Do you ever take a guy's arm?

The_Minister

Just thinking about this.

I was walking with a girl a while back, and she took my arm (I offered it in jest, and she accepted). We walked from one bar to another a few streets away, and it was really nice.

It slows you down to an amble, you don't bump into each other, and it's easier to talk and hear each other.

I know it's something older people tend to do, but I think it's due a comeback.

epgc3fyqirnbsx

Girls take note, its been said in various threads and various media how bad men are at picking up hints.
But if you are in a gang, changing bars or whatever, and take the arm of someone that you are interested in, this is a hint that will work.
And it feels nice

Weidii

I do it if I'm drunk and need help walking. I've found that lads don't have a clue how to do it, though. I've taken a couple of arms and the guy just got nervous and hung their arm down by their side. The arm should bend, lads.

Pretty_Pistol

I do this all the time with my guy friend but he's gay. I don't think I would take a guys arm unless I liked him or was very drunk and needed to steady myself.

And like Weidii said the arm should be bended and not by your side or stuffed in your pocket!

SarahMs

He HATES holding hands so this is our compromise!

feels nice

liah

Yeah, if I've an OH at the time then I'll do it with him. I'd do it with some of my friends too. I like it, it's nice.

WindSock

You see lads doing this in Asia, as friends. I think it's lovely.

princess-lala

Yeah I do it with an OH, would also walk with my dad like that

Xiney

Always, actually. It's just a really comfortable way to walk. I didn't realise it was only old people

bronte

All the time! Wasn't aware it was an o.a.p. thing! :pac:

princess-lala

bronte wrote: »

All the time! Wasn't aware it was an o.a.p. thing! :pac:

Yep, think about it - all the old grannies and grandads you see always link - I think its the cutest thing ever

Faith

Yeah, I used often do it with my ex. It's nice, but somethings a bit challenging on uneven surfaces! There was nearly a foot between us in height, so we'd sometimes alternate between holding hands and linking arms, depending on what was comfortable.

alwaysadub

No,i'd prefere to hold hands. Dunno why,but even if i'm out with the girls i don't link them.

thirtythirty

Weidii wrote: »

I do it if I'm drunk and need help walking. I've found that lads don't have a clue how to do it, though. I've taken a couple of arms and the guy just got nervous and hung their arm down by their side. The arm should bend, lads.

Em, I think that's actually an indication that they don't want to walk like that, and are showing it's time the arms broke free...at least, that's how i do it! Sometimes my hand even ends up in my pocket if they're still clinging on!

Although thinking about it that's more of a "with friends" move - wouldn't be so rude with a "new acquintance"!

Vinta81

One guy I was kinda sorta not really seeing :pac: used to do this sometimes. It was odda t first, but I grew to accept it. Was quite nice

The Big Red Button

Yeah, I do this all the time, either with my boyfriend or with male friends ... I find it helps a lot if you're walking long distances in high heels!

Naos

Just to jump in from a males perspective: I'd probably have my hands in my pocket too - just out of comfort not because I'm ashamed or unwilling.

I like it but really, arms bent? Couldn't see myself doing this.

I have a couple of gentlemanly friends who will profer an elbow when I am in heels.
I was confused at first, but I think it is a lovely display of consideration now.

Morgase

Don't think I've ever done it. I might try it out on Mr. Morg and see how he reacts. He'll probably think I've been watching my Pride and Prejudice dvds again.

It sounds kinda uncomfortable to me, but then I don't like holding hands or doing the "arms round waists while walking" thing.

iguana

Many, many years ago I read an article in a magazine by a body language "expert" which stated that this was a sign of a relationship where the man subconsciously wanted out but the woman was clinging to him. This is because the man is walking slightly ahead and is passive in the embrace, while the woman has her body wrapped around one of his extremities and is holding him back to her.

There sure is a lot of old shíte written in magazines.:D

iguana

iguana wrote: »

There sure is a lot of old shíte written in magazines.:D

Amen!

Novella

Awh, I link my grandad all the time When I was a kid, he'd hold my hand on the street to make sure I was safe so now I link him to keep him safe

Other than that, nope, unless I can't walk in my shoes!

Maple

This is my favourite way to walk, whether it be with a male or female friend or a lovair. (must be said with French accent )

It's really comfy and if it's as part of a couple it's really close and you feel like you're in your own little bubble of love strolling along.

I walking like this.

But to answer your question OP, yes I always take the guy's arm.

The_Minister

iguana wrote: »

Many, many years ago I read an article in a magazine by a body language "expert" which stated that this was a sign of a relationship where the man subconsciously wanted out but the woman was clinging to him. This is because the man is walking slightly ahead and is passive in the embrace, while the woman has her body wrapped around one of his extremities and is holding him back to her.

There sure is a lot of old shíte written in magazines.:D

That is balls.

Xiney

maple wrote: »

a lovair. (must be said with French accent )

preferably whilst smoking a gitane and holding a glass of red wine

iguana

The_Minister wrote: »

That is balls.

No, there really is a lot of old shíte written in magazines.;)

WindSock

Novella wrote: »

Awh, I link my grandad all the time When I was a kid, he'd hold my hand on the street to make sure I was safe so now I link him to keep him safe

No no Novella, you have it all wrong. Subconciously he doesn't want to be your Grandad :pac:

The_Minister

Novella wrote: »

Awh, I link my grandad all the time When I was a kid, he'd hold my hand on the street to make sure I was safe so now I link him to keep him safe

Duuurty.

Maple

Xiney wrote: »

preferably whilst smoking a gitane and holding a glass of red wine

and sporting a beret and a string of onions around one's neck.

shellyboo

It's definitely an "I like you as more than a friend" move, I reckon. I'd hold hands or link with my boyfriend, but if I fancied a guy I'd take his arm on a night out or whatever.

miss5

Yes often with my boyfriend, used to do it with friends to.

BumbleB

Yes, but the corteous way is for the man to walk on the roadside and the woman on the inside .

lionela

There is nothing more nicer and comforting when dating etc than a girl/woman linking a Man /boy friend while out walking . It's has nothing to do with old people at all.

But what looks daft and idiotic is a younger chap with his arm around a girls waist as they walk along and she looks as if she is shoved along and he half bent over her as if he was protecting her from some mishap. I am sure most people watchers would have seen this type of thing. Old fashioned arm linking by any couple young or old and even holding hands is the way to go. Cheers

The_Minister

BumbleB wrote: »

Yes, but the corteous way is for the man to walk on the roadside and the woman on the inside .

So we get hit by the car?

John Mason

all the time

John Mason

The_Minister wrote: »

So we get hit by the car?

no, so she doesnt get mud slashed on her frock.

princess-lala

I was walking down my lane with my dad earlier and we crossed the road at the end and he put his arm out for me I remember him doing that as a kid

Boo27

shellyboo wrote: »

It's definitely an "I like you as more than a friend" move, I reckon. I'd hold hands or link with my boyfriend, but if I fancied a guy I'd take his arm on a night out or whatever.

Hmmmm im a bit confused now.. is linking with you b/f and his offering his arm not the same thing??

Myself and my partner always link when walking together and in order to do this he offers me his arm and then I link and he puts his hand into the pocket then.. especially now that I pregnant and I tend to waddle a bit... he always offers me his arm to link

emer_b

I havent read all the responses here but just a little story... a guy from work was pursuing me, i wasn't sure if I was interested or not, all the advances were on work nights out, a little bit drunk etc. But then we went on a hill walking trip and everything changed...I was climbing over a stone wall and he offered his arm to help me over, like a true gent. From that moment on my mind was changed, it was so old fashioned, chivalry, and even though I'm a modern career woman it really impressed me. A small gesture I know, but i think deep down "most" women will appreciate some old fashioned gestures. I say "most" because obviously there will be some women out there who will find it offensive and insulting, but hey, each to their own. we're married now, happy days! hurray for arm linking, the more the better!

Nervous Wreck

My ex once told me this:

BumbleB wrote: »

Yes, but the corteous way is for the man to walk on the roadside and the woman on the inside .

I asked this:

The_Minister wrote: »

So we get hit by the car?

She said this:

irishbird wrote: »

no, so she doesnt get mud slashed on her frock.

I replied this:

Nervous Wreck wrote:

Pssh, I walk on the right-hand side baby. OCD n'shít!

Guess it wasn't love after all. :P

Alicat

irishbird wrote: »

no, so she doesnt get mud slashed on her frock.

Apparently this also stemmed from many years ago when people in the cities/towns had no plumbing and used to throw their dirty water and rubbish out the window. If you were walking closer to the wall you were less likely to get hit with something disgusting.

Sinall

maple wrote: »

and sporting a beret and a string of onions around one's neck.

With a baguette under one arm.

I take my Dad's arm if I am walking somewhere with him. It's nice when you are strolling along, chatting.

Kiera

Yup I do. Even do it when we're crashed out on the couch and i'm cuddling up to him.

dammitjanet

i tried to grab my Oh's arm today and ended up hitting him in the ribs....

offaly1

Sinall wrote: »

I take my Dad's arm if I am walking somewhere with him. It's nice when you are strolling along, chatting.

I do this with da sometimes too....:-D

shellyboo

Boo27 wrote: »

Hmmmm im a bit confused now.. is linking with you b/f and his offering his arm not the same thing??

Yeah, it is the same thing...

MJOR

I used to always do it with a male friend I had years ago. Now i do it with my husband.....

SeekUp

Indeed I do, it's a nice way to walk.

Morgase wrote: »

It sounds kinda uncomfortable to me, but then I don't like holding hands or doing the "arms round waists while walking" thing.

DEFINITELY better than the "arms round waists while walking" thing. When does that ever work out???

Crumble Froo

i dont really like linking, but we do often walk around a kinda nature-y park-y area, and will often put arms around each other's waists or shoulders while we walk, which is nice, and slows you down to time with each other and all that.

linking, im more likely to do with my non-romantic friends, for some reason.

smallgarden

i find it handy if with tall guy,its easier i find than holding hands

KingMambo26

Once I offered my arm to a girl and she said to me: What do you think I am?

Couldn't answer the question w/o insulting her.