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Could you have a long-term relationship with someone without sex?

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  • 31-10-2011 5:38pm
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    John Doe1
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    Say for instance, a girl or a guy had a very low sex drive or even a disability which prevented them from being able to. Could you still stay with them and stay faithful.


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    aujopimur
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    What kind of disability would prevent someone having sex?.


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    Kiera
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,130 ✭✭✭✭Kiera


    Hell no!


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    im invisible
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,372 ✭✭✭im invisible


    Yeah, just get married...


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    phasers
    Registered Users Posts: 18,159 ✭✭✭✭phasers


    aujopimur wrote: »
    What kind of disability would prevent someone having sex?.
    Maybe they were born flat in front like Ken


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    Saila
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,751 ✭✭✭Saila


    aujopimur wrote: »
    What kind of disability would prevent someone having sex?.

    being paralysed from the waist down usually works


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    super_furry
    Registered Users Posts: 27,322 ✭✭✭✭super_furry


    Well if there's no sex it's just a friendship really isn't it? And I can't think of any friend that, as a condition of their friendship, would insist that you remain celebate.


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    ElleEm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,981 ✭✭✭ElleEm


    Nope!

    Was in a relationship with someone for a few months who had a problem in "that department" and couldn't have sex. He wouldn't even do other sexual stuff. It was at that point that I realised how important it was to me.


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    John Doe1
    Registered Users Posts: 2,921 ✭✭✭John Doe1


    aujopimur wrote: »
    What kind of disability would prevent someone having sex?.

    http://familyguy.wikia.com/wiki/Joe_Swanson


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    hondasam
    Closed Accounts Posts: 34,418 ✭✭✭✭hondasam


    That's a difficult question to answer,there is more to a relationship than sex, it's important but if you love someone you will find a way to be happy.
    I'm talking about a married couple not a new relationship.


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    Cill Dara Abu
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,851 ✭✭✭Cill Dara Abu


    No!


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    phasers
    Registered Users Posts: 18,159 ✭✭✭✭phasers


    Are they rich?


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    flyaway.
    Registered Users Posts: 519 ✭✭✭flyaway.


    If something happened after years of marriage or whatever? Yeah, probably.

    But a new relationship? Nah.


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    cloneslad
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    Cill Dara Abu wrote: »
    No!

    You dump Ciara then?


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    mattjack
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    John Doe1 wrote: »
    Say for instance, a girl or a guy had a very low sex drive or even a disability which prevented them from being able to. Could you still stay with them and stay faithful.

    Is there something you're trying to tell us ?


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    Saila
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    better if the girl is disabled. a guy needs wood to penetrate

    but a girl just needs to accept one and you can use cushions for positioning, so much harder if the man cant have penetrative sex.

    Im more sensual now, so it wouldn't bother me as much as years ago


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    veryangryman
    Registered Users Posts: 5,541 ✭✭✭veryangryman


    John Doe1 wrote: »
    Say for instance, a girl or a guy had a very low sex drive or even a disability which prevented them from being able to. Could you still stay with them and stay faithful.

    Define "low"

    No, as a man I generally need to kick ass or ride women; doing one generally helps outdo the other urge. And im not the type who kicks ass much.

    So i would be quite honest and say no. Its not THE most important thing, but it is a vital aspect.


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    John Doe1
    Registered Users Posts: 2,921 ✭✭✭John Doe1


    mattjack wrote: »
    Is there something you're trying to tell us ?

    Its totally hypothetical


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    Johnny Bitte
    Registered Users Posts: 1,099 ✭✭✭Johnny Bitte


    Sex isnt the most important part of a relationship but its a frakking big part.

    If the needs of one arent being met by their partner I can only imagine the temptation to look else where starts to kick in!! (Bearing this in mind I have every intention of rocking girlfriends world tonight):D


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    Eric Cartman
    Registered Users Posts: 26,282 ✭✭✭✭Eric Cartman


    only if shes buyin me top notch brassers every day , and still couldnt last longer than a month at that


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    Novella
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    If a guy had a very low sex drive, or a sex drive lower than mine, then no. I'd consider that sexually incompatible.

    If I was with someone who after a period of time became incapable of having sex, I doubt I'd leave for that reason but I imagine it would place a huge strain on the relationship and tbh, I'm not really sure I would be open to the idea of beginning a relationship where sex was immediately off the cards.


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    ToddyDoody
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    If there was a large cash prize after a defined period of time then yes. If it didnt make a blind bit of difference either way then no


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    Samich
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,949 ✭✭✭Samich


    I wish I had the chance to answer.


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    #24
    Cill Dara Abu
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,851 ✭✭✭Cill Dara Abu


    Samich wrote: »
    I wish I had the chance to answer.
    The online dating not working out?


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    Samich
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,949 ✭✭✭Samich


    Cill Dara Abu wrote: »
    The online dating not working out?

    nope.

    thanks for enquiring.


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    wobblyknees
    Registered Users Posts: 1,435 ✭✭✭wobblyknees


    John Doe1 wrote: »
    Say for instance, a girl or a guy had a very low sex drive or even a disability which prevented them from being able to. Could you still stay with them and stay faithful.

    Only if she paid for the prostitutes.


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    LighterGuy
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    John Doe1 wrote: »
    Say for instance, a girl or a guy had a very low sex drive or even a disability which prevented them from being able to. Could you still stay with them and stay faithful.

    See, in your example thats less likely to happen (a person being disabled or such a low sex drive that they dont wanna have sex)

    You're more likely to encounter a person who doesnt want sex because something else is at play .... They are just using you ... The relationship is practually dead etc etc. So all in all. I say i cant be in a relationship without sex.


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    Aisling(",)
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    I think I could quite easily.


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    #29
    starlit
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    It wouldn't really matter to me as sex isn't all that important to me. I wouldn't be bothered being in a long term relationship and no sex if anything it be more likely to happen the other way around.

    Though I need to be compatible with them I suppose in the long run it might be a deciding factor but for a new relationship it wouldn't matter, sex wouldn't be everything.

    I wouldn't put pressure on sex in a new relationship when starting out as other factors can impact on how long a relationship would last. I'd have to fully trust someone before that sort of thing happens regardless if its early on in the relationship or a long term one.

    Compatibility in all aspects as well as that department then well it might impact on the relationship but more likely impact my partner more than me depends.

    Sometimes no sex could be a deciding factor in ending a relationship whether is someone who wants it but not getting it ends it or those that strictly no sex ends the relationship due to pressure to have sex.

    Every ones sex drive and compatibility as well as experience varies.

    Sex in reality shouldn't put a price tag on a relationship if its the only deciding factor of it ended there should be more coherent reasons as well. If its just sex its something you could get passed the issue eventually if you are the right person or the one then they will eventually.


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    4leto
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    I am kind of in one, a non sexual one, my best friend since I was 2 or 3, we have lived together and we talk to each other most days. His wife thinks we should have got married which to be honest is a horrible thought.

    We are just close and always have been and hopilly always will be.


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    stateofflux
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    The_Goose135 wrote: »
    Sex isnt the most important part of a relationship but its a frakking big part.

    what could possibly be more important than the ride?


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