Culchie/Townie Relationships

Bendihorse

Hi Ladies,

Just a quick one, as per title, do they work?

blue5000

Oh yeah, opposites attract and all that, but it really depends how broad minded both people are. If the townie is really sensitive about animals and the culchie is a beef farmer, then that can put a strain on things.

Have fun, hope he has clean finger nails.:)

Links234

not really much reason why they shouldn't work, is there? people from different countries, or completely different backgrounds have relationships that work, why would it matter if one is from a city and one from the country? bit silly to think it wouldn't work if you ask me

mikom

blue5000 wrote: »

Have fun, hope he has clean finger nails.:)

Hope she doesn't have a heroin syringe hanging out of her arm.

Stereotypes work both ways.

Bendihorse

Ha, Im the culchie in the equation, hes the townie!

ascuteasabutton

I am currently in one and its working great except for one small detail....Culchies are very protective of their land and the family make no secret of this which annoys me because i'm not after the land by any means,I have a very good job and will provide for myself..I don't need their land

mikom

I'm a country lad going out/living with a townie girl for up again 7 years.
She moved to the countryside with me, and loves the peace and quiet.

blue5000

My wife's a townie, been married for 12 yrs, we've had our moments;

I got the wedding and engagement rings fired at me one evening while I was milking cows. Was v tempted to powerhose em on a bit further, but luckily I had the cop on to pick em up.

As I said above, depends how broadminded you both are, sorry about the fingernail comment!

Tbh I thought the op was a troll. What kinda question is that?!

Lia_lia

Lia_lia wrote: »

Tbh I thought the op was a troll. What kinda question is that?!

Yeah so did I

Bendihorse

Not a Troll, just didn't want to go into too much detail. Im from the country and now living with a townie in a town, away from home. Its hard to get used to.

Malari

Lia_lia wrote: »

Tbh I thought the op was a troll. What kinda question is that?!

A weird one . It's not like you can split everyone into two categories. It's not something I ever think about when I meet people!

mikemac

Check out the personals in Irelands Own's magazine if you want to catch an eligible culchie

Bendihorse

Ya I know its a bit weird, was kind of just thinking out loud so to speak. We have very different backgrounds and interests so it does take some work but the good bits outweigh the bad for the most part.

@ Feelingstressed - Thanks but I wont give up on the townie just yet

Novella

I'm from the country, my boyfriend is from Dublin and I actually never even thought about this, ever.

parker kent

ascuteasabutton wrote: »

Culchies are very protective of their land and the family make no secret of this which annoys me because i'm not after the land by any means,I have a very good job and will provide for myself..I don't need their land

Some people from the country are, not everybody. Not everybody in the country acts out The Field every day of the week. It is not as if we are talking about the Irish countryside in 1810. Heck we even have inside bathrooms now

Not really sure why there is really an issue for the OP. I mean you are not even from a different country. There is too much made of the so-called divide between the two types. I am from the country but lived happily in Dublin for a few years. You get idiots everywhere and you meet nice people everywhere. Same way you meet people you are attracted to and compatible with in most places.

Bendihorse

Thats why I posted it Novella, thought it might be something new to think about. Guess it depends a lot on how stereotypically 'Townie' or 'Culchie' the parties are.

mikemac

ascuteasabutton wrote: »

I am currently in one and its working great except for one small detail....Culchies are very protective of their land and the family make no secret of this which annoys me because i'm not after the land by any means,I have a very good job and will provide for myself..I don't need their land

The thing is though, if a marriage breaks down then land that was in the family for generations could be awarded by the court to the person who moved there or at least there could be legal battles.

Can get very messy.

Novella

Bendihorse wrote: »

Thats why I posted it Novella, thought it might be something new to think about. Guess it depends a lot on how stereotypically 'Townie' or 'Culchie' the parties are.

Well, thinking about it, everything's been fine and there have never been any issues relating to where we're from... But then again, I don't really buy into the whole stereotype thing.

blue5000

I lived in a small town after we got married for about 2 years, hated it, felt like I was in a goldfish bowl, then when we moved out to the countryside herself was really scared if she was left alone at night. Anyone else find this hard to deal with?

dirtyghettokid

Bendihorse wrote: »

Not a Troll, just didn't want to go into too much detail. Im from the country and now living with a townie in a town, away from home. Its hard to get used to.

yes definitely! i'm opposite to you - i am a city girl and i married a farmer's son. living in the country now... the space and quiet is nice but i soooooooo miss having everything easily accessible to me! i used to not need a car and now i can't live without one! it is a struggle....but that's just for living arrangements - doesn't effect our relationship too much. except when i have a little moan about being far away from everything

krudler

Novella wrote: »

I'm from the country, my boyfriend is from Dublin and I actually never even thought about this, ever.

If you're from Dublin isnt anything outside of Tallaght "the country" :pac:

Course it can work op, long as your interests arent massively different (that does matter), not everyone from a big town is some pretentious city dweller, and not everyone from the country smells of cabbage.

Eviledna

Gas thread.

I'm a hybrid culchie-townie myself, born in Dublin city, raised in a very rural area down south, now living in a city again. Labelled a culchie by the family and a Jackeen by the locals. The OH is very much a townie, and finds me to be far to accustomed to smells like slurry and silage. He can't abide them.

We jeer eachother but it works well. I can open his eyes to the beauties of the countryside, he has shown me how to appreciate urban areas. I have an earthy edge that he appreciates, as he always found his local town girls to be a bit ditzy and precious. I always found the farmer's son a little too earthy for me though. I love my OH's urban future-loving attitute, and the techie within appreciates his outlook.

I still watch Hugh Fearnely-Wittingstall and wish I could have a little land to brew my own elderberry beer!:D But at least I know that's an idolisation, and the reality is far from that rustic charm twaddle.

Knasher

Short term it obviously isn't a problem but it might be an issue eventually. Personally I grew up in the countryside through I've lived in the city for the last 10 years, but if I ever had kids I know I wouldn't want them to grow up in a city. Mainly because it isn't how I grew up so I don't know how I'd raise them right and also because of my deep seated hatred towards townie teenagers.

Namlub

Sounds like the premise for a bad RTE sitcom... C'mon, Ireland's too small to have any major disparity between people from different areas

Eviledna

Namlub wrote: »

C'mon, Ireland's too small to have any major disparity between people from different areas

Lol if only that were true!

Maybe it's the human condition, but you only have to travel 5 miles from any given country town, and ask the locals what sets them aside from the town. They'll give you a list as long as your arm.

Remember Ireland only 400 years ago was an island of warring Clans, it's in our nature to box people into groups and set ourselves aside. It's why GAA is so popular

Namlub

Eviledna wrote: »

Lol if only that were true!

Maybe it's the human condition, but you only have to travel 5 miles from any given country town, and ask the locals what sets them aside from the town. They'll give you a list as long as your arm.

Remember Ireland only 400 years ago was an island of warring Clans, it's in our nature to box people into groups and set ourselves aside. It's why GAA is so popular

I know I know, and people from Dublin and Cork and bigger cities like to think we're terribly cosmopolitan compared to the country folk but I maintain we're not that different. *breaks into song*

hardCopy

Namlub wrote: »

I know I know, and people from Dublin and Cork and bigger cities like to think we're terribly cosmopolitan compared to the country folk but I maintain we're not that different. *breaks into song*

No, people from Cork are nothing like Dublin people!

Eviledna

Namlub wrote: »

I know I know, and people from Dublin and Cork and bigger cities like to think we're terribly cosmopolitan compared to the country folk but I maintain we're not that different. *breaks into song*

I maintain...everybody poops

Namlub

hardCopy wrote: »

No, people from Cork are nothing like Dublin people!

In what way?

Clare Bear

hardCopy wrote: »

No, people from Cork are nothing like Dublin people!

Thank God!

Townie! I haven't heard that word in a while, aww I'm a culchie going out with a townie, it makes no difference to us. I did question what was I doing with him when he vomited from the smell of slurry (seriously! The Wendy!) the first time I brought him home though! He's mad to move to the country now though so things can change. OP I think you're finding the adjustment from living in the country to a city hard, not the actual culchie dating a townie thing. Hang in there, you'll get used to it, you might even get to like it after a while. If not just drag him back to the bog kicking and screaming.

Panthro

We all need air in our lungs and food in our belly, sure we are all the same really!

What an idiotic question! I'm sorry, but it is. There is no reason why a relationship wouldn't work between someone from the country and someone from the city. Both would have received the same education, the same experiences mostly. There would be no difference.

squeakyduck

My boyfriend is from Tallaght and I'm from county Waterford. we gel well together, he finds some of my mannerisms funny and vice versa. We have lived different lives growing up, but I appreciate where he is from and he appreciates where I'm from! All good.

donfers

if both people in the relationship think in such reductionist terms such that they define each other according to the labels in the thread title then yes it will work and they are made for each other.

parker kent

donfers wrote: »

if both people in the relationship think in such reductionist terms such that they define each other according to the labels in the thread title then yes it will work and they are made for each other.

As much as I disagreed with there being a problem, there is no need to attack the OP either!

Neyite

my mother is from a large UK Industrial type city, my dad was from a place in ireland so rural they didnt get electricity until the 1980s..
there was also a significant age gap - 20 years, pretty much a generation gap really. theirs was a very happy marraige - lots of differences, and some ups and downs, but they had 30 odd years of love, until dad died a few years ago.

its thanks to them that im a hopeless romantic

Scarinae

I used to go out with a guy from 'the country' (Well, he lived near a town so he wasn't a full-blown culchie, and I'm almost from Wicklow so I wouldn't be a full-blown Dub) God knows what his parents thought of the whole thing - I was older than him, from Dublin and a Protestant. I don't drink tea, not that fond of potatoes, knew next to nothing about GAA, have never seen Michael Collins...

One of his aunts once asked me if I could make something called boxty, and told me I'd never get a husband if I couldn't make it (I'd never even heard of it!) He also had a great uncle whose accent was so thick I couldn't make out most of what he was saying, I would just end up nodding and smiling whenever he spoke to me

But yeah, of course they can work... Couples have overcome much bigger cultural differences than that!

This is boxty and it's actually quite nice. Haven't had it in years though.

Malari

I think there's something about Irish people that makes them want to label you so they think they have an idea of who you are. I constantly get asked where I'm "really" from when I say I'm from Cork. Apparently living here for 20 odd years doesn't count. I don't have a strong accent, I lived my early childhood in different cities, so therefore to a lot of people I'm not really allowed say I'm from Cork. Or they try to slag me over GAA when I've barely watched two matches in my life! It's about putting people in boxes - you are from Cork therefore you have a superiority complex, you hate Dublin and you speak in a high voice that is ever-spiralling out of control. If you don't, then....how can you really be from Cork? :rolleyes:

I know people who grew up in the burbs who now live in the country and love it. Or like me, HAVE to live in a city, right in the city, and would hate living in the country. I mean my parents are just in a large satellite town and I think of it as the countryside!

I think more than your background, what is really important is where you like to live now. No point in having dreams of bringing your child up in the country surrounded by fields when your partner never wants to leave the apartment in the city centre.

snickerpuss

The only reason that this would be an issue for me is if the other person wanted me to move out of Dublin. (I won't say 'a town' since I really just mean Dublin) There is literally no way I could cope with small town country life, I would die of boredom. Plus all that fresh air, I'd be knackered! :-D Couldn't expect it of a 6th generation Dub really!

Elle Collins

The term 'townie' doesn't refer to people from Dublin. It refers to people from Dublin 1 & 2. Inner city Dublin, in other words. (Though it'd probably take a culchie not to know that:D)

starlit

I guess they can work. It depends on each other's location I suppose but it shouldn't really matter. Of course people who are townies are more like to want to go out with someone who is a townie rather than a culchie and those who are culchies are more likely to end up with someone who is a culchie. They can work though, location should matter! You'd do anything for love!:o

I'd be happy enough to live in either the city or country, i've lived in both!

IrishEyes19

From a rural area myself and moved to a city for college purposes. Have always hated the term culchie, find it so vulgar to be honest as if people from rural areas are brought up in a backwards society or something, but in relation to the OP's question. It shouldn't impact one bit Id imagine, have had relationships from both sides of the equation and they have been the same to be honest, going out, films, dinner, sports, and so on, have all been the main interests give or take. Only difference would be distance I'd imagine if you werent from the same area but that applies to city/city relationships too.

Logical Fallacy

snuggles285 wrote: »

Of course people who are townies are more like to want to go out with someone who is a townie rather than a culchie and those who are culchies are more likely to end up with someone who is a culchie.

Why? Genuine question.

Surely it's just about who the person is, not where they are from?

Wait - when people say "townie" are they solely referring to people from Dublin and when they say "culchie" they mean the rest of the country?

newmug

I'm from a rural area. I consider myself a culchie.

• Townies are anyone who is a non-culchie, they can come from rural areas too.
• You are from wherever you went to primary school.
• If you're not a culchie, you're not really Irish.
• Dubs are neither, they're a different species altogether!

baby and crumble

I'm like some weird hybrid, I consider myself as coming from the countryside ( I HATE the term culchie), I'm protestant, went to boarding school and have lived in Dublin 10 years. I have no idea about anything that's typically 'culchie' like farming ( I didn't live on a farm), GAA (like I said, protestant), and I don't drink tea. Been going out with my partner (who's from the Liberties) for 7 years. I love cities, but I have memories and love the stuff I did as a kid growing up at home. My partner thinks it's hilarious that I would be out cycling around the countryside all day when I was 10, I find it weird she was drinking at 12. I still can't deal with any ambient light in my bedroom at night, she freaks out if she can't see everything from the street lamps streaming in the windows...

It does irritate me when she assumes that everyone 'down there' is a bit backward, which tbh she does sometimes. Telling her that I never really went to the cinema as a kid because there just wasn't one in my COUNTY is like telling her a never saw the sun. There can be an assumption that city-dwellers are very sophisticated. Which to me is complete bollox.

Hazys

lol at this thread.

Ireland is way way too small have any real diffferences in personality or culture between somebody from Dublin City (a tiny city in the world view) to a person living in a town in the country with a population of 2,000 people.

The majority are white, catholic, have the same education, watch the same 4 TV channels, eat the same food, etc.


I dont know where some people from Dublin get a supriority complex when considering the whole city would only be a suburb of London or New York or Paris. It'd be a larger culture shock for somebody from Dublin to move to NYC as opposed to that same person moving to Ennis.

dfx-

Logical Fallacy wrote: »

Why? Genuine question.

Surely it's just about who the person is, not where they are from?

Are the two separable?

Where they are from will generally define them to a degree.

starlit

I'm confused, I asumed townie meant for those living in a town or city and those who are culchies living in the country? Didn't think it was that townies are dubs and that culchies are referred to those in the rest of the country?!:eek: