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Bad Parenting?

  • 24-05-2010 12:22am
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    So we've just seen a 16 year old girl sail around the world solo, and now we have a 13 year old boy :eek: that's just climbed Everest!!!!!!

    Quite an impressive set of feats, there's no denying; these children are incredibly, precociously inspiring. But what about their fcuking parents?

    These kids had a pretty damn good shot at dying, at least as good as if their parents had given them a few E's, or let them head down to Limerick for the weekend. In fact, there are a multitude of things kids aren't allowed do, that are infinitely safer than what these kids did.

    Impressive as it is, are these parents right in the head? Should social services be round? Put it this way, if every parent set their kid off round the world, or up a hill that kills a large number of adults each year (that even while at the top, your body begins to quit living), would it still be acceptable? My guess is they'd all be jailed.


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  • Moderators, Recreation & Hobbies Moderators Posts: 9,722 Mod ✭✭✭✭Twee.


    Well it's not as if they're any old kids having a shot in a boat or legging it up a mountain!
    Everest lad had a sherpa and has climbed many a big mountain before, like Kilamanjaro, so it says in the article linked.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,228 ✭✭✭bluto63


    If I had to label the parents of either an athletic achiever who accomplished a feat no one else has or a drug taker whose dealer is their parents as bad parents I think I know what I'd go with


  • Moderators, Recreation & Hobbies Moderators Posts: 21,254 Mod ✭✭✭✭Dub13


    What about the parents that let there kids sit in front of a X Box all day should the social services be called for them..?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,739 ✭✭✭✭starbelgrade


    bluto63 wrote: »
    If I had to label the parents of either an athletic achiever who accomplished a feat no one else has or a drug taker whose dealer is their parents as bad parents I think I know what I'd go with

    Who?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,228 ✭✭✭bluto63


    Who?

    Have you tried E? It's a deadly buzz :pac:


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,287 ✭✭✭davyjose


    bluto63 wrote: »
    If I had to label the parents of either an athletic achiever who accomplished a feat no one else has or a drug taker whose dealer is their parents as bad parents I think I know what I'd go with

    A glib and trivial denial of the actual peril these kids faced in their superamazing feats tbh!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,228 ✭✭✭bluto63


    Both kids would be excellently trained in their field of expertise. They would of course know what they were doing before they even started.
    Sure you could say the same for parents who push their kids into rugby or football. They could receive a serious injury while playing, should they be considered bad parents?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 25,243 ✭✭✭✭Jesus Wept


    davyjose wrote: »
    So we've just seen a 16 year old girl sail around the world solo, and now we have a 13 year old boy :eek: that's just climbed Everest!!!!!!

    Quite an impressive set of feats, there's no denying; these children are incredibly, precociously inspiring.

    There is.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,287 ✭✭✭davyjose


    bluto63 wrote: »
    Both kids would be excellently trained in their field of expertise.

    An average of four people a year die attempting to climb Everest. These are also excellently trained people. The difference is, they're adults.

    I have a son if something he wished to undertake killed four of the most excellently trained people a year in that field, I would wait until he was at the peak of his physical/mental/emotional maturity before allowing him to proceed.

    I would not consider that moment to occur in his early teens!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 27,252 ✭✭✭✭stovelid


    I'm not sure I'd let my kid sail round the world as a teen but parenting is like the economy on AH: every fucking bellend in the country has an opinion without experience,,,,


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,111 ✭✭✭peanuthead


    davyjose wrote: »
    at least as good as if their parents had given them a few E's

    It's a bit different now in fairness


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,739 ✭✭✭✭starbelgrade


    stovelid wrote: »
    I'm not sure I'd let my kid sail round the world as a teen but parenting is like the economy on AH: every ****ing bellend in the country has an opinion without experience,,,,

    That's untrue, but I tell you what is true - any parent who lets a 16 year old girl sail around the world solo or lets a 13 year old boy climb Everest is a scumbag that should be locked up forever & have their reproductive organs removed to prevent them from ever having children again.














    :D


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 25,243 ✭✭✭✭Jesus Wept


    You don't require experience to have an opinion on aspects of parenting.
    A parent of 15 or 40 kids may have a lot of experience/the most experience but I'd have serious doubts about anyone who thought it wise to have so many.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 27,252 ✭✭✭✭stovelid


    The-Rigger wrote: »
    You don't require experience to have an opinion on aspects of parenting.

    You do.

    If you don't: I'm not listening so don't answer?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 25,243 ✭✭✭✭Jesus Wept


    stovelid wrote: »
    You do.

    END

    If you don't: I'm not listening?

    ...


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 27,252 ✭✭✭✭stovelid




  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,287 ✭✭✭davyjose


    peanuthead wrote: »
    It's a bit different now in fairness

    I agree. They almost certainly wouldn't die, would experience no fear, pain, loneliness; would have an awesome time, and would be home and safe within 24 hours.

    Plus an E is a heeluva lot cheaper than a fcuking boat!!!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 25,243 ✭✭✭✭Jesus Wept


    I see that now, you edited.

    Are you being serious?
    If so, you're mistaken. :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,038 ✭✭✭sponsoredwalk


    Them parents who let their kids do what they want, fcuking cnuts eh OP :rolleyes:

    Look what happens when we give kids the freedom to think & act, they go off and climb mountains and circle the world...

    This has to be stopped!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 144 ✭✭northern lights


    Imo, without wanting to take away from their incredible achievements, at the end of the day they're still children (or in the case of the 16yr old a 'young adult) and I can't for the life of me understand a parent letting tham attempt these feats knowing so many other adults have died trying to do the same.

    For me personally, it''d be a complete no no until i felt they were both physically and mentally mature enough and no way would I let my child of 13 climb everest :eek:


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 206 ✭✭itsnotmyname


    me and my 2 siblings were thrown out of the nest at 17 , when we finished school. It was the accepted norm that we would go out and find our own place in the world. It might seem old fashioned.......but we learned how to pay rent and bills .........I cant understand why folk would want their kids at home.........living off them ???


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 27,252 ✭✭✭✭stovelid


    The-Rigger wrote: »
    Are you being serious?
    If so, you're mistaken. :)

    Nope - I'm utterly deathly serious: Parenting is the one area of expertise that people on boards see fit to pontificate about with zero experience...


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,287 ✭✭✭davyjose


    stovelid wrote: »
    Nope - I'm utterly deathly serious: Parenting is the one area of expertise that people on boards see fit to pontificate about with zero experience...

    Politics?

    I've a kid, I've never ran for office. Which am I qualified to discuss?


  • Business & Finance Moderators, Entertainment Moderators Posts: 32,387 Mod ✭✭✭✭DeVore


    stovelid wrote: »
    Nope - I'm utterly deathly serious: Parenting is the one area of expertise that people on boards see fit to pontificate about with zero experience...

    Theres only one? :)


    Chill, this is a discussion, not a fight.

    Dev.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 27,252 ✭✭✭✭stovelid


    DeVore wrote: »
    Theres only one? :)


    Chill, this is a discussion, not a fight.

    Dev.

    Fair enough.

    Not having a child shouldn't disqualify you from discussing parenthood.

    It's all about extrapolation.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,034 ✭✭✭✭It wasn't me!


    Are parents who encourage their kids to do other things, like play rugby, or go rock-climbing, or swimming in the ocean also bad parents? Not much in this world is entirely safe. Of those things, few enough rank among the most worthwhile out there. Kids can suffer injuries and die through a million different common circumstances, but most of them never have and never will. The willpower and drive the children in question have developed is a special thing which deserves only the greatest of praise. It's quite easy to tell the difference between parents who encourage their kids to great achievements (albeit with risk) and those who recklessly endanger their children.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,287 ✭✭✭davyjose


    Are parents who encourage their kids to do other things, like play rugby, or go rock-climbing, or swimming in the ocean also bad parents? Not much in this world is entirely safe. Of those things, few enough rank among the most worthwhile out there. Kids can suffer injuries and die through a million different common circumstances, but most of them never have and never will. The willpower and drive the children in question have developed is a special thing which deserves only the greatest of praise. It's quite easy to tell the difference between parents who encourage their kids to great achievements (albeit with risk) and those who recklessly endanger their children.

    15 people have gone over Niagara Falls in a barrel. Ten have survived. Would you ascribe the same logic to a parent who allowed their child do that?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,626 ✭✭✭Glenster


    Are parents who encourage their kids to do other things, like play rugby AWESOME?

    Yes........

    yes they are.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,933 ✭✭✭holystungun9


    davyjose wrote: »
    An average of four people a year die attempting to climb Everest. These are also excellently trained people. The difference is, they're adults.

    I have a son if something he wished to undertake killed four of the most excellently trained people a year in that field, I would wait until he was at the peak of his physical/mental/emotional maturity before allowing him to proceed.

    I would not consider that moment to occur in his early teens!

    There will always be exceptions but as a general guide I agree with this guy


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 16,202 ✭✭✭✭Pherekydes


    davyjose wrote: »
    Impressive as it is, are these parents right in the head? Should social services be round?

    Yes. The HSE do a great job of looking after teenagers.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,034 ✭✭✭✭It wasn't me!


    davyjose wrote: »
    15 people have gone over Niagara Falls in a barrel. Ten have survived. Would you ascribe the same logic to a parent who allowed their child do that?

    Not so much a daring feat of human accomplishment though, no?


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 34,567 ✭✭✭✭Biggins


    Think about it OP.

    The parents managed to raise into the world a child that by passing on of high level skills, did something outstanding.
    They taught their child to stay away from things that are of a bad un-natural nature (illegal drugs/drinks, etc).
    They taught their child to gain the ability to further gain dedication and willingness to see ambition though to its successful outcome.
    They taught their child to see the world as something to be explored with a touch of safety measures thrown in, not as a thing just to be feared and run away from.
    They raised their child to be healthy.
    They raised their child to be versatile clearly.
    They raised their child with a wide education in the ways of the world besides just mainstream scholastic topics
    ....and that only the start.

    Why on earth would the likes of social services be called in?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,034 ✭✭✭✭It wasn't me!


    My parents encouraged me to play rugby, to go hill walking, to go swimming, to go rock-climbing, to cycle, to learn to drive and to always approach the world with a view to having an adventure in it. They picked me up when I fell, cleaned out my wounds when I injured myself and sought medical attention where appropriate. They didn't wrap me in cotton wool and cuddle me constantly for fear I might bruise myself on the corner of a table. They encouraged me to do many things that kill hundreds of people every year, and to act responsibly and carefully in so doing, to prepare myself for whatever I wanted to do. That's how to raise children. You can't protect them from everything, and shouldn't, either.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,368 ✭✭✭Smart Bug


    stovelid wrote: »
    I'm not sure I'd let my kid sail round the world as a teen but parenting is like the economy on AH: every fucking bellend in the country has an opinion without experience,,,,


    Well buddy, everyone on here (unless they were reared in an orphanage) has had experience of being parented, so speaking for me that gives 'em authority to speak on it.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,327 ✭✭✭Sykk


    stovelid wrote: »
    You do.

    If you don't: I'm not listening so don't answer?

    Derp


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 22,048 ✭✭✭✭Snowie


    davyjose wrote: »

    Impressive as it is, are these parents right in the head? Should social services be round? Put it this way, if every parent set their kid off round the world, or up a hill that kills a large number of adults each year (that even while at the top, your body begins to quit living), would it still be acceptable? My guess is they'd all be jailed.

    Yeah they are the educating them in something that school seem unable to do Its called risk. Maybe you where wrapped up in cottin walla s child? or just braught up to be mr averdage jow and live your life the boreing way.

    There also teaching there kids how to be independent, as wella s think for them selves which i totally agree with.

    Personally speaking I was braught up in the sailing/moutainering life as a child at 8 i was climbing single pitch with my dad at 16 i was gfoing to wales for 4 weeks and climbing multi pitch with my friends, My dad a mum supported me.

    Now when i started hanging around with abunch of the local douche bags my dad, turned round and had me a part time in his buisness why because Hanging around with a bunch of idiots when your 14 to 16 your liable to get your self into trouble, I never did get my self into much trouble simply because i was to busy doing something.

    now let me ask you how many kids have you seen walking the streets with nothing to do. useually kids start sailing very early like 4 or 5 so 11 years experence of sailing all different kinds of boats of the years thats enough expoerence to sail around the world.
    plus for your ignorence there would of been a saftey boat close bye!

    I think most parent should be locked up because fvck all of them take that much off an interest in there lives....
    davyjose wrote: »
    An average of four people a year die attempting to climb Everest. These are also excellently trained people. The difference is, they're adults.

    I have a son if something he wished to undertake killed four of the most excellently trained people a year in that field, I would wait until he was at the peak of his physical/mental/emotional maturity before allowing him to proceed.

    I would not consider that moment to occur in his early teens!

    how many young teanagers have been killed in dublin in the past 2 years from other kids weather its stabing or beating them till ther ebody shut down, as a person with moutain Leader, traning il ask you how many rich americans who are unhealthy, are the ones that die ? and to a degree everist is now a dump of climbing equipment. so many people have been up there.

    I dont think you know what your talking about i think your one of those idiots who wrap there kid up in cottin wool and say oh billy dont climb the tree you might fall. Your mental atitude to parenting will probably cause more trouble then help. At 13 kids in the meedi evil peroid where allready haveing babys and doing a full days work!

    To be honest you really need to see the picture these kids probably wanted to do it and cleerly can and there parents backed them I saay fair p;lay to them because those kids have cleer done more in the short time on this earth then you ever meet.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,819 ✭✭✭✭peasant


    Biggins wrote: »
    Think about it OP.

    The parents managed to raise into the world a child that by passing on of high level skills, did something outstanding.
    They taught their child to stay away from things that are of a bad un-natural nature (illegal drugs/drinks, etc).
    They taught their child to gain the ability to further gain dedication and willingness to see ambition though to its successful outcome.
    They taught their child to see the world as something to be explored with a touch of safety measures thrown in, not as a thing just to be feared and run away from.
    They raised their child to be healthy.
    They raised their child to be versatile clearly.
    They raised their child with a wide education in the ways of the world besides just mainstream scholastic topics
    ....and that only the start.

    Why on earth would the likes of social services be called in?

    Because you can do all that without sending them on top of Mount Everest.

    These parents have no sense of proportion and I fear that these kids will end up as either very disillusioned adults (because they've already achieved it all) or so unbearably full of themselves that they won't fit in anywhere either.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 22,048 ✭✭✭✭Snowie


    peasant wrote: »
    Because you can do all that without sending them on top of Mount Everest.

    These parents have no sense of proportion and I fear that these kids will end up as either very disillusioned adults (because they've already achieved it all) or so unbearably full of themselves that they won't fit in anywhere either.
    no no no nono

    you see when you do things like climb or sail your aware of this natrul force called your surroundings when your in 18 feet sees crashing around you and your hoiseting a storm jib in force 10 seas its all very real....:rolleyes:

    again another person who deosnt know what there talking about simply because its arogence that kills people in extream sports. you cant control gravitiy the same way yuo can control the seas but you can learn how to wrok with your surroundings these are the reason why these kids have acheved what they have acheved


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 852 ✭✭✭moonpurple


    people die every year on everest, the fool who brought 13 year old up there needs kick in the trousers


  • Moderators, Music Moderators Posts: 35,945 Mod ✭✭✭✭dr.bollocko


    moonpurple wrote: »
    people die every year on everest, the fool who brought 13 year old up there needs kick in the trousers

    More children die a year at home with their parents than on top of Everest.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,819 ✭✭✭✭peasant


    no no no nono

    you see when you do things like climb or sail your aware of this natrul force called your surroundings when your in 18 feet sees crashing around you and your hoiseting a storm jib in force 10 seas its all very real....:rolleyes:

    again another person who deosnt know what there talking about simply because its arogence that kills people in extream sports. you cant control gravitiy the same way yuo can control the seas but you can learn how to wrok with your surroundings these are the reason why these kids have acheved what they have acheved

    As if Kilimadjaro wouln't have been enough

    Why feckin' Everest?

    It isn't like that runs away, you know ...it would have still been there in 10 years or so, when said kid would have had finished his muscular, skeletal and mental development ...the achievement would still have been the same, just the risk and the sensationalism would have been less.

    What's next for that kid?
    K2 at 14 ...barefoot and naked?

    Those parents are irresponsible, sensationalist and egotistical idiots of the highest order. Without any sense of proportion or realism.
    Not fit to be parents in my opinion.
    All this kid stuff is raising eyebrows in the adventure community—and sometimes the legal community as well. Polling a number of well-known Everest climbers and guides, I couldn't find one who thought that leading a 13-year-old up the world's highest mountain was a particularly good idea. Though a climber that young might possess the necessary stamina, most had serious reservations about a teen's emotional strength, psychological awareness, and plain old know-how. "I do not see how young people under the age of 18 can gain enough experience about mountaineering or themselves to undertake such a project safely," said Russell Brice, one of Everest's most successful guides.
    http://outside.away.com/outside/culture/201004/jordan-romero-teenager-extreme-adventure-everest-2.html


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,662 ✭✭✭RMD


    The 13 year old has a history of climbing the highest mountains in the world, this isn't just some random 13 year old who wanted to climb Everest. He's a skilled climber and what matters here is his physical and mental condition. If he has both required for this, age means nothing.

    I'd consider most 16 year olds just as mature as the average 18 year old. Let her sail around the world, the only difference IMO if the 16 year old dies compared to the 18 year old dieing is the tabloids have someone to point the finger at.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,819 ✭✭✭✭peasant


    From the article I quoted above
    Few studies have been done on kids at altitude, but what science can tell us is this: The teenage brain works differently. In the past decade, MRI technology has shown that the adolescent brain is only about 80 percent developed. The areas that control spatial, sensory, auditory, and language functions are mature, but the frontal lobe, which handles reasoning, planning, and judgment, isn't fully grown until a person's mid-twenties. "It's not a lack of worldly experience," says Dr. Lynn Ponton, a San Francisco–based psychiatrist and the author of The Romance of Risk: Why Teenagers Do the Things They Do. "It's the physical development of the brain. Some of these kids may have climbed ten mountains, but they still don't have the capacity to make sophisticated decisions or choices. And it fools people. Their parents will think, They've done this and that—they're ready for the much bigger challenge. But the kid's brain is still developing.
    "When I was 13, I wanted to climb Everest," he says. "There was a reason I didn't. I wasn't ready for it. At that age, I would've climbed K2 if you let me. And I would've died. You've got to be careful. You've got to remember that at 13 you're still talking to a kid, no matter what his physical abilities. I'm 17 and I still think I know it all—and at the same time I realize I don't. At 13, you just don't have the ability to employ logic, complex reasoning, and weigh consequences in high-risk situations."

    I don't think many of you have any idea of what it actually means to climb Everest ...the climbing is the easiest bit.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 853 ✭✭✭Idjit


    I don't think the parents should be considered bad as long as the children were aware of the dangers and had either safety measures or knowledge of how to take care of themselves.
    Every human is different so I don't think that saying things along the lines of 'they are children, they dont understand, they are in danger' is right. A child prodigy is called such because they are unique in having equal or far greater intelligence of someone at a more mature stage in life. These kids could be considered prodigies for all I know. They may be more intelligent and mature than their years.
    I don't believe all children of certain ages groups should be lumped in together as I think putting them all under the same safety blanket impairs those who are more advanced, creates self-doubt and impinges on individual development.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 34,567 ✭✭✭✭Biggins


    peasant wrote: »
    Because you can do all that without sending them on top of Mount Everest.

    These parents have no sense of proportion and I fear that these kids will end up as either very disillusioned adults (because they've already achieved it all) or so unbearably full of themselves that they won't fit in anywhere either.
    The parents have no sense of proportion - al least according to your way of seeing things.
    Others differ, me amid them - at least give them that right - who is each of us to know better? You, I?
    Is the child alive or dead, is he worse off now or better off?

    His "Mount Everest" obviously might differ from your personal goal(s).
    With foresight, preparedness, wisdom and a touch of caution, who is each of us to say another cannot try and achieve our own personal goals, reach the peak of our "hierarchy of needs" as Maslow put it?

    ...and if you knew anything about "hierarchy of needs" and the reasoning behind that train of thought, one would realise that there will always be another ambition in the distance for one to reach if one has the courage to keep going...


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,819 ✭✭✭✭peasant


    Biggins wrote: »
    The parents have no sense of proportion - al least according to your way of seeing things.
    Others differ, me amid them - at least give them that right - who is each of us to know better?

    The highlighted part is the crux of the matter ...which right?

    The right of the parent to show off their prodigy child?
    The right of the parent to realise their unrealised childhood dreams through their children?
    The right of the parent to just simply be plain irresponsible and to prove everybody who advises against wrong ...just because their child is a willing participant?
    The right of the parent to tag along their kids for their own ego trip?

    or maybe ...

    The right of the child to a normal childhood, to uninterrupted education, to health, to safety?

    Look ...I have no issue with children doing extreme sports (did some rock climbing myself as a teen) I have no issue with parents granting their kids a large amount of freedom and self governance either (also enjoyed that as a kid and am thankful for it) ...but does it have to be bloody Everest or a circumnavigation?

    In a way this is no different than the cinderalla coach for first communion ...only a lot more dangerous.

    Also, it creates precedent and followers. This kid wants to be the youngest person ever to complete the seven summits http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seven_Summits he's ticked off most of them already. More young kids will follow in his footsteps ...until it goes horribly wrong one day.

    By all means, take your kids mountaineering or sailing, show them the world, expand their horizons, develop their skills and abilities and support them in doing so ...but lay off the silly competition and the ridiculously dangerous feats.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 853 ✭✭✭Idjit


    peasant wrote: »
    The highlighted part is the crux of the matter ...which right?

    The right of the parent to show off their prodigy child?
    The right of the parent to realise their unrealised childhood dreams through their children?
    The right of the parent to just simply be plain irresponsible and to prove everybody who advises against wrong ...just because their child is a willing participant?
    The right of the parent to tag along their kids for their own ego trip?

    or maybe ...

    The right of the child to a normal childhood, to uninterrupted education, to health, to safety?

    Look ...I have no issue with children doing extreme sports (did some rock climbing myself as a teen) I have no issue with parents granting their kids a large amount of freedom and self governance either (also enjoyed that as a kid and am thankful for it) ...but does it have to be bloody Everest or a circumnavigation?

    In a way this is no different than the cinderalla coach for first communion ...only a lot more dangerous.

    Also, it creates precedent and followers. This kid wants to be the youngest person ever to complete the seven summits http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seven_Summits he's ticked off most of them already. More young kids will follow in his footsteps ...until it goes horribly wrong one day.

    By all means, take your kids mountaineering or sailing, show them the world, expand their horizons, develop their skills and abilities and support them in doing so ...but lay off the silly competition and the ridiculously dangerous feats.



    But what competition is involved? What evidence is there that the parents are using their children in the ways you pointed out? If the child is ambitious to complete these tasks(as you stated yourself in the case of the mount everest child, he wants to be the youngest person to complete the seven summits) what makes you think it's the parents pushing them? Some children are naturally ambitious and express themselves through different means.
    Personally, I was one of the types that stayed on my own street, read alot and avoided scary movies, but I have friends who, like yourself, went rock climbing, parasailing and completed dangerous feats at a young age while I cowered under my bedsheets at the very thought. Every child, like every adult, develops at different mental and physical rates. Some speed by right into the mental maturity of adults at a very young age and that's fine. A very few, like these children, are at the top of that ladder of ambition and drive and want to complete bigger tasks,perhaps because they are not satisfied with the ones normally associated with people their own age. I think children may be too cushioned. They shouldn't be forced into completing things like mountain climbing or sailing the world etc. But then, children shouldn't be forced into beauty pageants either and they are. If they really want to do something important to them, it may impinge on their development to stop them and they may find alternative and worse ways to direct that drive in them. Like with sex and young people; they will probably do it even if you don't want them to, so the best thing is to educate them about it so that if they do choose to do it, they will be safe and their development will not be affected by it. If the child can take care of themselves climbing mountains or sailing the seas, if they have the knowledge, the sense, and the preparations to do it safely then they should be seen to be as qualified to do it as adults.
    The number of their years on earth should not box them in to one category of intelligence, maturity and perseverance.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 22,048 ✭✭✭✭Snowie


    peasant wrote: »
    As if Kilimadjaro wouln't have been enough

    Why feckin' Everest?

    It isn't like that runs away, you know ...it would have still been there in 10 years or so, when said kid would have had finished his muscular, skeletal and mental development ...the achievement would still have been the same, just the risk and the sensationalism would have been less.

    What's next for that kid?
    K2 at 14 ...barefoot and naked?

    Those parents are irresponsible, sensationalist and egotistical idiots of the highest order. Without any sense of proportion or realism.
    Not fit to be parents in my opinion.


    http://outside.away.com/outside/culture/201004/jordan-romero-teenager-extreme-adventure-everest-2.html


    Sure what harm is it to you the boy and girl did there challanges in life and they suceeded what about kis who are told youle never walk again yet they do ?

    I dont think you know enough about moutainering, as a child I was taught when your out there in th emiddle of know where you always show caution don't mess. all this what if stuff oh your still talking to a child your talking to a child whos probably had to under go training for that kind off climb you just dont get up and say i wanna climb everist...

    for everest you have to learn night navigation how to read a map, Rope work. amounst many other aspects the kid would have been taught what is safe and not its part of any moutain ering, you gott arespect whats around you. do you not understand that even a kid will no weather or not to do something or other, your 5 miles up at one point, its not like walking up carintohill.

    whats next for the kid who knows, thats not our problem he's suceeded where other have rasied an eye brow!

    as for K2 she lets you up you just dont go to k2 and climb it .... your either granted to climb her or not.


    How are they " irresponsible, sensationalist and egotistical idiots of the highest order. Without any sense of proportion or realism.
    Not fit to be parents in my opinion"

    So does that mean you tell your kids theyle never amount too nothing?
    What that we should all know our place. and stick within the guide lines?
    I think your atitude is the one that needs to be cheacked judging bye what you think you may know!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 22,048 ✭✭✭✭Snowie


    peasant wrote: »

    The right of the child to a normal childhood, to uninterrupted education, to health, to safety?

    Look ...I have no issue with children doing extreme sports (did some rock climbing myself as a teen) I have no issue with parents granting their kids a large amount of freedom and self governance either (also enjoyed that as a kid and am thankful for it) ...but does it have to be bloody Everest or a circumnavigation?


    Mate serously how is what the kids parents any worse then that beauty pagent crap some young girls have to put up with in america ?

    whats worse.

    Right so you rock climbed as did I, except ivcan teach it and ive seen kids climb better then people whove been doing it for 20 years kids are well able to climb they dont see fear like we do you should no that.

    as a child I knew no fear the only thing I new was how to climb, and well.

    all to right paretns at time live there dreams through there children all to a good and well but some children are baught up to be independted thinkers at an early age know what they want to do and maybe he was braught into the moutinering life style.

    if thats the case, Children learn like sponges, they talke information 5x times wuicker then most adults and do it with out question...

    Would you honestly hanbd on heart say a 13 year old up everest would throw a tantrum?

    because personally any one up that high knows one thing there on egg shells.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,219 ✭✭✭PK2008


    Dub13 wrote: »
    What about the parents that let there kids sit in front of a X Box all day should the social services be called for them..?


    ........or the ones that get them "Virtual Everest Climber 2: Rapid Descent" for the XBox

    They're the worst


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