Could you have a long-term relationship with someone without sex?

John Doe1 · 31-10-2011 4:38pm #1

Say for instance, a girl or a guy had a very low sex drive or even a disability which prevented them from being able to. Could you still stay with them and stay faithful.

aujopimur · 31-10-2011 4:42pm

What kind of disability would prevent someone having sex?.

Kiera · 31-10-2011 4:43pm

Hell no!

im invisible · 31-10-2011 4:43pm

Yeah, just get married...

phasers · 31-10-2011 4:43pm

aujopimur wrote: »

What kind of disability would prevent someone having sex?.

Maybe they were born flat in front like Ken

Saila · 31-10-2011 4:43pm

aujopimur wrote: »

What kind of disability would prevent someone having sex?.

being paralysed from the waist down usually works

super_furry · 31-10-2011 4:44pm

Well if there's no sex it's just a friendship really isn't it? And I can't think of any friend that, as a condition of their friendship, would insist that you remain celebate.

ElleEm · 31-10-2011 4:46pm

Nope!

Was in a relationship with someone for a few months who had a problem in "that department" and couldn't have sex. He wouldn't even do other sexual stuff. It was at that point that I realised how important it was to me.

John Doe1 · 31-10-2011 4:47pm

aujopimur wrote: »

What kind of disability would prevent someone having sex?.

http://familyguy.wikia.com/wiki/Joe_Swanson

hondasam · 31-10-2011 4:53pm

That's a difficult question to answer,there is more to a relationship than sex, it's important but if you love someone you will find a way to be happy.
I'm talking about a married couple not a new relationship.

Cill Dara Abu · 31-10-2011 4:53pm

No!

phasers · 31-10-2011 4:54pm

Are they rich?

flyaway. · 31-10-2011 4:55pm

If something happened after years of marriage or whatever? Yeah, probably.

But a new relationship? Nah.

cloneslad · 31-10-2011 4:55pm

Cill Dara Abu wrote: »

No!

You dump Ciara then?

mattjack · 31-10-2011 4:56pm

John Doe1 wrote: »

Say for instance, a girl or a guy had a very low sex drive or even a disability which prevented them from being able to. Could you still stay with them and stay faithful.

Is there something you're trying to tell us ?

Saila · 31-10-2011 4:57pm

better if the girl is disabled. a guy needs wood to penetrate

but a girl just needs to accept one and you can use cushions for positioning, so much harder if the man cant have penetrative sex.

Im more sensual now, so it wouldn't bother me as much as years ago

veryangryman · 31-10-2011 4:59pm

John Doe1 wrote: »

Say for instance, a girl or a guy had a very low sex drive or even a disability which prevented them from being able to. Could you still stay with them and stay faithful.

Define "low"

No, as a man I generally need to kick ass or ride women; doing one generally helps outdo the other urge. And im not the type who kicks ass much.

So i would be quite honest and say no. Its not THE most important thing, but it is a vital aspect.

John Doe1 · 31-10-2011 5:00pm

mattjack wrote: »

Is there something you're trying to tell us ?

Its totally hypothetical

Johnny Bitte · 31-10-2011 5:01pm

Sex isnt the most important part of a relationship but its a frakking big part.

If the needs of one arent being met by their partner I can only imagine the temptation to look else where starts to kick in!! (Bearing this in mind I have every intention of rocking girlfriends world tonight):D

Eric Cartman · 31-10-2011 5:02pm

only if shes buyin me top notch brassers every day , and still couldnt last longer than a month at that

Novella · 31-10-2011 5:03pm

If a guy had a very low sex drive, or a sex drive lower than mine, then no. I'd consider that sexually incompatible.

If I was with someone who after a period of time became incapable of having sex, I doubt I'd leave for that reason but I imagine it would place a huge strain on the relationship and tbh, I'm not really sure I would be open to the idea of beginning a relationship where sex was immediately off the cards.

ToddyDoody · 31-10-2011 5:03pm

If there was a large cash prize after a defined period of time then yes. If it didnt make a blind bit of difference either way then no

Samich · 31-10-2011 5:15pm

I wish I had the chance to answer.

Cill Dara Abu · 31-10-2011 5:16pm

Samich wrote: »

I wish I had the chance to answer.

The online dating not working out?

Samich · 31-10-2011 5:17pm

Cill Dara Abu wrote: »

The online dating not working out?

nope.

thanks for enquiring.

wobblyknees · 31-10-2011 5:23pm

John Doe1 wrote: »

Say for instance, a girl or a guy had a very low sex drive or even a disability which prevented them from being able to. Could you still stay with them and stay faithful.

Only if she paid for the prostitutes.

LighterGuy · 31-10-2011 5:28pm

John Doe1 wrote: »

Say for instance, a girl or a guy had a very low sex drive or even a disability which prevented them from being able to. Could you still stay with them and stay faithful.

See, in your example thats less likely to happen (a person being disabled or such a low sex drive that they dont wanna have sex)

You're more likely to encounter a person who doesnt want sex because something else is at play .... They are just using you ... The relationship is practually dead etc etc. So all in all. I say i cant be in a relationship without sex.

Aisling(",) · 31-10-2011 5:31pm

I think I could quite easily.

starlit · 31-10-2011 5:40pm

It wouldn't really matter to me as sex isn't all that important to me. I wouldn't be bothered being in a long term relationship and no sex if anything it be more likely to happen the other way around.

Though I need to be compatible with them I suppose in the long run it might be a deciding factor but for a new relationship it wouldn't matter, sex wouldn't be everything.

I wouldn't put pressure on sex in a new relationship when starting out as other factors can impact on how long a relationship would last. I'd have to fully trust someone before that sort of thing happens regardless if its early on in the relationship or a long term one.

Compatibility in all aspects as well as that department then well it might impact on the relationship but more likely impact my partner more than me depends.

Sometimes no sex could be a deciding factor in ending a relationship whether is someone who wants it but not getting it ends it or those that strictly no sex ends the relationship due to pressure to have sex.

Every ones sex drive and compatibility as well as experience varies.

Sex in reality shouldn't put a price tag on a relationship if its the only deciding factor of it ended there should be more coherent reasons as well. If its just sex its something you could get passed the issue eventually if you are the right person or the one then they will eventually.

4leto · 31-10-2011 5:47pm

I am kind of in one, a non sexual one, my best friend since I was 2 or 3, we have lived together and we talk to each other most days. His wife thinks we should have got married which to be honest is a horrible thought.

We are just close and always have been and hopilly always will be.

stateofflux · 31-10-2011 6:33pm

The_Goose135 wrote: »

Sex isnt the most important part of a relationship but its a frakking big part.

what could possibly be more important than the ride?

cournioni · 31-10-2011 6:34pm

Anyone ever notice the ratio of women posting in these threads compared to others?! Interesting!

Anyhoo, I would be able to abstain for a little bit, but definately not for too long!

Storminateacup · 31-10-2011 6:38pm

I don't think so. Sex isn't the most important thing for sure, but it's pretty important. And to be honest, if I wasn't getting good sex at home, I'd be looking elsewhere.

Shpuds · 31-10-2011 6:45pm

Nope! I got married, wasn't working out that great. The sex stopped, I went off and looked else where. Now in a grand aul' relationship with the bonus of getting d'ride. Don't get me wrong, not the most important but it's a big part

ClaireMorris · 03-11-2011 12:42am

hondasam wrote: »

That's a difficult question to answer,there is more to a relationship than sex, it's important but if you love someone you will find a way to be happy.
I'm talking about a married couple not a new relationship.

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Dont think so....It is usually very tough if not impossible for one of the partners

maddragon · 03-11-2011 12:50am

It would be odd to be in a relationship with someone without sex. I would definitely prefer that they were one sex or the other.

hondasam · 03-11-2011 1:24am

ClaireMorris wrote: »

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Dont think so....It is usually very tough if not impossible for one of the partners

I'm sure it would be tough but you don't just stop loving someone.
It's one of these scenarios, until it happens you cannot know how you would react.

OutlawPete · 03-11-2011 1:28am

No problem.

I have the ability to express and receive love without using my cock.

hondasam · 03-11-2011 1:30am

OutlawPete wrote: »

No problem.

I actually have the ability to express and receive love without using my cock.

It's little outlaw:p

starlit · 03-11-2011 1:33am

OutlawPete wrote: »

No problem.

I have the ability to express and receive love without using my cock.

Good lad!;)

jimmymal · 03-11-2011 1:53am

there most likely is people who can, i like to think my mother and her partner don't really get it on all that much.
I on the other hand would say a blanket no, no sex = no relationship. no sex = friendship or even potential boredom.

kowloon · 03-11-2011 3:12am

Aisling(",) wrote: »

I think I could quite easily.

You should come around my place for coffee some time

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Seriously, one cup only. Then you'll have to leave.

CarMe · 03-11-2011 3:37am

Yeah I'd stay with my boyfriend if for some reason we couldn't have sex. Don't get me wrong I think sex is a huge part of a relationship but I love him, he's the father of my child, he makes me laugh, we can still talk into the night, I love waking up beside him, I love seeing how great he is with our daughter and how much she adores him. So yes sex is important but not as much as all of the above.

happyfounder · 03-11-2011 4:06am

it depends
probably not

OneArt · 03-11-2011 4:22am

Well I'm asexual so I'd prefer it! BUT that being said when I like someone, I do enjoy the intimacy. I don't get anything out of the physical act, but the closeness it brings is what I like. There's just certain things I'd prefer not to do because they gross me out too much!

I guess for me I prefer romantic friendships.

Lavezzi · 03-11-2011 4:45am

super_furry wrote: »

Well if there's no sex it's just a friendship really isn't it?

This defines the extreme corrupted liberal mind-frame of the modern Irish sheeple better than I could have imagined was possible.

stovelid · 03-11-2011 9:21am

Lavezzi wrote: »

This defines the extreme corrupted liberal mind-frame of the modern Irish sheeple better than I could have imagined was possible.

What a presumptuous and supercilious load of bullshit.

Dravokivich · 03-11-2011 9:28am

Don't mean to sound like an ass...

But a couple of weeks ago I did walk past someone who appeared to be quite disabled with someone I assumed to be his girlfreind and all I could think was, "for sex, does she just throw a strap on on him?"

cosmicfart · 03-11-2011 9:55am

if she was ugly and rich and I needed the money then yes!

Dudess · 03-11-2011 10:24am

No way. Sex is probably the most important element for me. Not necessarily acrobatics, but sexual intimacy.

Lavezzi wrote: »

super_furry wrote: »

Well if there's no sex it's just a friendship really isn't it?

This defines the extreme corrupted liberal mind-frame of the modern Irish sheeple better than I could have imagined was possible.

Obviously you're angry because you're not getting any, and I know you think it makes you look really clever and renegade-ish to use those tired phrases, but it doesn't.
It's just sex - nothing to do with being corrupted or liberal (derp) or sheeple, don't take it personally.

ILikeBananas · 03-11-2011 10:38am

No, definitely not. If you're not having sex with your girlfriend or boyfriend then really they're just your roomate. Kissing and cuddling is nice and all but you don't have the same level of physical intimacy as when you're creatively trying to make someone reach orgasm.

Also, having arguments would be awful since you'd know that at the end of it there wouldn't be any makeup sex!

Could you have a long-term relationship with someone without sex?

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