Who cant relax/sleep when home alone? :(

Maja

Am i the only crazy one? I am not a teenager, but i cant relax at all. Every noise makes my heart beat faster.. Shower is a nightmare when its dark outside. I can see bathroom door handle moving and stuff like that!
Sleeping is out of question -not possible.I am afraid all the time that someone is in the house. Yesterday i took kalms pills and was trying hard to fall a sleep -didnt work. Should i go to shrink?
H E L P

Sam Vimes

Don't worry about it. Those noises are just me hiding in your wardrobe

minidazzler

Just because you're paranoid doesn't mean they aren't out to get you!

Jev/N

I'm trying to think of a witty reply but I can't

I can see you from the bushes

laugh

I am sensing anxiety in you caused by a disturbance in your childhood. That will be €300 please.

Tomebagel

Yes,ah is the place for this.

MagicMarker

Honestly, I would seek help.

It's one thing to experience this as a child, I can testify to this as a person who was left home alone a lot as a young child!

But as an adult who literally can't sleep because of it? That's not right!

Maja

I knew i will see posts like above (have fun -i dont mind), but i hope i will get some serious responds too- no matter how funny this might be for some people, this is a serious problem for me. I dont get enough sleep and this makes me feel tired and nervous all the time.

Mint Sauce

if am at my mums and she's out for the night i sometimes find it hard to sleep, i'm thinking if she gets home okay, guess the roles are starting to be reversed

if am in my own place, no trouble at all sleeping if no one else in the house

laugh

laugh wrote: »

I am sensing anxiety in you caused by a disturbance in your childhood. That will be €300 please.

You're 'avin a laugh??

Scarydoll

I love it, having the house to myself. I can only sleep with all the lights off, complete darkness.

Maja

Scarydoll wrote: »

I love it, having the house to myself. I can only sleep with all the lights off, complete darkness.

If you are scary doll you can only scare the others... :rolleyes:

starbelgrade

Don't worry - there's very few stalkers or murderers in the Doughiska area. Plus you have your dog to warn you of any intruders getting into your apartment via the balcony.

Just sit back, relax, have a glass of Buckfast & chill out with the Donnie Darko soundtrack on the stereo.

BluesBerry

If your really worried about being in the house alone keep on a few lights and have the telly or radio on in the background

If the house is silent you will hear allsorts and think the worst

Nothing is going to happen to you try and relax

SoupyNorman

Maja wrote: »

H E L P

When you get into bed, just keep imaging that there is probably somebody under your bed.

Scarydoll

Maja wrote: »

If you are scary doll you can only scare the others... :rolleyes:

Indeed.

corkcomp

op I think you should go outside to the garden and sleep in a tent, no worries about moving door handles then

WindSock

Oh I wouldn't worry too much OP, it's probably just ol' Larry Murphy up to his tricks again.

Maja

starbelgrade wrote: »

Don't worry - there's very few stalkers or murderers in the Doughiska area. Plus you have your dog to warn you of any intruders getting into your apartment via the balcony.

Just sit back, relax, have a glass of Buckfast & chill out with the Donnie Darko soundtrack on the stereo.

You must be REALLY bored! :cool:

Blobby George

BluesBerry wrote: »

If your really worried about being in the house alone keep on a few lights and have the telly or radio on in the background

This is good advice. Put on a low light and Lyric FM down low and you'll soon drift off.

thenightrider

Toss of or flick the bean which ever applies to you it will make you tierd and you will fall asleep

starlit

Just leave your light on and have the house alarm on or ask a friend to join you. I'd have no problems sleeping and relaxing when home alone. Have the telly on the noise would drift you to sleep.

HorsesNHarleys

I used travel a lot with my job and always had trouble falling asleep at the hotels. At first I used to have to fall asleep with the lights and the TV on. Eventually I got to where I would read to get sleepy or put earphones on and listen to music and that seemed to help. If doing things like that doesn't help and you're not getting the sleep you need, you should talk to you regular doctor about a sleep med to help you get to sleep. Not getting enough sleep will eventually effect your physical, mental & emotional health.

anniehoo

I live on my own..and love it! Everyone thinks im nuts not renting out a room when i could really do with the dosh, but no way. No help OP sorry, but you really will have to get used to it somehow (leave lights,tv or radio on all the time) if thats a comfort. Just keep thinking you are literally wasting energy worrying about what "might" happen...

KungPao

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4dGOfFbzvq4

Play this REALLY loud. It'll keep the bad guys away

Novella

I live alone, and I never get scared. It's funny, 'cause when I lived with a friend and she wasn't there, I was often convinced that something awful was gonna happen and would jump at every teeny sound in the apartment. Not really sure what you should do, maybe speak your doctor about your anxiety? Otherwise, take a bath, put some lavender on your pillow, and try to relax. You'll be grand!

Maja

HorsesNHarleys wrote: »

Not getting enough sleep will eventually effect your physical, mental & emotional health.

I know, i can feel it already. Dont like going to sleep with tv on, because i think its not healthy for your mind. Reading it better, but if i am reading its quiet.
Wasnt going necessarily to discuss only my problem here. Just thought would be good to read about other peoples experience. :rolleyes:

alwaysadub

I live alone,and never really have any bother with it. Live in a rural area so know it's safe enough.

Mind you, there was a bit of hassle the other week with strange fella's(as in no one knew them, not that they had two heads or something) running round the area at half 4 in the morning ,shoutin and screaming and breaking things and i slept through the whole thing.

OP, leave a light on when you're alone, and music playing on a low level.

BornToBe?

Would you like some company, I can offer a strong young man willing to spoon and comfort you into a safe beautiful dream?


Note:

midnight erections while spooning may worry you though, but seeing that you'll know whats going on, it may ease your imagination,

stovelid

Hi there, Maja

Maja

stovelid wrote: »

Hi there, Maja

Thats not even scary... :rolleyes:

WindSock

Yeah stovelid, the settings all wrong. Needs more mountain, less sand and tranquil blue sea.

stovelid

Maja wrote: »

Thats not even scary... :rolleyes:

I'd say you're cut up.



Or will be soon.

Maja

Some dark garden/trees behind would work better.
I cant belive nobody understands me!
Whats wrong with you people?

deereidy

hey maja, i hear ya, im exactly the same, always been that way. no matter what house im in, if i have to spend the night there alone i usually stay up all night with the tv on and get a few hours sleep when daylight comes. its so pathetic,but im actually terrified to go to sleep and the slightest noise makes me jump out of my skin. laying off the horror films helps though

Maja

stovelid wrote: »

I'd say you're cut up.



Or will be soon.

Is that supposed to be funny?

cc-offe

As long as you're all wrapped up like a sausage roll in your blanket with no toes or anything sticking out then nothing and I mean NOTHING can get you...fact of life!

Maja

deereidy wrote: »

hey maja, i hear ya, im exactly the same, always been that way. no matter what house im in, if i have to spend the night there alone i usually stay up all night with the tv on and get a few hours sleep when daylight comes. its so pathetic,but im actually terrified to go to sleep and the slightest noise makes me jump out of my skin. laying off the horror films helps though

Thanks. I am trying to avoid any horror movies and i do. No idea where this fear comes from? My imagination cant switch off!

HorsesNHarleys

BornToBe? wrote: »

Would you like some company, I can offer a strong young man willing to spoon and comfort you into a safe beautiful dream?


Note:

midnight erections while spooning may worry you though, but seeing that you'll know whats going on, it may ease your imagination,

Now there you go Maja, how can you refuse an offer like that:D:D:D:D

I remember one time it was about 3 o'clock in the morning and I heard a noise coming from the kitchen. I got up and turned on the light to find this fellow with his leg halfway through the window (my apartment was on the ground floor). I was so mad, I grabbed the leg of a table I hadn't put together yet and I went at him. I slammed it down on the window sill just as he pulled his legged out. I was hollering at him for waking me up when I had to work in the morning. The look on his face was one of shock.:eek: He must have thought I was crazy cause I was going on more about being woken up then about him breaking into my apartment.

So, if in case someone does break-in just act freakin crazy as hell, they'll probably run as fast as they can from you and hope to God they survive, LOL.;)

carbsy

You must be female because men aren't afraid of the dark. I'm a real man, can go to the fridge at 2am with the lights out to get some milk. :pac:

Maja

Thanks HorsesNHarleys.. that was very helpful..

stovelid

Maja wrote: »

Is that supposed to be funny?

That's kind of a yes or no question isn't it?

starbelgrade

Maja wrote: »

Thats not even scary... :rolleyes:

This is...

carbsy

stovelid wrote: »

That's kind of a yes or no question isn't it?

Stalker! She only posted that 100ms before you answered! ;p

swapple

Kudos HorsesNHarleys, i bet you never had any problems after that

I understand what you're going through Maja, I have the same fear but only because my house was broken into not long ago. All i can say is getting a house alarm helped a lot so if you've got an alarm you shouldnt be worrying yourself. That and listening to calm relaxing music to help me drift off

Maja

Jezes, i dont think i could ever sleep again in a house where someone broke into!
It wasnt the best idea to ask here. I feel even worse now.

carbsy

Maja wrote: »

Jezes, i dont think i could ever sleep again in a house where someone broke into!
It wasnt the best idea to ask here. I feel even worse now.

After Hours is a free for all , not the best place to ask for advice if you genuinely need it!

BornToBe?

HorsesNHarleys wrote: »

Now there you go Maja, how can you refuse an offer like that:D:D:D:D

I remember one time it was about 3 o'clock in the morning and I heard a noise coming from the kitchen. I got up and turned on the light to find this fellow with his leg halfway through the window (my apartment was on the ground floor). I was so mad, I grabbed the leg of a table I hadn't put together yet and I went at him. I slammed it down on the window sill just as he pulled his legged out. I was hollering at him for waking me up when I had to work in the morning. The look on his face was one of shock.:eek: He must have thought I was crazy cause I was going on more about being woken up then about him breaking into my apartment.

So, if in case someone does break-in just act freakin crazy as hell, they'll probably run as fast as they can from you and hope to God they survive, LOL.;)

Do you have a brother called antoine??

Jev/N

Maja wrote: »

I Dont like going to sleep with tv on, because i think its not healthy for your mind.

It sounds like you over-analyse a lot, which probably is the cause of, or at least adds to, your anxiety

Get some valium from the doc!

Touch Fuzzy Get Dizzy

I used to not be able to sleep in my brother's old house because my nephew would sleepwalk and walk into my door crying, always played horror games before bed and there was a tree scratching the roof :eek: