Would txt spk in a text put you off?

Miss Olenska

So, I got chatting to a guy while out on Friday night. Nice guy etc.

We've arranged to meet for coffee today, but in his texts he was all "nite" and "ur" and "r" and "4" and whatnot.

Would this put you off? I'm always a bit dismayed when I see it, but on the other hand, he seemed intelligent enough when I was chatting to him in the pub.

What say you, AH?

Saila

that sort is harmless, but when it turns into whole sentances its ..........different

tallaghtmick

When I text I do it as I hate texting and dont want to be tapping at the phone for a while.

Miss Olenska

Saila wrote: »

that sort is harmless, but when it turns into whole sentances its ..........different

Yeah, it could just be habit. It's not like he sent an email in text speak or anything!

tallaghtmick wrote: »

When I text I do it as I hate texting and dont want to be tapping at the phone for a while.

Good point. My folks use text speak when they text and I know they're not thick! :pac:

LeeHoffmann

I thought a text message was the one place text speak was appropriate

Biggins

Miss Olenska wrote: »

So, I got chatting to a guy while out on Friday night. Nice guy etc.

We've arranged to meet for coffee today, but in his texts he was all "nite" and "ur" and "r" and "4" and whatnot.

Would this put you off? I'm always a bit dismayed when I see it, but on the other hand, he seemed intelligent enough when I was chatting to him in the pub.

What say you, AH?

Yes.

kfallon

If he uses text speak in the first love letter he sends you then it's time to give him the gate :pac:

pablomakaveli

I'ts fine in a txt because your typing with a numberpad. People who use it on the internet when they have a full keyboard available to them however are idiots.

Miss Olenska

LeeHoffmann wrote: »

I thought a text message was the one place text speak was appropriate

Well, not so much now, I know text speak was started by teenagers trying to conserve their limited characters, so I don't think it's as much of an issue now. And his texts weren't that long like he had run out of room.

hondasam

Miss Olenska wrote: »

So, I got chatting to a guy while out on Friday night. Nice guy etc.

We've arranged to meet for coffee today, but in his texts he was all "nite" and "ur" and "r" and "4" and whatnot.

Would this put you off? I'm always a bit dismayed when I see it, but on the other hand, he seemed intelligent enough when I was chatting to him in the pub.

What say you, AH?

I feel sorry for him, you are judging him all ready and all because of a txt message.

py2006

I hate it! But then again it sometimes helps to fit your message into one text! So its cost effective in the long run! :P

I find it odd though that anybody over the age of 25 using it!

Kanoe

in a word yes, instantly puts me off and it makes me feel like I'm dating a school kid it's just weird. On the other hand I know someone I have no interest in any other way but in texts or chat it's like a different person entirely and I find myself longing for a message. I don't get it. She comes across as smart and sensitive in writing but is seems totally removed from reality and up her own hole in the flesh.

harney

LeeHoffmann wrote: »

I thought a text message was the one place text speak was appropriate

Valid point, although in fairness a lot of phones have qwerty keyboards these days and the cost of a text message that runs over the character limit into a double message is negligible

Sea Sharp

I find it a bit off putting myself. It seems childish. But it really depends on how much they use it.
The only time I'd use txt spk is if I need to shorten my message down to avoid sending it as two messages.

Miss Olenska

hondasam wrote: »

I feel sorry for him, you are judging him all ready and all because of a txt message.

We ALL judge a little. He probably has made some judgements about me already too, and I wouldn't blame him for doing so.

Sea Sharp wrote: »

The only time I'd use txt spk is if I need to shorten my message down to avoid sending it as two messages.

Yes, that's the only time I use it too.

LeeHoffmann

I would do it. If I text I pretty much always use 'text speak'. Not because of the cost though - just because it's quicker. Texting takes me too long anyway (crappy phone). I have better things to do than fiddle around with a number pad all day.

And what's the harm? Everybody understands what I'm saying. Is that missing vowel really that important to you?

Flyer1

Its hard when you're perfect yourself.

Miss Olenska

py2006 wrote: »

I find it odd though that anybody over the age of 25 using it!

He's 28... hmmm.

hondasam

Miss Olenska wrote: »

We ALL judge a little. He probably has made some judgements about me already too, and I wouldn't blame him for doing so.

He might see this thread and not show up.

Then you can start a thread and blame him for standing you up.

Miss Olenska

Flyer1 wrote: »

Its hard when you're perfect yourself.

Ah jaysus, I know I'm not perfect. He has probably made judgements on me too.

hondasam wrote: »

He might see this thread and not show up.

Maybe. :pac:

LeeHoffmann

He's 28... hmmm

I'm 27. hmmmmm.....do I need professional help?

Miss Olenska

LeeHoffmann wrote: »

I'm 27. hmmmmm.....do I need professional help?

Yes. Yes you do.

:pac:

hondasam

Miss Olenska wrote: »

Ah jaysus, I know I'm not perfect. He has probably made judgements on me too.



Maybe. :pac:

I think you are been a bit unfair and hard on him. give him a chance.

James Forde

Txt spk was appropriate when everyone was going around with Nokia 3210's, not in this day and age when most mobiles have full keyboards!

Lady Chatterton

OP, give the guy a chance. I feel that text speak is acceptable in mobile text messages but if he was using it in emails and cards I'd be turned off.

LeeHoffmann

well what I've learned from this thread is...text speak is not for texting, and I need a new phone

in this day and age when most mobiles have full keyboards!

Lady Chatterton

James Forde wrote: »

Txt spk was appropriate when everyone was going around with Nokia 3210's, not in this day and age when most mobiles have full keyboards!

True, but if you're sending webtexts you have to work with a limited number of characters.

Miss Olenska

hondasam wrote: »

I think you are been a bit unfair and hard on him. give him a chance.

MrsD007 wrote: »

OP, give the guy a chance. I feel that text speak is acceptable in mobile text messages but if he was using it in emails and cards I'd be turned off.

I am, we're meeting this afternoon!

newmug

Miss Olenska wrote: »

So, I got chatting to a guy while out on Friday night. Nice guy etc.

We've arranged to meet for coffee today, but in his texts he was all "nite" and "ur" and "r" and "4" and whatnot.

Would this put you off? I'm always a bit dismayed when I see it, but on the other hand, he seemed intelligent enough when I was chatting to him in the pub.

What say you, AH?

I say if thats all thats on your mind, you need to get your hole!

El Horseboxo

Only one I tend to use is ur. Just a force of habit in texts cause when I'm typing you're quickly adding the apostrophe always messes it up somehow.

hondasam

Miss Olenska wrote: »

I am, we're meeting this afternoon!

I know but you are on here taking the piss out of him, not on in my book.

I hope he stands you up.

Miss Olenska

hondasam wrote: »

I know but you are on here taking the piss out of him, not on in my book.

I hope he stands you up.

Hardly taking the piss!

Lady Chatterton

Is there anyone out there who remembers having to take a guy/girl's call on a landline in the hallway of the family home, while your parents and siblings had their ears glued to the living room door listening to every word that was being said.

Thank God for mobile phones and text messaging I say!

Miss Olenska

MrsD007 wrote: »

Is there anyone out there who remembers having to take a guy/girl's call on a landline in the hallway of the family home, while your parents and siblings had their ears glued to the living room door listening to every word that was being said.

Good God, yes!!!

LeeHoffmann

I am, we're meeting this afternoon!

Good luck

tallaghtmick

pablomakaveli wrote: »

I'ts fine in a txt because your typing with a numberpad. People who use it on the internet when they have a full keyboard available to them however are idiots.

lol wut u tlkn bout

Asphyxia

I don't like text speak but I can't tolerate it to an extent, if I can read it then it's grand but if it's a load of letters then fnuk off! I don't want to sit and waste time trying to decipher it.

FlutterinBantam

Unless he texted " I hv a bg ck al jucd up an rdy fr yr hngry 0"

I'd cut him a bit of slack:cool:

kfallon

MrsD007 wrote: »

Is there anyone out there who remembers having to take a guy/girl's call on a landline in the hallway of the family home, while your parents and siblings had their ears glued to the living room door listening to every word that was being said.

Thank God for mobile phones and text messaging I say!

Yeah it's much easier these days to organise your illicit affair with the Tesco Delivery Man when you don't have to use the landline :pac: :pac:

Sonics2k

I can deal with it in a text as long as I can actually read it, and not one of those messages where I have to read it 3 or 4 times.

If it's on an email/skype/FB etc then it's incredibly off-putting.

Typing isn't hard.

booboo88

James Forde wrote: »

Txt spk was appropriate when everyone was going around with Nokia 3210's, not in this day and age when most mobiles have full keyboards!

or if you're texting from the web, and you have limited character space, I have free text so dont matter if it runs into two texts, not everyone does though

Miss Olenska

Asphyxia wrote: »

I don't like text speak but I can't tolerate it to an extent, if I can read it then it's grand but if it's a load of letters then fnuk off! I don't want to sit and waste time trying to decipher it.

FlutterinBantam wrote: »

Unless he texted " I hv a bg ck al jucd up an rdy fr yr hngry 0"

I'd cut him a bit of slack:cool:

Sonics2k wrote: »

I can deal with it in a text as long as I can actually read it, and not one of those messages where I have to read it 3 or 4 times.

If it's on an email/skype/FB etc then it's incredibly off-putting.

Typing isn't hard.

Yes, ye all talk sense!

Lady Chatterton

Miss Olenska wrote: »

Good God, yes!!!

You will remember this so

Her: "You hang up"
Him: "No you hang up first"
Her: "I can't, you hang up"
Him: "Ok, bye so"
Her: "Bye"
Him: "You didn't hang up"
Her: "I couldn't"

Her father enters the hallway - "I'll hang up, this f**king call is going to cost a fortune".

Aishae

There's txt speak sand there's this modern TEXT sok. 4 ur etc or even taking out some vowels to shorten a long message is one thing.

But if they start "I luff onlii yhiu" or the like - hell no!

Sonics2k

Miss Olenska wrote: »

Yes, ye all talk sense!

I actually recently stopped talking to a girl because her damn messages were always in text speak.

That and people who put lol in every fúcking sentence.
"hi how r u? i had a gd nite LOL" etc

STOP IT NOTHING IS FUNNY HERE! :mad:

krudler

acceptable text speak:

"ok, c u later"
"are u coming?"
"be there l8r so"

ect, timesaving 1 word replacements are fine, but this:

"hi how ru, nt seen u in ages r u cmg to da party sat nite?lol xxxx"

instant putoff, learn how to spell! and if you can spell you're just lazy, and thats just as bad.

Lady Chatterton

kfallon wrote: »

Yeah it's much easier these days to organise your illicit affair with the Tesco Delivery Man when you don't have to use the landline :pac: :pac:

Removed libelous statement

Haven't you got a horse to take to France or something :pac: :pac: :pac:

Snowie

I don't do text speak have an I phone best thing I ever bought spells words for me ..
If they only could do grammar and punctuation for me I'd be sorted

text speak make my eyes wonkey


so thats a yes.... a big yes

ilovesleep

It's the people that sign their messages off with anything to do with love after a week or so that you should worry about or quite simply just ignore. Hang on here fcukface, you hardly know me and you're saying you love me. FCUK OFF

The King of Moo

I think if I'd met the person first and liked them it wouldn't be such a problem (though I'd subtly try to steer them towards writing properly).

But if it was my first impression of a person, they'd have a lot of work to do to make up for it!

Miss Olenska

MrsD007 wrote: »

You will remember this so

Her: "You hang up"
Him: "No you hang up first"
Her: "I can't, you hang up"
Him: "Ok, bye so"
Her: "Bye"
Him: "You didn't hang up"
Her: "I couldn't"

Her father enters the hallway - "I'll hang up, this f**king call is going to cost a fortune".

Worst thing that happened to me, my Dad for some reason thought I loved Mr. Bean when I was a teenager. I was on the phone to my very first boyfriend one night when Dad yells in the background:

"MISS OLENSKA, MR. BEAN IS ON!!!"

I got SUCH a slagging over that. Bleedin' morto, I was! :pac: