Little things that men like

Magenta

Hi ladies,

Just curious... what do you think are the little things we do that men like?
My ex always said he found it very endearing when I'd stand on tippy toes to kiss him. Another loved when I'd ask him to help me open a jam jar!

Anything else?

Wompa1

Magenta wrote: »

Hi ladies,

Just curious... what do you think are the little things we do that men like?
My ex always said he found it very endearing when I'd stand on tippy toes to kiss him. Another loved when I'd ask him to help me open a jam jar!

Anything else?

Drives me wild when a girl bites on her bottom lip....

Panthro

When a girl goes in to kiss first, that is always a winner for me. For me it sings confidence, and I like confidence in a girl.

Asphyxia

Well my fella likes it when I stand on my tippy toes to kiss him too! My nose also does spasms where it twitches like a bunny and he finds that cute and always tries to get me to twitch it haha!

krudler

wearing our tshirts, just sexyness personified.

PhysiologyRocks

To be honest, the thought of doing "ever such cute" things to impress a man makes me cringe.

Cill Dara Abu

PhysiologyRocks wrote: »

To be honest, the thought of doing "ever such cute" things to impress a man makes me cringe.

Lesbian???

PhysiologyRocks

Cill Dara Abu wrote: »

Lesbian???

Nope, but even if I were it'd make me cringe equally to try to make myself "cute" to women. :pac:

Ickle Magoo

Cill Dara Abu taking a permanent vacation for failing to read the forum charter during their last ban.

krudler

PhysiologyRocks wrote: »

To be honest, the thought of doing "ever such cute" things to impress a man makes me cringe.

its not so much impress, just those nice little things women do that we love, be it on purpose or not.

psycho-hope

tbh, my bf is happy if i cook him some food occasionaly, dont talk when theres football on and dont hog the duvet:D

Asphyxia

I don't do the things I do to impress my BF! The things he thinks are cute are usually the things I think are a flaw, like my height for instance. He loves that I have to jump to grab things or stand on my toes to kiss him.

PhysiologyRocks

Okay, allow me to rephrase (although I stand by my original statement also)...

If I engaged in a behaviour, inadvertently or otherwise, that somebody found "cute" or could be perceived to be "cute" and I was somehow made aware of it, I would actively try to change that behaviour.

Panthro

PhysiologyRocks wrote: »

Okay, allow me to rephrase (although I stand by my original statement also)...

If I engaged in a behaviour, inadvertently or otherwise, that somebody found "cute" or could be perceived to be "cute" and I was somehow made aware of it, I would actively try to change that behaviour.

Would it not depend on the behaviour itself no?
Say if your OH found the way you walked for example "cute" because your walk had an air of confidence, head held high sort of thing, and your OH found it endearing, you are saying that if your OH made you aware that he/she found your walk "cute", you would actively try to change the way you walk?

PhysiologyRocks

papagormo wrote: »

Would it not depend on the behaviour itself no?
Say if your OH found the way you walked for example "cute" because your walk had an air of confidence, head held high sort of thing, and your OH found it endearing, you are saying that if your OH made you aware that he/she found your walk "cute", you would actively try to change the way you walk?

Okay, my honest answer here is a no.

I'd like to change my previous post to "could REALISTICALLY OR FAIRLY (in my opinion) be perceived to be cute".

However, I would not be with somebody who found my confidence "cute".

krudler

PhysiologyRocks wrote: »

Okay, allow me to rephrase (although I stand by my original statement also)...

If I engaged in a behaviour, inadvertently or otherwise, that somebody found "cute" or could be perceived to be "cute" and I was somehow made aware of it, I would actively try to change that behaviour.

Its horrible when people find things attractive or sweet about each other alright, down with that sort of thing

Asphyxia

PhysiologyRocks wrote: »

Okay, my honest answer here is a no.

I'd like to change my previous post to "could REALISTICALLY OR FAIRLY (in my opinion) be perceived to be cute".

However, I would not be with somebody who found my confidence "cute".

Why would you want to change who you are though! These things that someone finds cute are a part of you and makes you "you". Nobody else does them the way you do them and that's what makes you unique/special/cute in their eyes.

I'm not trying to be b!tchy or anything, I want to understand more is all.

Panthro

PhysiologyRocks wrote: »

Okay, my honest answer here is a no.

I'd like to change my previous post to "could REALISTICALLY OR FAIRLY (in my opinion) be perceived to be cute".

However, I would not be with somebody who found my confidence "cute".

That's fair enough.
If it were me, I personally would only love for the OH to let me know what they find endearing about me, reason being would be my mindset is that for every 1 thing they like about me, chances are there would be at least 1 thing they dislike, so I personally would rather know what my "ace cards" were, purely so I could play them more often than my "joker cards" if that makes any sense. (terrible comparison with the deck of cards there, but I hope it gets my point across!:o)
Each to their own I guess.:)

PhysiologyRocks

Hi Asphyxia, I'm not trying to be bitchy either (and I didn't think you were)...

--- See???

I have no problem with being endearing. As in, if someone found it attractive that I was kind when talking to patients or good at reading chest radiographs or understanding pathology, I'd be flattered.

It's the "cutesy" thing that I take issue with. As an adult, I don't want to be cute, and many of the things listed above would fall into that category.

I don't look down on those who do like cuteness or being cute. However, if someone were to find me cute, I would see that as a condescension of sorts and I prefer to be thought of as an equal.

vicecreamsundae

I wouldn't be completely against someone thinking some things about me are 'cute' but I totally get where PhysiologyRocks is coming from.

Also -and not to offend anyone -but the things you do that he says he finds cute, are not necessarily unique to you. As in, a guy who think it's cute when a girl has to stand on her tippytoes or need help opening a jar -he would find cute with any other girl, which i feel detracts from the cuteness. but I think what most annoys me is that those are things which are kind of a bit patronising to me.. Whereas to the poster whose bf likes her nose spasming, i wouldn't find that an 'annoying' cuteness.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that I don't mind someone finding something unique or unusual about someone to be cute, but I don't like when guys call behaviour that is babyish or 'girlish' cute. Again, no offence intended OP. It just makes me squirm!

My boyfriend is short, and I'm the only girlfriend he has ever had that was shorter than him. He likes that, a lot. He likes being able to look down at me (in the good way!). I don't wear high heels anymore cause I know he hates me being taller than him!

I think what he appreciates the most is when I'm trying to get all emtional and have a deep talk, when he yells "I don't know! Whatever! I don't KNOOOOW!" that I realise he actually doesn't know, and drop it. Men don't think like women do. We need to cut them more emotional slack.

OkayWhatever

I'm so terrible for this but I can't help it!!

I'm such an "I don't mind" person with everything.. eating out, what to see in the cinema, stupid decisions that don't even matter much! EVERYTHING!I'm always getting in trouble for it

So he likes it when I actually make a decision

OkayWhatever

OkayWhatever wrote: »

I'm so terrible for this but I can't help it!!

I'm such an "I don't mind" person with everything.. eating out, what to see in the cinema, stupid decisions that don't even matter much! EVERYTHING!I'm always getting in trouble for it

So he likes it when I actually make a decision

ME TOO. Most of our fights are because neither of us has made a decision!! I took the lead and did everything on our first trip outside Europe two weeks ago, and what did he say afterwards? "Why do you have to overpower me?" *slaps head*

OkayWhatever

Deleted User wrote: »

ME TOO. Most of our fights are because neither of us has made a decision!! I took the lead and did everything on our first trip outside Europe two weeks ago, and what did he say afterwards? "Why do you have to overpower me?" *slaps head*

Haha typical! I made a decision the other day about where to go for dinner, and he chooses somewhere else!! MEN :mad:

parker kent

PhysiologyRocks wrote: »

I don't look down on those who do like cuteness or being cute. However, if someone were to find me cute, I would see that as a condescension of sorts and I prefer to be thought of as an equal.

I think you are getting bogged down in your personal interpretation of the word "cute". What you call endearing, another person may simply refer to as cute. I don't think anybody in the thread has meant cute in the manner you don't like (in other words they don't mean the pat her on the head and coo over her like she is a 2 year old type of cute). It's just semantics or another way of saying "little things men like".

Anyway, I love seeing a girl in her PJs. There's just something really nice about that look. And I love seeing a girl doing her hair, something oddly compelling about the process!

mackg

Been single for a while now and can honestly say some of the things posted in this thread has made me miss having a gf more than anything else I have seen or heard since.:(

+1 on the doing the hair thing wonderful thing to watch.

Joey the lips

Magenta wrote: »

Hi ladies,

Just curious... what do you think are the little things we do that men like?
My ex always said he found it very endearing when I'd stand on tippy toes to kiss him. Another loved when I'd ask him to help me open a jam jar!

Anything else?

PhysiologyRocks wrote: »

To be honest, the thought of doing "ever such cute" things to impress a man makes me cringe.

I see this has developed a little strange as it went along. There is a couple of little things my wife does that i like. She had been doing many of them long before i told her i liked them so i have not influenced it in any way as suggested above.

1. I love that my wife wears my tee shirts. She loves extra long tee shirts that are light and she does not like the fact that PJs are a lot lighter than most tee shirts meaning you can see her bra through it if she goes to the door(I did not influence that)

2. I love the way she hugs me and i can rest my chin on her head. She said this makes her feel secure(I did not influence that)

3. I love the way she has a funny shaped big toe. It makes her unique.

4. I love the fact that she is left handed. I dont know why but its funny when she is standing to the right of me(Think about it)

5. I love her when she is at her most casual because she is off guard and looks incredable.

I love so many small things about her that i could write all day. Needless to say thats why we are married.

LeeHoffmann

I get where physiologyrocks is coming from. Most, if not all, of the 'little things' the men on here are talking about could be seen as endearing - they like unique or interesting things about their partners - from biting their lips to wearing PJ's to doing their hair to having odd shaped toes etc. BUT some of the 'cute things' some ladies are talking about just seem condescending to my mind (such as below). It sounds to me like he likes their helplessness

he found it very endearing when I'd stand on tippy toes to kiss him. Another loved when I'd ask him to help me open a jam jar!

He loves that I have to jump to grab things or stand on my toes to kiss him.

Ickle Magoo

I don't know if I'd call it helplessness tbh - and I'm not sure "cute" is the right word either...perhaps attractive/turn-on would work better?

My husband grins from ear to ear when I can't open jars or lift things and I bring them to him or ask him to do them for me. He also enjoys comforting me when I'm upset and has said I look cute when I'm teary. I don't think it's got anything to do with celebrating my weaknesses; it's him celebrating his own strengths - sometimes literally - and enjoying being trusted to be able to comfort and support me when I'm feeling vulnerable.

@rti-shm@rti

mackg wrote: »

Been single for a while now and can honestly say some of the things posted in this thread has made me miss having a gf more than anything else I have seen or heard since.:(

+1 on the doing the hair thing wonderful thing to watch.

That's so sweet. Being a girl and being single I can honestly say that all the craic on nights out, the freedom of doing what you want when you want it and all that good single stuff could never beat that warm fuzzy feeling you get when you realise you are in love and you catch your OH doing something totally endearing. I'm not sure how anyone could not want that.

g'em

Joey the lips that's the loveliest post I've seen in a long time, it's so heartwarming

I agree with Ickle's pov on it - I'm a divil for being crap at admitting when I need a hand with things, be it physical or emotional, one of my exes copped this pretty fast and we inadvertently figured out a system that when I was feeling a bit ploopy I'd point at my forehead - he'd kiss it, give me a hug and it was like we were meeting eachother halfway and I'd be able to say what was on my mind. He loved that he was one of the few people I felt comfortable enough to feel vulnerable around, it doesn't happen often... and be enough of a sap that I'd do something silly as point at my forehead like an eejit :pac:

Mr. Incognito

I don't really get this thread tbh.

What are things your OH does that you find endearing- it depends on the person.

When you love someone- you tend to love their flaws more than their strengths because they are the parts of themselves they hide and are self conscious of.

If I was with a girl that pulled the whole "cutsie wootsy" stuff I'd want to hit her with a hammer especially if she did it because she thought it was endearing.

The Girl that said- the odd dinner- don't hog the blankets and disappear for the football- nail on head.

And as for all the stuff I love about my exes, that's just between me and them- that's the point is it not?

There are no generic things. It is ALL specific. It can be a look, a laugh, an action, a phrase, a habit, anything. No-one else will ever get it.

The only thing I really hated in any of my exes was when one of them tried to clean up after me- It annoyed me. I've lived on my own- I know how to iron a shirt and I could NEVER find anything. It was like- she was hiding **** to show how important she was to me and that I had to ask her where she put them. We got used to it though- now she's in New Zealand delivering babies. Good on her.

LeeHoffmann

I think you're right Ickle - more his own strength he likes rather than his partner's weakness. I'd experience some of this with my OH too. I guess I'd see these things as some of my weaknesses/inadequacies and hence, would hate for him to call attention to them by labelling them cute or by smiling if something like that happens. But that's my own problem and I think you're way of looking at it is better. Maybe should work out some 'system' like g'em!

Ash.J.Williams

PhysiologyRocks wrote: »

Okay, allow me to rephrase (although I stand by my original statement also)...

If I engaged in a behaviour, inadvertently or otherwise, that somebody found "cute" or could be perceived to be "cute" and I was somehow made aware of it, I would actively try to change that behaviour.

What if after changing your behaviour, men/women take a shine to your new behaviour and find even cuter than the previous one?

daenerysstormborn3

Apparently I twitch a lot in my sleep, my hands move ever so slightly and my toes and my boyfriend watches this sometimes and says it's cute. He also says I look very peaceful when I'm asleep.

This will probably sound stupid to some of you but before I got my current motorbike I used to sit on the bed with my arms out grabbing imaginery handlebars and make vroom vroom noises and pretend I was Valentino Rossi. He used to find that very funny and endearing.

I do a dance on my bike sitting at traffic lights sometimes when he's beside me and it probably does look very funny with a helmet on and the leathers and he finds this very funny and endearing also.

I think a lot of people do things unintentionally that other people find cute. Like the standing on tiptoes thing or the wearing of your OH's t-shirts etc I'm sure most of the people that do those things never set out to appear so cute and adorable but that's the way their OH perceives it.

The Rook

PhysiologyRocks wrote: »

Hi Asphyxia, I'm not trying to be bitchy either (and I didn't think you were)...

--- See???

I have no problem with being endearing. As in, if someone found it attractive that I was kind when talking to patients or good at reading chest radiographs or understanding pathology, I'd be flattered.

It's the "cutesy" thing that I take issue with. As an adult, I don't want to be cute, and many of the things listed above would fall into that category.

I don't look down on those who do like cuteness or being cute. However, if someone were to find me cute, I would see that as a condescension of sorts and I prefer to be thought of as an equal.

I think it's really cute that PhysiologyRocks doesn't want anything about her to be perceived as cute!

Ickle Magoo

Mr. Incognito wrote: »

If I was with a girl that pulled the whole "cutsie wootsy" stuff I'd want to hit her with a hammer....

Niiiiice. :eek:

LeeHoffmann

I understand Mr Incognito's feelings here. I can't stand when women live up to silly stereotypes by acting like little girls

Ickle Magoo

I'm probably the one of the least giggly, pink and fluffy types going - but I can't say I'd find psychopathic serial killer type responses any more attractive - probably a lot less tbh...when commenting on unattractive qualities, I was just highlighting the irony.

LeeHoffmann

I'm taking it he won't actually attack her with a hammer :eek:

Edit: look what this thread has come to...

Little things that men like...hitting cutesy wootsy girls with a hammer

Ickle Magoo

LeeHoffmann wrote: »

I'm taking it he won't actually attack her with a hammer :eek:

Lol, I would hope not! I just thought it was a very odd thing to come out with - I didn't mean to suggest it was likely to happen in real life.

When discussing unattractive qualities, anything which draws similarities with behavior exhibited by serial killers would be pretty near the top of most women's lists, I would think...hence the irony. :P

dashboard_hula

The thing about women wearing their boyfriends/partners t-shirts comes up a lot. Personally I think mens t-shirts on women, especially busty women, look awful unless it's the "wandering around the kitchen after sex" look, in which case it's awesome. That could be just me though, as round neck masculine tshirts make me look and feel like a bale of hay.

My boyfriend thinks it's incredibly cute/endearing/what have you that I load up his toothbrush with toothpaste at night for him if I'm brushing my teeth first. I haven't the heart to admit to him that I started doing that because I kept mixing up toothbrushes and would have his one halfway to my mouth before realising my mistake! When he said he liked it, I just kept going.

Joey the lips

g'em wrote: »

Joey the lips that's the loveliest post I've seen in a long time, it's so heartwarming

I agree with Ickle's pov on it - I'm a divil for being crap at admitting when I need a hand with things, be it physical or emotional, one of my exes copped this pretty fast and we inadvertently figured out a system that when I was feeling a bit ploopy I'd point at my forehead - he'd kiss it, give me a hug and it was like we were meeting eachother halfway and I'd be able to say what was on my mind. He loved that he was one of the few people I felt comfortable enough to feel vulnerable around, it doesn't happen often... and be enough of a sap that I'd do something silly as point at my forehead like an eejit :pac:

Thank you. It was not ment to be that strong but thanks for the compliment,

To all the ladies who would like to open jars them selves a simple solution is to stab the lid of the jar with a sissors before trying to open it.

God knows i tell me wife this all the time and she still annoys me to open the lid.:D

Mr. Incognito

Ickle Magoo wrote: »

Lol, I would hope not! I just thought it was a very odd thing to come out with - I didn't mean to suggest it was likely to happen in real life.

When discussing unattractive qualities, anything which draws similarities with behavior exhibited by serial killers would be pretty near the top of most women's lists, I would think...hence the irony. :P

Throwaway comment of "wanting" to thump someone due to frustrating behaviour draws comparisons with serial killers???

Bitches be crazy.

Silverfish

Mr. Incognito wrote: »

Throwaway comment of "wanting" to thump someone due to frustrating behaviour draws comparisons with serial killers???

Bitches be crazy.

Banned,

S

LeeHoffmann

To all the ladies who would like to open jars them selves a simple solution is to stab the lid of the jar with a sissors before trying to open it

An easier way is to use a butter knife as a lever - place under the lid and force up. Works really well for jam jars etc

cdaly_

But may bend the tip of the knife...

LeeHoffmann

not unless you've got plastic knives. Jars aren't used fastened THAT tightly

LittleBook

Ickle Magoo wrote: »

I don't think it's got anything to do with celebrating my weaknesses; it's him celebrating his own strengths - sometimes literally - and enjoying being trusted to be able to comfort and support me when I'm feeling vulnerable.

It's all too common that pointing out the strengths of one person/sex is negatively construed as an implication of weakness in the opposite, rather than a positive celebration of strength.

It's a shame because I know my partner loves when he gets a chance to demonstrate his tech savviness because he likes to feel needed.

I also know he loves it when I ask him to deal with something going on with his (step) daughter because he likes to feel involved.

He loves it when I let him decide what we're doing because sometimes he likes to feel in charge.

And he loves it when I come to him with a problem only he can help me work through because he likes to feel indispensable.

None of this means I'm not tech savvy, or unable to deal with my daughter or incapable of being in charge, the opposite in fact. He loves it maybe because what's seldom is wonderful.

Malari

Joey the lips wrote: »

To all the ladies who would like to open jars them selves a simple solution is to stab the lid of the jar with a sissors before trying to open it.

God knows i tell me wife this all the time and she still annoys me to open the lid.:D

Noooo! I have been known to wrestle a new jar off people so I can open it :pac: I think I'm addicted to that fabulous popping noise.

My boyfriend likes when I make up new nicknames for our cat and talk to him in a crazy voice (the cat...)

iguana

The best way to open jars is to hit the lid firmly off the counter-top to break the seal, then it will open with a gentle twist. I open all the stuck jars in our house because I have the knack of hitting it hard enough but not so hard that I smash the glass. I never thought anything of this until one evening I was on the phone to my mother when my husband brought me a jar to open. After it was done my mother asked, a little shocked, if my husband had really just gotten me to open a jar or was it a euphemism for something else.:pac: