Do you ever think about your loved ones dying?

John Doe1

I've recently had these vivid thoughts about both my mother and sister dying. I'm not asleep or anything and its reall scary and i have actually started bawling on one occasion.

Biggins

Yes, but I honestly try not to.

El Guapo!

Death is inevitable. It's part of life. No point thinking about it cause there's nothing you can do to stop it. Think about it too much and it'll consume you. Just relax, and enjoy life.

mackg

My dad's pretty much on the way out at the moment so it's something that I have been giving a lot of thought recently, don't think there is anything wrong with getting emotional about it, it's one of the hardest things a person will have to deal with in their life.

hondasam

we all think about it but until it happens you have no idea how you will react.
Live each day as if it's your last.

SEPT 23 1989

"And I am not frightened of dying. Any time will do. I don't mind. Why should I be frightened of dying?"

Princess Peach

I have psychiatric problems and if I don't get a text back from my boyfriend in a few hours I usually assume he's dead.

I do think about what would happen if family members died too, how I would feel, who would comfort me and what would happen next. Think about it quite often come to think of it....

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LH Pathe

gettn close to about that time.. though my ma's been an ould wan since 34 so hard to tell. how come I'm still practically a boy at the same age, is it we are living longer n all that

as regards to non family a recommendation: Know less people. much easier on your constitution they're likey not as much your friend as you maybe view them, no point in shedding tears like you lost or about to lose. something

Yeh and they're so vivid I can feel it. Not nice

Red Hand

Princess Peach wrote: »

I have psychiatric problems and if I don't get a text back from my boyfriend in a few hours I usually assume he's dead.

I do think about what would happen if family members died too, how I would feel, who would comfort me and what would happen next. Think about it quite often come to think of it....

Anyone want to donate me money for the counselor?

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Yes, I think about stuff like that. Like, how will I cope when parent is old and emfeebled or if my siblings died suddenly.

Millicent

OP, if you're getting the same thoughts frequently, it could be a sign of depression, an anxiety disorder or another mental illness. Keep an eye on it and if it gets worse, do go to the doctor.

Hope it stops soon. I've experienced it before and it's a nasty feeling, not nice at all.

harvester of sorrow

Yeah sometimes i think about my loved ones dying....i thought i was the only weirdo with these toughts,and that their was something wrong with me:eek:
Ahhhh good old AH to the rescue again......

Yahew

My parents are late 60's so I have realised that they, on average, have only a decade left. That is on my mind. In their 50's or early 60's I didn't think much about it.

( Of couse my grandmother lived to 88, so it could be much longer, but can't assume anything).

fran oconnor

SEPT 23 1989 wrote: »

"And I am not frightened of dying. Any time will do. I don't mind. Why should I be frightened of dying?"

Floyd fan??.

Ellis Dee

John Doe1 wrote: »

I've recently had these vivid thoughts about both my mother and sister dying. I'm not asleep or anything and its reall scary and i have actually started bawling on one occasion.

I had similar unsettling and morbid thoughts about my mother when I was around 13 or 14. Maybe it's just a phase that everyone/most people go through, and in my case it passed. Try not to dwell on them.:)

John Doe1

Millicent wrote: »

OP, if you're getting the same thoughts frequently, it could be a sign of depression, an anxiety disorder or another mental illness. Keep an eye on it and if it gets worse, do go to the doctor.

Hope it stops soon. I've experienced it before and it's a nasty feeling, not nice at all.

I have had depression in the past so perhaps that has something to do with it. I really shouldnt be thinking like that im only 21 and my parents are mid 40's aswell.

Sorry if ive made anyone think about their loved ones dying since the thread started.

pragmatic1

Yeah. Especially when I'm hungover for some reason. Dont know what I'll do when they die.

LH Pathe

when someone else stops living, I might actually start living

/ that's awful I wish no-one dead! Don't be puttn words in my mouth ma.. Ideas in my head

My name is URL

Dean09 wrote: »

Death is inevitable. It's part of life. No point thinking about it cause there's nothing you can do to stop it.

You could say the same for taxes but we're made to think about those all the time =p

I just had to endure a loved one dying tuesday.

I knew the end had been coming for her for awhile.. But I honestly thought she'd live forever.. as childish as that may seem.

I'm trying not to think of anything morbid at all right now, or else.. it will lead to me to break down.

UpCork

Yes. I am very close to my Mum and I think about it quite a bit. I remember once someone saying to me "why bother being close to your Mum, she's going to die someday and it'll make it harder for you". I thought it was a dreadful thing to say and before that perhaps I had thought about her being immortal, but it was that comment that really made me think about it.

