love of your life as in there's only one in the whole world.

or the one that got away?

Riamfada

deccurley wrote: »

You obviously just haven't met her/him yet.

Its certainly not worth it. More trouble than its worth. For me, she turned out to be really nasty. Everyone could see it but I couldnt. Just because he/she is the love of your life dosnt mean he/she is a good person. /bitterness

dearg lady

Tayla wrote: »

or the one that got away?

the one that got away can sometimes be a depressing concept though..
I had a 'one that got away' who I compared everyone else I met to, for quite a few years. Eventually the feeling went away, I realised I was only focusing on the good bits, forgetting the bad stuff. It's too easy to build someone up in your mind, the reality is quite different!

28064212

deccurley wrote: »

You obviously just haven't met her/him yet.

...I'll just leave this here:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IeZMIgheZro

sambuka41

dearg lady wrote: »

the one that got away can sometimes be a depressing concept though..
I had a 'one that got away' who I compared everyone else I met to, for quite a few years. Eventually the feeling went away, I realised I was only focusing on the good bits, forgetting the bad stuff. It's too easy to build someone up in your mind, the reality is quite different!

This is so true, I done that for years. Until eventually I seen that my OH is 100 times better than 'the one that got away' For me I used it as an excuse to keep people at a distance. Plus the I was 21 when I met the one who got away and was very immature/idealistic at that time, now I've grown up and seen what real love is, and not mistake the real deal with that first brush with love!!

Neyite

I think the "one that got away" or "the love of your life" concepts are actually quite detrimental - in my experience anyway.

Throughout my teens and twenties I believed it, and had quite a few relationships where I was flogging a dead horse either in the duration of the relationship or for long afterwards believing that "the one" got away. It prevented me from moving on to bigger and better things. I probably mourned those breakups longer than was healthy for me, and missed out on being more times of happiness, due to my own stubborness.

Now I know that we can love deeply several times in our life, and that its better sometimes to draw a line under a relationship that is not working and to move on and be happy apart from someone you love rather than miserable with them.

Maybe ask me when I'm 89 who the love of my life was

seenitall

Yes, my daughter.

Anything I can feel for any man (and it can be a lot) doesn't measure up to how I feel about her, and frankly I would worry if it did. I'd die for her life, kill for her life, suffer anything for her and her well-being, and thankfully, I'd do those and similar things for no one and nothing else.

dancesatnight

i hold a special lady in my heart we arent together any more. i still think of her at least once a day all the anger and hurt is gone now all i wish is the best for her

Odaise Gaelach

I think I've had two or three loves of my life so far.

mcmacness

I have a "What If" guy. We were really young and it was very intense. We broke up due to both of us being unfaithful. Sometimes I wonder if we would still be together now as when it was good it was amazing and a part of me still loves him now.

I think its a case of looking back alot though with rose tinted glasses. I have recently gone through a breakup. Have commented to my friends that "things would have not been like this with "x" where they have to remind me of all the bad times that we had too. Still though if I was given a choice I think I loved the more recent ex more, it was more a mix of puppy love and infatuation with the first guy.

XenaLady

Ive had two loves in my life, both years back already and NOT counting the one I was married to.
I guess its been love, both times. I wouldnt even blink my eye if either of them asked to come back, Id be happy to.
I broke with the first one of them because I dont want babies any more and he did.
The second one came into my life in a very bad and disasterous moment and it didnt last long enough, but I never got over him. I never will.
I guess Im just playing with guys nowadays, cause I just dont care. Sorry guys, its not really my fault that I dont care about anyone anymore

saa

Why do people get so defensive over this phrase, it's like Jesus no one actually believes it.. literally. (calm down I'm only jooohking.)

I love my fella so much I just want to squeeze him and then he looks into my eyes and tells me that I'm hurting him. He's my best friend as well, I have two other best friends and I love them so much, one of them got sucked into a relationship (you know what I mean) and I feel like I've lost them now, breaks my heart (got that pain in my chest actually heartbreak pain ).

But I feel that love is a fluid thing, the love I felt when i met my man isn't as strong as it is now and if I stopped caring the love would dissipate.
Of course there are other people out there I would be capable of loving saas got lots of love to give, form an orderly queues that's it, nice.

Bubblefett

To me Love of your Life means that great love, the one that overshadows all others. Whether it's your first boyfriend when you were a teen when you had that no limits kind of love, or the man you settled down with who loves you still as you grow older.

For me I am lucky. I have had one love. An amazing love. The love of my life quiet literally.

He knows me better than anyone and stands up with me against the world. We're a team and together we make a whole. Without him I'm just fragments, just like I was before him.
He writes me songs which he dedicates to me on stage and a poem on every birthday. I write novels and base heros on him. He's a fairytale romantic and compliments the disney princess inside of me.

When we first met he whispered to his friend "one day, I'll marry that girl."
Now, one day soon, he will.

dave3004

The girl of my dreams walked into my life over Xmas.

She then walked outta it back to continue living with her boyf.

Gutted.

LegacyUser

A guy with which nothing actually ever happened.
I thought i loved him- twas in college, he had a girlfriend.

we hung out in college, i was absolutely crazy about him , personally i think that why i had to repeat almost all my second year exams. not his fault, mine.

he had no interest in me, but he was very tolerant with me, he more than coped on i was obsessed but never dissed me in anyway.
During a rough time in my life after that, death in family, he was really good to me, think his just being on other end of phone i think stopped me from going insane, still 10 years later, i do think that.

he left college, started going out with friend of mine (who didnt have a clue i had liked him!) which slightly cracked me inside for few months.but got over it.

but although we werent the same after that ever, i always say there's a little compartment in my heart kept for him, as if my heart made up of little sections. odd i know.

Unfortunately, we don't really speak anymore, I'd still chat away if he kept in contact but he doesnt and there's only so many texts or emails i can send without getting reply before its time to stop. but then saying that If we meet each other , mutual friends , we'll have a chat.

he was a good (non) love of my life to have, better to have loved and lost etc.....

my (possibly gay) best friend is now the love of my life in a platonic sense. tell him i love him! he knows it, i know it!

i'm waffling, i'm tired/ it's late/ i can't go to bed for another few hours.

beks101

Neyite wrote: »

I think the "one that got away" or "the love of your life" concepts are actually quite detrimental - in my experience anyway.

+1 to this. It's something I've learned after a lot of dating and a recent upset in the heart department - taking a pragmatic rather than an emotional approach, as hard as it is, is sometimes vital to your life and happiness. You don't get just one shot at love, one 'soulmate', one 'other half', 'lobster', whatever you want to call it. It's completely a state of mind. You can choose to love again, or you can choose to close shop and wallow.

The "if only"s and "what if"s can reach a stage where they're less about that actual person and more about stubbornness, self-indulgence and lazy thinking - personally, I've used them repeatedly as a means to protect myself against more potential heartache. Handy little things It's taking a serious effort for me to put a halt to that way of thinking at the moment, but such is life.

As for a love of my life? I've got a family and set of friends I'd just not survive without, and a thirst for knowledge that I'll never quench. To date, boyfriends have just come and gone.

GettingBetter

I loved someone once who didn't love me back. We are good friends and I sometimes think of them as more

Das Kitty

I think the term has as much to do with breadth of shared experience as it does depth of emotion. The longer you are together the tighter the bonds that tie you together (assuming a healthy relationship).

I'm with my husband since 1999. We've done so much and experienced so much together. We don't finish one another's sentences, oftentimes we don't need to voice them at all. A deep level of intimacy and understanding. Some people think when they see a couple sitting silent in a restaurant that they'd hate to end up like that, but the truth is, easy silence is far more intimate than any conversation.

With all that said, only in the past six months have I really began to think of him as the love of my life. My therapist asked me what I think would be my dying thoughts at the end of my days. "My children" probably would have been my default answer had she not told me to think about it for a few minutes. I pictured myself there reflecting on my life and all my thoughts were of him. It was a little daunting. I'm comfortable with it now though.

If for some reason we parted, I think I would probably find someone else at some point, but I still think it's my husband that would be there in my head on my last days.

Sorry for the slightly morbid post!

Nyan Cat

cliche: i dont believe there is only one person for everyone
its true, i feel were capable of loving other people that intensly.
but: usually, if we find a great love we stick with them. we dont go looking for others if we commit to the love we have found. therefore that person may well be the love of your life. thats how that concept works for me anyway,

i havent met mine. im happy as i am. but im an optimist and if i find it, i wont ignore it!

platonic love of my life: my dad and my granny (well, im greedy so i have 2!;))
and pets

Princess Peach

I know I'm very young and I really REALLY hope I don't come to regret saying this but I do feel like it is my current boyfriend.

I just have this great feeling of security with him I've never felt with any other boyfriends. I've never had any doubts about us, and I think about our future a lot, can't say that for anyone else I've been with.

I think a big factor in "the love of your life" is that it is reciprocated. One reason I feel so safe in my relationship is that I get it back. I know how much my boyfriend loves me and that he feels the same. I don't think you can ever call "the one that got away" the love of your life if it never really had a full chance. My friend told me she met the one but he didn't feel the same and broke it off, I said then you never got to be in a loving relationship with him, so it can't have been that good. Someone you fancy like mad but never get with can't count, because you never got to experience a relationship with them. Even if your in love with your best friend, who knows, he might have been a lousy boyfriend.

I really do think I've met the one, and I've never felt like this even though I have been in love before.

Larleane28

I've had a number of intense long term relationships but I don't believe I've met the love of my life yet. Am seriously looking forward to it though!

SmokeyEyes

I've been with the love of my life for the past 8 1/2 years and every year gets better and better.

We're eachother's best friends as well as madly in love and it continues to be intense and romantic and loads of fun, the kind that makes you feel all jittery and happy like you're going to burst with happiness!

The longer we're together the more we learn how to be better people and better to eachother and it's very exciting to know when you've found your soulmate and they feel the same way and you will both do everything you can to make the relationship great!

Our relationship means the world to me and we both make sure we never take it for granted, we both know how lucky we are to have found the person who makes us feel whole!

Maple

My nieces. Honestly, I cannot fully express how much I just adore the pair of them, I cannot say just how much love and light and fun they have brought into my life.

They are my delight, I love them, just love them. You know that heart-squeezing love where you just clench with the love, that's the love I have for them.

In terms of men, no, I cannot say that I've had a love of my life. I've been in love and there certainly was one man who I thought was THE love of my life, but time and distance has shown me the person that he really is and has given me perspective.

I am in love now, and yes we're building a future together so maybe some day I will call him the love of my life, but right now the love I have for the babies eclipses all else in my life.

Blush_01

I thought I loved someone once.

He's been on my mind a lot recently.

I'd like to think I'll find someone who I'd be happy having a long-term relationship with into the future, but if it doesn't happen I'll have other things to make me happy.

I think we rely too much on other people and one-on-one relationships for satisfaction, happiness etc. It puts a lot of pressure on single people and on people in relationships that don't fit. Don't get me wrong, I believe in long-term, mutually beneficial, loving and successful relationships. I know I sound a bit clinical (considering I'm a total softie). But a friend of mine sent me a message recently and it made me laugh - "I'd rather be left on the shelf than locked in the wrong cupboard".

Reesy

My wife of 20 years. Since meeting her, life has been brilliant. And she loves me too. Wonderful.

Phuckitt

I met the love of my live nearly 2 years ago and now I've seen her walk out the door tonight

XenaLady

I kind of find it hard to believe that people are really loved back. How could anyone be so lucky that the one you care for, cares back? Never seen that really, mostly, me thinks, its a question of accepting the fact that "ok this guy likes me" so I can like back, until...

Das Kitty

XenaLady wrote: »

I kind of find it hard to believe that people are really loved back. How could anyone be so lucky that the one you care for, cares back? Never seen that really, mostly, me thinks, its a question of accepting the fact that "ok this guy likes me" so I can like back, until...

I hope that someone changes your viewpoint on this soon.
xx

jay phelan

The way I feel right now it has to be with the person I am in a long term relationship with now. I cannot imagine being with anyone else and don't want to be with either.

Arawn

ugh had a drean about her tonight, like 4 years after the break up, she was equal parts of amazing and psycho.

being said i'm in a fantastic relationship atm and would never go back to the ex

Abi

popsicklegirl wrote: »

Do you have one? For me personally, there was one guy who just did it for me. I have never forgotten him and probably never will. Am I the only one who has experienced this or are there others who have a special place in their hearts for that one special person ? Even though I'm married I still think about this guy and always wonder - what if .........

I dunno. I don't think I could be in a relationship with any 'what ifs' in my mind. I would want some kind of closure before I could meet someone new, rather than have that in the back of my mind.

I think it's fairer to your partner, that all of your love and thoughts are of them.

Maybe it's just me..

gcgirl

Don't believe in "love of my life" I just think sometimes the chemicals in our brains do funny things, plus helping out a friend a few years back on Internet hookups he looked after the women side I looked after the guy side and he did not have that much really to play with where as I got about 350 emails from guys who were mostly married/in relationships very few actually single and the guys were upfront about the lack of sex in their relationship and sexless marriages, it was unbelievable, after that it just furthered my belief