Rub and Tug

Emme · 09-08-2011 11:00PM

There's a difference between having an open relationship where you're honest with each other and going behind your partner's back to get your rocks off.

Actually, it's even more insulting in an open relationship. The OP and his GF have a wild, open and adventurous sex life but that's not enough for the OP, he still has to sneak around behind her back going to rub and tug shops.

If the OP was a middle-aged accountant with a wife who had stopped sleeping with him years ago you might see a reason for him going to rub and tug shops. Even so it would still be a bit sad.

Is it the clandestine element of the rub and tug shops that turns you on, OP? The fact that you're getting your rocks off and your GF doesn't know about it? You wouldn't be the first man to be turned on that way.

And your GF wouldn't be the first woman to get upset when she finds out that her partner has been getting jollies behind her back.

I hope for the OP's sake that this has a happy ending!:D

LegacyUser · 10-08-2011 01:18AM

OP here,

Your right your right....

When i read back through all these responses I think it is pretty clear that I'm being a dick.

I guess I was trying to shock people with my "unconventional" lifestyle (which does not make me at all happy). So what, big deal, i'm a hero yada yada...

I apologise for my flippant response earlier. The thing is I'm not at all happy and neither is she. I do love her though and am thinking of asking her to move back home so we can start leading a bit more of a normal life.

Its funny, I posted on here initially withholding some important facts, knowing the response I would get and, and fully expecting "conservatives" to give me a hard time but when I actually read the responses I realised a few uncomfortable home truths.

My apologies again for the bravado and thanks for your help.