Do you want to be a mother or father some day??

aligator_am

Just wondering if you'd like to be a parent? I'm not offering :P

Personally I'd like to be a father some day, I know it comes with a shed load of responsability but I'd like to pass on the genes, God help the poor mite :P

I know that some here are parents, I had a good laugh at Biggins' post about one of his kids foaming the house

Uriel.

Tis a question i really can't answer at this stage... Maybe, maybe not. I have no strong feelings either way which probably means I shouldn't have a kid

tallaghtmick

I wanted 4 after having 1 ive decided to just have 1:pac:

joshrogan

I'd like to be a mother, unfortunately I'm a man but I'm considering adopting and breastfeeding with this http://greatinventions.tv/products/images/mrmilker_large.png

arybvtcw0eolkf

Well I'm at a time in my life where I'm looking forward to being a grandfather actually, and that's the truth of it.

I love children, and loved raring my own two.

kelle

I am a mother of 3, after no.3 I was so over being pregnant and all the toddler antics I was just riding the storm until she became fairly independent. Now they're all at school and it's great.

I love them dearly, but I never want to go through baby stage again - I'm happy to mind my nephews and nieces but glad to hand them back!

yogidc26

I have two so yes

It is the best thing you will ever do in you life bring up little ones

aligator_am

Jermaine Savory Sunstroke wrote: »

Well I'm at a time in my life where I'm looking forward to being a grandfather actually, and that's the truth of it.

I love children, and loved raring my own two.

Good man, I have a terrible feeling I'll be a horrible parent, but I think it's one of those things you sort of figure out as you go

I think women have an in built motherly instinct, whereas men are sort of dense, we try our best but to be honest, we are fairly thick when it comes to kids

booboo88

aligator_am wrote: »

Good man, I have a terrible feeling I'll be a horrible parent, but I think it's one of those things you sort of figure out as you go

I think women have an in built motherly instinct, whereas men are sort of dense, we try our best but to be honest, we are fairly thick when it comes to kids

Im sure they skipped the motherly instinct with me, so probably best not to have a kid. id love to get a puppy though, does that count?

aligator_am

joshrogan wrote: »

I'd like to be a mother, unfortunately I'm a man but I'm considering adopting and breastfeeding with this http://greatinventions.tv/products/images/mrmilker_large.png

Is that you Brad Pitt? :P

aligator_am

booboo88 wrote: »

Im sure they skipped the motherly instinct with me, so probably best not to have a kid. id love to get a puppy though, does that count?

Hahahaha, only if it's a Jack Russell, cos they're made of super awesome material

bnt

Didn't we have a similar thread last week? I know it asked "should you?" rather than "do you want to?", but to me the two questions are basically the same.

Having a kid is not a luxury item like a piece of chocolate cake, where you could say "I want to but I shouldn't", then do it on anyway on a whim. It's such a major commitment that (in my case) knowing it's a bad idea stops me from wanting it.

booboo88

aligator_am wrote: »

Hahahaha, only if it's a Jack Russell, cos they're made of super awesome material

in my experience, jack russells just seem to bark at the wheels of passing cars.
I want a scottie or a bichion frise, or however you spell it.

Potential-Monke

I don't at this very moment in time. I did when i was in my early 20's, but now i'm in my late 20's i'm getting more selfish and don't think i'd be up to looking after babies. Give me a child at the age of 4/5 and i'll raise that, at least they can tell you why the fook they're crying and won't shut the fook up!

I so don't have parental tendancies!

kelle

booboo88 wrote: »

Im sure they skipped the motherly instinct with me, so probably best not to have a kid. id love to get a puppy though, does that count?

We got a dog last year (King Charles) and I'm not joking you, but he is harder work than the children!

booboo88

kelle wrote: »

We got a dog last year (King Charles) and I'm not joking you, but he is harder work than the children!

But they dont talk back, no weight gain(pregnancy)

MagicMarker

I'd rather kill myself.

seanog_1981

I'd love to be a father, I've 6 neices and nephews and just seem to have a knack with kids, it's one of the v few natural talents I have but after a stream of disastrous relationships there's nothing on the horizon unfortunately.

