Marraige problems

Memnoch

I spent(most) of the first three years of my life with my grandparents, as did my brother.

There are complex reasons behind this but we turned out fine. And my mother is one of the most caring and responsible mothers in the world. She gave us a fine upbringing, unlimited love and a fantastic education.

fattymuatty

My daughter is 18months and there is no way I would let her go anywhere for 3months without me. She shadows me everywhere, everyday. I can't even begin to imagine how it would impact on her emotional well being to be sent away for 3 months. Children change so much at this age, learning new words and new skills, nothing could make me miss out on all that.

Elle Collins

Sorry but I'd have to wonder what sort of mother we're talking about here. Does she have any interest in raising her own child or what, because it looks to me like she cant wait to see the back of it.

Emoi

Elle Collins wrote: »

Sorry but I'd have to wonder what sort of mother we're talking about here. Does she have any interest in raising her own child or what, because it looks to me like she cant wait to see the back of it.

Yes exactly, why would she want to say goodbye to her baby for that lenght of time??

Maybe it just the cultural difference but the whole set up sounds bizzare!!

Herrick

Emoi wrote: »

I've heard of 4 different situations very recently where this happened to Irish men married to Eastern European women.

3 of the cases involved a child.

The children got sent over, then the wife split with husband, started divorce proceedings and went home. Horrendous.

The other case there was no child involved but she was trying to get her share of the house her Irish father-in-law built for the couple.

Thankfully the deeds were in the father-in-laws name and the judge saw through what she was doing.

None of us know what your relationship is like with your wife and we could all be getting alarmed for nothing!

But it has happened to four different Irish men I know and know of, and they prob won't be the last, it's heartbreaking.

If we are all over reacting, I apologise!

But regardless, 18 mnths is far too young to let out of your sight for that lenght of time, don't miss out on a second of your child early years!

When I first read the thread this is exactly what I was afraid was going to happen to the OP. I think the OP also mentioned that they were close to splitting over the issue? Maybe it's just me but if it's something he's so totally against you'd think she might at least be willing to compromise over the issue, but looking to split? Is that possibly what she is after anyway, get the child out first so he can't do anything to stop her?

I fully admit I'm not enlightened on this practice and she could honestly not understand why he's so against it, but personally, I find it a bit suss.