Do you wear your wedding ring?

helimachoptor

So.. getting married next year. I wear a watch and thats my only piece of bling. I've never worn a ring/chain despite a few having been bought for me over the years by various Gfs. But my fiance is blowing a gasket now as we will be heading to NY in a few months and she wanted to pick out wedding rings.

My reply of "i dont care what ring you get me cos i wont be wearing it" didnt go down to well :pac::pac:

She's pretty miffed about it, she's buying me a reall nice watch for the big day and i'd love to have that engraved with our names/date but she thinks it's unacepptable that i dont wear the ring.

So men of the GC, if married do you wear a ring? iIf you plan on getting married will you wear one?

term

Of course you wear the ring, you looove the ring.
Then you start wearing the ring less, then you start leaving it off.

Play the long game on this

alchemist33

I used to be like you - a bit wary of wearing "jewellry". but I got used to the wedding ring.

It's the ball and chain that's the problem now.

Will

precioussssss!

boobar

helimachoptor wrote: »

So.. getting married next year. I wear a watch and thats my only piece of bling. I've never worn a ring/chain despite a few having been bought for me over the years by various Gfs. But my fiance is blowing a gasket now as we will be heading to NY in a few months and she wanted to pick out wedding rings.

My reply of "i dont care what ring you get me cos i wont be wearing it" didnt go down to well :pac::pac:

She's pretty miffed about it, she's buying me a reall nice watch for the big day and i'd love to have that engraved with our names/date but she thinks it's unacepptable that i dont wear the ring.

So men of the GC, if married do you wear a ring? iIf you plan on getting married will you wear one?

I'm married and wear a ring. Not into jewellery myself, never wore rings, chains in the past.

Lots of married pals, some wear a ring, some don't. To me it's not a big deal, whether guys/gals wear the ring or not.

I think some people have different views on this though.

Nice to get a cool watch, but I'd say you might have your work cut out for you trying to persuade one of the pro ring group to accept you're not going to wear a ring.

chiefwiggum

helimachoptor wrote: »

So.. getting married next year. I wear a watch and thats my only piece of bling. I've never worn a ring/chain despite a few having been bought for me over the years by various Gfs. But my fiance is blowing a gasket now as we will be heading to NY in a few months and she wanted to pick out wedding rings.

My reply of "i dont care what ring you get me cos i wont be wearing it" didnt go down to well :pac::pac:

She's pretty miffed about it, she's buying me a reall nice watch for the big day and i'd love to have that engraved with our names/date but she thinks it's unacepptable that i dont wear the ring.

So men of the GC, if married do you wear a ring? iIf you plan on getting married will you wear one?

you my friend were me 12 months ago...i hate wearing the ring and had many heated debates about it as all our friends wear them and if they wear them the argument was that i should wear it.
i only wear it on special occasions out and and about and only when its handed to me and told to"put it on"
dont worry the nagging fades out with time;)

Wolfe Tone

When I get married I probably wont, my father has been married 30 years and has never worn his.


I can barely wear a watch, I don't like jewelery, a ring would annoy me.


The watch sounds cool, whats her issue? Wants people to know you are taken or something?

muracan

Never wear bling myself.

Got a grand watch from my other half instead.

Stick to your guns.....if you don't want a ring don't get one.....if you give in...it's a slippery slope!!!!!!!!!!:p

oldyouth

Lost my original wedding ring on our honeymoon. (long story ) I got a replacement as my next birthday present. I had to take it off for surgery once but it's been there for over 25 years now. Very proud man to still be able to wear it

Miss Olenska

helimachoptor wrote: »

So.. getting married next year. I wear a watch and thats my only piece of bling. I've never worn a ring/chain despite a few having been bought for me over the years by various Gfs. But my fiance is blowing a gasket now as we will be heading to NY in a few months and she wanted to pick out wedding rings.

My reply of "i dont care what ring you get me cos i wont be wearing it" didnt go down to well :pac::pac:

She's pretty miffed about it, she's buying me a reall nice watch for the big day and i'd love to have that engraved with our names/date but she thinks it's unacepptable that i dont wear the ring.

So men of the GC, if married do you wear a ring? iIf you plan on getting married will you wear one?