Even now just writing this is making me teary-eyed as it is just a ghastly thought.

Back in April I was sitting with Mum (mid50s) watching the royal wedding and we were commenting on would Charles everbecome King. I just made a throwaway comment saying "isn't it weird that when William and Kate have a child, I probably won't be alive when they become King/Queen". Just a normal observation - Mum turns to me and said "I probably won't see William take to the throne" -meaning that th eQueen is still going strong and with the longevity of the royal family, Charlie will probably live to a ripe old age - she, was only made small talk, but I burst into tears when she said it -as I think it made me realise she was mortal.

Sad to think about it, but it does make you think and realise you need to cherish people

Johro

Millicent wrote: »

OP, if you're getting the same thoughts frequently, it could be a sign of depression, an anxiety disorder or another mental illness. Keep an eye on it and if it gets worse, do go to the doctor.

Hope it stops soon. I've experienced it before and it's a nasty feeling, not nice at all.

Been having those too, occasionally, the feeling you wake up with is hard to shake, scary alright. I think it's a subconscious thought that's already in your head and manifests in your dreams as a lot of people's fears do. Anyway, you're right, mine's anxiety, I do get panicky sometimes.
Yeah definitely talk about it if it gets worse OP.

paddy978

Quite regularly, it freaks me out.

Conor Bourke

All. The. Time. Only last night I was wondering what the hell I'd do if one of my parents were to pass right now. My head almost exploded with the thoughts of what that would mean.

We lost our brother last year, it was a sudden death. I think about him every day. The entirety of the effect of his death can't be put into words. I cannot bear to think about losing another sibling, but it could happen.

fran oconnor

I lost my mother a few years back due to cancer, and to this day it haunts me, the fear of my father passing away is really unthinkable at this stage for me, he's to have a small skin cancer lump removed next week and its bringing everything flooding back.

carfiosaoorl

I worry about it but try not to think to much about it. I am 34 and have lost a lot of relatives in the last few years but no-one really close. I dread that day. Wish it would never come.

Eve_Dublin

My mam died when I was 11 and myself and all my family have an unhealthy obsession with my dad dying. He's not a healthy man and doesn't look after himself and every time the phone rings, I presume it's a call from home. I already have the plan of how I'm going to get my **** together and get home from Spain to Ireland if (when ) it happens.

I have those nightmares too, OP but not so often. As someone said, if it's a regular occurance, get it checked out.

Life is tough for all of us eventually.

kelle

I always worried about my mother and father, sadly my fear became reality when they were both diagnosed with cancer around the same time and died within 4 weeks of each other.

Now I worry about my husband, my children, my brothers and their families. I pin my hopes on my parents looking after us from up above.

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

My mam died when I was 11 and myself and all my family have an unhealthy obsession with my dad dying. He's not a healthy man and doesn't look after himself and every time the phone rings, I presume it's a call from home. I already have the plan of how I'm going to get my **** together and get home from Spain to Ireland if (when ) it happens.

I have those nightmares too, OP but not so often. As someone said, if it's a regular occurance, get it checked out.

Life is tough for all of us eventually.

I'm so sorry for your loss, especially when you were such a young age.

Millicent

John Doe1 wrote: »

I have had depression in the past so perhaps that has something to do with it. I really shouldnt be thinking like that im only 21 and my parents are mid 40's aswell.

Sorry if ive made anyone think about their loved ones dying since the thread started.

Don't be sorry at all. Just make sure you're taking care of yourself.

Eve_Dublin

kelle wrote: »

I always worried about my mother and father, sadly my fear became reality when they were both diagnosed with cancer around the same time and died within 4 weeks of each other.

Wow Kelle. That's terrible. I'm so sorry. Tragic part of life but sure, were all here for each other hopefully.

Johro

John Doe1 wrote: »

I have had depression in the past so perhaps that has something to do with it. I really shouldnt be thinking like that im only 21 and my parents are mid 40's aswell.

Sorry if ive made anyone think about their loved ones dying since the thread started.

'Yeah sometimes i think about my loved ones dying....i thought i was the only weirdo with these toughts,and that their was something wrong with me...
Ahhhh good old AH to the rescue again...... '
A post on page 1, so no worries there I'd guess OP.

John Doe1

Millicent wrote: »

Don't be sorry at all. Just make sure you're talking care of yourself.

Thanks:)

brummytom

I often think about what I'd say at other peoples' funerals...

uch

My Ma died two weeks ago and my biggest dread was people coming up to shake hands with me after the service, was glad my missus knew the undertaker and got him to arrange to take my Ma's remains out straight away when the priest was finished, it was nice when anybody in the Cemetery wanted to give their condolences because I knew them all.

s14driftking

im 30 and tbh if family died in the morning i dont think it would affect me. i have a bad relationship with bro and sis and not much better with mother. To be far only one i think id miss would be my dad

DEFTLEFTHAND

I try not to, but its something in life that most unfortunately will have to experience.

uch

s14driftking wrote: »

im 30 and tbh if family died in the morning i dont think it would affect me. i have a bad relationship with bro and sis and not much better with mother. To be far only one i think id miss would be my dad

Wanna Bet?

Dave147

The only reason I still live in this country is because I want to spend as much time with my mom as possible because I know she won't be around forever, she is also unwell at the moment so it makes me think about it a lot more, it's really really difficult as I'm very close to my parents, especially my mother.. When I was a child I used suffer sleepless nights over it.

I just hope all my family reach old age, can't ask for anything more than that..

ottostreet

I often have times where I realise that in 50 years time, very few people I know now will still be alive. In 100 years, there will be an entirely new set of 6-7 billion people inhabiting our world, and we will all have been dead & gone quite a while. It's depressing, but realism.

I hate the fact that life exists, simply because it also includes death. And no, I'm not depressed or a negative type of person, I am atheist, and it's at times when I think like this, I understand why so many people embrace religion, it is so comforting and warm by comparison.

ballsacky

Always worried about it growing up then I lost my father a year ago this Monday. Never thought I would cope with something like that,but I did.

Chuck Stone

I'm very lucky to not have lost anyone who I've been very close to. Parents are getting older now and it's there in the back of my mind regular enuf.

Jesus this is a fierce sad thread. :'''(

LH Pathe

Sometimes I suspect a mother may be a greater loss but then da wasn't really around in later yrs and probably needed to be taken out of his misery tbh.. too many emotional and physical ailments at 50, old beyond his years of course the his side will say he died of a broken heart but in truth death by sclerosis of liver suggests peg leg was awful fond of the booze. And shouldn't have played away

TentCrasher

After losing a few close friends, I try to stay well clear of thinking of death. Iam lucky enough to still have my parents, siblings and partner. It be a true test if I lost any of them.

davemc180

i lost a friend was devastating , my mam was diagnosed with breast cancer 5 year ago when i was sitting my leaving cert, its had me in bits, but she pulled threw, but then last year she was diagnosed with bone marrow cancer and had to have a Hysterectomy done due to side effects...

i love her to bits and shes always on my mind, shes on the mend again now though thank god

id be devastated if i lost her and have thought about it many times

beks101

No way. I won't survive any such loss, it will be the death of me. So I refuse to think about it.

KeithAFC

ottostreet wrote: »

I often have times where I realise that in 50 years time, very few people I know now will still be alive. In 100 years, there will be an entirely new set of 6-7 billion people inhabiting our world, and we will all have been dead & gone quite a while. It's depressing, but realism.

I hate the fact that life exists, simply because it also includes death. And no, I'm not depressed or a negative type of person, I am atheist, and it's at times when I think like this, I understand why so many people embrace religion, it is so comforting and warm by comparison.

Being an Atheist or Agnostic does not mean you need to have such a miserable out look. And being religious can often bring the opposite to comfort. Religious people are constantly discussing what happens after death and death isn't far from the mind.

A person who doesn't give a shyte is often in the best position.

zenno

This is a question that can never be simply answered, and i have thought about this as well in the past.

all you can do is do your best to look after the people you love and treat them with respect and spend plenty of time enjoying their company and making them happy. we will all go sometime but remembering the good memories after they do pass away is the key to recovering from the loss.

AeoNGriM

SEPT 23 1989 wrote: »

"And I am not frightened of dying. Any time will do. I don't mind. Why should I be frightened of dying?"

Kudos for the Floyd quote, and I would agree. I'm not frightened of dying, but I'm absolutely terrifiied of a family member going though.

stovelid

I go through stages of terror that something would happen to my kids - usually inspired by stories you hear about but like Biggins said, you have to try not to think about it or you'd go mad.

Obviously as my parents are both hitting 70 now, their mortality has been on my mind a lot more of late.

IvyTheTerrible

I never used to think about it, til my brother died, and then the possibility became more "real". Also, my parents are getting older so they are getting more health problems, which made me realise they won't be here forever.

I try not to dwell on it though, and to enjoy our time together. Otherwise you are wasting time.

Mr Benevolent

Yeah I do, for years now. No fun, but I'm getting better at blocking the thoughts out or distracting myself.