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"Whatever, she's deadly looking - you're just jealous"

  • 01-07-2010 10:24pm
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    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,649 ✭✭✭Catari Jaguar


    Ever gotten this? Say you dislike or have an issue with a girl or a celebrity for any reason and all you get from one of the guys is "you're just jealous because she's hot"

    It's like men can say whatever they want, but if a woman isn't sugar and spice and all things nice she gets called a bitch or catty. Obviously the only reason a woman would dislike another woman is because she's not as pretty.

    Personally, I find the FHM/ Big Brother/ WAG lifestyle to be vapid and offensive. But if I roll my eyes at Danielle Lloyd at the opening of an envelope it's obviously jealousy because she has big boobs and all I get is "Ah, leave her alone - she's deadly looking". Yup, because that's all that matters and all we should aspire to. That's so insulting to our opinions and intelligence!

    ARGH!! I was gonna R & R about this after I read a thread where a lovely lady was accused of being "just jealous" even though she clearly stated her objections and bone of contention with rival female. I decided to open it up to discussion just to see if I am the only one.

    I might turn the tables:

    Random male: David Beckham is an idiot and a crap footballer

    Me: Whatever, he's hot. You're just jealous because you're not as hot...

    Random male: What's that got to do with anything?!

    See my point?


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,219 ✭✭✭PK2008


    Russell Brand sold out

    there, I said it


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7,941 ✭✭✭caseyann


    PK2008 wrote: »
    Russell Brand sold out

    there, I said it

    God i cant stand that man:mad::(


    I get what you mean if i say i don't like a certain woman who is celeb because it is obvious she is a idiot.I get told i am jealous because she is hot.
    But for me women and men's hotness deteriorate with their attitude and personalities.
    Like Paris Hilton. And Katie price.I could go on and on.


  • Hosted Moderators Posts: 11,362 ✭✭✭✭Scarinae


    I think it depends what type of person you're talking to - if they're the kind of guy who is like "Hehe, bewbs!" and sees women more as objects then yeah, they're going to think you're just jealous. I mean, what other reason would you have to say anything bad about another girl? Women only think about their appearance, and the appearance of rivals :rolleyes: Too right, since the only purpose of women is to provide boobs to ogle and orifices to penetrate

    (I don't actually believe any of this, in case anyone didn't get the sarky tone - but more and more I am starting to think it is the opinion of the kind of guys in AH who respond to female posts with "Pics or GTFO!" :mad:)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,725 ✭✭✭seenitall


    Hmmmm...ahem :o

    I hope I won't be too slated for what I am about to say, but I am preparing myself in any case :(

    It is an individual matter, taken on a case by case basis (as people's tastes do differ, etc.), however I think that there IS something to the theory of "you're just jealous because she's hot".

    I have noticed that a lot of women (in real life and on the internet comment pages etc.) do tend to hold a soft spot for a plainer woman, rather than, say, a good-looking one, and especially rather than a stunning-looking one. I have noticed this from the teenage years onward (I think the very first time was while watching "Beverly Hills, 90210", the first incarnation, with some girls - god, I'm old:().

    Have a look at the most classic example of them all, in recent years: Aniston and Jolie. Remember all the media hoolabaloo about them and Brad Pitt, and TEAM ANISTON and TEAM JOLIE T-shirts malarkey going on?

    I remember talking with a friend about them. It was mostly about: "Gah, Aniston is much more suited to Brad, Angelina is an airhead, really she is NOT as pretty as Jennifer, wah wah wah...". And this really is the attitude that I have encountered many, many times over that trio (Yeah, I know:o too much time spent on celeb-gossipy pages than is good for me).

    Now, my opinion is that this particular friend of mine, who I know very well BTW, is kind of prone to delusion - masking her own insecurities with being judgmental about anything and everything, but mostly about things that she is insecure about (as such, of course, she ended up as a born-again Christian :rolleyes:- a particularly interesting story in itself...), so a woman like that will feel drawn to "side" with a plain Jane who has (allegedly) been wronged, and see her as prettier, more intelligent and in any case more worthy of success, happiness etc, etc. than the blatantly gorgeous woman. This is a case of transference - she indentified with Aniston and therefore Aniston can do no wrong and never did anything wrong when it comes to her marriage, and she is "way more beautiful" than that bitch who stole her husband (translation: the stunning woman who arouses insecurities and is perceived as sexually competitive/threatening).

    Meanwhile, back on planet Earth, let us asses the situation for real:

    Jolie - very beautiful, big eyes, sensuous lips, cheekbones heaven, daring and often very physical in her roles

    Aniston - pretty, nice blue eyes, nice blonde highlights, ok smile, ok comedic timing..., ???? ...

    Jolie - pushes herself in most of her roles, either physically (Tomb Raider) or emotionally (most recent roles), (BTW, despite her Oscar and an Oscar nom, I still don't rate her as a first class actress - but she does have a fair whack at it)

    Aniston - safe, as "Average girl" central as her looks are when it comes to role choices, mainly rom-coms, nothing out of the most ordinary Hollywood business-as-usual

    Jolie - Ambassador for UNICEF, goes around the world bringing media attention to ****ty, unlivable places full of war orphans and misery, liaises to help alleviate poverty, is a speaker at Davos; has adopted three Third World children

    Aniston - participates in telethons for world disasters; has two dogs

    Yes, clearly... Aniston is where it's at :D

    I did not want to get into discussing the Brad triangle here, although, of course, it could have quite a bit to do with the obviously skewed perceptions of these two women. However, we don't really know how and when all that business went down (at least I don't)... if someone else wants to discuss that on here, you are welcome to! :D

    There are prejudices out there, perpetuated by both men and women alike (men objectify and resent, and women are jealous and spiteful), such as:

    Sexy women are stupid,

    daring women are slutty,

    confident women are bitches.

    It's sad.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 284 ✭✭Cinful


    Gossip is gossip. Not to be taken seriously.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,750 ✭✭✭liah


    Yep. I'm clearly not saying what I'm saying just on the fact that she's obviously a twit or whatever else, it's obviously because I'm just jealous 'cuz I'm not as pretty. 'Cuz, you know, that's totally all that matters.. :rolleyes:

    Give me a break, like. The whole "omg you're just jealous!" thing was well old in high school, nevermind now in my 20's when I've not been in school for over 5 years. I'm allowed to dislike another girl or disagree with what they say/how they conduct themselves/whatever else without it being anything to do with jealousy over their looks or other "assets," thanks.

    Newsflash: I'm not jealous, you're just a vain idiot, get over yourself.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 159 ✭✭Smallbit


    The 'jealous' thing just drives me mad. I can usually avoid the sort of idiot that believes you must be more physically attractive than another woman in order to criticize her, but not always...

    I've a male colleague who has actually said this many times. He's 50! and still comes out with this sort of crap. Apparently...

    Kate Nash is not a crap live performer, I'm just jealous.
    Megan Fox is actually a talented actress, I'm just jealous.
    Jordan/Katie Price is not a bimbo; she's really down to earth and yes, I'm just jealous.

    More than anything it galls me to listen to such dimwitted repartee when I'm trying my best to be inclusive and bring the conversation down to his level.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,628 ✭✭✭Truley


    seenitall wrote: »
    It is an individual matter, taken on a case by case basis (as people's tastes do differ, etc.), however I think that there IS something to the theory of "you're just jealous because she's hot".

    I agree, you have to take it on a situation by situation basis. I have certainly encountered girls who are incredibly bitchy and ciritcal of other girls for no obvious reason apart from jealousy/intimidation. I can't even count the number of times I've seen it in my own experience. I went to school with a really dead on girl who worked part-time as a model. She was completely harmless, but got alot of aggro from girls in my class for being stupid, 'full of herself,' and a show off. Even girls in other classes who didn't even know her would say it.

    It can be really evident when I hear people talk of famous women with such bile, despite not even knowing them?! The example seenitall gave of Angelina Jolie is a prime example, she's stunning, confident, a good(ish) actress, does humanitarian work and is generally very modest and reserved in the media. Magazines such as Now that poke fun at other (beautiful by any stretch) celebrities absolutely feed off this idea.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,649 ✭✭✭Catari Jaguar


    I can't stand Angelina (I know I don't know her but her public persona is nails on a blackboard to me) - I think she's dull as dishwater, seems kind of an ice queen and plain just gives me the shivers when I see her! I don't think she's "blatantly gorgeous" even if I did it wouldn't stop be from being irritated by her.

    I would 100% disagree with you Truley, she's not reserved in the media (never was - remember the blood vials/ kissing her brother on stage?) and I think she does a lot of her "humanitarian work" for her own image. You can't whinge on about poverty on one day and go buy personal islands the next. It's sick. I can see a ton of reasons as to why Angelina is disliked, but the main one would probably be because she's seen as a supposed homewrecker. (I feel so gossipy - hahah :o)

    I honestly think Jennifer Aniston, at her peak in Friends, is much more gorgeous & curvy than Jolie, but I think she's liked because she comes across as fun, vivacious, natural and laid back. Women always loved her - hence the "Rachel" hair cut obsession. I don't think it's suddenly "Let's side with her because she's not as pretty"

    If it was a case of hating pretty celebs then women wouldn't be fans of anyone! I don't know any girl that has an issue with Scar-Jo and she's a stunner. She just seems totally cool, does her charity work but keeps herself to herself.

    Another hit with women's magazines is Cameron Diaz - they are obsessed with her ass in bikini pictures. She went out with Justin Timberlake at the height of his fame and no one bitched about it because she's cool, funny, and doesn't take herself seriously. Ex model or not, she is clearly loved by women that identify with her and would want her as a friend.

    There are a ton of reasons for liking/ disliking (superficially perhaps) other than looks.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 6,154 ✭✭✭Dolbert


    Aaargh, I hate this so much!

    Me: 'Attractive female 'celeb' can't sing/ act for shit/ seems like a moron'
    Bloke: 'Oooh, claws are out, meow' etc :mad:

    WTF?


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 856 ✭✭✭MissMotivated


    Me and the boyfriend are team Aniston all the way!!! Think she's stunning, a great actress and comes across great in interviews, we want to be her firend!!:)
    I have no problem admitting a girl is gorgeous / great figure etc.. but don't really get that 'you're just jealous' reply from boyfriend or male friends if I don't think so.
    Sometimes I might admit it through gritted teeth but that's just cos I'm jealous that I'm not a natural beauty!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7,941 ✭✭✭caseyann


    Me and the boyfriend are team Aniston all the way!!! Think she's stunning, a great actress and comes across great in interviews, we want to be her firend!!:)
    I have no problem admitting a girl is gorgeous / great figure etc.. but don't really get that 'you're just jealous' reply from boyfriend or male friends if I don't think so.
    Sometimes I might admit it through gritted teeth but that's just cos I'm jealous that I'm not a natural beauty!


    Totally agree with you.
    With Angelina i seriously never liked her.Nothing to do with admitting she is good looking,as i would be blind not to think she is.But there is something about her from the start before she was famous and just appeared first time on big screen.I just could not put my finger on it.
    It is probably that something i have encountered in meant to be friends i used to have.She has the same persona i feel,and wouldn't be able to cope with her.
    I have this with our own so called celebs.One particular model.If you have seen her on tv and she comes across as fake as Jolie.Trust me after few encounters with her she is fake.
    I know someone who met Jolie and Roberts,she worked with them in set.And she said complete Biatches.And rude as anything to her.
    I dont go by looks i go by feeling,when i havent gone by that feeling with people in real life i have been sorry.
    No one is anything special because of their looks.Looks deteriorate with bad personality for me and they get better looking with good ones.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,725 ✭✭✭seenitall


    I can't stand Angelina (I know I don't know her but her public persona is nails on a blackboard to me) - I think she's dull as dishwater, seems kind of an ice queen and plain just gives me the shivers when I see her! I don't think she's "blatantly gorgeous" even if I did it wouldn't stop be from being irritated by her.

    I would 100% disagree with you Truley, she's not reserved in the media (never was - remember the blood vials/ kissing her brother on stage?) and I think she does a lot of her "humanitarian work" for her own image. You can't whinge on about poverty on one day and go buy personal islands the next. It's sick. I can see a ton of reasons as to why Angelina is disliked, but the main one would probably be because she's seen as a supposed homewrecker. (I feel so gossipy - hahah :o)

    I honestly think Jennifer Aniston, at her peak in Friends, is much more gorgeous & curvy than Jolie, but I think she's liked because shecomesacross as fun, vivacious, natural and laid back. Women always loved her - hence the "Rachel" hair cut obsession. I don't think it's suddenly "Let's side with her because she's not as pretty"

    If it was a case of hating pretty celebs then women wouldn't be fans of anyone! I don't know any girl that has an issue with Scar-Jo and she's a stunner. She just seems totally cool, does her charity work but keeps herself to herself.

    Another hit with women's magazines is Cameron Diaz - they are obsessed with her ass in bikini pictures. She went out with Justin Timberlake at the height of his fame and no one bitched about it because she's cool, funny, and doesn't take herself seriously. Ex model or not, she is clearly loved by women that identify with her and would want her as a friend.

    There are a ton of reasons for liking/ disliking (superficially perhaps) other than looks.

    See, I just don't get how anyone with two functioning eyes in their head, and who has grown up with the conditioning of general human standards of female beauty, can seriously claim that Aniston is more gorgeous than Jolie (let alone much more gorgeous!) - I am as distrustful of that as I would be if someone claimed Colin Farrell isn't a patch on Daithi O Se (even when Daithi was younger, fitter, whatever). Sorry :( I don't mean for this to sound personal, that is just my opinion.

    "Women always loved her" - yes, because she is perceived as girlie, non-threatening, bland girl-next-door, women identify with that big-time, that image soothes their insecurities and makes them feel good about themselves.

    "I think she does a lot of her "humanitarian work" for her own image. You can't whinge on about poverty on one day and go buy personal islands the next. It's sick." - Whoa! Sick. That's pretty powerful alright. :rolleyes: What exactly is "sick" about Jolie's humanitarian efforts?

    The fact that she has a lot of money, and uses it (as well as her putting in her time, and effort) for helping good causes around the world, as well as for her personal comfort and benefit? (AFAIK, there are no "personal islands", you may be confusing her with Johnny Depp.)

    Or is the fact that if she only cared about her image, she would surely find a less tiring and less expensive way to enhance it throughout all the years than globetrotting in other people's interests and adopting orphaned children?

    Or could it be that the sum total of our favourite "Friend"'s contribution to the world's poor boils down to participating in Hurricane Katrina telethon and trotting out a lovely frock on a benefit night red carpet - but at least she is being "fun, vivacious,natural and laid-back," eh? Fair play...:rolleyes:

    Your post is the exact reason why this case is so interesting to me. I find it so clear-cut that it is almost ridiculous; Jolie is more beautiful, more intelligent, more courageous and MUCH more giving - there is no contest here. People who believe that there even could be one, are a complete and constant source of amazement to me.

    I've no doubt that millions of women agree with you that AJ is "plain". I just think it's pretty laughable and says more about them than anything else.




  • i hate it too i personally cant stand beyounce and she has had a lot of ahem work her nose her tits etc yet if i ever say that to a guy they are like arrghh you jealous i am like no i am not but i am allowed to have an opinion !!!!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7,941 ✭✭✭caseyann


    seenitall wrote: »
    See, I just don't get how anyone with two functioning eyes in their head, and who has grown up with the conditioning of general human standards of female beauty, can seriously claim that Aniston is more gorgeous than Jolie (let alone much more gorgeous!) - I am as distrustful of that as I would be if someone claimed Colin Farrell isn't a patch on Daithi O Se (even when Daithi was younger, fitter, whatever). Sorry :( I don't mean for this to sound personal, that is just my opinion.

    "Women always loved her" - yes, because she is perceived as girlie, non-threatening, bland girl-next-door, women identify with that big-time, that image soothes their insecurities and makes them feel good about themselves.

    "I think she does a lot of her "humanitarian work" for her own image. You can't whinge on about poverty on one day and go buy personal islands the next. It's sick." - Whoa! Sick. That's pretty powerful alright. :rolleyes: What exactly is "sick" about Jolie's humanitarian efforts?

    The fact that she has a lot of money, and uses it (as well as her putting in her time, and effort) for helping good causes around the world, as well as for her personal comfort and benefit? (AFAIK, there are no "personal islands", you may be confusing her with Johnny Depp.)

    Or is the fact that if she only cared about her image, she would surely find a less tiring and less expensive way to enhance it throughout all the years than globetrotting in other people's interests and adopting orphaned children?

    Or could it be that the sum total of our favourite "Friend"'s contribution to the world's poor boils down to participating in Hurricane Katrina telethon and trotting out a lovely frock on a benefit night red carpet - but at least she is being "fun, vivacious,natural and laid-back," eh? Fair play...:rolleyes:

    Your post is the exact reason why this case is so interesting to me. I find it so clear-cut that it is almost ridiculous; Jolie is more beautiful, more intelligent, more courageous and MUCH more giving - there is no contest here. People who believe that there even could be one, are a complete and constant source of amazement to me.

    I've no doubt that millions of women agree with you that AJ is "plain". I just think it's pretty laughable and says more about them than anything else.

    Why because we all think the same people are good looking?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,649 ✭✭✭Catari Jaguar


    Seenitall, I bet you wouldn't be saying that about Jolie if you didin't think she was hot.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,725 ✭✭✭seenitall


    No, not necessarily, of course.

    However, certain standards are universal. Ample rack, full lips, big eyes, long luscious hair - all these denote youthfulness. Youthfulness means good (perceived) reproductive powers. Good reproductive powers translate to attractiveness. Human brains are hard-wired in this way. Therefore, a comparison based on these features will speak for itself.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,649 ✭✭✭Catari Jaguar


    seenitall wrote: »
    No, not necessarily, of course.

    However, certain standards are universal. Ample rack, full lips, big eyes, long luscious hair - all these denote youthfulness. Youthfulness means good (perceived) reproductive powers. Good reproductive powers translate to attractiveness. Human brains are hard-wired in this way. Therefore, a comparison based on these features will speak for itself.

    I think that she styles herself about 10 years older than she is... She looks wizened, skinny, unhealthy looking and veiny. She looks like the Crypt keeper and scares me a little.

    angelina-jolie-without-makeup-1.jpg

    478399569_03e9d7c4d0_o.jpg

    Anyways she's had a nose job, bottom lip reduced, top one made fuller and I think cheek implants. So fake and not the best without make up.

    I know I am being very petty about this but your posts are pig headed. This thread is supposed to be about reasons APART from looks. I don't want "you're just jealous" thrown back in my face, I would not wish to look like Angie. Millions might, not me.

    And yes, her and Brad bought the "Ethiopia" island in Dubai. She drags her poor kids around the world, they've never been settled in school. She said in an interview that they wake them up in the middle of the night for flights and pretend that packing is a game. She parades them around for the paps and has said "I think I feel so much more for Madd and Zee because they're survivors." That makes me sad.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,725 ✭✭✭seenitall


    Seenitall, I bet you wouldn't be saying that about Jolie if you didin't think she was hot.

    I explained in my earlier post why I think that Jolie is not just hot in my eyes, but also objectively hotter than Aniston. My latest post (my response to caseyann) explains it more.

    As for everything else Jolie does with her time, her money and her life, as opposed to what Aniston does(n't do) with her time, her money and her life, yes, I would still be saying the same things about each of them; I like to think that I am intelligent enough not to mistake beauty for generosity.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,628 ✭✭✭Truley


    Ok at risk of this turning into a Jolie vs Aniston thread :P... Maybe Angelina isn't the best example of a hard done by celebrity. I was more trying to emphasise how girls so often criticise and belittle other girls for no obvious reason and in cases like that it can be interpreted as jealousy.

    The way alot of females view other female celebrites is a prime example, especially in magazine culture. Magazines like that work on the idea of putting down other women, for the most ridiculous and superficial of reasons, which seems to work off the readers' jealousy towards the celebrity's wealth/success/good looks. I know people here will say that it's deserved in some cases, but alot of the time it's not. I've seen Cameron and Aniston get slated over their looks and (perceived) arogance.

    I guess to sum it up. I think men are intellegent enough to see if a girl is making a warranted criticism of another girl or whether she is just being catty for no obvious reason. If a guy uses the 'you're just jealous' card, yes, maybe he is just being a git, or maybe he has been given a good reason to interpret it that way. Next time you criticise another girl and someone says it to you, think about how your criticism is coming across to other people.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,725 ✭✭✭seenitall


    I think that she styles herself about 10 years older than she is... She looks wizened, skinny, unhealthy looking and veiny. She looks like the Crypt keeper and scares me a little.

    angelina-jolie-without-makeup-1.jpg

    478399569_03e9d7c4d0_o.jpg

    Anyways she's had a nose job, bottom lip reduced, top one made fuller and I think cheek implants. So fake and not the best without make up.

    I know I am being very petty about this but your posts are pig headed. This thread is supposed to be about reasons APART from looks. I don't want "you're just jealous" thrown back in my face, I would not wish to look like Angie. Millions might, not me.

    And yes, her and Brad bought the "Ethiopia" island in Dubai. She drags her poor kids around the world, they've never been settled in school. She said in an interview that they wake them up in the middle of the night for flights and pretend that packing is a game. That makes me sad.

    "your posts are pig headed." - Why? Because I disagree with you and have presented a few arguments for my opinions?

    "This thread is supposed to be about reasons APART from looks." - The title of this thread is "Whatever, she's deadly looking - you're just jealous" which is turning to be VERY relevant to the point that I am making. :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,649 ✭✭✭Catari Jaguar


    seenitall wrote: »
    "your posts are pig headed." - Why? Because I disagree with you and have presented a few arguments for my opinions?

    "This thread is supposed to be about reasons APART from looks." - The title of this thread is "Whatever, she's deadly looking - you're just jealous" which is turning to be VERY relevant to the point that I am making. :)

    No, because you are so clearly saying that we are blind to think that Aniston is more attractive than Jolie. You can list your reasons to why she's so hot, I can list my reasons as to why I do not agree.

    I had given a huge list of my personal dislike of Jolie w/o bringing looks into it but that was shot down. So I guess I better stoop.

    It's about disagreement and general pissed off ness of the looks argument being brought in when it is an irrelvant factor in several cases.

    But yea, moving on from Anistonjolie gate! :D


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,725 ✭✭✭seenitall


    No, because you are so clearly saying that we are blind to think that Aniston is more attractive than Jolie. You can list your reasons to why she's so hot, I can list my reasons as to why I do not agree.

    I had given a huge list of my personal dislike of Jolie w/o bringing looks into it but that was shot down. So I guess I better stoop.

    It's about disagreement and general pissed off ness of the looks argument being brought in when it is an irrelvant factor in several cases.

    But yea, moving on from Anistonjolie gate! :D

    Excuse me, but I hope that you are not saying that all I did was talk solely about any person's looks on here, because it is quite the contrary, as my posts will evidence.

    I think this is a terrific thread, thank you for starting it. I am happy to agree to disagree. :)

    My point was that, in your case and a lot of other cases, I would definitely agree with the guy who told you "Whatever, she's deadly looking - you're just jealous" :p


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,134 ✭✭✭Lux23


    I find Jennifer Aniston really needy and sad for some reason and she does look a bit like Iggy Pop. But maybe I am just jealous of her fab body at 40 and millions of dollars.

    I used to get this but if I am honest if I am bitching about a person I know it may be that I am a bit jealous of them. Its not true of celebs though I couldn't be jealous of them really, as their lifestyle isn't something I aspire to and if I had their money and airbrushing I would look just as good as most of them.


  • Hosted Moderators Posts: 11,362 ✭✭✭✭Scarinae


    This thread has gone completely off the original point, which I think was a very valid one - if women criticise other women about anything, even if it has nothing to do with their looks, then they are perceived to be jealous of their looks.

    I don't think Cheryl Cole is a very good singer. Does that make me jealous of her looks? Even if it's actually true that there are many more talented singers out there who are more deserving of attention, do people assume that me saying so is because I wish that I looked like her? (which I don't - I agree with the other poster who said that Kimberly Walsh is much prettier!)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,884 ✭✭✭Eve_Dublin


    Wow....was reading through all the posts here and as you can see, I´ve thanked a few of you from supposed conflicting sides. I agree with you all, in fact.

    From my point-of-view, I dislike famous female celebrities who do nothing beyond acting or singing badly. I like both Angelina and Jennifer and I honestly think Jennifer Anniston back in the day when friends first started out was absolutely gorgeous in a very different way to Angelina. Two very beautiful women and two women who were both very desirable to men in their own way. One sexy and one cutsy but neither one would be thrown out of the bed of any man for eating crackers. I think they´re bad examples actually because I would admire both of them and how they handle themselves. Of course I can relate to Jennifer more because she conducts herself more "normally" (i.e. no vials of blood around her neck, no kissing brothers etc) but Angelina has balls and I admire that too. It´s a case of "what´s she going to do next?" kind of thing and I get the feeling her heart is in the right place and all this fame madness has fecked her up in the head to some extent. I don´t think she came from a normal, functioning, happy family and I feel sorry for her. And I want her cheekbones.

    Only speaking for myself here but the female celebrities I dislike are those I feel I can´t relate to in any way. I´ll admit it, I dislike Scarlet Johannson and my ex accused me of being jealous of her but I have my reasons. She´s ABSOLUTELY gorgeous, she can sing, every man adores her, she can act reasonably well and she´s only 24 or 25. Thing is, why I really can´t warm to her is because every interview I´ve read of her portrayed her as being totally unlikeable....as not the kind of girl I´d have the "craic" with. She seems devoid of a sense of humour, she only talks about whatever perfume she´s peddling at that time and gives no hint of any kind of vulnerability. I understand she might want to keep her private life to herself, but her answers have obviously been given to her to read from by her agent. For a girl trying to pull off this "edgy" image by covering Tom Waits songs or doing indie flicks, she comes across as totally 2 dimensional and both of these dimensions are totally polished and contrived. For whatever reason, I need to see the cracks in any person I like or become friendly with. I think that´s the case for a lot of women.

    But I also think sometimes it just comes down to plain, old jealousy. I´ve seen it myself: girls getting catty about the stunning girl at work or school and calling her "cold" and "bitchy" when she was only these things because she was never given a chance.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,725 ✭✭✭seenitall


    Agreed on ScarJo; from what can be gauged from interviews and similar, that is the impression I am getting too.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,884 ✭✭✭Eve_Dublin


    By the way, I think a lot of men would discount the talents of a woman just because she´s beautiful.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,884 ✭✭✭Eve_Dublin


    seenitall wrote: »
    Agreed on ScarJo; from what can be gauged from interviews and similar, that is the impression I am getting too.

    Saying that, I´d be the first to say I would love to look like her. I am jealous of her physical appearance, no doubt about it (with my personality and her looks, jaysus, what a combo! ;) ) and it´d drive me mental when my ex used to comment on her..."Can´t you see how boring and contrived she is????", I´d argue, usually aftera few beers. I looked like a complete loon but he fell for the whole contrived edginess hook, line and sinker. Doubt he would if she wasn´t so pretty.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,725 ✭✭✭seenitall


    Haha :D I see what you're saying, she is very pretty and I loooove those full lips, I have to admit, whether it's AJ or ScarJo... ok seenitall, compose yourself. :cool:

    The thing is, I can be jealous of people with the best of them, but I can't summon even an ounce of jealousy over a celeb, as I don't identify with them to the point that a lot of people seem to. I think men are generally more level-headed when it comes to this than women; none of my exes ever cared a jot about me fiercely fancying Clive Owen (swoon), it has always been a complete non-issue, nothing to argue over, even in jest. They just don't seem to be interested (on the whole) (and, again, just my experience)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 63 ✭✭Bella_purple


    yes, women r very mean with each other, especially when they feel threatned by other females. but usually this comes along with physical complex, doesn't trusting/ knowing their own sexuality. it's a pitty we let ourselves be eaten by envy. i try to avoid this trap too, tbh.

    Eva_dublin, nice that u admit u would like to look like Scarlett Johanson.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7,551 ✭✭✭panda100


    seenitall wrote: »
    No, not necessarily, of course.

    However, certain standards are universal. Ample rack, full lips, big eyes, long luscious hair - all these denote youthfulness. Youthfulness means good (perceived) reproductive powers. Good reproductive powers translate to attractiveness. Human brains are hard-wired in this way. Therefore, a comparison based on these features will speak for itself.

    Bullsh*t x1000. Evolutionary psychology really does have a lot to answer for.
    If our brains were 'hard-wired' in this way then the human race would never procreate.

    Your confusing what Western,21st century culture finds attractive and what human beings actually find attractive.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,606 ✭✭✭Jumpy


    Ever gotten this? Say you dislike or have an issue with a girl or a celebrity for any reason and all you get from one of the guys is "you're just jealous because she's hot"

    It's like men can say whatever they want, but if a woman isn't sugar and spice and all things nice she gets called a bitch or catty. Obviously the only reason a woman would dislike another woman is because she's not as pretty.

    Personally, I find the FHM/ Big Brother/ WAG lifestyle to be vapid and offensive. But if I roll my eyes at Danielle Lloyd at the opening of an envelope it's obviously jealousy because she has big boobs and all I get is "Ah, leave her alone - she's deadly looking". Yup, because that's all that matters and all we should aspire to. That's so insulting to our opinions and intelligence!

    ARGH!! I was gonna R & R about this after I read a thread where a lovely lady was accused of being "just jealous" even though she clearly stated her objections and bone of contention with rival female. I decided to open it up to discussion just to see if I am the only one.

    I might turn the tables:

    Random male: David Beckham is an idiot and a crap footballer

    Me: Whatever, he's hot. You're just jealous because you're not as hot...

    Random male: What's that got to do with anything?!

    See my point?


    I thinks its more that we are bewildered that you would actually care.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,725 ✭✭✭seenitall


    panda100 wrote: »
    Bullsh*t x1000. Evolutionary psychology really does have a lot to answer for.
    If our brains were 'hard-wired' in this way then the human race would never procreate.

    Your confusing what Western,21st century culture finds attractive and what human beings actually find attractive.

    I may be very wrong, but I don't think that evolutionary psychology is a field of scientific research for no reason :rolleyes:

    Calling it Bullsiht x1000 (so eloquent!;)) won't change that any time soon, I'd imagine.

    Fullness of facial features, for one, denotes good cellular hydration, a sign of youth/youthfulness. Take it up with David Attenborough, Jahweh... I don't care.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,404 ✭✭✭Pittens


    panda100 wrote: »
    Bullsh*t x1000. Evolutionary psychology really does have a lot to answer for.
    If our brains were 'hard-wired' in this way then the human race would never procreate.

    Your confusing what Western,21st century culture finds attractive and what human beings actually find attractive.

    modern Western culture is less ageist than any other cultures, including our past. Both Jolie and Aniston are past it, by the standards of world history.

    All cultures prize youth.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,628 ✭✭✭Truley


    Eve_Dublin wrote: »
    By the way, I think a lot of men would discount the talents of a woman just because she´s beautiful.

    See this is what I don't get. Girls complain when men accuse them of being jealous for making remarks. But it's ok for a girl to make the assumption that men are being just lustful/shallow/unable to see a person for who they are for appreciating when a woman is good looking. If he started nitpicking on her apperance and personality he would be accused of being oppressive or chauvinst. I feel sorry for men sometimes to be honest, it seems like they can't win either way.

    I don't think this is a gender issue, as I said before I think very often guys and girls are warranted in making the jealousy argument when girls make catty remarks for no justifiable reason. I've seen some of the remarks that get thrown around this website alot, 'I don't like her,' she's stupid/a bimbo or my personal favourite 'she's looking for attention,' (nearly always said by a girl, who five minutes earlier spilled her life story in 'what makes you sad ' or PI threads.) Hello? It's the internet. Everyone's looking for attention :P


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,884 ✭✭✭Eve_Dublin


    Truley wrote: »
    See this is what I don't get. Girls complain when men accuse them of being jealous for making remarks. But it's ok for a girl to make the assumption that men are being just lustful/shallow/unable to see a person for who they are for appreciating when a woman is good looking. If he started nitpicking on her apperance and personality he would be accused of being oppressive or chauvinst. I feel sorry for men sometimes to be honest, it seems like they can't win either way.

    I don't think this is a gender issue, as I said before I think very often guys and girls are warranted in making the jealousy argument when girls make catty remarks for no justifiable reason. I've seen some of the remarks that get thrown around this website alot, 'I don't like her,' she's stupid/a bimbo or my personal favourite 'she's looking for attention,' (nearly always said by a girl, who five minutes earlier spilled her life story in 'what makes you sad ' or PI threads.) Hello? It's the internet. Everyone's looking for attention :P

    I didn´t mean the majority of men and I was trying to make the point that it wasn´t just a female issue if you read my other posts. It´s both genders. Good looking women are vilified by both sexes...not the majority of both sexes but it exists.


  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,285 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    panda100 wrote: »
    If our brains were 'hard-wired' in this way then the human race would never procreate.

    Your confusing what Western,21st century culture finds attractive and what human beings actually find attractive.
    Nope sorry like the others I have to disagree. We may find others attractive for all sorts of reasons but reproductively speaking there are consistent patterns throughout history and culture. There are good reasons for it too. EG women with a .7 hip waist ratio have higher levels of female hormones and are more fertile than women who dont. The venus de milo, neolithic representations and kate moss are all different sizes, but the ratio remains constant. Taller men with lower body fat and more muscle definition tend to be healthier and live longer. A strong jaw on a man shows the effect of testosterone. Clear skin in both genders is a major trigger of attraction(shows health and lack of parasites). Its a very very very long list. Does this mean people outside these ranges are not attractive? Of course not, but those within it are more attractive.

    BTW every culture we know of has had a body ideal in men and women. Its just today that body ideal is more pressured and particularly pressured towards women.

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,649 ✭✭✭Catari Jaguar


    Jumpy wrote: »
    I thinks its more that we are bewildered that you would actually care.

    Welcome to the Ladies Lounge... :rolleyes:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,051 ✭✭✭trebor28


    i think it all depends on the person.

    i remember watching tv and cheryl cole was on and i made some comment about her being gorgeous or along those lines.

    now my sister could have said anything but the one line she uttered was "shes had work done"
    she didnt say yeah shes beautiful, but shes had work done. she just said shes had work done.
    and how does she know this?
    cause she read it in one of those ****e magazines that are targeted at everyday women who are plain janes who want to make themselves feel better by putting down some attractive celebrity saying shes had a boob job, nose job etc.

    ffs you even have some posters on here saying this one has this that and the other done!! how do they know this???
    from reading ****e magazines like heat etc which "highlight" what celebrity has what work done by showing some different photos of said celebrity at different angles to highlight this said work!!
    or is it cause they saw said celebrity come out in some magazine or some tv show saying she has had work done???
    bull crap!!!!

    what about on a night out in a pub where some goodlooking girl walks in and everywomen in the pub turns around and looks her up and down and then picks out some random stupid flaw on her, "oh look shes got horrible knees"!!!!

    women do it too make themselves feel better because they feel inferior and this is the only way they can cope.
    they cannot just let it go and say, shes better looking than me woop dee doo.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,884 ✭✭✭Eve_Dublin


    Okay Trebor....then why do men do it too?

    http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055648493&highlight=karen+gillian

    ....for example (I can find you more examples in AH but I can´t find an equivalent type of thread in Ladies Lounge)...it seems men can be just as bit*hy and nasty as we supposedly are.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,917 ✭✭✭✭iguana


    Wibbs wrote: »
    women with a .7 hip waist ratio have higher levels of female hormones and are more fertile than women who dont. The venus de milo, neolithic representations and kate moss are all different sizes, but the ratio remains constant.

    Interesting, I just looked this up and calculated my ratio. I'm a .7 so from here on out I'll know that if anyone criticises me on boards it is in fact because they are jealous of my supreme gorgeousness. :D


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,404 ✭✭✭Pittens


    ....for example (I can find you more examples in AH but I can´t find an equivalent type of thread in Ladies Lounge)...it seems men can be just as bit*hy and nasty as we supposedly are.

    1) Your argument is WhatAboutary ( as was the OP's)
    2) This thread is about women's attitude to women.
    2) That thread is a discussion of the opposite sex, and in that particular thread some guys didnt like Karen because the original pictures were particularly bad. When better pictures were posted they admitted she was good looking. In any case were this thread about "why do women find some men unattractive" you may have a case. This isnt that thread.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,051 ✭✭✭trebor28


    Eve_Dublin wrote: »
    Okay Trebor....then why do men do it too?

    http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055648493&highlight=karen+gillian

    ....for example (I can find you more examples in AH but I can´t find an equivalent type of thread in Ladies Lounge)...it seems men can be just as bit*hy and nasty as we supposedly are.


    ok eve i didnt read all 7 pages of that thread, but i think there is a diffenrence between saying shes not my type in a bitchy way and picking out something on a girl that isnt perfect and highlighting it.

    yes like everything there are guys who will actually bitch but every barrel has its bad apples.

    its like a woman saying that some guy is vain because he spends a certain amount of time infront of a mirror, why do women do this? pot kettle and all that! (sorry if that was a bit off topic.)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,404 ✭✭✭Pittens


    From the OP
    I might turn the tables:

    Random male: David Beckham is an idiot and a crap footballer

    Me: Whatever, he's hot. You're just jealous because you're not as hot...

    Random male: What's that got to do with anything?!

    See my point?

    Argument du TuQue is not a valid argument. Men obviously do this less tham women, but certainly the dislike of Beckam is sexual jealously. I think that men get annoyed by pretty boys, rather than masuline guys - but who knows why.

    In any case Paul Scholes is hated by no man, and Beckham - a decent sort I think - is disliked by many men. This is looks based as well.

    It just happens less for men, because the average male would seem like a plonker were he dismissing the looks of Clooney, Pitt, or Depp.

    EDIT: I have just thought about something. Attractiveness in women is primarily looks based, in men - its confidence, charm, and the ability to be funny. Looks are secondary.

    So there is a more obvious male version of this, and we get it on boards all the time, as in " I dont think that plonker is funny". I have heard that said about Dara O'briain, but I a, pretty f*cking certain that if the poster and Dara were in the pub Dara would get more laughs throughout the evening.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,917 ✭✭✭✭iguana


    Pittens wrote: »
    but certainly the dislike of Beckam is sexual jealously.

    I am very curious about your omniscience. How did you come about it? Was it an ability you were born with, learn it from a secret order of Himalayan monks or were you bitten by a radioactive ant queen?

    I mean it was impressive* on the other thread when you were able to categorically tell me what was going on in my subconscious and how I was obviously incorrect in my assertions about my own thought processes. But to be able to do the same for all the men in the world who don't rate David Beckham, well that's just mind-boggling.


    *Whoops sorry, I meant ridiculous not impressive I always get those two mixed up. :rolleyes:


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,884 ✭✭✭Eve_Dublin


    Pittens wrote: »
    1) Your argument is WhatAboutary ( as was the OP's)
    2) This thread is about women's attitude to women.
    2) That thread is a discussion of the opposite sex, and in that particular thread some guys didnt like Karen because the original pictures were particularly bad. When better pictures were posted they admitted she was good looking. In any case were this thread about "why do women find some men unattractive" you may have a case. This isnt that thread.

    Fair enough but you used her as a case in point and I was pointing out that the only nasty things I ever heard said about her was from men hence posting the thread.

    Only some men changed their mind but if you loko again, you´ll most didn´t and some of the comments about her were beyond nasty....way beyond "I don´t think she´s good looking".


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,884 ✭✭✭Eve_Dublin


    trebor28 wrote: »
    ok eve i didnt read all 7 pages of that thread, but i think there is a diffenrence between saying shes not my type in a bitchy way and picking out something on a girl that isnt perfect and highlighting it.

    yes like everything there are guys who will actually bitch but every barrel has its bad apples.

    its like a woman saying that some guy is vain because he spends a certain amount of time infront of a mirror, why do women do this? pot kettle and all that! (sorry if that was a bit off topic.)

    You need to read all 7 pages...the comments are NASTY NASTY NASTY....much nastier than anything a girl has posted in here in the Ladies Lounge.

    There are guys that bitch, there are girls that bitch....they´re bitches but they´re only a handful.

    And what are you talking about women commenting on men who look in a mirror? You said it yourself....the world is full of numpties but they´re not specific to one gender.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    Pittens wrote: »
    Argument du TuQue is not a valid argument. Men obviously do this less tham women, but certainly the dislike of Beckam is sexual jealously. I think that men get annoyed by pretty boys, rather than masuline guys - but who knows why.

    In any case Paul Scholes is hated by no man, and Beckham - a decent sort I think - is disliked by many men. This is looks based as well.

    It just happens less for men, because the average male would seem like a plonker were he dismissing the looks of Clooney, Pitt, or Depp.

    Argument in a hat? What's that loike?

    I think it really comes down to taste - there are some women I find really attractive, others I know who are attractive but they just don't really do anything for me. There are definitely some women (and men) who comment on stars based on insecurities but for most I think it's much the same process that we use to choose or dismiss non-famous people.

    If men get annoyed by what you perceive as pretty boys, why do you think women shouldn't/wouldn't get annoyed at some kind of perception of woman? There are lots of people, famous and not, that I can't work out why people find gorgeous - others I can't understand why people don't find them gorgeous. I assume it is because taste is relatively subjective and even finding someone who has lots of fans, you can unequivocally guarantee they will have their detractors.


  • Moderators, Arts Moderators Posts: 17,231 Mod ✭✭✭✭Das Kitty


    LMAO here Pittens!

    David Beckham seems like a "good sort"?! He screwed around on his wife with a media whore, so not only did she have to bear his infidelity, she had to live through the indignity of it being played out in public.

    For the record my OH thinks Paul Scholes is a grade A tool.


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