Question for drinkers

Godot.

Would you date someone that doesn't drink alcohol and wouldn't judge you on how much you drink, or would you not because you'd worry too much about whether the person is having a good time on a night out?

Irish Wolf

Yes.

Duggy747

Honestly don't care if they drink or not.

It's them judging me that I'd have the biggest problem with. I just don't put myself in those situations to get in relationships with people who'd have a problem with something I enjoy doing.

Sort of like going out with a non-smoker who feels they must enlighten you constantly on how bad smoking is and calculate up how much you spend every week.

randylonghorn

I went out with a girl for nearly two years who didn't drink (well, same as, one bottle of lager lasted her all night, and she didn't even have that most nights!)

Far from looking at me disapprovingly, she usually did her best to get drink into me (and laughed herself silly when I said daft things as a result!), and loaded me into the car and brought me home at the end of the night!

Depends on the person tbh ...

Chuck Stone

randylonghorn wrote: »

Far from looking at me disapprovingly, she usually did her best to get drink into me (and laughed herself silly when I said daft things as a result!), and loaded me into the car and brought me home at the end of the night!

And you broke up with this wonderful woman?

Shame on you Sir.

minidazzler

Nah, couldn't go out with a non-drinker, it's something I thoroughly enjoy and being in the company of non-drinkers when I'm hammered isn't fun for me, I'd just start taking the piss out of her.

ballsymchugh

last weekend i was chatting to a young lady who when she realised i didn't drink started harping on about non-drinkers having something to hide and that it was never going to work between us. all this about 15 minutes after i first started talking to her.
in the previous 15 minutes she was going on about how her soon to be ex-husband had left her 5 weeks before, left her with a 7 month old baby for a 23 year old, had spent all his time on his computer, how she was determined to get the house off him. i didn't even find out her name.

so yeah, looks like i had problems with not drinking...

Sharpshooter

Chuck Stone wrote: »

And you broke up with this wonderful woman?

Shame on you Sir.

Sir randylonghorn, has a certain ring to it.:pac:

It's swings and roundabouts really, it depends on how well you know each other really,OP, I wouldn't go out with someone who would sit in judgement of any aspect of my life.

IRISHSPORTSGUY

Hot Lips wrote: »

Sir randylonghorn, has a certain ring to it.

It's swings and roundabouts really, it depends on how well you know each other really,OP, I wouldn't go out with someone who would sit in judgement of any aspect of my life.

What if you regularly killed people for sport and the person had a problem with it? :pac:

Sharpshooter

IRISHSPORTSGUY wrote: »

What if you regularly killed people for sport and the person had a problem with it? :pac:

This thread is not about killing people for sport, please stay on topic.:pac:

randylonghorn

Chuck Stone wrote: »

And you broke up with this wonderful woman?

Shame on you Sir.

Mr Keek

That's the sorta of thing I hate about this country, why do people make such a big deal about non drinkers? One of the girls at wrk doesn't drink and gets nothing but "Jesus, how do you have a good night without a drink " it's quite sad really.

I do drink myself but I just don't see what the big deal about non drinkers is.

I do take issue with non drinkers who are smug because of their choice not to drink however.

As for Pioneers, they can feck right off, what do ye want, a medal or something!!

'Edit'

To answer the question, yes I would have no problem seeing a non drinker.

pragmatic1

Yeah as long as she did drugs.

vicecreamsundae

Yeah definitely. I only started drinking myself a few years ago. All through my teens and early twenties I was straight edge and always enjoyed nights out with my friends in bars and clubs, so I certainly don't have this preconception that people who don't drink are no fun or judgemental. I'm also not one of those people who needs to be babysat when I drink, so I wouldn't feel self conscious around a sober boyfriend.

Lavezzi

Silly question as it is addressed to both genders. We already know men in this Country are so desperate they'll take anything with a pulse whether she drinks alcohol or not. It should really only be addressed to females..

IRISHSPORTSGUY

Lavezzi wrote: »

Silly question as it is addressed to both genders. We already know men in this Country are so desperate they'll take anything with a pulse whether she drinks alcohol or not. It should really only be addressed to females..

Post 6 says hi

minidazzler

IRISHSPORTSGUY wrote: »

Post 6 says hi

Oh, you got me wrong, I'd have sex with a non-drinker no problem, but I wouldn't go out with or date one.

saa

Yes.

They couldn't be telling me whether to drink though, my boyfriend and I don't drink that often together its not a problem.
You can always go out with other friends to drink while in a relationship, if you get along that well not drinking isn't a problem. And if it is then maybe its a clear sign it wouldn't work anyway.

Eric Cartman

only if they drive, free lift home every night

Oh_Noes

Eric Cartman wrote: »

only if they drive, free lift home every night

Sums it up for me.

Non-drinking motorist other half = I can drink everywhere I go :pac:

Eric Cartman

Oh_Noes wrote: »

Sums it up for me.

Non-drinking motorist other half = I can drink everywhere I go :pac:

get one on the dole, pay for fuel and youd never have to be sober again

ameliadad

I don't think there's any problem with it. My friend had a problem with his now girlfriend at first as she didn't drink, and he drank regularly (and probably too much often). But he got to really like her and now he feels he's had a positive effect on him. He doesn't go overboard with drinking anymore

Helix

Mr Keek wrote: »

That's the sorta of thing I hate about this country, why do people make such a big deal about non drinkers? One of the girls at wrk doesn't drink and gets nothing but "Jesus, how do you have a good night without a drink " it's quite sad really.

it's pathetic and its very, very annoying

unfortunately, for the most part, it seems like irish people don't actually understand that you can have a good time without being absolutely retarded drunk

Eric Cartman

Helix wrote: »

it's pathetic and its very, very annoying

unfortunately, for the most part, it seems like irish people don't actually understand that you can have a good time without being absolutely retarded drunk

in all fairness if everyone else was in the same boat it would be grand, i can have a great night sober / after 1 or 2 if theres a load of other sober people around, but there is nothing worse than being sober around a load of your mates off their face

irish_stevo815

I wouldnt go out with someone who doesn't drink.

It may sound weird, but I don't trust anyone who won't drink. It's as if they have something to hide and are afraid that if they drink they may let it all out or something.

I dunno why i feel this way about it, but i like to have the craic when im out, including a few brewskies.

stovelid

Not sure.

Not matter how much they say they wouldn't judge, it might be be impossible not to. Even if it's only minor, like not wanting to be in a pub with you and other drunks.

fussyonion

Tricky one because obviously it's up to the person whether they drink or not but it would only bother me if the non drinker was judging me on my alcohol consumption.
I would hate to be sitting there feeling like they were watching me and looking down on me for doing something which is completely my choice.
It would depend on that, I suppose.

Helix

irish_stevo815 wrote: »

I wouldnt go out with someone who doesn't drink.

It may sound weird, but I don't trust anyone who won't drink. It's as if they have something to hide and are afraid that if they drink they may let it all out or something.

I dunno why i feel this way about it, but i like to have the craic when im out, including a few brewskies.

that's a bizarre outlook on it to be honest there man

i rarely drink because i moved out of ireland and, shock horror, realised that in other countries you don't go out and get shìtfaced every friday and saturday night. booze is respected and people, and society, are much better off because of it

ill still have the odd drink, sure, but nothing like the irish way of doing things, which, as i said in another thread recently, would have pretty much everyone in the country classed as an alcoholic anywhere other than ireland or the uk

irish_stevo815

Helix wrote: »

i rarely drink because i moved out of ireland and, shock horror, realised that in other countries you don't go out and get shìtfaced every friday and saturday night. booze is respected and people, and society, are much better off because of it

I totally agree with you there man. I'd much rather have 7-8 pints on a saturday night, have a laugh, and go home happy rather than add shots/spirits on top of it and be going around like a lunatic, puking all over the place.

But i just wouldnt want to with a girl who is not drinking and thinking im making an ass of myself at times.

wnolan1992

A girl would need to be absolutely hammered to even consider going out with me, so no, no I wouldn't. :pac:

jamiecoins

go out get drunk leave girlfriend at home
she does not drink at all
she gives me any lip from how drunk i am
back to the kitchen with her !

Helix

irish_stevo815 wrote: »

I totally agree with you there man. I'd much rather have 7-8 pints on a saturday night

see thats the thing, 7-8 pints is a ridiculously large amount, despite it being seen as very little in ireland

irish_stevo815

Helix wrote: »

see thats the thing, 7-8 pints is a ridiculously large amount, despite it being seen as very little in ireland

See thats a matter of opinion because after 7-8 pints im tipsy/merry and not falling all over the place. But to some people thats too much to handle and to other people it may seem like nothing at all

For Forks Sake

Helix wrote: »

it's pathetic and its very, very annoying

unfortunately, for the most part, it seems like irish people don't actually understand that you can have a good time without being absolutely retarded drunk

Wierd... http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Boards.ie&defid=3327029

Boards.ie

An Irish internet message board that has more forums than topics, averaging about 2 topics per 5 forums. Being an Irish website, the main discussion is drinking, with 307 forums dedicated to this subject. Many drinking sessions are organised on a daily basis, making the general population of boards.ie drunk 46% of the time.
A typical boards.ie thread will consist of someone suggesting pints, 30 people are up for it, 12 argue about the venue, 17 people demanding a pissup be organised in their county, 2 people making it clear that they don't drink, and 82 people saying they won'd be able to make it as they're too hungover from last night's pissup.

:eek:

For Forks Sake

Helix wrote: »

see thats the thing, 7-8 pints is a ridiculously large amount, despite it being seen as very little in ireland

7-8 pints is 14-16 units, well within the guidline of 21 advised by drinkaware : http://drinkaware.ie/index.php?sid=6&pid=116

Aurum

For Forks Sake wrote: »

7-8 pints is 14-16 units, well within the guidline of 21 advised by drinkaware : http://drinkaware.ie/index.php?sid=6&pid=116

That's 21 per week. Consuming more than six units of alcohol is considered binge drinking.

And to answer the OP's question, I think it's ridiculous to base one's relationship choices on the other person's drinking habits. It really isn't normal for drinking to play that big a part in your life.

Jaxxy

There's no point in getting into the semantics regarding unit intake and what is classified as "binge" drinking. Some people can easily and happily drink up to 7-8 pints on a night out and that's their personal choice, I don't think one night of pints in a week makes someone a "binger". Likewise someone can go out and drink half that and end up puking in your handbag. At the end of the day it's all down to the individual. Personally I think someone recognising their limit as 7-8 drinks and knowing if they go over that things could get messy, is actually a more mature approach.

Anyway, back OT, I'd have no problem going out with someone who doesn't drink, as long as they don't judge me for enjoying my few at the weekend or a couple of glasses of wine after a long day in work.

DEFTLEFTHAND

I'd be cool with it, as long as my own drinking habits wouldn't be criticised or curtailed in any fashion.

jacksprat

I wouldn't go out with the non-drinker unless they judged me

x in the city

Godot. wrote: »

Would you date someone that doesn't drink alcohol and wouldn't judge you on how much you drink, or would you not because you'd worry too much about whether the person is having a good time on a night out?

what a stupid question, there nothing wrong with NOT drinking.

people who drink themselves into oblivion are idiots.

minidazzler

Helix wrote: »

it's pathetic and its very, very annoying

unfortunately, for the most part, it seems like irish people don't actually understand that you can have a good time without being absolutely retarded drunk

No, we understand you can have a good time without drink, but we also understand drink makes everything more awesome, like kebabs and driving, they are way better after loads of drink.

Also, stop being so judgmental, you live in Toronto, they tore a city apart because they lost a fcuking hockey match, that's much more problematic than drinking.

x in the city wrote: »

what a stupid question, there nothing wrong with NOT drinking.

people who drink themselves into oblivion are idiots.

Hemingway, what a retard, Bukowski, complete twat, Hunter S. Thompson, ****ing loser.

I'm just saying, Hitler was a tee-total vegetarian, Churchill was a red-meat eating whiskey swilling souse. Game, set and match.

Princess Peach

My boyfriend can't drink for medical reasons, isn't a bother to me at at all! He has no problem with me drinking whatsoever, if its a bottle of wine on a night in or me getting plastered on a night out! No judgement at all.

And he still comes out and has a fun time too, he's not one of these people who "needs" to drink when they go out. I'm not either, am often pretty happy out sober too.

And its nice to always have a sober driver :pac:

Jen Pigs Fly

I'm kinda with someone who doesn't drink.

We still go out to nightclubs and bars, and he doesn't mind it when I drink too much, even takes care of me later on that night with some panadol and water before I go to bed :rolleyes:

losthorizon

Dont mind and I dont mind people who smoke dope or cigars but I hate smokers. They hould be BANNED from the country FILTHY, DISGUSTING ANIMALS.

I would not shag a smoker and Im a man!!

vampire of kilmainham

i take a drink myself everyone elses drink.....and no i wouldent go out with a women that dident drink

Helix

irish_stevo815 wrote: »

See thats a matter of opinion because after 7-8 pints im tipsy/merry and not falling all over the place. But to some people thats too much to handle and to other people it may seem like nothing at all

you can only handle that much because you have a high tolerance, which is due to how much you drink. sure i used to have no problem having 15-20 drinks on a night out in ireland, now im locked after 4

Helix

For Forks Sake wrote: »

7-8 pints is 14-16 units, well within the guidline of 21 advised by drinkaware : http://drinkaware.ie/index.php?sid=6&pid=116

thats supposed to be over a week, not over 6 hours

Helix

minidazzler wrote: »

Also, stop being so judgmental, you live in Toronto, they tore a city apart because they lost a fcuking hockey match, that's much more problematic than drinking.

no, that was vancouver

which is about 4,400km away from toronto

minidazzler

Helix wrote: »

you can only handle that much because you have a high tolerance, which is due to how much you drink. sure i used to have no problem having 15-20 drinks on a night out in ireland, now im locked after 4

Tolerance doesn't fall that low unless you are seriously ill or on medication.

Helix wrote: »

thats supposed to be over a week, not over 6 hours

Those numbers were plucked out of thin air. Even the scientists who came up with them even admitted that.

Helix

minidazzler wrote: »

Tolerance doesn't fall that low unless you are seriously ill or on medication.

it certainly does. id regularly go have 10+ drinks twice a week in ireland. moved over here in august 2009, and went the guts of a year without drinking at all. since then, ill be half cut on 2 and drunk on 4. im in good health and on no medication at all

horsemeat

I don't think people are honestly aware of the damage alcohol does to the body.
it's a toxin.
some people seem to think it's a gift from the Gods with no negative consequences