Elmidena

I would like to be a mother or father some day, but I haven't decided which one yet

cjmcork

booboo88 wrote: »

Im sure they skipped the motherly instinct with me, so probably best not to have a kid. id love to get a puppy though, does that count?

ditto - my biological clock is digital or else the battery ran out - I've always said I'd never have children, and I was right, I usually am though! :D

if you're getting a pet, get a cat, they'll feed themselves when you forget, also you can still go away for a week and they'll fend for themselves - dogs don't tend to do that!!!

discus

I can't wait to be a dad! In a weird way, I'm looking forward to the sacrifices I'll have to make - it gives purpose to the bull**** job and 9-5 drudgery.

py2006

I think I have missed the boat there! Couldn't imagine it anyway, I can barely look after myself.

billybudd

I was asked this in march, i asked for time to ponder it, i was told you have till december.:rolleyes:

py2006

billybudd wrote: »

I was asked this in march, i asked for time to ponder it, i was told you have till december.:rolleyes:

from the missus?

stovelid

It's something you have to evaluate as you get older. And your views change, as with everything. Most people obviously don't want them or at least are not bothered when they are in a certain age bracket which is normal I would think.

I always liked kids but wasn't always sure if I would have any but I couldn't imagine not having them now.

arybvtcw0eolkf

booboo88 wrote: »

Im sure they skipped the motherly instinct with me, so probably best not to have a kid. id love to get a puppy though, does that count?

No because unfortunetly a lot of people think along the same lines, and when eventually a new bouncing baby arrives the dog is usually sent to the pound, where (in most pounds) if the dog is not rehomed within five working days its killed.

I've two dogs, a lovely Pitbull (Richo) and a Staffordshire Bull Terrier (Ruby) and they're twenty times more work than a child, but just as affectionate and fun loving.

billybudd

py2006 wrote: »

from the missus?

yeah, the mistress would have been a better option

booboo88

cjmcork wrote: »

ditto - my biological clock is digital or else the battery ran out - I've always said I'd never have children, and I was right, I usually am though! :D

if you're getting a pet, get a cat, they'll feed themselves when you forget, also you can still go away for a week and they'll fend for themselves - dogs don't tend to do that!!!

I just dont like cats ever since a friend in school during my lunch break decided to tell me her cat had her period. like i fecking need to know:mad:
ever since then have hated cats

stovelid

Note to people talking about paternal and maternal instincts. You don't have them until you have kids, hence the use of the words maternal or paternal.

billybudd

stovelid wrote: »

Note to people talking about paternal and maternal instincts. You don't have them until you have kids, hence the use of the words maternal or paternal.

would you not have these instincts when minding nephews/nieces? genuine question btw

booboo88

stovelid wrote: »

Note to people talking about paternal and maternal instincts. You don't have them until you have kids, hence the use of the words maternal or paternal.

Note to stovelid, you usually have some instincts about yourself too, its usually called common sense

SV

I'd rather die of aids than have kids.

billybudd

SV wrote: »

I'd rather die of aids than have kids.

Just use a johnny and both problems solved

yogidc26

billybudd wrote: »

would you not have these instincts when minding nephews/nieces? genuine question btw

I think you all ways have it, just went you have your own it changes so much you have to think of them 24/7 but you will have never felt love like it and it can just be the small things that make you feel like this.

Take yesterday my little girl was a her second swimming lesion and she was jumping in a the deep end just hold on to a pole (my hart was in my mouth) she went right under the water and came back up got out smiling I was nearly crying and I was so proud of her. :D

SV

billybudd wrote: »

Just use a johnny and both problems solved

I didn't say I was averse to the actual act required.
Just the end product of it..god ****ing no.


Thanks for the tip on the johnnys, wasn't aware :pac:

billybudd

yogidc26 wrote: »

I think you all ways have it, just went you have your own it changes so much you have to think of them 24/7 but you will have never felt love like it and it can just be the small things that make you feel like this.

Take yesterday my little girl was a her second swimming lesion and she was jumping in a the deep end just hold on to a pole (my hart was in my mouth) she went right under the water and came back up got out smiling I was nearly crying and I was so proud of her. :D

Sounds terrifying.

Note to self: find passport and gtfom.:P

hairyslug

For some strange reason i always wanted to be a dad, we now have a 2 year old, 1 year old and we are expecting number 3 in january, once that one pops out im booking myself in for a snip, keeping me busy but are a great way to help forget about the stresses of work, at the moment we are watching winnie the pooh for the 6th time in 2 days and my daughter is making me hold her 2 dolls, all part of a sunday morning

stupidusername

yogidc26 wrote: »

I have two so yes

It is the best thing you will ever do in you life bring up little ones

for some, maybe.

booboo88 wrote: »

Im sure they skipped the motherly instinct with me, so probably best not to have a kid. id love to get a puppy though, does that count?

animals are better than babies. but jack russells are gorgeous. I never really liked them before, but after taking in a stray for a couple of days, who was obviously a JRT, I'd get one in a heart beat. adorable little thing he was.

I don't want children. I'm not the mothering kind, though I do have the ability to care for children, as I do with my nephews, and there is a certain amount of instinct and love you just naturally have for them. I just don't want to be responsible for shaping another humans life, especially the bad. So I will probably do all I can to never have them. It's a decision I've come to based on years of consideration.

Though i've just remembered that last night I had a dream that I was pregnant.

py2006

stupidusername wrote: »

I don't want children. I'm not the mothering kind, though I do have the ability to care for children, as I do with my nephews, and there is a certain amount of instinct and love you just naturally have for them. I just don't want to be responsible for shaping another humans life, especially the bad. So I will probably do all I can to never have them. It's a decision I've come to based on years of consideration.

Though i've just remembered that last night I had a dream that I was pregnant.

No sex for you....EVER!

stovelid

billybudd wrote: »

stovelid wrote: »

Note to people talking about paternal and maternal instincts. You don't have them until you have kids, hence the use of the words maternal or paternal.

would you not have these instincts when minding nephews/nieces? genuine question btw

I was being sincere albeit in a lighthearted sense.

I take maternal or paternal instincts to be the biological urge to care for and protect your offspring.

I think people confuse it with being broody or considering if they want children or not.

I like children in general and I love my nieces dearly but It's not in the same league as my own kids. Not even near.

stupidusername

py2006 wrote: »

No sex for you....EVER!

that's the third dream i've had about that recently. not pleasant at all.

booboo88

stupidusername wrote: »

that's the third dream i've had about that recently. not pleasant at all.

do. the. test.



or if you havent had any, i'd recommend keeping it that way, theres nothing more unnerving than dreaming your pregnant:eek:

stupidusername

booboo88 wrote: »

do. the. test.



or if you havent had any, i'd recommend keeping it that way, theres nothing more unnerving than dreaming your pregnant:eek:

nah there's no need not cause I've not gotten any :cool: but it was based on a scare i had.

At this point I really couldn't imagine ever wanting children.

Sauve

I wouldn't be able to make up my mind either way while I'm still single.
For me, wanting/not wanting kids is more about their potential father, i.e. if I meet a man that I fall in love with and can see myself being with forever, then I'd imagine I'll want his kids.
But right now I just can't picture it happening.

Novella

I'd like to experience being pregnant and giving birth but I can't really imagine being totally responsible for a tiny, little person. That's very scary. Maybe someday.

Jesus Wept

If I have to choose, a father.

Dudess

Yeah, I think I'd like one or two children (definitely no more than two) but not until my late 30s/early 40s, which I know is a risky age for pregnancy, however I really don't feel I'd be ready for it until then.

discus

I'm 25, and to be honest I'd rather have my kids now, when I have the energy to do all the fun stuff!

pragmatic1

Dont know. But I'm sure I'd make a better job of it than some of the idiots having kids right now.

x_Ellie_x

I'd like to have a child someday, maybe in about 5 years or so.

FlutterinBantam

Father of four, lovely kids..very proud of their dad, I'm glad to say.