Im single....dear Jesus, help me

LegacyUser

Im a woman. I have been single quite some time but happily single. Due to demands at work, and friends moving away and settling I find that I dont go out very often like to pubs and clubs. No problems there because Im kept busy at weekends. Due to this I dont meet men. I am dying for sex. I swear to god I really am. Dont know what came over me today but I became extremely horny. I have even ordered a load of hardcore dvds this evening but they probably wont come until next week. Masturbating just isnt working for me. I dont know what to do. I really dont.

Victor

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OP, have you considered dating websites. Sure those will also take time, but at least you know the guy will at least be interested in something.

seenitall

What do you mean masturbation isn't working for you?!? Do it right and it is failproof! Do you have any toys? Are you sure you know how to masturbate? (not being smart here, but -)

- if you are that busy with your work and at your weekends that you don't have time to go out, let alone date or have a relationship with someone, the only two options I can see is the "escort" route or the masturbation. Masturbation is so much cheaper, and doesn't involve trust issues (which I would have a problem with in that scenario).

Just my 2 cents. Good luck.

Miss Fluff

I'm sure you'd have no problem finding a man for NSA. Would you use a dating or hook up site? Have you an ex you could call on for some fun without it getting complicated?

And why is masturabation "not working". Are you failing to orgasm or you are, but still need the real thing?

And you don't have to wait until the DVDs to arrive, there is no end of free porn on tinterweb.

LegacyUser

Well if you JUST want sex then all you really need to do is go up to a man and flirt like crazy.

Victor

????????? wrote: »

Well if you JUST want sex then all you really need to do is go up to a man and flirt like crazy.

Some people are more discerning than that.

dellas1979

Well, from you post, if you arent out there meeting men, then you arent going to meet any? You say your weekends are full up - are you working all weekend?

katie99

All work and no play makes....a dull girl!!
What has you occupied at weekends that prevents you socialising with friends.
You're not going to meet a guy staying in or babysitting for family members.
I was always asked to do babysitting by my older brothers and sisters in my twenties. But after a while I realised they were out enjoying themselves on a Friday or Saturday night and I was like an old aunty caring for their children.
I decided to refuse any more such requests and instead get myself out and about on those two nights.
While I did meet some guys, I am still single.
I often get horny and masturbate and while it is satisfactory it doesn't replace the real thing.

freakmagnet

There is plenty of sites that cater for normal people who simply want a NSA partner. Disregard people who say this is sleazy because 1) We live a large chunk of our lives through the web - like this forum, so why not a NSA partner and 2) There is many people exactly like your - not wish or want for a partner but have their physical needs. 3) There is nothing wrong with sex for sex sake.

I'm in a similar position - don't need or want a partner; but i would imagine achieving some physical satisfaction is most likely somewhat easier for a woman than a man (due to reasons to numerous to mention!)

RealistSpy

Trust me its is easy yo get F$ buddies, you just have to have the right connections just remember use protections.

HavingCrack

This would be much funnier in After Hours....

liah

seenitall wrote: »

What do you mean masturbation isn't working for you?!? Do it right and it is failproof! Do you have any toys? Are you sure you know how to masturbate? (not being smart here, but -)

- if you are that busy with your work and at your weekends that you don't have time to go out, let alone date or have a relationship with someone, the only two options I can see is the "escort" route or the masturbation. Masturbation is so much cheaper, and doesn't involve trust issues (which I would have a problem with in that scenario).

Just my 2 cents. Good luck.

For some women (like me) masturbating just isn't the same. I get off on having another person there with me. While I can achieve orgasm on my own, it just.. isn't as nice as sex, even though I don't really get to orgasm that way. So I can understand where the OP is coming from. Masturbation isn't the answer for everyone.

irishh_bob

ineedsex wrote: »

Im a woman. I have been single quite some time but happily single. Due to demands at work, and friends moving away and settling I find that I dont go out very often like to pubs and clubs. No problems there because Im kept busy at weekends. Due to this I dont meet men. I am dying for sex. I swear to god I really am. Dont know what came over me today but I became extremely horny. I have even ordered a load of hardcore dvds this evening but they probably wont come until next week. Masturbating just isnt working for me. I dont know what to do. I really dont.

any woman ( who is of sound mind and body ) can get sex whenever she wishes within a very short amount of time , you sound like a nice person and i dont mean to sound blunt but any woman who is celebate , is so purely by choice

its completley different for men

jurgenscarl

I am dying for sex. I swear to god I really am. Dont know what came over me today but I became extremely horny.

Go into a bookshop and pretend to be skimming through the titles of the books in the politics section and you are sure to notice a goodlooking dude - if he reads politics books he is garanteed to be smart, educated and probably in a good job so you will likely be having sex with a proper gentleman - pretending to be checking out a book when he is actually watching your ass from ten feet away out of the corner of his eye.
Turn around, go up to him smile and say 'Don't you sometimes feel like running away to the seaside and tearing off all your clothes and jumping in for a naked swim? I did it once and it gave me such a trill because I did it on a deserted public beach in the middle of November and nobody saw me.'
That is garanteed to start a sexually charged conversation.
If he doesn't take the hint he is gay.
If he is half a man at all he will get your number, you both could go on an instant date in a nearby coffee shop where he will talk to you for ages about politics - he will be grasping for something to say so why not make it easier for him by asking him to talk about the book he was reading - while you start playing footsy with him under the table, let him take your hand, play with your hair and look him straight in the eyes and smile.
Suggest seeing a movie and choose the backseat in the cinema where in the dark you can put your hand on his knee and gradually slide it up to his crotch and into his pants while at the same time guide his hand into yours.
If he doesn't take you home and mount you like a stallion when you both tear off your clothes, there is nothing else that will work.

Another approach can also work if you go to your local Tesco and ask a goodlooking guy to show you where you can find bananas or cucumbers or carrots. He will be only to happy to show you. This can get into a conversation about cooking. You can make it clear that you are getting food for your lunch and if he wants to maybe he would like to come over and both of you could could cook together.
When you both are back at your place have a nice dinner together, watch a romantic DVD on the couch and then just leap on him, snog the face off him and go from there.

LegacyUser

ineedsex wrote: »

Im a woman. I have been single quite some time but happily single. Due to demands at work, and friends moving away and settling I find that I dont go out very often like to pubs and clubs. No problems there because Im kept busy at weekends. Due to this I dont meet men. I am dying for sex. I swear to god I really am. Dont know what came over me today but I became extremely horny. I have even ordered a load of hardcore dvds this evening but they probably wont come until next week. Masturbating just isnt working for me. I dont know what to do. I really dont.

I understand your need OP. Masturbation is just not the same as having sex with someone.
I'm single too. Unceremoniously dumped after a 9 year relationship with someone I thought was 'the one".
All my friends and family are very happily settled. They're not interested in socialising much anymore. I don't blame them. It's tough out there. I feel like the oldest person in town on a saturday night!

I'm not celibate by choice! My inhibition is that I'm very plain and overweight. I'm just not attractive to the opposite sex. I'm working on losing weight in the hope that I will hook up with someone I like.

You will have to make some sort of an effort - whether it's joining a club, dating site or making yourself go out. As earlier poster said - if you're not "out there", you're not going to meet anyone.

wylo

^^ I like this, solid advice.

jurgenscarl

All a woman has to know is that men are easy. If she wants sex all she has to do is just turn up for the date. End of.

Dudess

liah wrote: »

For some women (like me) masturbating just isn't the same. I get off on having another person there with me. While I can achieve orgasm on my own, it just.. isn't as nice as sex, even though I don't really get to orgasm that way. So I can understand where the OP is coming from. Masturbation isn't the answer for everyone.

+1
For me, masturbation/toys/porn - what these do for you solo, while enjoyable, isn't even comparable to the pleasure of being intimate with another person.

Discodog

OP only you know if sex with a stranger will rock your boat or if you need a relationship to provide a more sound footing. Yes you can join sites for no strings sex as long as that is what you really want. Are you really "happily single" ?.

The key is to be honest with yourself & with anyone else that you involve. Great sex will always be about being with someone who puts your needs ahead of their own.

jurgenscarl

Discodog wrote: »

OP only you know if sex with a stranger will rock your boat or if you need a relationship to provide a more sound footing. Yes you can join sites for no strings sex as long as that is what you really want. Are you really "happily single" ?.

The key is to be honest with yourself & with anyone else that you involve. Great sex will always be about being with someone who puts your needs ahead of their own.

The girl just wants a f8ck because she's mad horny.
Stop making it into a big deal.

Discodog

jurgenscarl wrote: »

The girl just wants a f8ck because she's mad horny.
Stop making it into a big deal.

Gosh you are a mind reader as well. Do not tell me what to do. You seem to have no concept of this being a forum where people express & discuss views in an adult way.

santana75

My advice OP is to not masturbate. The more you masturbate the more you'll feel the urge to masturbate. But masturbation just doesnt hit the spot. If you feel the need to masturbate dont react, just leave it be, do nothing. What happens is that overwhelming urge fizzles out and doesnt bother you so much. I just think masturbation is a bottomless pit, it'll never hit that spot and will always want more. Im not saying theres anything morally wrong with masturbation, Im just saying it can be a very empty experience that leaves you feeling worse afterwards.
Forget about the hardcore porn because that will also leave you feeling empty.

RealistSpy

I am getting turn on by this thread :O. Anyways OP give us a feed back if anything turns up

Miss Fluff

santana75 wrote: »

Im not saying theres anything morally wrong with masturbation, Im just saying it can be a very empty experience that leaves you feeling worse afterwards.
Forget about the hardcore porn because that will also leave you feeling empty.

Totally disagree. While she is not currently having sex, and while masturbation is not the same as engaging in sex with another person, it sure as hell hits the spot and relieves tension that can only be relieved through orgasm. To say it leaves a person feeling empty is nonsense.

RealistSpy

Miss Fluff wrote: »

Totally disagree. While she is not currently having sex, and while masturbation is not the same as engaging in sex with another person, it sure as hell hits the spot and relieves tension that can only be relieved through orgasm. To say it leaves a person feeling empty is nonsense.

+1 Amen to that especially the stress and tension release

LegacyUser

Hi OP

I am in exactly the same situation as yourself. In fact I could have written your opening post. I am single a long time. I havent had a proper boyfriend in years and I havent had sex in 5 years. It seems crazy, I know. For ages I just shut myself off from guys because I didnt want to get hurt anymore and I genuinely liked being on my own, doing my own thing. The years just passed by.

I am slim and fairly attractive. I keep myself well and dress well so I don't think there is anything wrong with my appearance. I have a degree, do loads of travelling and am really independent, have my own house. I save up my money for gigs and travelling so I rarely go to pubs/clubs. I hate the club pick up rubbish.

But lately I have gotten really down about all this. I had a big fight with my family today. This week I have been so sexually frustrated and as people have said masturbation is great but sometimes it just doesnt hit the spot. I just feel like I will be alone forever and I feel like I have so much to give someone else. It's partly my fault for cutting myself off but I just hate the whole dating scene. I did honestly think I could be happy alone but I really want to share with someone else and have great sex. God do I miss sex. And funnily enough I have been so horny this week, just like you!

OP not sure what my post is about but just thought I'd let you know you're not the only one! Good luck

LegacyUser

Thank you for the replies. I dont know what came over me on friday. I became incredibly horny.

I have been working this weekend doing extra hours so never got out as usual.

Anyways nothing that I do during masturbation is working and I know what I need is sex. I think Im going to give online a go for NSA sex. Thanks to the poster that recommended it. Heres hoping I get some sex soon. I really need it. Please say a few prayers for me.

RealistSpy

Seriously you dont need prayers your a woman with a click of a finger the men will come rushing gl. Plenty of NSA site

6th

RealistSpy wrote: »

I am getting turn on by this thread :O. Anyways OP give us a feed back if anything turns up

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Pembily

seenitall wrote: »

What do you mean masturbation isn't working for you?!? Do it right and it is failproof! Do you have any toys? Are you sure you know how to masturbate? (not being smart here, but -)

I have to agree others, sometimes no matter how many toys or what masturbation is just not enough!!! NSA is good but a good partner is hard to find!! Best of luck, and I would recommend internet dating!

Sound Bite

Comparing masturbation to real sex is like comparing a Supermac's meal deal to a Christmas Dinner with all the trimmings.

OP you have to get out there & meet someone whether is in order to start a relationsip or for a one night stand.

seenitall

Sound Bite wrote: »

Comparing masturbation to real sex is like comparing a Supermac's meal deal to a Christmas Dinner with all the trimmings.

Ermmmm... not so fast. Depends on a few important details, like if you are in a good relationship, or at least have some kind of a connection with the guy. I know what bad sex with an unfeeling eejit is, and I tell you I'll take the supposed "Supermac's" ANY TIME over that "Xmas dinner with all the trimmings". Some Xmas dinner, pffft!

irishh_bob

Me too! wrote: »

Hi OP

I am in exactly the same situation as yourself. In fact I could have written your opening post. I am single a long time. I havent had a proper boyfriend in years and I havent had sex in 5 years. It seems crazy, I know. For ages I just shut myself off from guys because I didnt want to get hurt anymore and I genuinely liked being on my own, doing my own thing. The years just passed by.

I am slim and fairly attractive. I keep myself well and dress well so I don't think there is anything wrong with my appearance. I have a degree, do loads of travelling and am really independent, have my own house. I save up my money for gigs and travelling so I rarely go to pubs/clubs. I hate the club pick up rubbish.

But lately I have gotten really down about all this. I had a big fight with my family today. This week I have been so sexually frustrated and as people have said masturbation is great but sometimes it just doesnt hit the spot. I just feel like I will be alone forever and I feel like I have so much to give someone else. It's partly my fault for cutting myself off but I just hate the whole dating scene. I did honestly think I could be happy alone but I really want to share with someone else and have great sex. God do I miss sex. And funnily enough I have been so horny this week, just like you!

OP not sure what my post is about but just thought I'd let you know you're not the only one! Good luck

if your horny as hell , drive up to dublin ( if your from the country ) some weekend , head to a nightclub ( any nightclub ) and ask as many men as need be to go somewhere more comfortable , il be amased if it takes you more than 15 mins , men dont mind how obvious you are , we are not picky

il say it again , any woman can get sex whenever she wants and whenever she wants , its like turning on a tap , celebacy is a choice for women , the situation is entirely different for men

irishh_bob

ineedsex wrote: »

Thank you for the replies. I dont know what came over me on friday. I became incredibly horny.

I have been working this weekend doing extra hours so never got out as usual.

Anyways nothing that I do during masturbation is working and I know what I need is sex. I think Im going to give online a go for NSA sex. Thanks to the poster that recommended it. Heres hoping I get some sex soon. I really need it. Please say a few prayers for me.

PM me if your looking for some site recomendations regarding NSA , some of them are foreign based and take forever to navigate

Victor

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Real Clare Man

Nice try!!

irishh_bob wrote: »

PM me if your looking for some site recomendations regarding NSA , some of them are foreign based and take forever to navigate

Victor

Folks, on-topic or bans will be handed out.

Real Clare Man wrote: »

Nice try!!

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JimmyCrackCorn

Victor wrote: »

Some people are more discerning than that.

Id hope so.

You have to have a friend you trust somewhere who would.

I don't know about a stranger personally i have to know someone before i can but maybe that's just me. Plus there's the general safety concerns

Gannicus

????????? wrote: »

Well if you JUST want sex then all you really need to do is go up to a man and flirt like crazy.

In fairness you don't even have to flirt. Just ask. We're fella's how many time in our individual lives will a woman just come up and ask "do you want to have sex", just like that

I think the reason masturbation ain't working no longer is that you're lacking the human. you're gonna have to make time to get away from it all and have some time to you.

fungun

dating sites are grand but its hard to get an idea of a person from a 2-d pic and an online profile.

If its just sex u are looking for with someone you might like the bookshop/supermarket type places are ideal.
Seriously, dont underestimate how easy most guys are, most will be incredibly grateful at the thought of sex.

panda100

JimmyCrackCorn wrote: »

Id hope so.

You have to have a friend you trust somewhere who would.

I don't know about a stranger personally i have to know someone before i can but maybe that's just me. Plus there's the general safety concerns

Yep I think the friend route is a good one.

OP do you have a friend or an aquaintance that you maybe able to hook up with for some action? This is probably a bit more safer than meeting someone on plentyoffish.
Personally I wouldn't feel comfortable walking up to someone in a club/pub and propositioning them for sex. Its a bit direct and would be pretty embarrasing If you got rejected.

I'm hearing ya though,sometimes you just need a good shag.What you need is a friends with benefits!