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How can you tell when a girl likes you?

  • 06-07-2011 2:06am
    #1
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,048 ✭✭✭


    need advice.(shy girls btw not flirty 1s)
    my friend is shy..know her my whole life but only start hangin out last year....fancy her 2 bits but dunno if i should make a move. let da good ppl of ah help me ;)

    few signs
    • we were down beach after a party and we were all sitting there and she rested her head against my shoulder
    • at her party i was talking to her uncle and she came over and said she thought i was a good guy and had her approval....would seem a dead giveaway right haha
    • at times her friends have made comments about me being her bf
    • sittin down on chair with her and she start subtly resting her feet against side of my leg.. we are very good friends but still kinda shy around each other so seemed a bit risky 4 her....not somethin she'd do id imagine

    yo so ah help me out..expect a few of u actin da bollox but help a brother lol


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,724 ✭✭✭The Scientician


    Ask her.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 789 ✭✭✭The Internet Explorer


    Blast her with kiss.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,224 ✭✭✭✭Marty McFly


    Ah sure just drop the hand, youll know soon enough.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,386 ✭✭✭Killer Wench


    Sounds to me that you are her safe male friend.

    Want to know for sure, ask her to your place for dinner on a Friday night. Then ask her what you should have for dinner and at what time you should eat.

    If she says an early time with take-out food, you're only friends.

    If she says a prime time with her offering to cook, she really likes you.

    If she gives you a really late time with the offer of just drinks, she just wants to bang.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,748 ✭✭✭AgileMyth


    OP, you started a thread yesterday entitled 'what do u miss from being 12/13/14?'.

    At the time I thought you were reminiscing, now it seems you were wondering what you have to look forward to.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,048 ✭✭✭partyndbs


    i dont have a place mate ha ye but defo am not safe male friend..shes too shy with me for that


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,224 ✭✭✭✭Marty McFly


    Sounds to me that you are her safe male friend.

    Want to know for sure, ask her to your place for dinner on a Friday night. Then ask her what you should have for dinner and at what time you should eat.

    If she says an early time with take-out food, you're only friends.

    If she says a prime time with her offering to cook, she really likes you.

    If she gives you a really late time with the offer of just drinks, she just wants to bang.

    Really you reckon that theorys solid? Never heard that one before.

    Although I do reckon your right or maybe she could be just really shy or inexperienced, how old is she op?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 12,806 ✭✭✭✭KeithM89_old


    partyndbs wrote: »
    ...only start hangin out last year....fancy her 2 bits but dunno if i should make a move. let da good ppl of ah help me ;)

    yo so ah help me out..expect a few of u actin da bollox but help a brother lol
    partyndbs wrote: »
    i dont have a place mate ha ye but defo am not safe male friend..shes too shy with me for that

    Lose the txt spk
    Thanks
    :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,699 ✭✭✭deathrider


    Blast her with kiss.

    Can't lose with that plan



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,985 ✭✭✭Dunny


    I reckon she hates ya, run a mile OP.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,048 ✭✭✭partyndbs


    Really you reckon that theorys solid? Never heard that one before.

    Although I do reckon your right or maybe she could be just really shy or inexperienced, how old is she op?

    shes just gone 18 mate.
    my friend who knows her longer than he knows me says that she LOVES me...thats his opinion


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 271 ✭✭JimiWonderDoor 92


    Ask her for a lightbulb and then see results.

    I know how this shít goes down. :)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 27 irishescorts


    Go in for the kiss mate, best way to do it.

    If she recoils then you're fooked, just be honest and tell her you're into her ;)

    And best of luck!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 271 ✭✭JimiWonderDoor 92


    Go in for the kiss mate, best way to do it.

    If she recoils then you're fooked, just be honest and tell her you're into her ;)

    And best of luck!

    OP,

    I think its fair to say that the best advice you could get on how to subtly find out whether or not your as yet unfruitful dalliances may turn into a fulfilling and healthy relationship can be drawn from Irishescorts


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,246 ✭✭✭ardinn


    Dont just ask her!!! Who the hell does that!!

    Get full, try get up on her and then if it goes pear shaped blame the drink :cool:


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,784 ✭✭✭Superbus


    partyndbs wrote: »
    shes just gone 18 mate.
    my friend who knows her longer than he knows me says that she LOVES me...thats his opinion

    She said she loves you, and you know that can't be bad.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 271 ✭✭JimiWonderDoor 92


    ardinn wrote: »
    Dont just ask her!!! Who the hell does that!!

    Get full, try get up on her and then if it goes pear shaped blame the drink :cool:

    Agreed.

    We are but hopeless romantics


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,709 ✭✭✭shrewdness


    Don't arse about anyway, make your move quick or you could end up in the friend zone for good.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,066 ✭✭✭Washington Irving


    Superbus wrote: »
    She said she loves you, and you know that can't be bad.

    Yeah, she loves you and you know you should be glad!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,511 ✭✭✭saywhatyousee


    If a girl likes you she will start to rub,flick,shuffle her hair(tip i got years ago and never failed me)


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,425 ✭✭✭guitarzero


    Give her something thats yours - necklace, guitar plec, a cheesy pic of you or something, not terribly personal but just something thats yours and that she could possibly carry. This will mean you're with her in some vague sense and you'll be on her mind. Do it in an off hand, casual, "unplanned" way. Then next time you see her check to see if she has the item with her. Also, make some form of physical contact like tickling, mess with her nose, her hair, even things like nugding, anything that could lead to that "oops, my mouth fell on your lips" moment.
    I was in the same situation ages ago, couldnt tell. Got all these mixed signals. Then I found she just liked me as a friend. I was pissed and stopped giving a crap. Then did the above without any serious intention and bang. And it was during the summer too, I think this time off season can toy with womens minds a bit. Anyway, there ye have it!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,571 ✭✭✭Aoifey!


    If a girl likes you she will start to rub,flick,shuffle her hair(tip i got years ago and never failed me)
    Jeez, I must like every guy I talk to so. I'm always fiddling with my hair out of boredom/uncomfort/just fixing my hair.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 610 ✭✭✭jumbone


    Aoifey! wrote: »
    Jeez, I must like every guy I talk to so. I'm always fiddling with my hair out of boredom/uncomfort/just fixing my hair.

    stop ruining the thread! this coul;d be the next brian and ciara.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 271 ✭✭JimiWonderDoor 92


    jumbone wrote: »
    stop ruining the thread! this coul;d be the next brian and ciara.

    Never!
    Aoifey! wrote: »
    Jeez, I must like every guy I talk to so. I'm always fiddling with my hair out of boredom/uncomfort/just fixing my hair.

    Duuuuuuuuuurty


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,511 ✭✭✭saywhatyousee


    Aoifey! wrote: »
    Jeez, I must like every guy I talk to so. I'm always fiddling with my hair out of boredom/uncomfort/just fixing my hair.

    Its all about the look though(kind of hard to explain typing on a internet forum)
    When you make eye contact they touch their hair.Its a sign of nervous tension i did many body language class's.They did not help me win at poker but they helped when picking up the ladies:)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,246 ✭✭✭ardinn


    This also reminds me of a time I was at a party with a girl i kinda fancied, getting on grand all night but never really got the "signal" so I was pretty confused as to what to do - later we were alone in the sitting room and I said f**k it so it stuck the head in her - when that was over she responded with a confident - "about f**king time" :D


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,762 ✭✭✭jive


    partyndbs wrote: »
    need advice.(shy girls btw not flirty 1s)
    my friend is shy..know her my whole life but only start hangin out last year....fancy her 2 bits but dunno if i should make a move. let da good ppl of ah help me ;)

    few signs
    • we were down beach after a party and we were all sitting there and she rested her head against my shoulder
    • at her party i was talking to her uncle and she came over and said she thought i was a good guy and had her approval....would seem a dead giveaway right haha
    • at times her friends have made comments about me being her bf
    • sittin down on chair with her and she start subtly resting her feet against side of my leg.. we are very good friends but still kinda shy around each other so seemed a bit risky 4 her....not somethin she'd do id imagine

    I don't want to be the douche who rains on your parade but from what I've read you are definitely in the friend zone. You have known her too long and have waited too long to form any kind of saucy relationship. You are now like a 'brother' to her. The fact that she introduced you to family and said that you were a good guy just cements that; a girl wouldn't do that with someone she had sexual desires for.

    It reminds me of the episode of Inbetweeners where Charlotte said to Will something along the lines of "I would really like a boyfriend like you" ... "hahahahahaha not you though Will someone like you!!"

    From your post I can guarantee, without doubt, that you are between 15 and 20 years old. I can also guarantee, without doubt, that you will ignore all advice in this thread and just go for it anyway. I am going to tell you that you have nothing to lose and the chances are you will fail; but if you succeed you will be a happy young man. You have a case of 'oneitis' where you only like one girl and she is all that is great in the world. You will look back one day at this forum post and laugh; but today is not that day.

    I would advise you to not go for it and find someone else, this will increase your chances of her actually fancying you as more than a friend - she may then make more obvious (actual) advances towards you and you won't really have to do anything other than go with it. You won't take this advice (young love, n'awwwwwwww) though so just go for it and if you get shot down say something along the lines of "that's ok, I thought we might have had something more I was just confused it's cool though I'm totally happy with just being friends anyway".
    Aoifey! wrote: »
    Jeez, I must like every guy I talk to so. I'm always fiddling with my hair out of boredom/uncomfort/just fixing my hair.

    Pubic hair?
    weeeeeeeird


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,300 ✭✭✭Indubitable


    I base these things on sexual tension.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,438 ✭✭✭TwoShedsJackson


    See if she gets an erection when she's talking to you.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 271 ✭✭JimiWonderDoor 92


    See if she gets an erection when she's talking to you.

    13 years and still these gems :p


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 757 ✭✭✭Apanachi


    partyndbs wrote: »
    • we were down beach after a party and we were all sitting there and she rested her head against my shoulder
    • at her party i was talking to her uncle and she came over and said she thought i was a good guy and had her approval....would seem a dead giveaway right haha
    • at times her friends have made comments about me being her bf
    • sittin down on chair with her and she start subtly resting her feet against side of my leg.. we are very good friends but still kinda shy around each other so seemed a bit risky 4 her....not somethin she'd do id imagine
    Well I for one thinks it sounds like she likes you (I've used the head on the shoulder one a few times (that's actually how I "made my move" on my husband - married 13 years now ;))


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,296 ✭✭✭Frank Black


    I've been out of the dating scene for a while but I reckon you should make her a nice mix tape.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,542 ✭✭✭Captain Darling


    I've been out of the dating scene for a while but I reckon you should make her a nice mix tape.

    Nothing says i want to roide you more then standing in someones garden with a gherrro blaster belting out Wind of Change with a lighter over your head.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,633 ✭✭✭Feeona


    Ah the teenage years! I remember being so distracted with the thought of making a fool of myself that I never made a move. Meanwhile there were people in the background who figured out the rules really quickly and just jumped straight in. They realised that you have to make a few blunders before things come right. I envy those who learned the 'rules' (as in there are none!) early because it took me a long time to cop on :pac:

    Go for it. Ask her out. You're not doing anything wrong by asking a girl out. If there's a knockback, take it on the chin and move on. If she says yes, you're sorted. Either way it's a win because you won't be second guessing any more.

    Good luck :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,461 ✭✭✭dee.


    It's very possible she does like you...or she thinks of you as a really close friend. A couple of years ago before my best friend and I fell out (because I wouldn't date him) I used to act exactly like that. On nights out I would be tired and we'd be talking to a group of people and I'd put my head on his shoulder and he'd put his arm around me. We went everywhere together so if I ever entered a pub on my own everyone would say "where's the boyfriend?" and were genuinely shocked to find out he wasn't my boyfriend!

    If I were in your shoes I would ask her out to a movie. I usually don't recommend it for a first date but given that you already know each other quite well it should be okay :)


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,072 ✭✭✭Tipsy McSwagger


    Grow some balls and just kiss her. If she responds good, if not call her a mickey teaser and move on.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 14,762 ✭✭✭✭stupidusername


    girls are confusing like this. any of the stuff you mentioned she does could be just that she's comfortable with you, or could mean something more.

    I say just go for it. either ask, say you like her, or try it on.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,467 ✭✭✭Wazdakka


    If she doesn't threaten to prosecute you the morning after the Rohypnol.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,654 ✭✭✭cruiser178


    partyndbs wrote: »
    need advice.(shy girls btw not flirty 1s)
    my friend is shy..know her my whole life but only start hangin out last year....fancy her 2 bits but dunno if i should make a move. let da good ppl of ah help me ;)


    few signs
    • we were down beach after a party and we were all sitting there and she rested her head against my shoulder
    • at her party i was talking to her uncle and she came over and said she thought i was a good guy and had her approval....would seem a dead giveaway right haha
    • at times her friends have made comments about me being her bf
    • sittin down on chair with her and she start subtly resting her feet against side of my leg.. we are very good friends but still kinda shy around each other so seemed a bit risky 4 her....not somethin she'd do id imagine
    yo so ah help me out..expect a few of u actin da bollox but help a brother lol

    If all this be true then she's not one bit shy, its just, well just..your a bit slow op. Man up and tell this girl what she wants to hear.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 207 ✭✭Sweatynutsack


    Show her the cellar you specially fitted out for her back at yours !"!


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,004 ✭✭✭jimthemental


    Show her the cellar you specially fitted out for her back at yours !"!

    Joe? I didn't know you were on boards!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,004 ✭✭✭jimthemental


    jive wrote: »
    You are now like a 'brother' to her.

    Is she from Tipperary, if so you're in!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,792 ✭✭✭Gandalph


    Mate she sounds like a complete slut, get out of there while u still can


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,983 ✭✭✭minikin


    at her party i was talking to her uncle and she came over and said she thought i was a good guy and had her approval

    Either she likes you or thinks you would make an acceptable mate for her gay uncle.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,584 ✭✭✭digme


    start hanging around with other girls or talk about how nice such and such is.See if she reacts :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,792 ✭✭✭Gandalph


    digme wrote: »
    start hanging around with other girls or talk about how nice such and such is.See if she reacts :)

    This does not work! Alot of girls are stubborn and will do the exact same, and you will have to try harder with them because they will give the whole "Oh I thought you didnt like me, u liked her?" crap!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,048 ✭✭✭partyndbs


    jive wrote: »
    I don't want to be the douche who rains on your parade but from what I've read you are definitely in the friend zone. You have known her too long and have waited too long to form any kind of saucy relationship. You are now like a 'brother' to her. The fact that she introduced you to family and said that you were a good guy just cements that; a girl wouldn't do that with someone she had sexual desires for.

    It reminds me of the episode of Inbetweeners where Charlotte said to Will something along the lines of "I would really like a boyfriend like you" ... "hahahahahaha not you though Will someone like you!!"

    From your post I can guarantee, without doubt, that you are between 15 and 20 years old. I can also guarantee, without doubt, that you will ignore all advice in this thread and just go for it anyway. I am going to tell you that you have nothing to lose and the chances are you will fail; but if you succeed you will be a happy young man. You have a case of 'oneitis' where you only like one girl and she is all that is great in the world. You will look back one day at this forum post and laugh; but today is not that day.

    I would advise you to not go for it and find someone else, this will increase your chances of her actually fancying you as more than a friend - she may then make more obvious (actual) advances towards you and you won't really have to do anything other than go with it. You won't take this advice (young love, n'awwwwwwww) though so just go for it and if you get shot down say something along the lines of "that's ok, I thought we might have had something more I was just confused it's cool though I'm totally happy with just being friends anyway".



    Pubic hair?
    weeeeeeeird

    yeah mate cud be right


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,762 ✭✭✭jive


    partyndbs wrote: »
    yeah mate cud be right

    If you do go ahead with it then do it on the beer like someone in here said; worst comes to worst you embarrass yourself and blame it on the drink like a true Irish man then laugh it off. Like I said my advise was to find someone else then being the way that she is (i.e. a female) she will get jealous and actually want you/want you more.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,900 ✭✭✭InTheTrees


    OT but...This is the funniest thread I've read in quite a while...

    I've been crying with laughter over some of the posts.

    :o


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,555 ✭✭✭✭AckwelFoley


    Does she work in a Filling station?


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