I never remember my Dad wearing his ring, and it's not just because it would be dangerous to wear it in his job, he just would never wear jewellery in a million years. I think it's fair enough, it's a big ask if it's not your thing and my mother doesn't mind at all. My mother didn't even wear hers for years because it got too small, but she got it resized.

Snowie

my mam weres one my dad don't weres a watch not really a ring kinda guy i said it befoire in another thread I'd never were a ring ever hate them...

Otis Driftwood

I dont wear any jewellery at all,never have done but prolly wouldnt be averse to it if the time ever comes.All of my male friends in my age group that have gotten hitched wear them.

johnr1

When I got married I wore it for about 2 months and it annoyed the hell out of me, but in stupidity I had gotten one of those with a thick band believing it would survive better in my line of work at the time.
Anyway, I ditched it, and about 3 years on, the wife went the same road:cool:
I did feel bad about not wearing it though.

If I ever get married again, I intend to get a slimmer one and to never take it off, sad romantic that I am.

*on a side issue, they are a babe magnet, if you were of that mind.
I'm not.

vicecreamsundae

I'd wear a ring myself, but I find it reallllly unattractive when guys wear rings, and if it were up to me, would rather he wear it on a chain around his neck.

parker kent

I can't see myself wearing one. My Dad never wore one either. I've probably inherited his aversion to male jewellery. I'll wear a watch, but that's about it. I wouldn't be too gone on the ring on a chain idea either.

Although obviously if a girl I genuinely loved really wanted me to wear one, I would give it a go.

Tar.Aldarion

vicecreamsundae wrote: »

I'd wear a ring myself, but I find it reallllly unattractive when guys wear rings, and if it were up to me, would rather he wear it on a chain around his neck.

would prefer that to wearing one as they annoy me but that is so getting lost!
dont think material things like that matter at all

I can't stand wearing rings and generally not bracelets either. I think I would try to make an exception for engagement/wedding ring though. If I got sick of it I'd stick it on a chain around my neck. OP might do the same?

DelilahsDelight

term wrote: »

Of course you wear the ring, you looove the ring.
Then you start wearing the ring less, then you start leaving it off.

Now that I think about it, this is what my husband does:eek: I wear mine all of the time, I'd be lost without it

Snowie

vicecreamsundae wrote: »

I'd wear a ring myself, but I find it reallllly unattractive when guys wear rings, and if it were up to me, would rather he wear it on a chain around his neck.

I like that

Irish_Elect_Eng

I can easily understand your GFs reaction.

Wedding rings are one of the few outward signs men display to indicate that they are married and a decision not to wear a ring can be taken as a sign that the man is not willing to openly declare that they are married. It can be seen as a small sign of a lack of commitment.

While it is everyone's right to decide that they do not want to wear a ring and if it is not an issue for either partner then fair enough. However if it is a big issue for either partner then consider this, if you are not willing to make small concessions to keep your partner feeling happy and secure there there are bigger issues that need to be dealt with in the relationship and taking a stand on wearing of rings is just a symptom.

As a spouse, there are many times when you will need to put the feelings of your partner ahead of your own, this is a two way street for both partners. Living and Loving is a series of compromises and accommodations, all of which are small acts of love, things that you would not do for a friend, but that you would do for your partner without thinking, because the reward is always so much greater then the investment.

helimachoptor

bluewolf wrote: »

I can't stand wearing rings and generally not bracelets either. I think I would try to make an exception for engagement/wedding ring though. If I got sick of it I'd stick it on a chain around my neck. OP might do the same?

No i'm not a chain person either, it's a watch or nothing
There's a good bit of time before the wedding so i'm sure we can come to some compromise i.e. nagged into submission:p

Lanaier

I'm getting married next month and I never really considered not getting a ring.
Surprised at the reactions of this thread actually, interesting.

I haven't worn a ring since I was a teenager but if it will keep the missus happy then whats the harm?

Is it really such a big deal?
It's a token of commitment, and other than it being irritating to your skin I don't see any reason not to just wear it.

Not judging mind you, just kind of surprised people could be arsed to make a fuss over it.

Malari

It wouldn't bother me if my partner didn't want to wear a ring. It's the only jewellry my dad wears, apart from a watch. The ring on a chain around the neck is awful I think, as I hate necklaces and chains on guys.

I don't really get why it's an issue for wives if the husband won't wear a ring. Is it just a sign of commitment? I know one woman who wanted her husband to get a tattoo ring on his finger ;-) he refused!

The Princess Bride

I don't see why it should become an issue for any couple.If a man doesn't want to wear a ring ,that decision should be respected( & vice versa,obviously)
Before we married ,my OH hated men wearing jewellery,so I was really surprised when he decided nearer the day,that he wanted a ring- it's not a traditional 'plain band' wedding ring though,I think that's what had been putting him off. Over the years ,a lot of people have admired it,and a few men even said they'd prefer something like it rather than a traditional band.

To be honest,it's this point about 'doing it to keep her happy' bit that I don't get- shouldn't she just respect the decision and move on......or am I being unrealistic.

Tonyandthewhale

Irish_Elect_Eng wrote: »

While it is everyone's right to decide that they do not want to wear a ring and if it is not an issue for either partner then fair enough. However if it is a big issue for either partner then consider this, if you are not willing to make small concessions to keep your partner feeling happy and secure there there are bigger issues that need to be dealt with in the relationship and taking a stand on wearing of rings is just a symptom.

As a spouse, there are many times when you will need to put the feelings of your partner ahead of your own, this is a two way street for both partners. Living and Loving is a series of compromises and accommodations, all of which are small acts of love, things that you would not do for a friend, but that you would do for your partner without thinking, because the reward is always so much greater then the investment.

By the same token shouldn't the OP's partner be happy to accept that the OP doesn't want to wear a ring and be happy to make that concession. While it is true that relationships rely on both people making concessions it's misleading to suggest that deciding who should make which concessions and when is always a straight forward matter.

Stargazer7

Irish_Elect_Eng wrote: »

I can easily understand your GFs reaction.

Wedding rings are one of the few outward signs men display to indicate that they are married and a decision not to wear a ring can be taken as a sign that the man is not willing to openly declare that they are married. It can be seen as a small sign of a lack of commitment.

While it is everyone's right to decide that they do not want to wear a ring and if it is not an issue for either partner then fair enough. However if it is a big issue for either partner then consider this, if you are not willing to make small concessions to keep your partner feeling happy and secure there there are bigger issues that need to be dealt with in the relationship and taking a stand on wearing of rings is just a symptom.

As a spouse, there are many times when you will need to put the feelings of your partner ahead of your own, this is a two way street for both partners. Living and Loving is a series of compromises and accommodations, all of which are small acts of love, things that you would not do for a friend, but that you would do for your partner without thinking, because the reward is always so much greater then the investment.

I agree that the likely unhappiness over the lack of ring wearing would be the outward display of "being taken" thing. To be honest, I find the whole marriage thing just a big outward statement of commitment anyways, particularly for some people. Maybe I'm just terrible cynical but I think if the guy I was going out with never wore jewellery and felt uncomfortable about wearing a ring I don't think I'd mind. I guess I wouldn't mind going without a ring either so maybe I'm the wrong person to give advice!

Stargazer7

Also, I cringe at all of these "Brideszilla" and "Don't tell the bride" programmes where the women often throw hissy fits if her perfect day doesn't turn out the way she has dreamed of since she was 12

OldGoat

I've never had one. We did out wedding on a budgit and jewlery was way down the list of essentials at the time.
I just haven't bothered getting one yet and probably won't as after 19 years it seem a bit pointless now.

stargazer 68

OP would you be happy with your new wife going out with all the girls and not wearing her wedding ring?

LegacyUser

I don't wear mine really at all. Hate jewellery. I also find chains and ear rings on men absolutely dreadful, so wouldn't go with the chain idea either.
I'll wear it if going to some special occasion if I think of it, but won't bother otherwise.
Wore it consistantly after the wedding to see if I'd get used to it, but didn't really. In fact, the only time I was ever chatted up was a few months after the wedding when out with the lads while wearing the ring. Haven't worn it out with the lads since and have been duly ignored by the opposite sex, so it's a safety thing with me!
Seriously though, a cheater will cheat regardless of a ring. An honest person won't, even if there's nothing on his finger.

beertons

i'm nearly married a year, and haven't worn the ring since the honeymoon. fluid in my hands make my fingers swell. one minute they're fat, the next they're not. the ring had fallen off a few times, and no point in getting it resized. i should have gotten a chain for it to wear round my neck, but see it as a waste of money.

beertons

beertons wrote: »

i'm nearly married a year, and haven't worn the ring since the honeymoon. fluid in my hands make my fingers swell. one minute they're fat, the next they're not. the ring had fallen off a few times, and no point in getting it resized. i should have gotten a chain for it to wear round my neck, but see it as a waste of money.

A chain costs about a few euro

paulmclaughlin

Malari wrote: »

The ring on a chain around the neck is awful I think, as I hate necklaces and chains on guys.

Well you don't have to care too much, he is taken after all. :pac:

paulmclaughlin

bluewolf wrote: »

A chain costs about a few euro

A chain there is no chance of breaking? It is something you don't want to lose after all.

Scarlet 27

Well I personally have zero interest in ever getting married (I think it is a bit pointless but if it meant a lot to my partner to get married I would) so if I was forced to get married by my partner they had better wear the ring I think it is the least they could do.

From my personal experience any man I know who doesn't wear his wedding ring cheats on his wife on a regular basis more so than those who do wear the ring so personally if I got married I would expect him to wear the ring (and yes I am aware that this is not all men and I don't mean to make a generalisation just in my experience as a female I have been hit on by quite a few men who never wore a wedding ring but who thankfully I happened to know were married and when they didn't succeed with me have gone off with other people who clearly were unaware that they were married or at least I hope so).

Of course if people want to cheat I guess they can just take of the ring like so many people but I just think that in day to day life if you have it on more people know you are married and it is a public sign that you are committed to your partner.

ronan45

Have one but stopped wearing it as in work i need to take it off about 6 times per day due to my work

Have lost it about 50 times and panic when i cant find it

No point as I WILL loose it at some stage

pancuronium

When I got married the ring drove me mental on my hand, got used to it after a few days but still find i have to take it off at night going to bed as I cant sleep knowing its there lol. in saying that i've often left the house without it in the morning but now feels really strange not to wear it.............i've even turned back to get it strange how things work out...

pancuronium

When I got married the ring drove me mental on my hand, got used to it after a few days but still find i have to take it off at night going to bed as I cant sleep knowing its there lol. in saying that i've often left the house without it in the morning but now feels really strange not to wear it.............i've even turned back to get it strange how things work out...

paulmclaughlin

paulmclaughlin wrote: »

A chain there is no chance of breaking? It is something you don't want to lose after all.

This doesn't look too breakable
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Silver-Pendant-Chain-links-inches/dp/B00124PAY4/ref=sr_1_4?s=jewelry&ie=UTF8&qid=1315214548&sr=1-4


http://www.amazon.co.uk/Silver-Bright-Solid-Pendant-inches/dp/B0016NAL3G/ref=sr_1_1?s=jewelry&ie=UTF8&qid=1315214548&sr=1-1

They're heavier than I would wear and I've yet to have a chain break, and I'm careless enough

Or you could go fancy and diamond cut...
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Silver-Gents-Solid-Diamond-20/dp/B000RL20OG/ref=sr_1_6?s=jewelry&ie=UTF8&qid=1315214548&sr=1-6
:pac:

Tabnabs

If you have a wusses job sitting in an office or something equally feminine, then there really is no excuse, but if you actually work for a living; heavy engineering, deep sea fishing, farming or any job that revolves around machinery/moving parts and your hands then it's advisable not to have any rings as you risk having your finger ripped off (I've seen it happen twice).

kiffer

Scarlet 27 wrote: »

Of course if people want to cheat I guess they can just take of the ring like so many people but I just think that in day to day life if you have it on more people know you are married and it is a public sign that you are committed to your partner.

... OK maybe I'm just oblivious but I've hardly ever/never noticed wedding rings at all.
Out of my married friends I couldn't tell you who does or does not wear a ring.
Do people notice them that readily?
I imagine women spot them more than men do...

Scarlet 27

I can't speak for all women but I would always check to see if a guy has a wedding ring if I was interested in him or he was coming on to me and so would my friends. I don't want to be party to someone elses cheating.

RedXIV

Don't like the thoughts of ever wearing a ring. My dad didn't like wearing his either, but then again he was active enough. I remember one of the guys in school getting his finger ripped off on a waltzer in a fairground and that was it, no rings for me.

I might wear one on the off special occasion, if she wanted me to, but I definitely would put the foot down on her spending and kind of money on something that doesn't mean anything to me and I'll probably never wear

kiffer

kiffer wrote: »

... OK maybe I'm just oblivious but I've hardly ever/never noticed wedding rings at all.
Out of my married friends I couldn't tell you who does or does not wear a ring.
Do people notice them that readily?
I imagine women spot them more than men do...

Don't look at me, I'd be oblivious

sunflower27

bluewolf wrote: »

This doesn't look too breakable
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Silver-Pendant-Chain-links-inches/dp/B00124PAY4/ref=sr_1_4?s=jewelry&ie=UTF8&qid=1315214548&sr=1-4


http://www.amazon.co.uk/Silver-Bright-Solid-Pendant-inches/dp/B0016NAL3G/ref=sr_1_1?s=jewelry&ie=UTF8&qid=1315214548&sr=1-1

They're heavier than I would wear and I've yet to have a chain break, and I'm careless enough

Or you could go fancy and diamond cut...
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Silver-Gents-Solid-Diamond-20/dp/B000RL20OG/ref=sr_1_6?s=jewelry&ie=UTF8&qid=1315214548&sr=1-6
:pac:

The pictures ha ha ha

Malari

paulmclaughlin wrote: »

Well you don't have to care too much, he is taken after all. :pac:

I mean if MY boyfriend wanted to wear one!

Scarlet 27 wrote: »

I can't speak for all women but I would always check to see if a guy has a wedding ring if I was interested in him or he was coming on to me and so would my friends. I don't want to be party to someone elses cheating.

See, I don't get this. You don't have to be married to cheat.

Scarlet 27

Of course you don't have to be married to cheat, thats why I think marriage is a pointless institution it doesn't make one tad of difference as to whether or not a relationship works and I have no interest in getting married myself as per my previous post

I am just saying that I don't want to actively participate in someone else's cheating. If I know someone has a girlfriend/fiance/wife I am obviously not going to be with them but if you meet some random man on a night out and you have no way of knowing his real relationship status at a minimum I would check to make sure there was no wedding ring.

eyescreamcone

Got married recently.
Never wore jewellry except a watch.

I now wear the ring everytime I go out.
I like wearing it but it has taken a bit of getting used to.
I don't mind if people look at me and say that he's married...because I am.


My wife has had to change her name and has had all the hassle that goes with that - I reckon wearing a ring is a small gesture on my part for the team.

RedXIV

Scarlet 27 wrote: »

Of course you don't have to be married to cheat, thats why I think marriage is a pointless institution it doesn't make one tad of difference as to whether or not a relationship works and I have no interest in getting married myself as per my previous post

I am just saying that I don't want to actively participate in someone else's cheating. If I know someone has a girlfriend/fiance/wife I am obviously not going to be with them but if you meet some random man on a night out and you have no way of knowing his real relationship status at a minimum I would check to make sure there was no wedding ring.

BUT THE TAX BENEFITS!!!!?!?!??!?!?! :P

Malari

Scarlet 27 wrote: »

Of course you don't have to be married to cheat, thats why I think marriage is a pointless institution it doesn't make one tad of difference as to whether or not a relationship works and I have no interest in getting married myself as per my previous post

I am just saying that I don't want to actively participate in someone else's cheating. If I know someone has a girlfriend/fiance/wife I am obviously not going to be with them but if you meet some random man on a night out and you have no way of knowing his real relationship status at a minimum I would check to make sure there was no wedding ring.

Oh, yeah, I was saying that from the point of the wife who insists her husband wears a ring. If he wanted to cheat he could have done so before he was married, or he could take off his ring. So is the "you must wear a ring" idea just so she can see it on him?

Scarlet 27

RedXIV wrote: »

BUT THE TAX BENEFITS!!!!?!?!??!?!?! :P

Really not a good enough reason in my opinion! Besides they are meant to bring in the tax breaks for people who are qualified co-habitants (supposed to come in September 2011 but haven't heard any further details) so it won't make that much of a difference in the long run especially when you consider the amount of hassle involved in organising a wedding and the expensive of it.