Women, what type of man/woman do you attract?

Eve_Dublin

Stealing this from the Gentleman's club as it could be interesting. This is a question for straight and gay women. What kind of guys/gals do you attract? Do you tend to attract guys/gals you are interested in or not? Is there a pattern (I know this was asked in a previous thread already though) and do you have any theory why that might be the case?

I've always attracted older men...not that much older, maybe by about 7 or 8 years (although that has gone up to 15 years) and not really guys my own age so much. All alternative, arty types and mainly musicians and if they're not musicians, bookish types...or both. They tend to be quite reclusive but outgoing when around people they know. Don't attract sporty guys, probably because I'm not and they can tell. Lucky for me, I do attract guys I tend to fancy...or else I've adjusted my type accordingly. I don't know. I suppose I attract them because of how I look (maybe the nose ring or my clothes?). Still, I don't know why it is that I attract older guys and not guys my own age as I reckon I look my age (31). No particular nationality....got more attention in Italy and Argentina than here in Spain but I reckon that'd be the case with most women as they're charmers. Never had problems in Ireland even though I'm a hideous Irish woman :eek:

You?

Ickle Magoo

I don't think I really attract "a type" - perhaps drunk and obnoxious?! :pac:

No, seriously - tall, short, thin, chubby, cute and errr, not so cute, young, older - I don't think there is a particular that approaches/has approached me...

Larianne

All types.

baby and crumble

Well, I must preface this by saying I NEVER KNOW when someone is attracted to me. Like, ever. So this is all based upon my friends and my girlfriend telling me someone was chatting me up.

Generally I seem to attract girly girls, or slightly tomboyish girls, but nearly always leaning on the girly side. I guess that's because my energy and style of dress is a bit more masculine, and whether it's a stereotype or not, butchy type girls (like me) tend not to go for other butchy girls.

I also tend to attract quite intelligent girls, but tbh I am doing a PhD and have been in the university bubble for 10 years so that's moreso to do with the circles I run in I'd say. I dunno.

I also seem to attract girls with a bit of... gumption in them (is that a word anymore?) Like, girls who'll give as good as they get. I like that, though.

but like I said, I rarely attract anyone (that I know of) so... I don't know if what I said is relevant at all. I managed to attract at least one who rocked my world so I stuck with her!

Dolbert

A disproportionate amount of Indian men for some reason

Eve_Dublin

Larianne wrote: »

All types.

Oh dear. I always start crap threads that go nowhere...oh well! Back to the drawing board :pac:

gargleblaster

Married ones. :rolleyes: Or drunk ones, as previously mentioned. :pac:
That's pretty much it!

I don't think I can count the ones that I approached because that'd be more a case of them attracting me, right? Life is so hard for us unapproachables. :P

Kiera

Indie types. Any serious relationship i've been in has been with an indie kind of guy. Guess it helps that they're the kind of guy i go for too

stupidusername

I seem to attract guys with low confidence. and mostly guys that i've absolutely no physical attraction to.

Jenneke87

The ones looking for a mother and a shoulder to cry on, when I'm actually attracted to the "rough tough save the world"kinda guys

Bridgy

I used to always attract guys who already had girlfriends! Of course i always found out afterwards! so after a few years of that I knew what to look out for!however now,its the guys just out of a relationship/broken up with the love of their life! to be honest i really dont understand why,I wouldnt say I come across as/dress like the type of girl who just wants a bit of fun(not that thats a bad thing)!

saintsaltynuts

Single-Mothers for some reason.

Fluorescence

I only ever seem to be chatted up by middle aged asian gents and lesbians. Neither do it for me, personally :pac:

squeakyduck

I seem to attract skinny gorgeous rocker types (my boyfriend)

Skinny gorgeous hipsers, musicians and lots of spaniards for some reason Maybe its the pale skin!

Skinny red headed cuties

SKINNNY!

Da Shins Kelly

People I don't fancy most of the time. I haven't seen any other pattern among them.

starlit

I tend to attract various types but not all types. Sometimes guys out of my league. I attract cute fellas over drop dead gorgeous types find I ain't attracted to really good looking fellas. I tend to be more attracted to the typical irish fella types, average-above average types. I attract more so those who are either younger, older, height varies, geeky, bad boy, player or scumbag types to be honest!? A lot of them tend to be smokers which is weird everything else kind of varies based on appearance and interests and other things. Some are similar some aren't.

Blush_01

Echoing Baby & Crumble here, I couldn't tell you who I attract, or if I attract anyone.

Well, there was the facebook stalker guy, and the woolly jumper guy, but I'm going to go with nobody that I've noticed.

Edit: And occasionally really short guys. I'm 5' 11".

EverEvolving

I attract them all, have had to start bringing out a stick with me to beat them all away :pac:

Seriously though, I tend to attract/gravitate towards intelligent, introverted, self aware, independent guys who have a particular hobby/interest that absorbs them, most of those traits can be found in all my exes to date and my current darling, no mammy boys for me!

Asphyxia

Not sure if I attract a certain type 'type' but going by my exes that have approached me first they are usually musicians, skateboarders, dark hair and huge sense of humour.

Chuchoter

The nonexistent kind :mad:

Lia_lia

Yeah, I don't think I attract any type in particular

Lippy C

I seem to attract slightly younger guys great for the ego but I would rather have guys my own age. I did have guy 45 chat me up said he REALLY liked me but I was too young for him as my head/brain was still very youthful??!! WTF....why?? because I dont sit at home knitting

embee

I've gone from one extreme to another. There was the fella who was crazy clingy and literally asked me to marry him every single day for months on end. (Naturally I said no).

Then we have the other type I seem to attract.... the aloof, guarded commitment-phobe.

Aren't men great altogether?

beks101

Skinny, below average height guys. I'm attracted to athletic, tall guys. Also lots of different races. But then I'm in Toronto where almost everyone is ethnic.

I've always wondered what the deal is with attracting guys that you're not attracted to. It's like a life-pattern for me. And I don't think the being-more-at-ease-around-guys-you-don't-fancy thing necessarily accounts for it, as in many cases I'm talking physical attraction right off the street type of thing. Mother nature screwing up perhaps!

I could tell you what kind of guys I'm attracted to, but the kind that are attracted to me as a separate group? Duno

Malari

All types, I haven't really spotted a pattern.

Of the guys that are interested in me, I have mainly been attracted to the sporty types. But does that mean more sporty guys are into me than non-sporty? I don't think so.

By the way, I often don't know they are sporty before I get to know them

dearg lady

Very rarely typicaly sporty guys, almost always smokers, mainly musicians,hippe types. Usually pretty intelligent, or at least, deep thinkers...even tho that sometimes drives me crazy!

The type that approach me on a night out would generally be, loudmouth guys a little older than me. Or middle aged men. Four men over the years have declared their undying love for me. They were people who were mine and my husband's friends and they were married/in a long term relationship.

Also red heads, red heads always seem to take a second look at me for some reason and in return they almost always catch my attention.

Maple

Dolorous wrote: »

A disproportionate amount of Indian men for some reason

Me too. It's extraordinary. I think it's something to do with my colouring, but yes a lot of Indian men find me attractive. And taxi drivers too, oddly enough.

Apart from that, there's not been a trend that I can see. Apart from my younger brothers friends all fancying me when we were younger, I was the Hot Older Sister. :pac:

liz2

unfortunately i seem to attract commitment-phobe types :rolleyes:

jaffacakesyum

Chuchoter wrote: »

The nonexistent kind :mad:

Yup, I'm the same.

Unless you count sleazy drunk guys on a night out in town that can barely stand :rolleyes:

gargleblaster

jaffacakesyum wrote: »

Yup, I'm the same.

Unless you count sleazy drunk guys on a night out in town that can barely stand :rolleyes:

I count them! :pac:

If not for them it'd just be married men. I'd rather the drunks than the married men. *shudder* This is a big part of why I started approaching men. Not a fan of drunks or cheaters TVM.

Coffeeteasugar

Usually sleezy older men or too young!

fghijkl

Foreign men which is getting reallllly annoying, not that I don't like foreign men, but I'd like a nice irish boy for a change.

Irish men who think i'm "foreign" and then lose interest the minute I tell them i'm not

The rare time I do attract an Irish man they're always smokers.
I have this weird love/hate thing with the smokers. On one hand i hate the smell, the stained fingers etc bleughhhh. On the other hand, as much as i hate to admit it, there's just something really really sexy about it.

LegacyUser

fghijkl wrote: »

Irish men who think i'm "foreign" and then lose interest the minute I tell them i'm not

Does this seriously happen to girls? Shocking.

Catari Jaguar

I've only had one relationship and am engaged so there's not much playing the field for me....

I go to rock bars so the majority of men that hit on me would be rockers. Same type I go for. It's also the type I'd be more likely to be friends with, alternative and up for a laugh, throw in a bt of geek/ gamer/ retro film knowledge and I'm hooked.


On the streets, I get eyed up by whoever, no particular age or race. Never had any stalkers or weirdoes... Feel like I'm missing out now

fghijkl

shockin altogether wrote: »

Does this seriously happen to girls? Shocking.

Well i can't speak for all women but it definitely happens me, it usually goes (i kid you not:rolleyes:):

Guy: walks toward me smiling "Are you foreign?"
Me: "No, people seem to ask me that a lot though, I'm from Dublin"
Guy: Aw I thought you were *insert nationality*... you look *insert nationality*....walks away
Me:

Catari Jaguar

fghijkl wrote: »

Well i can't speak for all women but it definitely happens me, it usually goes (i kid you not:rolleyes:):

Guy: walks toward me smiling "Are you foreign?"
Me: "No, people seem to ask me that a lot though, I'm from Dublin"
Guy: Aw I thought you were *insert nationality*... you look *insert nationality*....walks away
Me:

I get asked if I'm Romanian/ Polish a good bit. Especially since I dyed my hair black and got a bit more tanned in the summer. I can say hello and a few bits in both languages so usually chat a bit instead of them just walking off.

LegacyUser

fghijkl wrote: »

Well i can't speak for all women but it definitely happens me, it usually goes (i kid you not:rolleyes:):

Guy: walks toward me smiling "Are you foreign?"
Me: "No, people seem to ask me that a lot though, I'm from Dublin"
Guy: Aw I thought you were *insert nationality*... you look *insert nationality*....walks away
Me:

I don't get it though. If they find you attractive, what does it matter where you're from?

Coffeeteasugar

Got that too!asked if I was French, said no I'm Irish!guy walks away:(

Princess Peach

I attract weirdos! Genuinely, I'm known for it. On a night out, or even just walking down the street, any weirdo will find me. Friends have noted this a lot!

Not sure what it is about me, sure I'm perfectly normal >.>

Little Miss Lady

I attract guys that are too needy and have issues or else ones who are very vague and get very disinterested very quickly..

A happy medium would be nice

cdaly_

fghijkl wrote: »

Irish men who think i'm "foreign" and then lose interest the minute I tell them i'm not

fghijkl wrote: »

Well i can't speak for all women but it definitely happens me, it usually goes (i kid you not:rolleyes:):

Guy: walks toward me smiling "Are you foreign?"
Me: "No, people seem to ask me that a lot though, I'm from Dublin"
Guy: Aw I thought you were *insert nationality*... you look *insert nationality*....walks away
Me:

shockin altogether wrote: »

I don't get it though. If they find you attractive, what does it matter where you're from?

Coffeeteasugar wrote: »

Got that too!asked if I was French, said no I'm Irish!guy walks away:(

My guess is that if you're foreign, you might be up for a no-strings fling for a while before heading home...

fghijkl

shockin altogether wrote: »

I don't get it though. If they find you attractive, what does it matter where you're from?

lol I don't get it either
Although i think a man who decides to chat a woman up on the sole basis that she's not Irish is probably best avoided anyway!

1daydreamer

Players, apparently....

Giselle

Lately its been the type who try to project an image of themselves thats totally at odds with reality.

The latest one never gets fed up telling me how brilliant everyone thinks he is.

I haven't seen any evidence of it.:(

Sorry if I sound bitter.

Its because I am.:)

Kanoe

people who need help mostly. I don't even say that lightly.
I seem to completely repel a particular kind of lesbian though, which is not a bad thing long may it last.

2 Miles From Narnia

I always seem to end up with guys who have a thing for brunettes. I've had the conversation with 4 different exes about which celebs would be top of their list, and each of the 4 guys listed people like Courtney Cox, Selma Hayek, Catherine Zeta Jones etc.

........and I'm blonde with very fair skin. I must have some sort of brunette personality, whatever that may be.

miec

I attract guys that are too needy and have issues or else ones who are very vague and get very disinterested very quickly..

I have had this problem too. On the one hand I get the wooers, they go all out to win me over, and then become cold or I meet a man have a great chat swap numbers and then nothing. In years back I would have chased them a bit but since getting older I don't bother.

Miss Fluff

You know it's said that you've to kiss a lot of frogs before finding a prince? I've kissed entire generations and cross-breeds of toads to be honest. :eek: I've never had a problem attracting men except the vast majority have been egocentric, lying bastards. Oh and there was one who was mentally ill. Oh and one who was in a relationship but forgot to tell me. Or the workaholic liar.....the list goes on. I always somehow kept the faith and I'm now with the kindest, most lovely, seriously hot and super intelligent boy who I feel blessed to be with. Long may it continue, he has shown no frog tendencies so far

nicechick!

Two types!

The ones looking for a girlfriend! Of late I keep meeting men that are interested in getting to know me better but not me really... just the ones that are settling, sick of being single types men that have decided that its time they get a girlfriend! (needy!)

Married!